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Ok I started this advice site to help out others. My friends say I give good advice but they could just be saying that to be nice lol. Tell me what you think by rating me (1-5, 1 l worst, 5 best). Good or bad, your rate will be appreciated!! Thank you!!
About Me
Basically I'm 13 and i love to draw, swim, play volleyball and soccer, dance, sing, and hang out with friends. i love collecting purses haha, i have this huge purse collection in the back of my closet, most of them i never even use lol. i also like the shop and travel. i make madprofiles and i LOVE movies haha. i pretty much like anything non-academic related lol..god i'm so glad summer's started. anyways that's pretty much all about me!!
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ok heres what i need help on.. theres this boy in school and we started talking when i got switched into his class for 5th hour. he had a g/f at the time. so we started getting to be real good friends nd he ended up dumping her. then we got closer i would go over and chill and we started hooking up. then we started hanging out almost every weekend. and i fell in love with this guy. then one day he goes im going out with somone else after we were talking about going out. so i was crushed and he still was seeing me while dating her so basically he was cheating on her with me. then they broke up when she found out and we started haning out more. then he tells me theyre going back out... i was heart broken because i was gonna tell him i loved him the day he told me he was going back out with her... its been 3 months now that they`ve been going out and me nd him arent even talking (she made him stop talking to me.. and we were best friends cuz i`ve known his family my entire life, no joke but i just met him this year.. long story lol) and i cant get over him no matter how hard i try. hes starting to talk to me a little but not as much as i`d like.. what do i do? do you think hes coming back?? i dont want to wait forever even though i would. (link)
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first of all, i'd like to say that was an extremely bitchy thing for that other girl to do. i can sort of understand why she did that, since he did cheat on her with you after all, but still that's overeacting. i'd also like to point out that he just suddenly didn't talk to you because his girlfriend forced him not to. if he truly cared about you (not like love, but even as a friend) he would have still talked to you! he's being a huge jerk to you for doing that, and even if he's starting to talk to you a bit, that was really mean of him. it's hard to forgive someone who does that. except in your case it's different because you ADORE him.
you could try talking to him a bit more, but not around his bitchy girlfriend. that may lead to something even worse. don't make him feel like you're forcing him to talk to you. make it casual, blah blah. and keep on waiting, that's all you can do. don't plot some evil plan on how to make the two of them break up, that'll just prove you're as big as a loser as his girlfriend.
i don't know if he's coming back or not. the reasons why he might come back is because he has started to talk to you a little bit. the reasons he might not is because he obviously follows his girlfriend's commands so if she orders him around all the time, he's pretty much her slave and obsessed with her (which is why he listens to her). that's probably a wrong prediction though.
don't wait forever. the more you wait, the more likely you're going to get more miserable. yeah you might get more hopeful if things start looking better but still. no guy is worth waiting forever for. if you wait too much, start looking for other guys. especially a guy who's being a jerk to you, he doesn't even deserve to be waited for. i hope i helped...good luck! :)
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Okay here's what happend. . . well my ex boyfriend dumped me.. well his friends "dumped me" and he was like riley (the kid i like) and me (nicole) should break up and then he said riley said it was over when riley wasnt even in the room but then like 3 days later he said he liked me and always saids i love you and stuff but he saids he doesnt want people to know that he likes me..?? and i dont get it and he said he was gonna ask me out soon but he never did.. im so confused but today he said he loved me i juss wish he would ask me out! please please give me advice!!!!
signed ,
confused.. but love him =0\ (link)
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sorry i'm a little bit confused myself with your question. you said that the friends said you and riely should break up, when you aren't even going out in the first place? sorry i don't really get that lol. well that is really weird, he says he likes you but doesn't want other people to know? and he won't ask you out?
why doesn't he want others to know he likes you? is he EMBARRASEd by you or something? have you ever done anything around him that totally made his face turn bright red?? that could be a reason. another reason is because that he wants to keep his love life private. he doesn't want his friends knowing and asking about it all the time. and he might be afraid of asking you out because you might spill that you two are going out. the last reason i can think of is that he's using you. does he make out with you or anything? if he does, he's probably using you only to make out with. he doesn't really love you, which explains why he won't ask you out. and also why he doesn't want others to know he likes you, because he doesn't, he only thinks you're "hot" enough to make out with.
the only way to relaly find out is to go up to him and ask him to choose one of those reasons. if he doesn't choose one and is like "look i just DON'T want to tell people okay!!! and i just DON'T want to go out with you! god it's not a big deal!" then something's up. it may not be bad, but there is a chance. if he does that, it's up to you to keep on continuing you "semi-relationship" with him. it's not going to be a very good one though, i can almost guarantee that. i hope i helped...good luckk!! :)
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i rly want a b/f and there r acouple ov guys i like but they dnt rly no who i am and i dnt no how 2 get there attention... wat sould i do???
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first try to become friends with them. are you friends with someone who's friends with them? well tell them to introduce you to the guys. if you don't, just try to make friends with your crushes. or flirt. don't flirt too much, that could give them the wrong signals and you don't want that. it can be hard to make new friends sometimes, especially since the school year is ending and that they hardly even know you. that's the only advice i can really give, start a casual conversation, purposely bump into him (but pretend it was an accident) and maybe you could start a conversation? sorry that's like the lamest line from the book haha but try the best "non-obvious that you like them" ways to get their attention and possibly become friends. once you become their friends, you'll see where this all leads to!! good luck :)!!!
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Okay, im so confused and I have to make a real long story short. I dumped this guy Joe before I went on vacation. He really likes me but I dont like him. On vacation i thought i was gonna see this guy I went out with last year on vacation (i'll just call him nl), but he didnt go. So i met this other guy who happens to be his best friend (ill call him ak). Me and ak ended up going out, and someone how i go nl's sn and me and him started catching up on how we had gone out a year ago and how much we had liked each other and all that. I found out he still liked me after a whole year and I was still in love with him. So i dumped ak, and i know it was so slutty, but I just had to. NL dumped his gf for me and we went out for about 4 days, untill he dumped me! He lives about 45 minutes from me so I never really got to see him so thats why.. but i was so upset. We still like each other though but its hard. Now Joe like wants me back and he always tells me how much hes in love with me but I just dont feel for him anymore. And now, this boy I used to like Alex, dumped his gf cause he liked me and now he wants to go out! And I like him too, but i still like nl, and i always will. And just recently my best friends bf dumped her beacuse he liked me too! And ugh i feel so horrible.. I really wish none of these guys liked me beacuse now im so confused and i really dont know what to do. And also ak HATES me for dumping him.. ugh.. please help ! Cause now no matter what I do someones gonna get hurt and people are gonna hate me.. =( (link)
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wow you're like a boy magnet!! 5 guys like you at the same time! you have no idea how many girls wish that would happen to them, the guys like them SO much they dump their girlfriends for you!! okay anyways...
you have to drop joe. he still likes you but you don't like him back. and it never works out if you go out with someone just because of pity, not because of *love*. it won't work and try not to be too hard on the guy, it's hard enough on him already. be friends with him but that's as far as you should go with him for now.
don't go out with nl again. does he go to your school? if he does, then you see him everyday at school so it isn't truly a problem. if he doesn't, that is really tough to go out and i guess breaking up wasn't a bad decision. it's sort of too late to go back together with him, but also it's not exactly going to give you the best reputation (and character) anyway-be known as the girl who dates and dumps the same guys constantly.
do you like ak? if you don't, don't date him. if you do, then you could, but you could make nl mad and plus ak HATES you. that pretty much means he still likes you, or you just totally embarassed him. either way, it's not exactly the best decision to make. whatever it's YOUR choice.
as for the other guys-Alex and your best friend's bf. do you even like them? you could go out with alex if you like him but going out with your best friend's ex is going to be hard on your best friend, especially since he dumped her for you. alex is probably a better choice if you like both guys the exact same.
maybe you shouldn't go out with other guys and take a break since you're obviously stressing out with all this. say it in a nice way to all the guys "i need a break from all of this, it's all too hectic. you guys are all real sweet and all but i seriously need to rest. i'm on a "no dating" period at the moment." and if your best friend totally hates you for her ex dumping her, say that you'll really sorry about it but you never made moves on him at all and that you aren't even going out with him. i hope i helped...sorry this is so long lol! good luck!! :)
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im goin out with this guy and all we do is hold hands and taslk i hooked up with him be4 but i wanna do more like iwant him to put his arm around me and hug me and kiss me and stuff and wen i ask him if he wants to he says yes but we never end up doing itt ahh help ????
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from what you said, he seems a bit shy. next time you two hang out, who says you can't put your arm around him? lean towards him a little bit and wrap your hand around his waist. most guys would usually respond by putting his hand around you. if he doesn't, you're probably moving a little too fast. if he moves away from you, say "you told me you wanted to do this kind of stuff with me but now you're like rejecting me. why are you doing this to me?".
if you're too shy yourself to make the first move, think of how he's feeling. yeah it's usually the guy who makes the first move but if neither one of you make one, then what is going to become of your relationship?? somebody needs to make a move, and that move may lead to a breakup or a better relationship, who knows. it does risk some but it's worth a chance. why should you go out with a guy who doesn't even do anything "couple-ish" with you?? after you make the move, you may end up hugging and kissing and maybe more with him. i hope it works out for you!! good luck!! :)
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i have a boyfriend, but i also like another guy, what do i do? (link)
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which guy do you like more-your boyfriend or the other guy? if you like your boyfriend, then just stick with him and you could flirt with the other guy, just try to not let your boyfriend find out lol! and don't flirt too much, people might talk and it may lead to a breakup between you and your bf!
if you like the other guy more, you shouldn't necessarily just dump your boyfriend! stay with your boyfriend for a while longer and think to yourself "which guy would make a better boyfriend?" yeah you haven't gone out with that other guy but you can just sort of "guess". if things don't work out between you and your bf then you could go out with the other guy afterwards.
just NEVER cheat...it could lead to both guys hating you. yeah you could hook up with both of them without either one knowing but that's not cool. don't do that, the consequences are awful. i hope everything works out for you!! good luck!! :)
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I am like in love with my best friend, we went out about a month ago but we broke up. One day he went on my screen name and took one of my really good friends screen name. Now he likes her. But i am in love with him. He told me he only thinks of me as a sister... How could i get him to like me again ?I am 13 and a girl. (link)
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that was pretty mean of him to go on your screen name and take your friend's screen name...like unless he was allowed to do that. i realize that it's hard to have the guy you like and your friend to go out but you can't necessarily force him to like you again. no matter how much you flirt or follow him, it won't get him to like you back, unless he already does. keep on acting like his "sister" and he may start to fall for you again. who knows, when he breaks up with your friend, he might go out with you again. or you might find someone else, someone you like a lot more. whatever you do, don't try to purposely ruin his relationship with your friend. that's a totally bitchy thing to do and when he finds out, he will most definitely not like you. just a little warning! good luck!! :)
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ok i cant get along with my parents they think i am a really bad girl omg wtf so what should i do (link)
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make a list of reasons why your parents think you're a bad girl. one by one try your best to fix the problem *or compromise*. if one of the reasons is that you're messy, clean up your room and try to become more organized. make a deal with them that if you clean more, they'll stop bugging you about it. keep on trying to fix it as well as you can and life will be so much easier for you. if it's something really hard to do, like talking to much on the phone (it's just something you HAVE to do!!) then compromise that if you talk less on the phone, you get a "reward". it doesn't matter what the reward is, as long as you like it.
try your best not to get too worked up and not fight as much. fighting usually makes things worse and will end up making you feel even more horrible than before.
i hope your parents will agree to this, and if they continue doing this to you, then you need to have a serious talk with them about how they're treating you. if they're treating you unfairly, you have to let them know. if they hit you or abuse you in any way, that's child abuse and if it gets too intense, you have to tell someone about it. i hope what they do isn't TOO bad...i hope i helped!! good luck!!
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i think my mom is hiding something from me n my sister. i think she smokes but doesnt tell us.she tells us never to smoke but thats it.when i get in her car it smells like smoke. and she tries to take cigarettes from my dad w/o him knowing n he never notices one of his cigarettes is gone. once i saw her sitting outside( @ nite time)w/ 1 in her hand. but im afraid to tell sum-1 or mention it....so what should i do? tell my sister(shes almost 20) or jus bring it up to her somehow?
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your mom is doing some good for you and your sister by hiding the fact she smokes so you two won't come up with her bad habit either. your dad smokes so your mom probably picked it up from him. of course your parents know smoking is bad for your lungs and all but smoking is extremely addicting and it gets so hard to stop once you started. you should tell your sister, she's 20 and at that age, she does have some power. i know it's hard but she's your sister, and it's about your family, she needs to know about these things too. when your mother finally confesses, think of ways to stop them from smoking. first limit them to only a certain number of cigarettes a day. over time, have less and less. the problem is that it's so addicting, they could just go out and buy some more without letting you know. but it's worth a try. if they continue this habit, at least tell them to smoke outside so you and your sister won't get second hand smoke. good luckk!! :)
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hey well im 16..and my boyfriend and i just found out that were having a kid..and his mom is making him go to florida intil after the baby is born should i tell him he should stay or should i just let him go? (link)
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i think that's alright, at least he isn't actually leaving you behind to take care of the baby yourself. but babies are rarely born on their scheduled date. they are either born earlier or later. i definitely think that your boyfriend should be by your side when you have the baby, it's a really big deal. if i were you, i'd want for him to come back a bit earlier, just in case. congratulations on your baby :)
i know this is off topic but are you seriously planning on taking care of the baby yourself (along with your boyfriend and possibly from your mom)? do you have a housekeeper? it's a lot harder to take care of a baby than you think. when i was a baby, my mom had to hire 3 live-in babysitters for me lol (i was THAT bad!!!). make sure you know what you're doing okay? you don't want to ruin your life and start failing school because of a baby. maybe set it up for adoption and adopt it when you're old enough? well...good luckk!! :)
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i really like this guy but he has a girlfriend but in one class we flirt all the time and one of my friends thinks he likes me too and whenever he says his girl friends name he really means me but im not sure if he actually likes me or if hes just flirting with me...how do i know if he likes me? and i dont wana ask him (link)
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he probably does like you from the way i see it. you could find out by having a friend ask him, so you wouldn't have to ask him yourself. or you could simply find out by the way you acts around you. you won't have a 100% sure answer but you could get one close. does he wink and smile at you a lot? does he laugh a little too much at your jokes? does he wave at you all the time? etc... but you probably shouldn't go after him since he already have a girlfriend. it isn't technically "illegal" to flirt with another girl when you're dating someone but you shouldn't make any moves on him until he's single. stealing a boy from his current girlfriend is just plain bitchy. i hope you find out the true answer!! good luck :)!!
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ok well i like this guy "xxx" and i have liked him and he knows.. and he flirts but i dont know if he likes me and well i miqht ask him out.. but hes moving this summer.. so should i ask him out?? or wait n see if he asks me out?? (tho hes super shy!) or should i let it go? (link)
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if he's moving this summer, then how will you go out with him? do you mean moving to a new school or a new hometown? if he is super shy, he might be too shy to ask you out. he flirts with you so that possibly means he likes you back. keep on flirting with him and send him some "love" signals lol, and make sure you let him know in your own little way that you want to go out with him. if he doesn't ask you out soon (because he's too shy or something), then ask him out. if he ends up rejecting you, i'm really sorry but he might just not want to go out with you at the moment *or maybe anyone*. you should take the chance to ask him out because if you never do, you never know what the answer is. you have to take chances, even if you're afraid of rejection. i hope helped-good luck!! :)
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i just have a little simple.. well.. a little question
How do you make a guy like you more than a friend??
signed
Just a Friend =\ (link)
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there are many answers to this question. if the guy is your friend, then keep on being his friend and act totally normal. friendships usually turn out to be more (especially best friend relationships). if he's not your friend, become friends with him. just act like how'd you'd normally act if you wanted to be friends with just anybody and then you could flirt with him. ask him to hang out with you, do fun stuff, and he may realize later on that he has actual feelings for you. make sure some of those places are romantic places, possibly a movie where it's dark...hehe. try not to rush him or stalk him, that's definitely going to give him the wrong idea! good luck on getting your guy! :)
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Ookay. I really like this guy.. I've liked him since 3rd grade and we've always been on and off. But suddenly this year he doesnt want to be around me! And i have no clue why. Please help (link)
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maybe he's tired of having you two being off and on again and wants a break from you? or he's trying to avoid you because you were mean to him somehow before? sorry, those seem like the best explanations i can come up with. ask him why he's totally ignoring you now and is it because of past relationships? if he refuses to talk to you, he's being a pretty big jerk and you should probably let him take his break. during that time, look for other guys to hang out with. when that guy finally cools off from whatever, then you can see what can happen. lol yeah hope i helped!! good luckk :)!
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Okay, My best friend and I have been freinds for about 5 years. She has always helped me with my boyfreind problems, and I have always helped her with hers. But this time, I'm a little scared. See, he (my boyfreind) went to school with her before he met me and before I met them both. They wern't really good freinds, but they were cool. He was always the guy that EVERY girl wanted (including her at the time.) But now I'm dating him, and they ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS talk to each other (but they claim its always about me.) See, I wouldnt mind that, but I really don't think its true. I mean, he talks to her more then he ever talks to me. I'll get online and he'll be on and not talk to me. Then I IM my friend and ask if they're talking to each other, and she tells me they are and when I ask her to send me the convo, she justs say it doesn't matter what they're saying and its nothing big. Then I'll call him or her, and they will tell me that either he or she is talking to to each other. And what really gets to me is that, my best freind has never done this before but now when me and my boyfreind fight, SHE TAKES HIS SIDE NO MATTER WHAT SHE KNOWS ABOUT THE SITITION. Well I confronted my boyfreind about this and all he said were they were really good freinds. But I don't think thats the case at all. I need your help! What should I do?
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i'm sorry to say this, but i think you and your boyfriend should break up. tell your boyfriend that if he and your friend keep on ignoring you and talking to each other, then you'll break up with him. tell him that he's treating her more like his girlfriend than you, and if he liked her better, why didn't he ask her out in the first place. and talk to your friend, tell her that you feel she is cheating on you with your boyfriend (tell that to your boyfriend too) because you have a right to think that with what's happening between them. list all of the things those two did together and tell your friend that real friends didn't do this to each other and to your boyfriend that this wasn't what a guy does to his girlfriend. if you break up with him, he might go out with your best friend. if that's what happens, i know it might hurt but it's not worth going out with a guy who likes you friend and "cheats" on you. and if they go out with no consideration for your feelings, sorry to say this but you should find a new friend who cares more about you than guys. according to what you said, it sounds like your guy and your friend sound A WHOLE LOT MORE than just good friends. i'm sorry about all of this :( i hope you work out something soon! good luckk!! :)
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hey....i need s0me advice...i hate my b0dy..im fat n i juhs hate beinq fat...please qive me sum advice 0n h0w t0o l0se sum weiqht 0r sumthinq...thanx bunchez - x0o l0ve ya o0x (link)
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eat healthy, replace junk food and candy with fruits and vegetables (i'd prefer fruits since i hate vegetables lol). slowly day after day, eat less and less, but don't go down so low that you actually end up starving yourself. just eat right. don't eat deserts until you start losing some weight. drink water instead of soft drinks, smoothies, milkshakes, or other drinks that could make you gain weight. it's not going to be easy but if you're determined, it's what you have to do.
also exercise. do 10 pushups every morning and night. do PE at school. join a team and have games (if you can...) and go to country clubs to exercise on the machines, or if you have the machines at home, do it there instead. go swimming. jog around the neighborhood when you have time. just try your best to exercise as much as you possibly can without sweating yourself out or killing yourself. good luck!! :)
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ohk well muh best friends sarah nd jessica....well they like the same guy i do nd they try to flirt with him nd all...well this all started after i told them that i liked him....i like this guy alot but he always says,"We can only be friends" well i think we are perfect for each other..we know each others phone numbers nd parents we go to the mall together i mean...wat the hell! lol well muh friends keep trying to like compete with me towards him...they like try to flirt more...it pisses me off b.c they know that i've liked him nd they know that he kinda likes me! what should i do!
signed problems wit muh friends!
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i really hate to say this, but there isn't really anything you can truly say to them without them making a point. just because you like him doesn't mean they can't like him. yeah they might have copied you but it's not a crime (it is, but you can't get "arrested" for it, if you get what i mean). and if they like him, it's normal to compete against him with you, ya'll want him. if you tell them to stop because it pisses you off and it isn't fair, they could easily say the lame line "it's a free country". you could TRY talking to them, it may not get anywhere but on the other hand, it could get somewhere. but you could probably ask your friends to stop flirting with him, and you'll stop flirting with him, and to try looking for another guy. i don't think you should ruin a friendship over a boy. if they disagree and you fight with them, it's a common "friends want your guy" fight. just keep trying to keep your guy while still being friends with sarah and jessica, no matter how much it pisses you off. as long as you still want to keep your friends, keep it that way. sorry, i hoped i helped ... good luckk :)
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lol i wrote too you about my best friend rach & how she hates me all of a sudden because my X friend hates me? But i only hate my X friend because she turned tarshy & sluty and now she has something going on with my bff thats a guy & now he is all about her and shes always all over him... and i know that he is too good for her.. Im getting readyy upset about teh whole thing... I mean and since my friend rachael hates me because that trashy girl hates me .. and i juss don't get why because i thought wer were better friens then that? (link)
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i'm sorry to say this, but i think you should probably go off to find some new friends. i mean, you could always still try hanging out with them and be friends with them again. try to put the past behind and start over again. but you can only do that if you're willing to, and even harder, get them to be willing to do the same. it's not going to be easy to do that, and plus what kind of "friend" would hate you for that reason? that's not what friends do. i think that girl needs to learn is that if she wants to keep friends in life, she needs to change the way she treats them.
if all else fails, try making new friends who wouldn't do something like that to you. try having casual conversations with them at first, hang out, and then go to the movies together and all that. good luck! :)
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hey i am 13 years old and weigh 130 pounds that is big and everything but.. more people call me fat then like any one not to be rude but there are a couple of people alot bigger then me and they dont get called fat and yes i am heavy but im a nice person and i dont think people should call me fat .. my friends eat weigh more then i do and they are so much skinner then me its not fair! when people call me fat i agree with them because i know i am well i dont know what to do to make people stop calling me fat withour embarrsing myself thanks for the help (link)
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well, i'm sorry to say but some people just stay skinnier than you even if they eat way more. it's just part of their genes or something, and life isn't fair in that way :( but those people are so mean, they shouldn't judge you by the way you look, they should judge you by your character. next time someone calls you fat, stand up for yourself and say "yeah i know i am. thanks for telling me though". i'm sure you've probably already done something like that but if you haven't, you should probably try it. if the people mock you even more for it, try to stand up for yourself. try to pretend their bullying isn't hurting you, even if it is. try to ignore them as best as you can. NEVER start crying or anything in front of them, that'll get them to tease you even more (in fact, that's what they want).
also, try losing weight too. when you get skinnier, they'll start teasing you less. exercise daily, eat right (avoid junk food and candy, instead eat fruits, vegetables, and healthy food). don't go anorexic...ugh i have no idea how many times i've said this stuff lol. well just try to not fall for their teasing and try to lose weight okay? if you need more advice, feel free to IM me!! good luck! :)
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i just wanna say thank you for your advice actually today we were on the fone and he asked me out! and i got a other question well me and one of my friends and hes also nicks friend was talking and he kept asking me how far would i go with nick and i dont know what to say like im 12 and turning 13 in june and im wayy too young but like if me and nick are like together for like almost a year maybe idk ? can you please give me advice thank you soo much
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aww i'm glad it all worked out for you!! :) for that friend, i think you should probably tell your friend to mind her own business, but that's a bit harsh. i think the farthest you should go with nick is just making out, so you could say that if you feel comfortable enough. def. don't go further, that is just WRONG for a 12 year old girl. or just simply tell you friend that you don't know, and that when the time comes you'll find out (you don't have to add in that last part, do whatever you feel like saying). i didn't really say a lot in detail but i hope that helped anyway. good luck!! :)
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