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I'm 16/f. Do you think this guy could want something with me?
This year I met this guy,(we'll call him Alex) who's in my group. He told me he ended his relationship of a year after finding out she had cheated on him for the second time(he forgave her the first). He went to a party last night with me. Everyone thought we're together and they kept asking but we both avoided answering. He spends his mornings with me at school, just us two and I think he might like me. But last night he said, "This chick is always texting me. I'm just not ready for a relationship just yet, and she doesn't get that." So did he say that so I would get the drift? Or was he just saying he doesn't want anything with her?
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There is a possibility that the girl texting Alex all the time is coming across as needy or desperate which is easily a big turn off for guys. If this was the first time he was in a committed relationship with a girl, it is understandable that he discovered from his experience that he is not ready or willing to deal with the issues that can arise in a relationship. While still in school it is best to keep relationships with the opposite sex in the friendship department as long as possible.
From what you say, he has some good things going for him, he is forgiving, and being in a relationship for a year shows he is not a player who is bouncing from one girl to the next faster than one changes socks. He likes to socialize (the party attended) and he does not respond to peer pressure(the constant asking if you were a couple) If he is choosing to spend time with you, you can bet he is interested in you and for now wants just a friendship with no pressure from you for more. He will let you know when he is ready to take your friendship to the romance department.
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I think he was just saying he didn't want anything with her. He's not ready for a relationship and that's understandable but that's not forever so it does seem like he's into you so just enjoy the time you're spending with him. When he is ready, it could possibly be you.
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I'm not sure from what you described;
The good signs :
he didnt say he WASNT with you at that party ~hence avoiding answering
He likes spending time with you
He mentioned he's not into this other girl at all.
The bad sign :
He blantently said he's not ready for a relationship. He has just been hurt after all!
>but that might just be her, not you< ;)
I think you shouldnt overthink it and just enjoy spending time with him, and who knows where things might go...
But watch out for a few more signs; does he flirt with you? Does he compliment you? Do you catch him looking your way often?
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