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Im sorry for making this long but i would REALLY REALLY appreciate your help
Ok well im 17 and my girlfriend was 15. She broke up with me because she's to scared to lose me. She said when were together she feels like nothing can go wrong. But we don't get to see eachother as much as we want to and she starts missing me. She thinks alot and it always ends up ending what we have (its happened before). I love her but she says she wont be able to handle it when i leave for college. Which is only a couple of miles away, but we wont be seeing eachother at school. I tried to convince her that everything would be alright but she wont trust me. She said she wants to be friends so nothing will go wrong and she wont have to worry.
We see things very differently. She wants to be close friends and i dont. I see it as im looking at someone who i care about more then a friend but cant have. And she sees it as someone that she had a good relationship with.
I dont know what we are or what we are going to be. But i want us to be together, i want her to trust me. But i dont think thats going to happen. I dont know if this would change anything but she said that she's unhappy that i dont talk to her family alot.
My question is what do you think about this? What do you recommend that i do? And how is she feeling?
We broke up a couple of days ago and i think it was on the 3rd day that i agreed to being friends. Which i usually do after we break up. There's alot more to this question, ive been writing to vent. And i realized that she really doesnt love me. When we were together i was happy but it took us breaking up and me having the time to think about our relationship to see that.
Some of the reasons
. She would do stuff that would bother me even though they would bother her if i did them (such as talking to her ex which she's used as a excuse to breaking up with me)
. Push me to changing things about myself (being more talkative to other people, gaining more weight). I know it doesn't sound bad, but she said she wasn't happy with me not having those things.
I know she doesn't love me but i still miss her. Like i told you ive been writing alot. If she were to say she wanted to get back together do you think i should bring up my writings even if they might be hurtful? Or just forgive and try to forget? (link)
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Honestly she is only 15, From what you've written above it sounds like she doesn't exactly know what she wants just yet. Dumping someone because you are afraid you are going to loose them or don't want to loose them isn't really a good enough reason to leave someone if you ask me. In every relationship there is always a risk of loosing someone and it not working out. If that was truely the reason she would of stayed friends instead of trying in the first place. It could be that she put it in a nice way but wants to see other people (Just guessing don't chew my head off) Try talking to her about it, If she just wants to stay friends after that and she is dead set on it then maybe that is what it should be. However if you do don't try to get sympathy out of her as sometimes that only makes the other person walk away even more. If you don't think you should be friends than tell her that.
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hi i am 17 and my boyfriend and i have been going out for 1 year and i really love him i know he is the one for me. i have never been so sure but there has been girls that he has been talking about and girls that work at the store that he goes out of his way to go get something there. i am a very jelous person and i have this incredible heavy gut feeling that he is cheating on me what do i do? (link)
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I don't blame you for being worried if he is cheating exspecially seeing he is always around girls and talking to them. Personally I would be too
Look for the signs of cheating, If he is cheating and you ask him more than likely you will not get the correct answer.
1. Has he been less interested in you lately? Doesn't care about your interest and doesn't want to cuddle as much?
2. Does he shut off his phone at night or when you are around to advoid phone calls?
If you really want to get dirt on him question him and see if he hesitates, Look for nervousness, sweating etc. I'm not saying stalk the guy but maybe see what he is up too.
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So me and my friend have been friends for over a year and we absolutely love each other, so this year there's this guy. Well call him skip so first my friend dates him, but only for a day because it was really awkward then they broke up a couple months later they start liking each other again and I'm really good friends with skip so we always talk and so my friend left for 2 weeks and in that time me and skip started liking each other so we were like w/e about my friend because she is known for Dating a lot of people and when she got back she was a little bad but bot bad because she met someone oN the trip she went on. Me and skip dated for a week and we were both really happy with each other buut idk what happened , I thin I found him too clingy or something really minor like that and I paniced and dumped him and a little whle after that I regretted doing it but he was reAlly hurt by it so I didn't tell any one. As time went on my friend forgot about that other guy and started liking skip again ( mean while I still regret dumping him but not telling anyon) and me and skip resovled things and are really good friends again. So skip asked my friend out and of course she said yes but while they were dating she cheated on him with one guy, which he found out about and after he found out she told me she would never do it again and I beliveed her but she did it twice MORE and he never did find out ( btw still regrtning dumping him stiiil) so this one guy that she cheated on skip with she started liking and a couple days ago she said she wants to dump skip and I was like are you sure ? And she said yea so I was like ok and she broke up with him yesterday and I texted him asking if he was ok and he said ya he doesn't care because she's different than he thought and we sorta talked about that then he asked me how my boy situation was going and I said not good and he's like why. And I'm like every guy I like doesn't like me and he's like that's not true ! I liked you and he listed people and I'm like ya I guess but I can never keep a relationship and he's like yA you can I liked you a lot but you just don't and I'm like ya that's the problem then I thought I HAVE TO tell him so I made him promise not to tell and he said that I'm his best fiend that is a girl so he would never tell so I told him and at first he didn't believe me and then when he did he said that it sucked when I broke up with him because he liked me quite bit and that it was unexpected ........... Was it right to tell him? And what if I like I'm now? I can't date him, my best friend just dated him for 3 months but what if I want to date him ? And in all what do I do about my whole situTion (link)
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The guy needs to make up his mind, It's either you or your friend. If it didn't work out the first time with your friend and "skip" then more than likely it won't work the second time. You also need to decide what you want, A relationship with him or no relationship and continue as friends. You can't exspect him to wait around because you dumped him. Honestly, I'd move on a guy and you and your best friend...is drama waiting to happen.
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How do you take LSD? (link)
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NOT an appropriate question.
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well iv'e been feeling that not many people like me recently.
i don't really see any signs.
but this guy that i would talk to forever online and at school asked me out. i said yes and broke up with him 5 days later because i do not want an online relationship.
he took it hard and hasnt talked to me since.
it makes me feel really bad about myself.
and that ill never ever find a guy.
cuz im too picky :/
ugh. please help in any way.
some advice.
thank you. (link)
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You will find someone
I personally wouldn't want an online relationship either, As it is not the real thing. Don't let a guy make you feel bad about yourself you did what you needed to do. It will come when you least exspect it.
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My boyfriend is 18, just graduated this summer. and I am 16 and will be a sophmore. I want to MAKE him something meaninfuly before he leaves. something that he can always have and when times get tough, he can look at or read? i have a bunch of quotes and pictures that i printed out.. any suggestions? (link)
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You could make a scrapbook, Also I think you could find an animated picture frame at an art store. Another good gift idea is build-a-bear put a sound in it that says "I love you" or something. :)
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Well my question is nice and simple.....I have so many pimples on my face and I wanna know how do I get rid of them fast and easy? (link)
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Try Proactive
Also, You can use lemon juice
Try to advoid greasy foods too.
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Okay so I'm a 15 year old girl and yeah, here's the thing. So there was this one guy I liked who I hung out with who seemed really sweet and we had been friends for like a year. Anyway, while we were chilling we started to make out. He started taking it too far and when I told him to stop, he didn't. I tried to get away from him, but I couldn't. I mean, I was physically not able to. He completely overpowered me and I got really scared! He wouldn't let go off me and he wouldn't listen when I told him to stop. Then I yelled. Of course, after he saw that I was serious he stopped and apologized. I don't think he meant to do anthing, but still, I was REALLY freaked out. I never want to feel that helpless and weak again, and it really makes me sad for girls who have been raped. Because if I'm feeling this bad from that, I can't even imagine what they're going through.
I'd just like to add that I'm in shape, and I'm strong and stuff, but I'm a fairly small girl, and I just can't change that. Also, I have taken self defesne classes which I thought would come in handy, but they didn't. At least not in this case. And the reason I take care of myself and took those classes is because I HATE that feeling I got when that boy did that to me. I hate feeling weak.
Anyway, the problem I'm having now is that I'm really scared around guys that are like bigger than me. I just look at them and I think 'He could do anything he wanted to me and I wouldn't be able to do anything about it'. I even think these things about my guy friends that I've known forever. It's almost like trust issues? But it's also this pissed off feeling I get when I think about all those guys who take advantage of girls like that one boy could have done with me. It really makes me angry. What goes through those guys's minds? Why do they do that? I mean, I know they just want pleasure, but they have to know that they are hurting those girls in ways that aren't just physical don't they? Like why would you do that to a girl? Aren't guys supposed to use their strength to protect us? If someone could answer those questions, that would be great, because at the moment I am just so mad.
Thanks! (link)
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I'm sorry that happened to you.
However, this guy was WAY out of line, No means No and despite whether they think you are joking or not they need to know to stop. I personally would of kicked him in the groin and yelled as he completely disrespected you and deserved it. I do not blame you for having trust issues every girl has trust issues when a guy doesn't listen to them. Keep in mind that not all guys are disrespectful though, There are caring guys out there too. This guy, Phrt he is not a friend ANYONE who disrespects you in that manner is not a friend and don't ever let a guy think he has power of you. I wouldn't hang out with him anymore nobody needs a friend like that. You could try to take self defence classes again or karate classes help also. Remember you are in control of yourself nobody eles. Kick him to the curb!
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16 Female
All my life, I've had wavy / straight hair. After blowdrying, I usually straighten it and it only takes one or two minutes. I know that excessive blowdrying and straightening really stress out my hair, so throughout the year, I sleep with wet hair and in the morning it's curly.
Unfortunately, by the end of the day, it's pretty much wavy or even straight. It's really annoying, so I started using John Frieda's Frizzease products to help "define my curls." I was reading in Seventeen about the best mousse and the best spray gel, and I am confused as to which one would:
- Aid my hair in curling up more if i were to sleep on wet hair
- Keep my hair curly throughout the day
- Not create a "crunchy" or "hard" texture on my hair
Which one do you suggest for my hair type: Tresemme Flawless Curls Curl Care Extra Hold Mousse OR Garnier Fructis Style Curl Shaping Spray Gel? (link)
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I'm going to say the Mousse, Gel tends to harden hair and makes things sticky. Also, It is not a great idea to use gel in the heat only because it gives out a more greasy look.
Mousse is good for curls, It doesn't become as hard as a damn rock unlike gel does. If you want the curly look I would suggest gel in other seasons when the humidity is not going through the roof.
You could also try a hair quencher, That will help the volume of the curls to stay in place.
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so i'm wanting to switch birth controls because ive been on depo for about the time that the recomend being on it and i was wondering what birth control people recomend? It would be nice if it was something that caused fewer periods like depo but it doesnt really matter.. I would also like something that might increase the size of my breasts. I know i should be asking my gyno not you people but i want to have some idea of what i want before i go in there. (link)
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I've exsperienced Depo Provera shot as well, Frankly it didn't do much for me but pack on the pounds ugh..
Well, Right now I'm on the Mirena IUD it's excellent works great and had no problems with it at all however it can be a costly thing to have the damn thing put in...
You could try the pill but if you are not the type of person who loves to take a pill everyday then that option but not be recommended.
The patch works, However from people whom I've talked to about the patch all seem to tell me what a pain in the ass it is the birth control patch is used based on a young woman's monthly menstrual cycle. She puts on the patch on the first day of her menstrual cycle or the first Sunday after her menstrual cycle begins. (Hectic as fuck if you ask me)
Anyway, You could try other metheods..I can tell you what I think of all the above but you need to do what is right for you, Try talking to your gynocologist for more options.
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Can anyone give my links to fashinable stores for teens? But make sure they have a pluz size section, cause that's what I would need.
I'm looking to ONLINE shop.
Please do not list
Forever 21 (link)
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Dots
http://www.dots.com/
Dress Barn
http://www.dressbarn.com/flashHome.jsp
Gap
http://www.gap.com/
Eblens clothing store (No Website)
Hope I helped somewhat :) Good luck
(The person below me listed Aeropostale depending on what you are looking for, They have plus sizes in Juniors only.)
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This is going to be lengthy and there is really no way around it. Sorry!
So, lets start off from the beginning. I'm 24 years old and I've recently moved out and I am renting a duplex with a friend of mine. She is 23 years old. We've known each other for almost 5 years. Before we even started looking for places to live, I told her that I didn't want this certain person like sleeping on my couch or anything, we'll call him B. She was in agreement and said it wouldn't happen. I don't care for him to stay one night here and there, that's fine. I work nights so I'm not home at night but when I leave for work at 10pm, B is usually at my house and they are drinking, did I mention he's 16? Last I knew, that was called contributing to the delinquency of a minor, am I wrong? The thing that irritates me the most, is not only is he 16 and drinking at my house, but he's in trouble with the law. The police are looking for the kid almost every 2 weeks. He's always in trouble for something new. Half of me wants to find a way to not allow him to even step foot inside my house, but he isn't doing anything to me. I'm pretty sure I can't go to the police and tell them what's happening, because even though I'm not there when the underage drinking happens, I'm positive that I can get in just as much trouble. Which is where I'm stuck. I've never been in trouble with the law, I've never even got pulled over. Issue number two, is money was recently stolen out of my room by another one of my roommates friends, lets call her T, she's also 16. I got that money back and in less than 24 hours after, a lock was installed on my door.
I just don't know what to do. I don't want B around my house anymore, especially drinking, and staying the night almost every Monday & Tuesday. Because of financial problems, I can JUST BARELY get my bills paid, and he's sleeping on my couch for free. Something isn't right about that. I don't even know how to bring it up to my roommate that these are problems. I don't want her to think I'm attacking her. I mean, I pay rent here too. Help! (link)
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Whoa..
If this kid is drinking and is in trouble with the law, Despite whether you were there or not why don't you just call the police to have them stop by the house? Hey! You might not live there but you know enough that your money is stolen and if the kid is in trouble with the law they I'm sure they won't have a problem going to the house to check up on things. Yes! good for you, I would lock my door too. You pay half the rent there, You have every right to have peace in your home I would talk to the roomate about it if she doesn't listen then go to the landlord and tell them what has been going on because you pay your half you have say in it too. I would go to the police file a complaint maybe even a restraining order? but I think that is a court thing etc. Tell the cops you don't want the kid on the property and ask them what you could do to make sure he doesn't step foot in the house. It is YOUR couch you have say on what goes and what doesn't if your roomate doesn't listen then I again would go to the landlord and complain about it. You aren't attacking her, You are putting your foot down and saying NO!
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i am 18 years old and pregnant with my second child. I have a two year old. He wont listen to any one. he has slight hearing loss in his right hear and i am having tubes put in. I have been stressed out with being pregnant and the terrible twos. When you put him in time out, weather its a chair or his bedroom he throws a fit screaming crying and just gets back up you yell at him and he just does it again. he gets into everything when you tell him to stop he just acts like he does not hear you. when he gets yelled at he will smack him self in the arm or face? why does he do that? i took him to the phone store with me and we had to stand in line and he just started screaming and yelling throwing him self on the flooor. (link)
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Hello,
I am hard of hearing myself, When I was younger I used to do the same things, The reason why I did it because some who are hard of hearing get fustrated exspecially a young child. Depending on how hard of hearing he is he might only know how to exspress his anger by throwing tantrums. Does your son talk? I myself did not fully start to talk until I was 5 years old. Sign language will help your son to communicate I don't know if this is needed or not but it is just a suggestion. However, I am not saying this is the case it could be just a little boy being a little boy. Try to sit down and talk to him, You are his mom. Try not to overstress as it is not good for you or the fetus.
Please see this link for helpful tips.
http://www.ehow.com/how_4963311_teach-children-hearing-impairments.html
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Okay, this is probably going to be long but bare with me..
So I have this guy who I've been dating for 3 years now. I absouletly love him to death. Shit was perfect the first year, but like most relationships.. that's normal. Now it just sucks so bad. He's sorta a drug addict, no he is a drug addict & i'm constantly just pushing it aside. He wasn't like this when we started dating. Well he got me into the shit too, which sucks but oh well. It ruins us though! We're constantly fighting about money, and blah blah blah. He's not the same and I can't stand it. But since I love him, I can't just say goodbye..
He's so protective & just annoying. I have this friend who I've been texting about stupid stuff. It means nothing at all! Well, the only time I leave my phone alone he goes thru my texts & reads them. Flips the hell out, accuses me of cheating & going all the way with this kid.. even though NOTHING about that was even in my inbox/outbox. I'd never cheat on him. He stormed out of my house, and said we're "done forever." because apparently he doesn't trust me? It's really stupid. I'm trying to be strong about this because I'm done sucking up to his ass. That's obviously what he wants. He sends mean texts saying "slut, how could you." when I guarantee he knows I wouldn't do that. But then, he'll send texts like .. "I love you always and forever, sorry it had to end this way. I can't believe you broke my heart." Like I didn't realize he was this insecure because I texted someone!
So - just this Saturday I went to a wedding and met someone totaly cute. He was so into me & we've been texting since.. Me and the other one, haven't really talked a lot in the past two days. And now I realized the kid who I was friends with and texted is kinda into me too. I'm just not quite sure what to do. Should I still try and be with the one I love? or just date & have fun? Ah, sorry this is ridculously long & stuff but I'm so confused anymore.. Please help. :( (link)
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Sometimes people fall out of love, Honestly when you put two people who have a drug problem together eventually it is not a relationship anymore it becomes all about the drugs and the money and it sounds like that is what happened between you and your boyfriend. The guy is paranoid, Therefore he accuses you of fooling around with other people. Hell, If you had to ask us what you should do, Then obviously the relationship you've been in isn't working out..I would go out and have fun I'm guessing you are young? Hey you get one life and one life only and we don't stay young forever so the hell with it go out and meet other people. If he truely loved you in the first place he would of known to stop the drugs and stop assuming stuff about you.
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My senior pictures are coming up soon so i need to know what color shirts i should pick out. i have hazel eyes, fair skin and brown hair with lots of blonde highlights in it. thankss! (link)
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Wear whatever you like, This is your senior picture therefore it is YOUR memory. Wear your best shirt I'm sure you will look just fine.
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When your running what are good things to think about to help get you through it and keep you going? (link)
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Don't think about the destination, Think about the journey. It is a goal an accomplishment and something you are doing for you and nobody eles. Listening to radio while running will help keep your mind occupied.
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I am a 22 year old woman dating a 39 year old man. We've been together for almost 2 years now. I love him very much and he loves me.
Can our relationship last despite our age difference? (link)
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It's possible it can work out, However there is always a possibly it won't work. Honestly, People of that age difference are normally in different stages in their lives. A man of 39 years has exspereinced a lot more in life than someone of the age 22. The question is DO YOU think it will work? There must be a reason if you asked us on advicenators.
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My hair is thick, coarse, curly, frizzy, and never shiny. I love the way it looks when it's wet, but as soon as it starts to dry you can see how dull and frizzy it is. When I look up curly hair styles, almost every person is wearing their hair down, which I haven't done for years. It simply doesn't work. Lately I've been half-french-braiding my hair, but I want something new to try. Any tips? (link)
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You could try to straighten it with a straightner or if you like the curly look you could try a hair quencher which would make it a more up and cleaner curly look. You could try a hair cut with layers, If your hair is naturally curly layers should not effect the curls.
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I just started to date my manager at work about three weeks ago. He is an amazing guy and we really like eachother.
My only problem with the whole situation is the fact he wants to be around me all the time like if I could he would want me to live with him already. I want to see him a lot too, but I'm afriad that because its the beginning of our relationship that it might mess it up later if we take it too fast now.
How do I push him away a little without hurting him? (link)
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Tell him how you feel, Honesty and communication is the key in any relationship. You could tell him you like him a lot but maybe go about telling him how you want to keep work a casual thing therefore in that case you would have your space. Tell him you want to take things slow or slower and take it from there.
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16/f
i have a fat vagina and i hate it. in my pants it sticks out. i was wondering if you can get rid of fat on your vagina and if so is there so exercises i can do?
please help!!!! (link)
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Hun,
That would be your vulva not your vagina hehe, Well, I don't know if this is the case but when woman loose weight down there they tend to sag a little bit. You can do kegals to improve the muscles down there and it will tightened any loose tissue. Also, If you do leg excercise while putting your thighs together that will tighten up your thighs as well as the tissue down there also.
BahaiMa22
24/f
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