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I'm sad can you help me ?
I am 11 years and my brother wich is 10 years keep on fighting we've been fighting for 8 years please help me!
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You started fighting approximately at ages 2 and 3?
Could be sibling rivalry. What is your home like? Is it a peaceful place, relaxing, parents easy going and laidback and encouraging? Or is it the opposite?
Let the parents know that you want to work on not fighting so much with your brother and ask for their suggestions. It is hard for there to be a fight if one of the people chooses to not yell or react to what the other is doing. This is a good thing to learn because you will find even adults do this. I know from someone i interacted with who had mental illness and tried to pick on me and make me angry. I would walk away and not say a word. However if you are chased from room to room by brother trying to still get you to react, its time to call in mom and dad and calmly tell them what is going on. This is a part of what growing up and maturing is all about. Best to try and learn it now, hard as it might be. Some people are adults and they still have not learned.
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How bad is your fighting?
If its just the usual sibling rivalry stuff, just arguments then dont worry. Its natural for you to fight. You love your brother right? You came to look for help - a sign that you dont really like fighting with him!
At the end of an argument just say youre sorry for getting angry.(even if you know in your heart youre the one who is right)
Play together. Laugh about something, and try be calm next time he wants to fight you.
In fact, keeping calm and happy will make it impossible for him to argue with you at all- and he wont be able to hit you again if you dont respond. (Sounds wimpy- but it makes him look like the bad guy and he'll be unsure what to do next if you dont respond!!)
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