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My girlfriend keeps tellin me that she cant have sex with me because she is on her periods ,is she right or is it just a trick girls use as an excuse not to have sex

It's not an excuse. Whilst there's nothing wrong with having sex on that time of the month, she may just not like the idea of it. End of really.

ive been thinking about getting a tattoo on my waist/hip area.. just below and to the side of my belly button. one day if ever i have kids, would it stretch really bad and ruin? or would it be ok to have there?

Most probably.
It's something you should put into consideration if you want kids in the future. Perhaps think of a different placement if you aren't fond of having a stretched out tattoo.

What if one does not receive any satisfactory answers for your problem (for whatever reason) on advicenators, what should one do?

You could try asking it again in a different way. Maybe the way you asked previously was quite hard to understand, or wasn't in standard English.
Perhaps there wasn't enough people online at the time to give you a good enough answer.
There are quite a number of reasons to be honest, so to get a decent answer, it could be worth asking again in a different way, or seeking help elsewhere, because noone is qualified enough to give proper advice.

Hi every one i am a cutter i have been cutting for 4 years and i really want to stop how can i

This website will help you
http://www.thesite.org/healthandwellbeing/mentalhealth/selfharm/stopselfharming
There are so many others, too.

Remember, you are not alone. and it's excellent you want to get help in order to stop.
Be strong. and good luck.

(I'm 15 O:!)
Mk, so, I'm dating this boy, Scotty, and I'm like, seriously in love with him, like for real. And we were best friends before we told each other we lvoed each other and crap so yeah (:
But then he moved to Indiana ):
But we're still dating, but like long distacnly o_O
We tlak on this thing calld 'Xat', but, he was in the hospital for over a month, and just came out today (12/20/07) and told me what happened.
I'm stealing, and saving up alot of money so I can go up to Indiana and see him , and we can go to England together.
But, I don't know if I should just, run away from home.
What do i doooo? ):

I can 100% guarantee everyone who answers this question will advice AGAINST you running away. Why? The list of reasons is endless. You are 15, your parents will be worried sick, you will get into alot of trouble once you're found and to be honest, no matter how much you save, the money will go very quickly.. especially if you're thinking of England as a destination. Then what will you do? Out of money and in a place you don't know.
Running away is no joke.
On the other hand:
Although I can sympathize with you totally. I know you want to be with your boyfriend.. and I know you're in love with each other, but the distance is a huge problem for you. Let me tell you, long distance relationships CAN work if you are both committed.. and you two seem pretty committed to me if you're thinking about running away with each other..
If I were in your shoes right now, I'd be saving up, just as you are, so I could visit him. Talk to your parents about it. Hopefully they will be okay with the idea.
Also, you are 15. If you are both serious about the relationship, it isn't THAT long until you are an adult and can make your own decisions, meaning you CAN be with him no matter the distance.
But believe me, running away will not do you any favours.. and to be honest, if you did, your parents would probably be against the idea of you ever seeing him again.
Think smart.. and do the right thing.
I wish you the best of luck.

I want to get a tattoo that says "livre de drogas" or "livre de veneno" which is portuguese and it means drug free and poison free.
I'm not portuguese but I really like that language and i thought it would be prettier than just saying drug free because its going to be across a bird. a few people have told me i would be an insult to portuguese people because i'm not portuguese. I really don't think it will but I still was just wondering on someone elses opinion if you think it is?

I don't see how it can be insulting?
For all they know, the Portuguese language might mean something special to you. You're the one who has to live with the tattoo, so I'm sure you've thought it through 100% why you want Portuguese writing on you. Don't let people put you off.

What would you do if your boyfriend of a year and 2 months stole money from your house.. but denies it and you know they did it.?

do you break up with him?

or not?

Assuming you DEFINITELY know:
YES. That is wrong on SO many levels. He can't be trusted any more.

please! what kind of hat is this?

http://i3.photobucket.com/albums/y94/melissalovesit/ginger/melissa010.jpg

where can i get one like it? its so cute resting on her head like a muffintop!

It's a beanie. You just can't see it all in the picture. I don't know where you live, but the good news is you can get them practically anywhere.

thanks for answering my Q about the boy with the mouth insecurity. Anyway about the same boy. I've never talked to hi but we do a lot of eye contact.Well today before school i was at my locker and he looked at me and i sort of froze and looked away really fast, obvious i know. Then we had a conovcaton and he was sitting by himself like on the other side like 12 feet away.Then he looked at me like twice and i him. Then he got up and sat in the same row as me, then we looked at each oher some more.So i know what you're prolly gonna say but it's hard cuz we've never talked. Do you think he's interested in me.Thanks a bunch.15/f

It sounds promising to me. He's looking at you alot and by the sounds of it, is trying to move closer to you. You should find the courage to talk to him (say hey), or at least smile when he looks at you. Things would probably pick up from there :)!

is it a bad thing to wear white pants in the winter?

and if it is..why?

I just researched this "labour day fashion rule" and pft is what I have to say to that. Wear what you want and when you want. I doubt anyone really follows it now anyway.

I started since 4 is it normal to do it at that age? Im 27 f now and have stopped doing it but can't help it sometimes. How do i quit?
The most important of all i have charco rednesss
down there from doing it too much how do i remove the redness?

Do you think there's a chance you're addicted? What I mean by that is; does it stop you doing every day things? Do you do it many times during 1 day? If so, you may want to speak to someone about it to help you do it less, because it sounds like it's becoming quite a problem for you.
You can remove the redness by giving yourself a rest for a few days. If you feel the need to do it, make yourself busy. Get up and walk around, exercise, call someone.. anything.

is it true that jamie lynn spears is pregnant?!

wowzers

Yes.
http://www.tmz.com/2007/12/18/jamie-lynn-spears-is-pregnant/

Well i was just wondering if it was ok to have sex with my girlfriend when she's having her period if i wear a condom?

It's totally fine if you both want to do it during that time of the month. Keep protected. :)

is there a way to mess up your finger print...not that i am thinking of doing it but the question has been bugging me for a while. I herd if you slice your fingers the print will eventually grow over it...is this true? why?
thanx

If you burn yourself badly, they will be "messed up"

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fingerprint
This will explain everything about finger prints.

ok im 20/f ... since, well 10 oclock this morning when i woke up until ... well ... now(midnight) ... i have not stopped being lightheaded. I don't know what cuased it It isn't cuz i didn't eat, cuz i did. I ate breakfast...still lightheaded. I went to work and was lightheaded all 9 hours. ate lunch, dinner, still lightheaded. What could be causing it and how can i make it stop?

There are SO many causes for feeling lightheaded. Here are just a some of them:
Stress
Low/high blood pressure
Allergies
Alcohol (have you been drinking within the last 24 hours?)
Virus
Heart/circulatory disorders
I'd check with a doctor just to be on the safe side, to find out the exact cause and to get treatment if you need it.

why the HELL did the condom come off when my boyfriend and i were last having sex?! this has never happened to either of us before...has this happened to anybody else before? and why?

thanks?

*He lost his erection
*It wasn't on properly/air may have been trapped
*It wasn't the correct size
Unfortunately, this can happen, so always be prepared. If you're worried about it happening again, it may be worth looking into other methods of birth control too, if you haven't already.

how do you get a hickey to stay dark. im practicing on my arm and i can make them but they fade. what can i do to make them stay dark.

Suck harder. Either way, it will fade anyway. A hickey is a bruise.. and bruises fade as they heal.
Keep in mind, hickeys work better in some places (neck) than they do others (arms), so that's probably why the ones on your arm are fading quicker.

so if a mother has cancer will her daughter get it?
is there any chance at all
if so what types of cancers?

PLEASE ANSWER IF YOU KNOW!!

Not all cancers have the genetic component. It's mainly cervical, breast, bowel types that COULD be passed on. It doesn't necessarily mean you definitely will get it... there's just a higher risk.
If you are worried and certain cancer runs in your family, you can be screened every so often, so if you do happen to get it, you can catch it early and be treated.

If you eat a cough drop without having a sore throat can it cause you to have one?

No. Don't worry.

Say you started dating someone on September 26 and you wanted to know how long you've been dating.

Would you:

(A) Just use the day "26" of each month as another month even though it doesnt actually add up to one month.

or

(B) Get a calander and count 7 days after September 26th, use that as one week then Actually count 4 weeks out each time and not have it land on a day "26"?

If anyone understands what i'm asking I would really appreciate an answer.

Thanks =)

If you want to know the precise dates, calculate the amount of days just as you said - not just by the 26th of every month.
but keep in mind, if it's for anniversary purposes, you just usually celebrate it on the date of that month. So yours would be 26th of every month. Just depends how you want to do it.

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