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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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this is kind of hard for me to explain, but i finally met the perfect guy. the one guy that has replaced my exboyfriend, the one guy that i can honestly say i'm in love with & know that it's the truth, or at least i thought it was.
ever since thursday, everything has been going downhill.
to start it off, i'm 17, he's 16. & we've been together for about a month & truthfully, he never really called me but like twice a week, he always wanted to talk on icq(which i hate). but whenever he would call me, it was perfect & we'd talk until like 3am because we just had so much to say. out of this month, we've only hung out twice because we go to different schools & because he never wants to make plans. i always try to do something & he always says he can't, or he cancels at the last minute.
well my birthday was friday & we made plans for my birthday so right as i was about to leave to go pick him up, he cancels on me saying his mom is making him stay home all day because his brother is in. so i was fine, and me & my friends went out & let alone, him & his friends were out driving around & they saw me & were like 'your boyfriend is in here' pointing at him, and he was hiding his head from me :(
we fought over that & then we fought again the next day over stupid stuff, he just kept being really difficult & wouldn't hardly say anything, and he kept making up excuses as to why he couldn't call me & such.
i really love him, and i know the obvious answer is to get out of this relationship, but i can't. i feel like if i wait a little longer, maybe things will improve? like he gets his license saturday & i'm hoping things will change.
i just need some input :(
Well, actually, things aren't going to change unless HE makes the effort to. YOU are not the problem, here. The only change you can make is to end the relationship.
I really don't understand how you can say he is the perfect boyfriend. He always has an excuse not to hang out with you, and LIES to you like that on YOUR BIRTHDAY.
I'm sorry, but the guy is a jerk. He may be all sweet, roses and posies the rest of the time, but it is stuff like this that makes him a total jerk.
When he gets his license, do you really, honestly think he is going to make the effort to come hang out with you? Especially considering his past behavior? Come on. That is naive thinking, girly.
I know you think you just can't get out of this relationship, but sticking it out and waiting for improvement gives you a 99% chance of getting all the more hurt out of the deal.
You need to find a guy who treats you the way you deserve to be treated. I know that's not what you want to hear, but I'm not here to tell you what you want to hear- I'm here to tell you the truth as I see it.
ygs-29/f
Hi, I'm organizing a Halloween party for about twenty five kids ranging from four to twelve and would like some game ideas. I need something that the younger kids can do but that the older kids would have fun doing as well. I would also like some prize ideas for the winners if you can think of anything. Thank you so much.
Bobbing for apples? That is an old Halloween favorite.
Have a bucket with a lot of water for older kids, and for the little kiddies, shallower water making it a little easier for them to get the apple.
Prize: Mmmm... apples. Have some caramel dip so they can dip apple slices.
ygs-29/f
I was recently elected student body president. And everyone already thinks I'm a failure.
I was given 400 free t-shirts to give out to the students, but there are 600 students. Everyone is picking on me begging me to "save one for them" or bitching about how its unfair that everyone doesnt get one.. but thats the way it is, i cant do anything about it!!
Now I've already given out about 100, but the system I was using is NOT working since its causing such a big problem.
So Im going to walk around the different classes in two days and tell them that I have XXX (number of shirts) for the class, and that it means not all of them will recieve one, but that they atleast get to choose the system used for deciding who gets a shirt.
Now what different options are there? All I've got is a)lottery, b) teacher gets to decided, c) i just leave them for the class and they make a decision as a whole, any more suggestions? anything that would be wise to say while walking around??
THANK YOU!
Next school assembly where all the student body is present, have a box to draw 400 names from. Well, I guess 300 since 100 are already taken.
That is as fair as it gets, and there will be no arguing amongst the students.
I guess that is the same as your lottery idea?
If anyone asks, tell them "I wish you luck at the next assembly."
ygs-29/f
I'm really unsatisfied with my hair color. I have about two inches of roots, and no matter how many times I try, my hair will never be one color. The roots are golden brownish blonde and the rest of my hair is reddish brown. Should I just bleach my hair and start afresh? If so, should I try going dark (like dark brown instead of medium reddish brown) or maybe a golden brownish blonde. By the way, I'm pale with blueish greenish eyes if that helps any.
If you are trying to go back to natural, you have to let it grow out and cut off the colored hair.
If you are just wanting to dye it again, but make it match, you have to dye it a color that is as dark, or darker than your roots.
Bleaching your hair out totally destroys it. Trust me- been there, done that.
ygs-29/f
I was rapped by 5 guys last year...i have been seeing a psychologist becuase i am having alot of troubles from this. I feel unhappy , i am having trouble having relationships , i have low confidence. I am also attending university in another country so im very far away from home. I am on one of the sports teams their and i train 24-7 and then have school so i am basically very busy....i feel very lost and i am having trobule doing all the work in my practices and i am also way behind in school. I cannot centrate and i get distracted very easily....my psych suggested that i talk to the docter about taking adderall ( i dont know how to spell it) to help me cope with all this? i do not know anythingabout the drug ...or if it is a good idea any help? I want to know some stuff before i go to the docter
"What is Adderall?
Adderall is a central nervous system stimulant. It affects chemicals in the brain and nerves that contribute to hyperactivity and impulse control."
From: http://www.drugs.com/adderall.html
It is basically a drug for Attention Deficit Disorder or Attention Hyperactivity Deficit Disorder, but has other uses.
Be sure to study up on any medication before you take them, for your own personal knowledge.
What I don't understand is why your psychologist didn't prescribe this medication to you, rather than asking to to see your doctor about it? Don't want to sound like a jerk or something, but if they aren't 'qualified' to prescribe that medicine to you, then they aren't qualified to tell you that you need it.
If that is the case, you should consider finding a different therapist who may be able to give you the help you need and deserve.
ygs-29/f
My boyfriend just left on September 26 for basic training for the Army. I really didn't get to talk to him about it much, so I don't really know, and he doesn't have my address or new cell phone number so there's no way I can get in touch with him.. But is there anyway to know around what time he should graduate basic? I really want to know because I want to surprise him and fly out to see him. I would ask his mom but I've been pretty busy lately and haven't gotten a chance to go see her. Thanks! :)
The only way you are going to find out is by finding the time to ask his mom.
Sorry, :(
ygs-29/f
My boyfriend sent this girl from his school a "engagement ring" & "roses" on myyearbook. i guess its not a big deal? but it hurts so bad..i think they went out before too..what do i do? im confused!!!! i love him sooo much. we've been going out for SOOO long!! help,
I guess I'm misunderstanding, but you are saying he gave this girl an engagement ring?
Whatever you mean, it is pretty disrespectful towards you, don't you think?
If he is going to disrespect you, then do you really think you need to waste your time any further?
I. Think. Not.
ygs-29/f
how do u know whos a poser or not? i meen i jus added someone that said they were vannessa hudgens and i sent her a comment and she sent one back and it seemed like her but how does a person truelly know? i looke up ashley tisdale and theirs like 6 people whos display says"official ashley tisdale".so whos real and whos fake cuz they all say that they are the real person!
They are going to say they are the real person if that is who they are claiming to be. Hell, they could be some 55 year old male pedophile for all you know.
How do you know it is the real person? They won't talk to you. Umpteen million people try to add them as friends, they don't have time to talk to them or add them as friends in return, so why would you be treated any differently?
ygs-29/f
Alright.. wow.
well i was talking to my bf and we've been together almost 4 years, and we havent gotten very intimate. not past 1st base, i've tried to go down on him several times and he just never lets me.
well, today we were asking eachother random questions, and I asked him what his size was.
well, it took a really long time to get out of him, but its because hes only 2 inches.
Well, that was akward.
What i want to know, is how much does it actually take to please a woman?
hes really self concious now, and i need like, statistics to tell him, something that will make him feel better :/
please guys!
Statistics are doubtfully going to make him feel better. He is not a statistic, he is a person with feelings.
I wouldn't just keep bringing it up and what not, or he is probably just going to feel even more inadequate, because it will come off like you are obsessing over it.
ygs-29/f
okay well me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 71/2 months. overall, hes a great guy, but hes so contolive. he gets mad when i hangout with my friends because he says theyre bad, when theyre really not, also, even if i have an average talk with another guy, you know just a heyy whats up type of conversation. after every studyhall he always asks me who i sit with and what we talk about, and when im online he im's me and asks who im talking to, what im talking about, and asks me to send him the conversations. its sooooo annoying. yes, i love the kid, but sometimes he drives me crazy. what should i do?
Ok, is love really worth having your life controlled? No. It isn't, because that is NOT love. Not on his end, with that behavior.
You don't need a parent, you have that. You don't need a boss, you can get PAID to put up with one of them at work.
You don't deserve that treatment in a relationship at all. You are not a dog, to be trained in obedience. Sit, come, stay, roll over, play dead. You are better than all that, no matter how long you have been going out.
I mean, come on. Do you REALLY want to end up marrying a guy who won't let you go to the bathroom without his knowing your every move? I think not. But that's the kind of guy you are with. Sad fact.
It only gets worse in time. Trust me. Been there, done that. But never again. I am not an animal to be trained, I am a person. My OWN person, and I will do as I damn well please, by God.
You may or may not believe me, but you are better off dumping this jerk and finding a guy who is man enough to treat you like a woman, with respect, as you deserve to be treated.
ygs-29/f
what does it mean when someone says a guy is "whipped"? and
what does it mean when you call someone a tool?
Whipped guy: When it comes to his lady fair, it is "yes ma'am, right away ma'am." Meaning, he will do everything his woman tells him to do. She is the boss, in a fashion. She dominates the relationship.
"1. tool
One who lacks the mental capacity to know he is being used. A fool. A cretin. Characterized by low intelligence and/or self-steem.
That tool dosen't even know she's just using him."
From: http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=tool
ygs-29/f
well to tell this right i have to start from the beginning so here it goes. well my bf and i have been going out for one month (not counting the five months before we broke up) and we both decided that we wanted to make out with each other (we did once last year but you had to be there to understand)so on fridays there are football games with dances after so we decided the time and place right afer halftime so friday rolls around and im all pumped but after halftime we went off on our own and we just talked... the whole time. then it was time to go to the dance then when monday comes his best friend tells me that he was going to then decided not to because the didnt wan to ruin ne thing hes done this the past seven football games and the mixed signals are killing me i mean shouldnt he have told me all this and we could have sorted it out together?
im really sorry this is so long but i need some help on this one!
thanx
He should have told you all of this, but he didn't. Therefore, you have to make that step for him and talk to him about it. Let him know you are confused and picking up mixed signals.
The only person who can tell you what is going on in his head is him.
ygs-29/f
14f
my cusin is the complete opposite of me and shes the same age[14]! she has huge boobs/ass is really smart and gets what ever she wants.
i'm flat, i have to study for tests and i never get anything i want.
Lately, shes been driving me crazy.. she hangs out with people from my school, and it pisses me off cause shes taking everyone from me.
Today I was with my friend on a street right, and then these guys from our school show up. And lets call him "F" He was like hey, wheres your really hot cusin? And i was like i dont know i dont care. The like i dropped my cellphone so i picked it up and then "F" was like do you even have an ass?
It made me feel terrible. All the guys love her for her body and nobody knows the terrible person she is, seriously shes a huge bitch.
I mean i have a loving boyfriend but it still pisses me off, when guys come to me asking whats your hott cusin doing and stuff.
I dont know exactly what my question is but i needed to expose my feelings to something.. blah
When they ask you where she is, tell them you are not her personal secretary, and maybe they should ask her for her number if they are so interested in keeping track of her.
Who cares if the jerk wonders if you have an ass. He's obviously talks out of his, right? If that is how he talks to people, then he is an idiot, and the general public WILL see him for what he is.
So she has a hot body and is a huge bitch. So guys like her for her body. Think of it this way- in the future, some poor sap will marry her for her body and have to put up with her shit daily.
Some man will marry you for who you are and be happy he did.
I don't know if that helped at all, but I had to say it.
ygs-29/f
im trying to learn the polish language because my boyfriends family speaks it and even though they speak english i want to learn there language so it wont be as confusing sometimes. plus i plan on going to poland soon. i was just wondering if there were any good sites that for free and is easy to learn polish.
19f
Maybe this will help:
http://grzegorj.w.interia.pl/kurs/0.html
ygs-29/f
halloween is my favorite holiday. i'm 16/f and i'm not sure what to do this year for halloween.. i want to spend it with friends, what would be some fun things we could do? thanks!
Of course, nothing destructive that will get you in trouble with the law. But you already know that.
Hell, just dress up, run around town acting silly and crazy, and have FUN. Enjoy your favorite holiday. It's mine, too, and trust me, I wish I could run around, be silly and crazy. But I'm a momma now, so I don't get to do all that fun stuff anymore. :(
ygs-29/f
ok so ive been going out with my boyfriend for some time now and our anniversary is coming up and ive really tried hard to figure out what to get him. hes so hard to buy for ive done the scrapbooking think but i cant help but think that its not enough. ive tried to think of other things to get but its so hard because he will find out and say no or it will be to expensive. wow sorry i babbled a little haha. basically i need a gift that is really cool and not to expensive
19 f
Why would you think scrap booking is not enough? That stuff takes a lot of thought, time, and effort. THAT is what counts in a gift, not the actual item or the price.
If you've made him a scrap book, have you thought to make him a photo video? Like on Windows, there is the Movie Maker, for example. You can even scan photos to add to it. You can put his favorite songs on it. I've done lots of photo videos on WMM, and they come out pretty awesome.
ygs-29/f
okay well im a sophmore and i have a low gpa because i didnt care much last year. my gpa is 2.5 and i want to be a pediatric nurse or pediatrician if possible. do you think there is a way of that now i am getting just a's and b's first time in my life ive really cracked down. and if there is a possibility of me being able to get in to this career feild how high would my gpa need to be?
this summer im getting a job at the nursing home up town hoping that might make some effect in something.
ive been reading things about pediatricians for the past 2 years now and i would really love it if you could help.
:D
I think you can do it if you work your ass off for the rest of high school.
Ask your school guidance councilor what you need to do and what requirements are needed to study your chosen profession. Trust me, their job is to help you seek higher education and they WILL help you every step of the way.
ygs-29/f
I'm going to major in musical theater in college, and i just want to know what the difference between a university and a conservatory is.
And which ones would u reccomend for a really highly-reputable musical theater program?
(i already know uMish and boston conservatory, julliard, etc so don't say obvious ones please)
I can't honestly tell you the difference between the two, but if you are serious about your music, I would say that a conservatory would be the better bet.
As for what would be best, you need to research that. You have to find one to suit your personal needs and interests. Correct?
I know there are a lot of them out there to be researching, but it is worth it! :)
ygs-29/f
my homecoming is coming up.
where can i get a really cute cocktail
type dress that does cost a crap load.
im a size 1/2/sometimes a 3.
also, i need to able to dance in it.
cause there will be grinding and what not.
and i dont want my dress riding too far up. (:
and if i helps, i live in the houston area.
THANK YOU!
Here is a cute black one, on sale for $20:
http://www.edressme.com/dressesb7012.html
I just search this:
Then I looked at the first link, opened their sale or clearance dresses, and found that one among many others.
ygs-29/f
I have a HUGE crush on this guy. We are both in high school, I'm a sophmore, but he's a freshman. Is that really wierd? Can a sophmore girl and a freshman boy date without being made fun of? Also, how do I tell if he likes me?
Why would you be made fun of? I've never heard of such a thing. When I was in school, freshmen dated SENIORS, if you can believe that.
How do you tell? Flirt and see if he responds positively. Other than that, you can outright ask. For example, ask him to a dance. There is nothing wrong with a girl asking a guy out.
ygs-29/f