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the ugly duckling..
14/f
all my friends (that are girls) are prettier than me ! especially my bestfriend ! she is like perfecttt ! she has the perfect face, the perfect hair, she is a perfect cheerleader, and she has the perfect body
.. and me well im skinny so im not that big-chested .. and well my hair never comes out as good as hers and i have the worst smile.. like i got braces and my teeth are straight .. but their reallly big and my smile isnt a good smile.. ALL my friends have good smiles and are pretty and outgoing and the boys like them..
like i mean i dont think im UGLY .. but compared to them i feel like i am ..
i just need something to help me gain more self-confidence and stop me from being so self-conscious about the way i look and i want to be more outgoing like my friends
is it wierd that i'm jealous of my friends? what can i do so i wont be jealous anymore?
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I have issues with looking younger than I am. I also am very skinny and scrawny.
What you have to realize is that you CAN'T change. You're stuck with you. Make yourself feel better by sprucing up your style and look a bit. Get a new hair-due. Do something different with yourself to make you feel pretty. Buy a new outfit, too. That always helps me.
Do what you can with what you have!
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hey !!
well no one is perfect and everyone is beautifull in their own way you dont need too look like your friends they might be pretty but soo are you soo dont worry you will find that one guy that will love you without being that perfect perfect person and that guy will think you are most beautifull and perfect ... just wate ... till that day .. !!
♥ Samra
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SPANK UR ASS AND SAY IM HOT CAN'T TOUUCH THIS. L.o.l jk your beautiful just the way you are, and besides boys dun like boys who are perfect. They feel like they gotta live up to someone and they don't. I think you sound perfect for any respectable guy
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you shouldt compare youself to your frriends! by the way u described urself u kind of sound like me. i think im pretty just the way i am. and all my friends are prettier than me. but i dont really care because no one makes fun of me either. so just look at you and point out your good spots.
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ok most people think they look worse than they actually do so once you get your braces off you'll look better and for your hair color it use lots of conditioner and im not that big chested either but there are still some guys that like me
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You admire features of your friends. You can't change the way you look dramatically unless you want to end up like Michael Jackson but you have to learn to love yourself, then othe people will see that you're comfortable with yourself (even though you may not be inside) and see things they haven't seen before. Life's too short to stare at a mirror and identify everything that's wrong with you because you're not a Barbie doll, you're you and you have to accept that.
Best of luck!
x Steph x
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I fell the same wat sometimes one of my frinds is soo pretty and all the guys give her attention so i dont like being around her becasue compared to her im nothing. All you need to do is stop comparing yourself to other people just because they look a certain way doesnt mean you have to. Be unique, if everyone were the same then it would be boring. Also looks arent everything you kno, people shouldent judge you because of the way you look they should get to kno you too.
hope i helped.
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It's not wierd to be jealous - you will always find yourself being jealous of someone for something. All I can say is that being happy with yourself is the first step towards being more confident - don't let the fact that they're more pretty/outgoing/thinner/whatever than you make you feel inferior. There will be people who like you for who you are. Until you find them, just be yourself, be happy with who you are and what you're like and people will see you as a more confident person.
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You are seeing yourself only in comparison to others. (It is a common folly of many including myself) These others just happen to be your friends. It is a simple case of keeping up with the Jones's. You compare your worth to your preceived worth of others. There will always be someone out there who is prettier, who is, thinner, who has better hair, who is smarter, who is more witty. If you constantly compare yourself to what you believe others to be already, you are not ever going to truly enjoy who you are.
I recently had a very tasty saint mention striving for mediocracy. You may not be able to be in the best of the best category, but if you shoot for being mediocre...you could be at the top of that one. This is not your average goal, and it is kinda fucked up if you think about it, but that is exactly why I like it and him for that matter.
Main point (probably should have mentioned it earlier...but, eh) You cannot be those girls. You only have you to work with. If you are unhappy with what you are, how you look, etc... consider yourself a work in progress and try to fix what it is that you don't like (without going to extremes...please)try an easier to style hair cut, or a gel-bra for added padding, and I am sure your smile is not a bad smile. You just think that because you are coveting your friend's smiles. You are also only 14. There is plently of time for you to fill out and change. How you look now is not how you will look at 25.
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FDirst of all sweety NOONE is perfect-not now not ever. Perfection is not in noone. Everyone has something about them that is wrong-either in thier eyes or someone else's. I do know how you feel b/c i felt the same way when i was younger. I was the tallest in the class and no one seemed to wanna bother with me. To this day i am insecure,but i also say i am better than that and if someone does not want to be withme for certain reasons then they are not worthy of me-and to have you know when i see people from back in school now they same man i wish i was tall like you-your so pretty---well guess what you didnt notice it then--your loss now. I understand what you are saying and in order for you to ave self confidence you need tolook with in yourself and find your good qualities--and the rest will fall into place. Once you have found yourself and can see that there is nothing wrong with you your self esteem level will be high and no one will be able to take that from you. Just remember if someone does not like what is with-in you they are not worthy to be with you. Some day someone will look at you not only for your outer beauty but for your inner and then you will know...So try to concentrate on what and who you are before you try to say you wanna look like her or her or even her...i hope it works for you and if you need anything else let me know i am here to help you.
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