i'm 15 (sophomore) and my boyfriend is 17 (junior). we've been dating for around a year and four months. lately, i've been getting SO annoyed of him. everything he does just pisses me off now? i see him almost everyday, except the days he doesn't work. he always asks me questions... he always thinks i'm going to break up with him.. i don't know what to do.. but i need to figure it out soon. he told me he wants to buy me a promise ring and i think it kind of scared me. i don't know if it's time to take a break or call it quits. but i know if i do break it off, i'll regret it.. someone help me.. i rate high!
When you spend a lot of time with someone, the small things can start to get on your nerves. It just comes with being with the same person ALL the time. It happens with family, friends, co-workers, roommates, significant others, and the rest. If you know you will regret breaking it off, then take some extra "you" time. There is nothing wrong with that and as long as you make it clear to him that it does not signify the end of your relationship, he should be ok with it.
He is asking questions because he is picking up on the fact that you are annoyed with him. This probably makes the two of you fight or causes some distance that wasn't already there. He is probably feeling insecure because he is unsure of what is going on inside your head. This is normal. If it buggs you, then you need to clear it up for him. If he continues to keep asking, just respond with the fact that this was already discussed and he knows how you feel. He is wanting reassurance and will keep asking as long as you keep repeating yourself.
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I've been going out with my guy for 8 months. My mom likes him, but she's about the only one. The teachers at school all hate him because he's a little too goofy sometimes. They a seriously very hard on him for any little thing, but not with anyone else. Our classmates don't seem to like him either. He hangs with the boys but they aren't real friends. They're actually pretty cruel. My cousin, who is my best friend, doesn't like him either and she's never even met him. We talked on 3-way though. I get so made at her because she calls him ugly. How supportive of my "best friend". I don't know what my dad thinks. He's never met him but he hears a lot of what I tell mom about him. I think he just doesn't like me having a boyfriend. Anyway, sorry this is long. My point is, why doesn't anyone like my boyfriend? He's a really awesome person and we have so much in common. I love him so much but I feel like nobody else cares at all. It's depressing.
The only thing that matters is that you like him. Noone else has to. Sometimes the overly silly aren't liked so much in a high school setting, because, there so much importance is placed on being cool. You should stand up for him to your cousin. Let her know that saying mean stuff about your guy isn't cool. Since she has never met him, there is no foundation for her to say such things.
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My bf didn't kiss me for a long time because he was nervous and didn't want to do anything wrong. We finally did, and it was great since I care about him but otherwise, I didn't really like it. I don't really know how to describe what I didn't like. He opens mouths mouth too much and it's slobbery and wet. Kind of passionate, but wiping off my mouth afterward is definetly not. It reminds he of getting licked by a dog or something. Yuck... I don't know what to do because we've kissed several times since that and they all seem the same. Should I say anything? I don't want to hurt his feelings because I know how scared he is of doing "wrong". Please help!!! I care about him so I don't want kissing, a display of affection, to be what gives us problems. That just seems silly to me.
Take control. If he is doing something you aren't so happy with, you can stop him. Try pausing and smiling at him and if you are laying down (or sitting up) try maneuvering on top of him. Kiss him the way you want to be kissed. Or, just stop and look at him funny. Then say something to the effect of..."I like it better this way..."
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The guy that I'm seeing is a real pig. He has a beer guy because he'll go out drinking all the time with his friends and down 12 beers. He farts all the time and has bad breath and body odor. He has red veigns on his nose from all his drinking. Also he dresses like he's thin, he'll wear tight jeans and t shirts but it looks ridicuous because he's about 30 pounds overweight.
It's really hard for me to get turned on by him. It's not just the way he looks sometimes he can be a real jerk. The last straw was when I phoned him on his cell on he told me to only phone him if it was after 6.
I want to dump him but I don't know how to go about it. Should I tell him that his appearance turns me off or would that be too mean?
Just tell him that bestiality isn't working out for you and you have figured out that dating pigs just isn't kosher (ha! ha!). You would like to try dating a human male. That rules him out, so let him know that his fat, smelly, gaseous, beer guzzling self doesn't have to worry about his phone ringing before 6 anymore. In his case, I think he is de-evolving. Enough reason alone to dump him.
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My friend said that Orbit gum causes cancer is that true!?
Yes, yes it does! I command you to stop chewing orbit and take up smoking. Smoking is very well linked to cancer and is less shady about its cancer causingness. As the commercial would say..
Fabulous!
(Orbit does not cause cancer any more than waking up in the morning does. Smoking, however, is proven to, so DO NOT pick up smoking. Unless you already do, then I will see you outside. We can get get cancer together)
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sooo..i have been friends with this guy for 5 years......we have become better friends the past year....well now i am startin to realize that hes showing signs of this other guy that i dated a few years ago....this recent guy..well i live far away from him..opposite coast..all last year..he said that he would come and visit me..just like the other guy would..yet would back out each time..at the last second..saying that he had no $$..i offered to pay for his ticket..he still backed out a few days before he was suppose to come..sayin it was just too much at the time..
him and i got physically close the past summer..but then i didnt hear from him for 2 months.he said because he had a lot he was dealing with that he wasnt talk to much of anyone..because he daughter was born (of which he didnt tell me till like a month after we were sexually close...which we were close only a few days after his daughter was born..no hes not with the mother..he wants nothing to do with the mother..but is "there" for his daughter)...so he said that he was dealing with that..and he was unemployed etc..so like 2 months went by..and then he was all wanting to talk to me..i gave him the cold shoulder..he was all like..i soo upset with myself..that i damaged our friendship etc etc..please forgive me..i told him that it would take time to get my trust back etc..well that was aug..now in november......he was being all flirtatious with me.in the sense that he wants to be with me....this has been the past few weeks..and then today..hes all like...oh this girl and i are about to get together..when i say that he is playerish..he was like how am i playerish..i am being upfront tellin you about the girl..im like..yeah..but it was just last week..that you were talkin to me...like you want to be with me..he was like that was before her and i would be with each other......point being..i dont think that he sees it..but...behind it..there's a good friendship..like i can go to him for stuff..he doesnt pull me down..but i dont like how he is all talkin about stuff..and then poof..i have a gf...or being physically close to me..and i dont hear from him..it will be really hard to totally back away..so i have thought of just puttin distance..but what are your thoughts?
He is screwing with you. If you two were "close" and then you don't hear from him for two months, he is just not that into you. He was willing to be sexual with you but nothing more. That is a shame since you have been friends for more than 5 years and because noone deserves to be treated that way. It bothers me that he didn't tell you he was having a daughter before you were close. That for me alone is a deal breaker. Especially if I considered him a friend. What probably happened is that he thought it was a friends with benefits thing while you thought it was something different. It does not make what he did okay, but it may explain it a little. He has been your friend and that makes it harder. But you should not be wasting your time on him. You should be putting your effort into someone who cares for you. Keep him as a friend and that is it. Don't respond to the flirting or take it as anything other than superficial. He had his chance and he blew it. He doesn't deserve a second chance.
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Thanks for the advice, but how can I let them all down easy, and let them know I just want to date casually?
Any help is appreciated.
xo
You should just be honest. You should say that you are unsure of your ability to commit to anyone right now. You don't want to hurt anyone and the way you are feeling right now, you can't be sure you won't. Be ready for your current boyfriend to be mad and upset but in the long run you are gonna save you and him some unhappiness. It is perfectly fine to want to play the field, and if you are truly interested in more than one guy, you should play the field instead of cheating on a boyfriend.
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Alright. Now I don't know how I got into this whole mess, but if you've answered my questions before, you know that I rate fives for any answers. Because I'm cool like that..
Anyways. Alright, I'm dating this guy, and we've been dating for 3 months now. I've also been dating this other guy for 1 month. The 1 month guy knew about the 3 month guy. I was going to try to break up with the 3 month guy, but I couldn't because I really care for him. The 1 month guy and I have wanted to go out for a year and a half, but couldn't until now because of age difference.
Now there is this other guy that likes me. He's all affectionate towards me, but the trouble is, I like it and want to return it. He knows that I have a boyfriend also...
AND if that isn't enough....there is this ABSOLUTLEY wonderful girl named "Katie" who we decided we want to go out. Now she knows about 1 month guy, 3 month guy, and the new guy...
What in the hell should I do..
and don't say "pick one".
It sounds like you should not be commited to anyone. You should just date casually until you figure out who you really like. That way you don't feel guilty and noone really gets hurt as long as they understand where you stand.
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Is is possible to be friends with an ex-lover and watch them pursue someone else? Cause right now, it taste like penguin poo trying to do the right thing. ANd I hate myself for not going for this guy when I had the chance. Now, he's pursuing another girl and I'm jealous. Plus to top it all off, I work with this guy and his new girl pursuit, so it's not like I can stop seeing them and get over it. I have to watch their relationship develop and it makes me feel like a fish carcass being chewed into pieces by its fellow gilled buddies. (yesterday grommie died-the shiney blue fish-now there's only 5 fish in the tank) How do i keep healthy fish and relationships under complicated circumstances? How do I distance myself for protection yet still maintain a close friendship.
I would very much appreciate an answer.
Thanks J-sizzles a.k.a. fish killer
Oh my dear J-sizzles a.k.a fish killer, how I miss you dearly. I am very saddened to hear of another casualty (NO NOT GROMMIE! I liked grommie. He was so shiney and blue. I hope you said some nice words before flushing) You have a beautiful self and fish tank and eventually all will work out.
Hmm....this penguin poo, it intrigues me. For you know of my love for penguins (and pork with artichoke dip from the winery...ahh the memories) But, alas my dear J-sizzles that is not why you are asking me a question.
I would say to you, my darling lovely blonde questioner, that you should indeed remember why you did not want to be with him in the first place. I remember a convo that had something to do with the following:
1. We are in different places
2. We don't have the same goals
3. He likes a certain "state of mind...aahem" way too much
4. He had already liked "that girl" from the beginning
and last but not least
5. We were both using each other to get what we want.
Sadly, you cannot have both a close friendship and protect yourself with distance. Those two things do not work together. If you cannot be happy for them, or at least come to deal with it and be okay with it, then you are going to have to give up the close friendship. In order to still be close with him, you are going to have to accept that he is with her now and is happy. There is no exception to it. If I had one I would gladly deliver it to you in person.
I know you, (and will tell the world about it or at least only those who read my advice column, which isn't that many, so don't worry) that is not a relationship or guy you want in your life. Yes, having someone there is GREAT. We all long for it...you know - I know what it is like. But in the long run it is quality over quantity. You should have someone who loves you and only you. You will find him, but this dude is not him. Oh and the other guy (kneel) isn't either. I would remind you to keep thinking of the reasons why you cut him loose in the first place. It is very easy, when looking back, to only think of the good things especially if you are lonesome and really want company. Keep telling yourself why you don't want him. Maybe he's smelly, or snores loudly..hehee..maybe he is not going anywhere with his life, he probably has some REALLY annoying habbits you haven't discovered yet...oh oh I bet he doesn't recycle! I can tell that he litters. Just can, don't question...
Just keep in mind that he wanted her first, then decided he wanted to mess with you, and then decided he wanted her again, leaving you behind. You deserve better than that...you ARE better than that.
Oh and the fact that he CHEATED on her (with you...) you don't want that. Think of it as her problem now.
"How do i keep healthy fish and relationships under complicated circumstances? How do I distance myself for protection yet still maintain a close friendship."
In order to keep relationships going under complicated circumstances it takes commitment to the relationship. Not just yours, but his as well. It is possible to still have a good friendship despite what is going on right now, but you are going to have to decide whether or not you can put your own feelings of jealousy and regret aside. In order to keep this friendship alive it is going to require alot from you. Is he worth it? If you even think he is, at all, then you need to (not said in any kind of spiteful or bitchy way) get over yourself. Put him first, and see what happens. If you get nothing from him as a sign of a desire to keep it alive, then you are gonna have to let it go. Hopefully, he will want to stay friends as well...these situations are how you find out who your real friends are.
There will be other boys, this is a good learning experience on how to let go.
You have my support and my ear oh and fingers I guess too, heh.
Ciao babes,
Missdog.
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The guy I'm seeing now does not use his tongue when kissing or... anything else for that matter. Ever! He finds it disgusting! His mouth is always sealed. I on the other hand, love french kisses! I didn't even know there were people out there like him. Is this normal? It's sort of hard to get passionate with someone like this, lol.
He just needs to get over the wierdness...try licking his face. You are not actually sticking your tounge in his mouth and he can keep his mouth shut....
Or you could work him up to it slowly. If he still refuses then dump him. If he won't french kiss he won't do other....stuff...and that (in bad English...) Juss ain't coo.
Unless you really like him and are willing to deal with it. In that case, tame your tounge.
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Okay well i have 2 dwarf hamsters. male and female. i have to do a project on them at school but i need more info. do you know of anything. thanx for the help
The only thing I know about Siberian Dwarf Hamsters is that they would make a kick ass B horror movie. If you want other info about them...besides their awesome horror movie potential, Google it.
Or you could use Dogpile. That is what I use. Heh, that is actually how I found this website, well that and a dude named Charlie....Anyway, Dogpile is cooler because it uses all of the search engines and condenses the findings in one place.
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14/f
all my friends (that are girls) are prettier than me ! especially my bestfriend ! she is like perfecttt ! she has the perfect face, the perfect hair, she is a perfect cheerleader, and she has the perfect body
.. and me well im skinny so im not that big-chested .. and well my hair never comes out as good as hers and i have the worst smile.. like i got braces and my teeth are straight .. but their reallly big and my smile isnt a good smile.. ALL my friends have good smiles and are pretty and outgoing and the boys like them..
like i mean i dont think im UGLY .. but compared to them i feel like i am ..
i just need something to help me gain more self-confidence and stop me from being so self-conscious about the way i look and i want to be more outgoing like my friends
is it wierd that i'm jealous of my friends? what can i do so i wont be jealous anymore?
You are seeing yourself only in comparison to others. (It is a common folly of many including myself) These others just happen to be your friends. It is a simple case of keeping up with the Jones's. You compare your worth to your preceived worth of others. There will always be someone out there who is prettier, who is, thinner, who has better hair, who is smarter, who is more witty. If you constantly compare yourself to what you believe others to be already, you are not ever going to truly enjoy who you are.
I recently had a very tasty saint mention striving for mediocracy. You may not be able to be in the best of the best category, but if you shoot for being mediocre...you could be at the top of that one. This is not your average goal, and it is kinda fucked up if you think about it, but that is exactly why I like it and him for that matter.
Main point (probably should have mentioned it earlier...but, eh) You cannot be those girls. You only have you to work with. If you are unhappy with what you are, how you look, etc... consider yourself a work in progress and try to fix what it is that you don't like (without going to extremes...please)try an easier to style hair cut, or a gel-bra for added padding, and I am sure your smile is not a bad smile. You just think that because you are coveting your friend's smiles. You are also only 14. There is plently of time for you to fill out and change. How you look now is not how you will look at 25.
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I was invited over to my friends place one night to play a card game with her and another friend that is married.
We started playing the game and joking around, and then I mentioned that my ex boyfriend was trying to get back together with me.
I was laughing about it because my ex is such a loser. Everyone else was laughing too except for the married guy. When I looked at his face he got this really angry, jealous expression and didnt laugh at all.
Does this mean that he might like me as more than a friend? He's married so I was a little suprised by his reaction.
I rate high, if you answer my question I promise I'll give a 5.
Thankyou
When someone reacts that way to a comment, that does NOT mean they are into you. You are fishing for an answer to explain why he reacted so unexpectedly. Just assuming that he is into you...would be to assume in error. I don't think it was a jealous expression (you are saying your boyfriend is a loser and laughing at him, so there would be no competition for him. He also wouldn't care about that because he is married, so that assumption does not make sense) So here is what I would assume...
He was probably turned off by the ex-talk. Being that he is...for the sake of redundancy... married and the only guy there, I would say that he was made to feel uncomfortable and did not want the comment to turn into a total man-bashing rant. Guys don't like to hear women bashing other dudes no matter their degree of loserdom. Just like women would not want to be around men who are bashing women no matter their degree of bitchiness and or slutiness. He just plain and simple did not like what you said.
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hey
wats a good IM name to have???
heres some words i like:
pink, love, cherry, juicy, hate, hell, red
n ma name is emma lol
thanks in advance ♥ ◊
1. hatehell_lovered
2. juicypinkcherry
or any combo of that sort...
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my mother and I had something really exciting happen, we got published in a feature article for Woman's World Magazine a while back. It's a national magazine and quite popular.
Well anyways everyone was really happy for us except for my boyfriend.
When the article came out he told me he never saw it or even bought a copy. He didnt congradulate me or anything. I didnt talk about anymore but then one day I brought it up and he just snapped at me.
I thought he would be happy for me. What's his problem?
Sometimes if a person is insecure enough, they cannot handle (or don't know how to handle) the success of others. For him to not buy a copy or even take the time to read it is horribly thoughtless. Basically, he is being selfish and rude. A good (and not so common)thing happened to you and he should be able to at least acknowledge that fact and be proud of you.
After all, he would expect you to be happy and excited if something like that happened to him. All you can do is ask him what his deal is. If he continues to snap at you then maybe you should reconsider your willingness to date and care for a guy who can be so callous.
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Omg, my dog got skunked! I got home from dance and me and my mom found out she got skunked after my dad let her outside. From the looks of it, she got sprayed right in the face, and she's pacing around, because she doesn't know what to do. It smells more like rotten onions rather than a skunk. Me and my mom could smell the skunk when we got home. I feel so bad for her. We don't know what to do. Is there anything we can do. We're going to try to get her a bath at Petsmart as soon as possible, so don't suggest a bath, it's already being done. Ok thanks!!!!
I believe that you should dump tomato juice on your dog. Not only is it fun, it should help remove the horrible onion smell (onion..ick...) Or if you wanted (and I doubt you do) you can spray your dog black and then put a white stripe down his back. Instant smelly dog-like skunk. I think you should use the tomato juice.
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so i write a lot, mainly poetry.... but lately ive lost my inspiration.... how do i find inspiration?
Try finding a local open mike night in your area. If you could find a poetry slam that would be better. You don't have to preform, you can just do what I do...slip in the back and absorb the creativity. It may help.
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Hey guys..i am 15 and i am about to get my permit..so my first car is going to be a 2005 Chevrolet Colorado Z71 with leather, big tires, and a system..is that bad like for a first car?
You must be one hell of a kid to get a 2005 at 16.
"..is that like bad for a first car?"
I think you know the answer to that. That is quite the haul unless you live in Beverly Hills and all of the other teens are driving brand new Beamers or Land Rovers. Just wait until everyone wants you to pick them up for school and to drive everywhere on the weekends. I'd charge them 3.00 per mile. Unless they were really hot... then, maybe I'd charge them .50. Gas prices are high. You may not want that car the first time you fill up for ELEVENDY BILLION DOLLARS...(pinky extended and raised to corner of mouth in an Dr. Evilesque jesture)
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I know one of my friends is stealing things from my locker because I saw all of my stuff in her backpack. I don't want to tell. What should I do?
She is stealing your stuff! Get it back. You don't have to tell anyone. Just let her know it is bad form and you want your stuff back. I would also suggest a new lock and more friends that aren't cleptos.
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Your bio is funny. Your right if you think i wouldn't run up to a stranger i need of advice.
Can I add you as My fave collumnist list.
--caden--
Please, please by all means add me... I can pretend that people actually like me for a change.
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