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I like this guy, weve known eachother for about a year but I'm just now coming to the realization that I'm pretty sure he's just being my "friend" because he wants to sleep with me. Is there any way to get him to actually be my friend? Lately I've been trying to hangout with him hoping we can actually do something instead of it being a make out session. I think I have a decent chance of him liking me if he gets
To know me I'm just awkward and shy and have a hard time being myself/friendly infront of people especially a guy that makes me so nervous. I just want to know if I have a chance atthis, because I don't want to wasted time trying jus to end up hurt. Idk how guys brains work unfortunately.
I'm 18, he's 19. (link)
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The best thing is probably just talk to him and tell him you want to be friends. If he stops hanging out with you or stops talking to you, then you know he was only in it for sex.
If he's ok with just being friends, then you can go from there and then maybe he'll see you as more than a girl to sleep with.
If he's only set out to sleep with you then that's all it'll ever be.
So just talk to him and see if he's ok with you guys just being friends for now.
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Okay so a couple of weeks ago I was thinking that me and my crush were boyfriend and girlfriend but now he went and asked out another girl. I've tried everything but it's now working? Should I make him jealous and date someone else? I don't know!?!?! (link)
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A crush is different from a boyfriend. Most people ask the person they like to be their girlfriend. I'm assuming this is what he did and then he went and asked another girl out?
What have you tried? If you have already talked to him about it and he has told you that he doesn't like you anymore, then you move on.
It's not the right thing to go make someone jealous because you wouldn't be dating someone for the right reasons. You'd be dating another guy only to make your boyfriend jealous. So it's not fair to the other guy. If he doesn't like you, he doesn't like you. You can't make someone like you and if they don't like you, you can't make them jealous because they already like someone else.
So my advice would be to forget this guy. Go enjoy yourself and your friends. You have fun and if he sees that you're happy without him and that you don't need a guy, that could possibly make him more jealous than being with someone else. Then when you do find someone else, at least it will be with someone who really likes you too.
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Ok, I wont say how young I am but I love masturbating regularly and I can get enough of it... I even have myself a sex master... I feel like a whore and even worse when I'm at school I rub myself with my pens and occasionally finger myself.
Be honest... Am I a slut? (link)
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No, you're not a slut.
The definition of a slut is a promiscuous woman. Masturbating doesn't make you a slut. It can be a problem if you start doing stuff like that in school though.
You're just exploring yourself and that's completely fine. Some people do it more than others, and it's not a problem unless you do it so much to the point where it interferes with your life.
So to answer your question, no, you're not a slut.
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Hi, what does this mean when a boyfriend of 2 and a half years says,''i do love you and want to spend my life with you,''? Thanks guys! (link)
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Yes he's getting serious. Spending the rest of your life with someone is a serious commitment.
What he means is really what he says. That he loves you and wants to be with you forever.
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I have had a friends w/benefits situation for the past 5 years and I have developed feelings for my partner. Well, recently I told him that I could not continue this (but I did not tell him how I felt about him) and he said he understood. He has other girls that he can get sex from but he still wants to have sex with me. Why? Could he possibly have feelings for me? (link)
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He probably just finds you really attractive and you've probably always been a good sex partner for him.
Then of course, maybe he does feel the same.
Could be either one so maybe ask him why he still wants to have sex with you.
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My boyfriend told me he was 13, when infact he's 12. I know 13's a little young to date, but I'm quite mature...I'm just wondering if he is..He lied to me about his age. Also all my friends say it's embarrassing to date a younger boy..What's you're opinion? Thanks (link)
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No it's not embarrassing to date a younger boy unless you were like 14, 15+ and he lied and said he was your age and turns out he's 12.
The age isn't the problem. The fact that he lied is the problem. It might not be a huge deal but lying isn't ok in a relationship.
So my advice is to talk to him and ask him why he did that. If this was a one time thing, then you can probably find a way to forgive him and let this go.
When you get older you'll find that a lot of girls do date guys a year or two younger than them. Right now your friends don't really see that or have much experience to tell you that.
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So there's a guy I met a few moths ago and he saw me and I "caught his eye" (btw so sweet :) ) and we started talking and he fell for me, and I fell for him a Little bit. So we became super close friends (we are both 14) and he helped me through a break up with my obsessive boyfriend and it just felt like he was always there for me. And he's absolutely SUPER CUTE AND SWEET. So we were talking about hanging out and dancing and we did both, but while we were dancing, our eyes met and we kissed (under the moon and it was so romantic)
And we lied down and I fell asleep in his arms and he just sat there brushing my hair an trolling me i was beautiful. But, he's going to a different high school then I am. We really want to date, but we won't see each other very much. I really want to date him and he wants to date me. But we have a distance issue. Please help me! Thank ya! :) (link)
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Well that's sweet. This whole situation is really up to you. There isn't really a right or wrong option.
If you decide to stay with him, you'll have to be able to handle not seeing him every day. Of course, I see that as a good thing because when you spend so much time with someone, it just turns into a routine and you don't get as excited to see them. I think seeing someone on the weekends is best because you can focus on school during the week and then look forward to seeing him on the weekend.
Or you could just end it and move on because you are only 14 and you can date other guys that you could see more often.
So how big is the distance? Is he in the same area but just goes to a different high school or does he live like an hour or so away?
If he's in the area then I think you'd be able to handle the distance. At least you won't be those annoying couples at school who hardly let go of each other. You guys could have great space but still have a good relationship.
It's all up to you and how you'd be able to handle it.
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So I like a guy in my class (who is 17 by the way). I don't really have friends at school, but I feel like we can talk about anything. We have so much in common. I feel that he likes me too- he's a genuinely sweet guy, he cares about what I think, he always makes eye contact, he walks me to lunch...but I feel like we're a little bit stuck. It's kind of obvious that we like each other, but both of us are really shy and we haven't admitted it yet. We're good friends but I'm a little worried that maybe that's all it would be...I wouldn't want to make things awkward between us. I really do like him...what should I do? (link)
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So you have a good feeling that he feels the same way as you do.
So it really depends on what you're willing to risk. Since there is a good possible chance that he likes you too, maybe if you tell him how you feel, he'll tell you he feels the same way and ask you out.
Maybe you will tell him how you feel, he'll feel the same way but doesn't want to date.
Maybe he just sees you as a friend and that could result in awkwardness.
If I was in your situation, I'd invite him to hang out and do something. Maybe bowling, skating, movies, anything really. If he's up for that, just the two of you, he is interested in you. And maybe see what happens from there.
If you feel like you can put yourself out there and admit that you like him, then do it. If you guys are good enough friends, you'll remain that way even if he doesn't feel the same. It might be a little weird at first but it'll most likely go back to close to being normal eventually.
Anyways, see what is best for you and good luck!
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My boyfriend wants me to have sex with him but I'm only 12..... iI want to but then again I don't want to.... am I too young for this or should I do it? (link)
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You are too young to be having sex. Boys will be asking you to have sex for a long, long time. Your boyfriend is going through puberty and his hormones are going crazy, that's why he wants to have sex.
Firstly, you know you shouldn't have sex because you know you aren't ready. If you knew you were ready, you wouldn't have to ask the question. You shouldn't have sex just because you want to, because there are consequences if things go badly.
Secondly, if you went through with it, you could possibly end up pregnant. It's a good thing to use condoms and birth control but sometimes things can go wrong. You don't want to end up pregnant when you're this young.
There is also possibly of getting an infection.
Also, your body is still growing. I'm sure you have just started your period or maybe had it for a year or so. Sex will hurt you terribly. It wouldn't be pleasurable for you until you're body is done growing.
Not only that, girls who have sex at a very young age normally regret it. Because when you're older, you don't ever want to admit that you had sex when you were only 12 years old. You're not even a teenager yet. It's more common for a 16+ girl to have sex for the first time. Anyways, sex isn't just all fun. When you're a teenager, your emotions are a bit crazy. You're just beginning, so sex could affect you emotionally as well.
Anyways, you don't want to regret it. So just wait. If you have a good respectable boyfriend, he will understand and respect how you feel. He won't push or beg you to have sex with him. If he does, you know what he really cares about.
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hello. I'm from India. well, here's the thing. my family, friends and even my boyfriend thinks that my voice sucks on phone. to see if there's any truth in it, i recorded my voice on my cellphone and it sounded sooooo bad.
i'm not into singing and stuff. so i dont think i need classes or something. but do tell me if they'll help or not.
i'm becoming self-conscious because of this and these days, i've even stopped talking to my boyfriend and friends. i just text them.
please help!!! (link)
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You could try speech therapy.
Everybody's voice is different on the phone. I've heard myself in a video and my voice sounds a little deeper than I hear it. So it's just how it is.
I'm not sure if speech therapy would help since it's just your voice over the phone rather than your voice in real life but you can try it and see if it does anything for you.
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I'm a 13 year old girl. If I go to singing lessons will I become better in singing? I'm not that good but I'm not terrible either. I really wanna become better at singing because both му best friends are good and always sing and then I feel left out cs I must just stand there with them while they have fun singing and I just wanna be good :) so yeah can I become better? (link)
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If you like singing and you don't just want to do this because you want to be like your friends, then do it.
Yes, singing lessons will help you. They help with the pitch and where your voice is. They'll help you find out if you are soprano or alto.
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I am a 17 year old boy. I have been with my girlfriend for about 5 months now. When we first started dating, she was really into me but I was still a bit iffy, which probably was a mistake. Since then, she has really fallen in love with me and tells me often, but I don't quite feel the same way. I do love her and care about her a lot, but just don't feel as good about the relationship as I used to. The only thing is, dating me took her out of a deep struggle of depression which included lots of self-harm. She is very happy to be with me, but I am scared that I am her only sense of happiness and breaking up with her will send her back into depression and she may hurt herself, or worse. The one time we discussed breaking up, she cut herself, but then regretted it and told me she would never do it again. But still. What do I do? I feel pressured to stay in the relationship, and I am still not 100% sure if I want it to end. (link)
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Is she getting professional help? Has she ever gotten professional help?
That's what she needs. But I think you should talk to an adult about it. If you can, talk to her parents. Tell them that you care about her but you feel pressured to be with her because she struggled with depression and you're scared she might fall back into it. Also mention how she cut herself the last time you mentioned it.
If not her parents, talk to a school counselor. Tell them what you told us and they'll probably call her parents and try to figure something else.
Since you're still iffy on your feelings and if you want it to end. You need space. You need a break and you need to figure it out.
Don't stay with her and try to figure out how you feel because right now, your her source of happiness and she needs to be happy with herself before rather than go to a boy for happiness.
So you can't handle this alone, you need to get some help and talk to someone to help your girlfriend.
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My boyfriend talks for hours with a girl..she is in of his age and they are 2 years older than me..what should i do? (link)
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It is ok to talk to other girls and be friends with other girls but it's not ok to talk for hours.
He may not be doing anything wrong like cheating but he is breaking boundaries of a relationship.
You can't stand as close to the line as you want because it brings insecurity to the other partner and that's not what a relationship should feel like. You should be able to trust each other.
So put boundaries up. You both need to sit down and talk about it. He will probably just say they are friends. If he does, just say that it's ok for him to be friends with her but you're not comfortable with him talking on the phone for hours. If he respects how you feel, he'll stop.
I've known couples who have a great relationship because they put up boundaries. Lots of married women I know will be friendly but said they don't feel the need to be buddies with other men because they have their husband and their girl friends.
So, it's ok to have other guy friends and it's ok for him to have other girl friends but it's not ok to spend so much time with them or have hour long phone conversations.
Talk to him and work this out.
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How to commite suicide (link)
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No one on this site is allowed to tell you how to commit suicide. It's our job to help people and help them live through their problems.
You need to talk to someone about this, go see a doctor or a counselor and get some help. They will help you and you do deserve to live.
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Hey there. We went for the visit to my wife/daughters mother in jail and it wasn't that horrible. It was with the glass between us. My wife talked about how it's like in jail and told my daughter how many people she is locked up with are young and not much over 18 probably as a way to scare her. Is this a good idea or is it being harsh on my daughter? (link)
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I'm sure she's just telling the truth and I don't see it as being harsh on your daughter.
Because it is the truth, a lot of young people who are 18 and not much older are in jail. It's good for her to know that.
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Hi, I am a 14 year old girl. I think I'm very smart when I try and apparently everyone else that I know of thinks I'm very smart. I'm going to be a freshman next year and I wanna make all A's in high school, I know it will be hard but I think I can do it. Also some of the kids in my grade make it look so easy, how can I do that? (link)
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You can do it, and it's good that you are putting yourself into that mind set now rather than later.
My number one would be not to procrastinate. That is one of the biggest problems with students. If you work hard, you can get all A's.
So firstly, make show you show up to all your classes. Don't skip and try not to miss a lot of days of school. Pay attention in the class, don't sleep, talk with your friends when the teacher is teaching or doodle. Notes are also very helpful and are great when you need to study.
After school make sure you study. You don't have to overload yourself but maybe make it 30 min to an hour of what you went over that day.
And obviously do your homework.
Other than that, enjoy high school!
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I have a friend called tiffany.. She is a good friend and she goes to the same school as me. But ever since she has come to my school I have been getting into more trouble but I'm not sure whether it her influence or its me?? Her dad says I'm a bad influence on her but my mom says she's a bad influence on me ? So I have (on my own) decided to move school away from her was that the right decision tho? (link)
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In my opinion, yeah it was the right thing to do.
It might have just been the two of you together. If you didn't have a history of getting in trouble and she didn't have a history of getting in trouble then maybe it's just the friendship you have that has caused it.
But yeah, good for you on trying to do the right thing.
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I have a boyfriend we have been together about a 9 months and he's the first boyfriend that I have felt secure and comfortable with I'm 16 coming 17 and really in love with this boy and we want to take it to the next step but I'm not sure that I'm ready to loose my virginity what shall I do? Shall I wait? (link)
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I love how you're actually considering waiting, a lot of girls on the site are normally looking for excuses to do it when they're not ready.
If you're not ready, just wait.
I mean it's not that enjoyable until you fully are ready. You'll be way more happier with it then.
I'm sure you have a good boyfriend who will respect how you feel about it. If he doesn't, then he's not the right guy for you.
Anyways, my advice is to wait until you are ready and then once you know you are, then start looking into birth control because you don't want to end up pregnant this early in life. And always use condoms.
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This guy I like. Everything about him is perfect everyone I've asked had nothing bad to say about him. His closest friends and people who see him and talk to him everyday. When I think about him or get a text from him I have the corniest biggest smile. My stomach starts fluttering. And hurting really bad I start feeling nausious. I've got like no eating appetite. I don't underatand why he makes me feel like this. I get really excited out of no where and ill just start feeling really sick. Can someine explain why this is happening? (link)
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It's normal to feel that way when you first start liking someone. It's pretty much a psychological response, you get that feeling when you're about to stand up in front of a large crowd or sing in front of a large crowd. You feel that way when you are nervous too.
It's just a sign of positive, harmless feelings romantically. I think it has to do with endorphins in your body.
Anyways, and it just shows that you like him.
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Hi
You recently answered one of my questions about Jane. very much appreciation for that. Still struggling tho with what to do.. and since you seemed to take an interested, i thought I would give you more info and hopefully you can reciprocate with more advice.
Jane btw is a freshman in college..but will be a sophmore in the fall. just a reminder I am 16, going into my junior year of high school.
I really dont think I am gay...I mean because Jane isn't with me physically and even so we arent anything but friends (atm), I still find myself gazing at boys in the halls....and NEVERRR girls.I have still yet to have thoughts about girls ever besides Jane..and even with theese thoughts of Jane..I have coutnless thoughts everyday with guys i see.
But the thing is, with guys, I imagine things like..kissing. with jane..I dont even no. its more than just kissing..its that i want to be with her. or at least i dont want her to be with anyone else..and i want her for me...so basically..a relationship. wich is confusing because i really dont think im gay..hahaha. but than again...i do lik a girl.. so what does that say.
Maybe it is just a phase. but at the moment, all i can think about is the fact that jane has no idea. she thinks i am straight and she would never make a move on me. But i so badly want her to..
and not likea move seuxally, but her just to tell me she has feelings for me.
because i sure as hell am to chicken to say anything since she thinks im straight. Is there a way to hint to her I like her..?
Also, Ik you said not to tell her before we meet inperson. But idk. Its all i think about .. just imagining me telling her i like her. its os on my mind somethimes i feel like the only way to get it out of my head is to get clousre on everything , and just tell her already! what our your thoughts on that? Also, i doubt we will be meeting anytime soon. She lives in DC and i live in Chicago.. and what would i tell my parents ? I badiaclly dont have any way of getting to her...and her of me. but i feel like if we were something..things would just be easier. But still..
would like to no your thoughts. again:)
thanks so much btw.
p.s: if you think i should tell her...please give me advice on how to do it! because immma chickennn!:))
Thanks
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Ok so as long as you're ok with her not reciprocating the feelings, then you should tell her. Remember though, the friendship you have with her might change for the better or for the worse.
I've also seen friends that were very into their friend but not in that way. They didn't want them to be with anyone else because they loved their friendship. Maybe that's how you feel? To find someone who you can easily relate to and talk to?
But if you actually can see yourself having a relationship with her and doing things with her, then maybe you're bi curious.
I can't really think of ways to hint that you like her because it's easiest in person because you can be subtle. Maybe try flirting a little.
My advice would to just be straight up with her though. Tell her what you told me. Like you're starting to think of her as more than a friend but you thought you were straight and you still look at guys though. See what she says and go from there.
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