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Girl in Love with another Girl (should she tell her) Con.
Hi
You recently answered one of my questions about Jane. very much appreciation for that. Still struggling tho with what to do.. and since you seemed to take an interested, i thought I would give you more info and hopefully you can reciprocate with more advice.
Jane btw is a freshman in college..but will be a sophmore in the fall. just a reminder I am 16, going into my junior year of high school.
I really dont think I am gay...I mean because Jane isn't with me physically and even so we arent anything but friends (atm), I still find myself gazing at boys in the halls....and NEVERRR girls.I have still yet to have thoughts about girls ever besides Jane..and even with theese thoughts of Jane..I have coutnless thoughts everyday with guys i see.
But the thing is, with guys, I imagine things like..kissing. with jane..I dont even no. its more than just kissing..its that i want to be with her. or at least i dont want her to be with anyone else..and i want her for me...so basically..a relationship. wich is confusing because i really dont think im gay..hahaha. but than again...i do lik a girl.. so what does that say.
Maybe it is just a phase. but at the moment, all i can think about is the fact that jane has no idea. she thinks i am straight and she would never make a move on me. But i so badly want her to..
and not likea move seuxally, but her just to tell me she has feelings for me.
because i sure as hell am to chicken to say anything since she thinks im straight. Is there a way to hint to her I like her..?
Also, Ik you said not to tell her before we meet inperson. But idk. Its all i think about .. just imagining me telling her i like her. its os on my mind somethimes i feel like the only way to get it out of my head is to get clousre on everything , and just tell her already! what our your thoughts on that? Also, i doubt we will be meeting anytime soon. She lives in DC and i live in Chicago.. and what would i tell my parents ? I badiaclly dont have any way of getting to her...and her of me. but i feel like if we were something..things would just be easier. But still..
would like to no your thoughts. again:)
thanks so much btw.
p.s: if you think i should tell her...please give me advice on how to do it! because immma chickennn!:))
Thanks
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Ok so as long as you're ok with her not reciprocating the feelings, then you should tell her. Remember though, the friendship you have with her might change for the better or for the worse.
I've also seen friends that were very into their friend but not in that way. They didn't want them to be with anyone else because they loved their friendship. Maybe that's how you feel? To find someone who you can easily relate to and talk to?
But if you actually can see yourself having a relationship with her and doing things with her, then maybe you're bi curious.
I can't really think of ways to hint that you like her because it's easiest in person because you can be subtle. Maybe try flirting a little.
My advice would to just be straight up with her though. Tell her what you told me. Like you're starting to think of her as more than a friend but you thought you were straight and you still look at guys though. See what she says and go from there.
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