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Im young, so I haven't experienced everything yet, but I'll try to help.
I am 18 years old, studying A levels in sixth form. I've watched all the dramas of school and family life happen around me though.

People say I think sideways... so if you don't mind that ask away.

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How can you tell if your near your period date ? Any pain symptoms?

Pain- if you feel slightly ill, just not 100% that's a sign its near.

You can get a cramp feeling in your stomach or sometimes your legs.

Another sign is being really clumsy and moody or getting your words mixed up more easily- these are subtle but you can notice them. Its your hormones acting on your brain.

If not count 28 days from roughly the day you started your last period. It should start again 28-35 days later.

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I hear a song and I don't feel anything. Music is what makes me tic. Now I feel nothing. The only time I feel something is once I turn off the television and know that my reality is about to slam me in the face. My stomach drops. In television they have all these teenagers but never show them worrying about school. It is all about the drama. Reality checks in and I`m petrified. I realized that I might not like what I think I like. Maybe I'm just following others. What I see on television or through others. I just need to know that others feel this way too. Or maybe I need to know that I need help. I can`t think for myself.

Alright so what is your "reality" that is worrying you?

All kids worry about school- be it exams, or the people there, getting into trouble etc.

For me and my friends over here in England, it is exam season! EVERYONE is worried. They say they're not and they say don't care but you can tell everyone is panicking. It is normal to worry about school and relationships and trying to follow the crowd.

My advice is try not to worry. its difficult but just relax. Don't follow everyone else- YOU start the trend.
Relax about exams, its only a short time in your life and you can retake them.
Relax about relationships- if people don't like you, they just don't. Let the chips fall where they may ~ go with the flow.
Turn on that music again and dance like there isn't anyone watching and go have fun for awhile. You'll feel better if you stop thinking and go do something.

If it gets too much to handle, talk to someone- a friend, a therapist, a family member.

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My boyfriend told me he was 13, when infact he's 12. I know 13's a little young to date, but I'm quite mature...I'm just wondering if he is..He lied to me about his age. Also all my friends say it's embarrassing to date a younger boy..What's you're opinion? Thanks

Nah, its not that embarrassing! I've known loads of people who've dated someone a year or so younger than them.

Its embarrassing if you were 18 and he was 12. In fact if that was the case, it'd be a serious problem.

If youre 13 and hes 12... well... tell your friends to get over it, if you think he's worth it. Besides, you might catch one of them dating a younger guy in the future.

Once youre a mature adult, you dont really notice age differences.
(Unless of course, a 22 year old dates a 93 year old. Someones going to notice that.)

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So there's a guy I met a few moths ago and he saw me and I "caught his eye" (btw so sweet :) ) and we started talking and he fell for me, and I fell for him a Little bit. So we became super close friends (we are both 14) and he helped me through a break up with my obsessive boyfriend and it just felt like he was always there for me. And he's absolutely SUPER CUTE AND SWEET. So we were talking about hanging out and dancing and we did both, but while we were dancing, our eyes met and we kissed (under the moon and it was so romantic)
And we lied down and I fell asleep in his arms and he just sat there brushing my hair an trolling me i was beautiful. But, he's going to a different high school then I am. We really want to date, but we won't see each other very much. I really want to date him and he wants to date me. But we have a distance issue. Please help me! Thank ya! :)

Oh no! Your predicament sounds like problem in a romance film!

Theres only 2 options here:
1) Try and make it work somehow. Be faithful, and attempt a long distance relationship, despite knowing it could go horribly wrong...

2) Break up- it was a one time thing. Youre only 14, and you'll always remember your super romantic moments together as part of your teen years. Saying goodbye is one of those bittersweet moments in life, unfortunatley.

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Hi, what does this mean when a boyfriend of 2 and a half years says,''i do love you and want to spend my life with you,''? Thanks guys!

...Dont take my word for it but it sounds like a marriage proposal.

I mean, wanting to spend your life with someone because you love them is suppossed to be the reason for marriage, right?

So yeah, stuff gettin serious for you honey!

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Well we are not aloud to speak to each other and if I ignore him he will just do it again! My mum and knows that we fight (it's hard to ignore us) and their sick of it and me to. I do what I can to stop it but it dose not work :( the fight is insults-kicking and more! I'm sending you this message from school so I be back (sorry).

Aah I see the difficulty there.
Sometimes its just hard to get along with some people.

Keep trying your best to stay calm- like I said, if youre calm and not fighting back, your brother will find it hard to fight you.

If that doesnt work- if he's fighting you even when youre doing nothing wrong then there is a problem. Just try your best to ignore the poor guy.

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I'm a 13 year old girl. I do drama at му school and there's a school play and I auditioned but I'm just a robber and I don't think I even talk and if I do I get like 1 line. How can I become better so that maybe the 'director' puts ме in a better part?

What dragonflymagic said was right, so listen to them!

But also, remember that you've got to start somewhere! If you master your robber character, theyll give you a bigger part next time so keep at it. And even after you've had a big role with loads of lines, they may put you in a smaller part later, even if youre the greatest actress ever, the director will sometimes think you are not as well suited to a part as another person is.
Its not always necersarilly about skill, but how the part looks and who can bring what to a character.

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I'm 13 years old girl and I live in port elizabeth south africa I really want to audition for a movie. Is there any movies/series in pe to audition for in pe? If чou do please let ме know. Do чou have to pay when чou audition for a movie/series? I really want to be in a movie and become famous but I can't in over seas obviously.

Thanks in advanced x

If you search on the internet for auditions you should come up with a few websites that you can sign in for and they will tell you about the latest auditions in your country.

Be careful though- some of them cant be trusted as real auditions, so check the ads for spelling mistakes, valid times and places etc and make sure you bring a parent with you. Anyone that makes you pay to audition is a scam! You shouldnt be paying for the oppertunity.

If you want to be an actress, you;ll need exprience first- so start small by auditioning for ameuteur plays, commercials and indie movies. Sign up for an agency who will find you more auditions. Remember that the acting world is really competative so you'll have to be thick skinned and take a lot of rejection at first. But keep auditioning!

For big movies, get small parts first and build up until you have enough experience for the lead role in hollywood!

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I am 11 years and my brother wich is 10 years keep on fighting we've been fighting for 8 years please help me!

How bad is your fighting?
If its just the usual sibling rivalry stuff, just arguments then dont worry. Its natural for you to fight. You love your brother right? You came to look for help - a sign that you dont really like fighting with him!

At the end of an argument just say youre sorry for getting angry.(even if you know in your heart youre the one who is right)
Play together. Laugh about something, and try be calm next time he wants to fight you.

In fact, keeping calm and happy will make it impossible for him to argue with you at all- and he wont be able to hit you again if you dont respond. (Sounds wimpy- but it makes him look like the bad guy and he'll be unsure what to do next if you dont respond!!)

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Ugh! I-I I think I love him. He asked out my best friend a few days ago and they don't even act serious. They run around chasing eachother like little kids. I told him what I felt about him and he gave me a weird look. I am now embarrased and heartbroken. What should I do?

I'm sorry, but I think you will have to move on.
Trying to win his affection will only hurt your friend, and you dont want to lose a friend over a guy!
That weird look may have been a rejection. Just, try as best you can to move on because its not worth all the drama.

The only way it could ever work out fine is if he returns the feeling and your friend gives their blessing.

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My parents think i am not worthy of doing anything good.. I am an international law and diplomacy student, when i got into the university i had some boyfriend issues which ruined my first year my grades were really low and my parents complained bitterly, but when i got to the 2nd semester of my 2nd year i did better, my 3rd year came and i did better than ever i had a 4.25gpa my parentd were happy but ddnt get me anything 4 it... I just finished my 2nd semester of my 3rd year and i also did well, but even with all dis results my parents are always shouting dat i dont read that i am always looking at fashion mags and all yes i love fashion and the annoying thing is that they say this things infront of my junior sis and brother... My dad always compares me to her, when io was in high school, they university i wanted to go to they didnt allow me, my dad ,made sure i went to the university of his choice, but now my junior sister wants to read medicine she said she wants to school in america and they are striving hard to send her there, when a result of hers came out yeterday no one scolded her my mum even said its probably that her result was sold i know if i were d one they wud scold me, somedays ago i told my mum that i would like to do a masters in arbitration in america she discouraged me she said if i get a good job here in africa what will i be doing with the masters.... They always complaun that i dont read and it makes my self esteem depreciate especially when they keep praising my younger sister, sometimes i even get jealous my dad shouts at me all the time about not reading and i know i read so hard thats why oi make good grades now but bcos they dont see me reading a newspaper or a novel the presume i dont read, whenever my hunior sister wants to read she takes her books infront of my parents so hat they would see her reading but i dont do that i read when i want to not when they want me to read... My junior sister wants to go 2 america not necessarily bcos she wants to read medicine but bcos she has never been there before and also bcos she says all her friends are going there to study, back then when i brought up the idea of going to another school of my choice just within where i stay they refused... I have never had the chance to do what ever i want to do with my life i feel so sad i feel like they dont think i can become someone better in life when i tell them dat i read they say its a lie i dont know what to do pls i really need an advice

... so in summary your parents doubt you?
This is simple.
Do exactly what you want to do. Whatever you think will make you successful and happy in life, go do it.
Break down your goal into achievable steps and do each one. If you fail, dont give up, or try something else.

Ignore their doubts about you-- prove them wrong! PROVE to them that you are the one who can do all the studying and reading. If they dont help you, then stand on your own. You sound like an ambitious person, Im sure you can do it, even if it might be difficult.

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I have no idea what I'm good at doing. My own mind is poisoned by self doubt; others tell me what they think I want to hear. I havn't me t a councillor I can trust to really look at that simple question and work towards discovering the answer.

Self confidence is a difficult thing. Have too much and you look arrogant and cocky, but too little and you wont achieve much.

Just look around when youre doing something- sports, art, whatever it may be and be REALLY honest in your head. Is that persons artwork really better than yours? Or would you say they need to touch up that little section? If you feel that your project, or whatever it is, might acctually be slightly better than theirs, >say nothing to them< look around again at someone elses. Admit to yourself who isnt doing it right, and who is. Be honest- There will always be someone better than you, but then, you will always be better than them at something else.

And finally.... believe in yourself! You know you can do it! I know that sounds cliche but if you dont believe you can do it, then how do you expect to do it at all?

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I have this friend, I've liked him on and off for a while and he doesn't really show his feelings very well. A while back he told one of my close friends that he liked me a lot but she didn't tell me until it was too late. We don't talk much anymore and should I tell him I know about it so he knows that I still have feelings for him??

You say he's your friend?

Well, if he is your friend, go right ahead and tell him- he wont mind, esspecially if its in the past for him now. But be prepared for an awkward conversation if you say this too soon, so maybe start with small talk and then maybe jokingly mention how he used to like you... and how you may have given him a chance... "but its too late now right?" at this point, you give a flirtatious wink or something- If you do it cheesy enough he may just smile and agree with you, and then you have closure. The only way to get over him is have it confirmed nothing will ever happen.

However, you never know, he might acctually turn around and suggest you two give it a go! The conversation may turn serious then- ideal for you.

So in summary >soz for the long answer< :
Bring it up if you feel confident enough, but be prepared, cus things like this easily get uncomfortable- but if they work out, its worth it.

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Does doing house work count as exercise?

I'm struggling to find things to do that I enjoy doing that also require a fair amount of effort to do. I figure that I should be doing house work anyway. Maybe I can just do more house work and that will count as exercise? two birds with the one stone sort of thing.

House work is considered a form of excersise- esspecially if youre hoovering, bending down, stretching up to dust corners etc. If you do a full job and dont leave it half way, I can say from exeperience you WILL feel tired. Of course, if youre doing housework all the time, you might acctually run out of housework! ...if only...
So if that happens, go for a jog. Go before breakfast every other day and go a little further each day. If you dont enjoy it, take an ipod with you- music will take your mind off it.

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17/f
I used to really take it to heart when people said something bad about me, but all of a sudden now I don't anymore.
If people physically are immature-like locking me in a room for a few minutes (me the other day) from somewhere now I just shout at them.
Also, in class if someone's nasty I'll respond back-just like say 'well that's not true'.

You see before I'd ignore comments but be angry when I got home that I did not stand up for myself but now I am doing I feel its to much.

So my question is how to be assertive but not look like an idiot eg.shouting my head off.

My dad always used the phrase "Raise your arguement not your voice."

It basically means you dont need to shout to put someone down- what you need is some quick, witty comebacks, and you'll have no need to shout, and you wont look like an idiot.

Just search the internet some for inspiration. If you want to come off real classy and smart (which annoys people a lot) try not to use shouting or swear words.
There are some comebacks that generally work for everything. And no, dont lower yourself to the usual "your mom".
(Unless theyre a moron who really isnt worth your time. Only then you can say "So what? Your moms a... >insert insult here

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WARNING: you might get confused, and this is quite long:

PART 1:

So i like this girl(lets call her susan.)And my friends all know. We started off flirting and being friends, sometimes it would seem as she liked me other times it seemed as she really didn't like me. She admits we are friends which means she likes me as a person but not "like-like". Today susan and one of her friends came up to me and this is the conversation:
*Susan- hey,
*Friend- susan needs to ask you something.
*Me- ok?
*Susan- ummm... this is sooo akward!!! Shes going to tell you.
*Friend- Its just that susan likes you.
(susan smiles and laughs)
*Susan- its not true!(while smiling)
(i looked at her is a weird way and my heart beat fast.)
*Susan- its because she getting revenge on me!
then i just leave not looking behind, and susan tells her friend,"we're just friends.

PART 2:
the same day i avoided her, i didn't look at her and i didn't talk to her. Then one of my friends said that another of susan friends said that she doesn't like me as a person.


What is happening? what should i do? if i need to explain something better just tell me.

Okay, I might be TOTALLY WRONG, but I think this COULD be very exaggerated game of playing hard to get.

If there are hints that she likes you, she probably does. The bits where she is ignoring you and saying she doesnt like you is, for the sole purpose of confusing you. I think it works because if you came here for advice, it means youre thinking about it right? She's keeping you intrested or curious, right?
Perhaps she knows you like her and she's messing with you.
... The werid part is, she didnt really deny she doesnt like you, but she DID make the revenge exucese. Its all so confusing, because some people will openly admit it when they like others, and some people wil deny it. Try and figure out which one she is...

Basically what you should do, is; If decide you definetly like her back, play along and continue flirting ect, and she might one day turn around and admit she likes you.
If you decide you acctually dont want anything but to be friends, forget everything you wrote and what I wrote, and ignore it all. Just be her friend.

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If I was a hermit living on some isolated island somewhere and I didn't have any tools at all; how would I remove my facial hair? Is it possible to fashion tools from rocks? Would they be clean enough? Is there another way to remove unwanted hair?

What an intresting question! No cost at all?

Okay, I guess you could fashion tools from rocks and perhaps if you boil them that will disinfect them by killing bacteria. But I dont know how you'd go about shaping them. Maybe choose a softer natural material like wood or bones. Be careful though! You'd be doing a cut throat shave... :/

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This year I met this guy,(we'll call him Alex) who's in my group. He told me he ended his relationship of a year after finding out she had cheated on him for the second time(he forgave her the first). He went to a party last night with me. Everyone thought we're together and they kept asking but we both avoided answering. He spends his mornings with me at school, just us two and I think he might like me. But last night he said, "This chick is always texting me. I'm just not ready for a relationship just yet, and she doesn't get that." So did he say that so I would get the drift? Or was he just saying he doesn't want anything with her?

I'm not sure from what you described;
The good signs :
he didnt say he WASNT with you at that party ~hence avoiding answering
He likes spending time with you
He mentioned he's not into this other girl at all.

The bad sign :
He blantently said he's not ready for a relationship. He has just been hurt after all!
>but that might just be her, not you< ;)

I think you shouldnt overthink it and just enjoy spending time with him, and who knows where things might go...
But watch out for a few more signs; does he flirt with you? Does he compliment you? Do you catch him looking your way often?

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Please don't give me mainstream pop songs, I don't really like them.
I listen to things like Mayday Parade, Pierce the Veil, etc...
If you could list a few that'd be great :3
Basically, it should be about pretending to love someone, or someone loving you and you not loving them back.
Or something along those lines anyway.. c:

"I dont love you" by my chemical romance
"Since you been gone" orginally by Kelly Clarkson, but look for the version by A Day to Remember if you want punk style.
"If you cant hang" By Sleeping with Sirens
"Champagne for my real friends, Real pain for my sham friends" -- Fall Out Boy
"HeartBreaker" ---Led Zeplin
"Pushing Me away" By Linkin Park
"Bite my tounge" - YouMeatSix and Oli Sykes
"Everything Back but you" - Avril Lavinge

... I know plenty more... :)

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I have never been able to pick up times tables. They vex me to this day. I am left in wonder when ever I encounter someone that can do them forwards and backwards. Starting at any point from 7 x 6 to 9 x 9 without even batting an eyelid.

Having the ability to completly understand and know my times tables would be an enormous milestone in my life.

Thank you for taking the time to read my quiery.

Practice Practice Practice!
Use a number square and chant them out- the old fashioned way is always the best.
As for the nine times table- look at the columns of numbers when I write a list of the multiples; they go 0123456789 - up on one side and down on the other- see?

09
18
27
36
45
54
63
72
81
90

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