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okay so my boyfriend is a huge football fan. He told me that things were going to be difficult during football season, and I said fine, as long as we get through it. So I was fine with it, but now every weekend, if he's with his friends and I try to call him, he'll answer sometimes, then he'll just randomly stupid texting me and stuff. And if he says he'll call at a certain time, it's usually later then that by like 45 minutes to an hour. Sometimes he's fine, but then others, I'll in my room having pretty much panic attacks because of him, because something is wrong with me, I'm guessing depression (not joking) so it's hard for me to deal with stuff. But i just want to know what you think I should do. If this is confusing then ask me questions. Thanks

I think you need to calm down a bit.
He did warn you that things would be a tad different, and you said you were fine with it. So he is not going to change. I think you should except it for now and not worry, it's almost over.

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i gave my boyfriend a blow job, can i still get pregnant if i swollowed the cum or whatever it's called?

No you can not.
But if you have to ask that question, and you don't know that it is called "cum," I don't think you should be doing it.
But that is just my opinion.

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me and my boyfriend were hanging out with some othr guys at one of their houses and in this guy's bedroom was a cartoon poster of a girl with big boobs. Me and my BF and some guys were in their and my BF goes "why cant you have boobs like that?" pointing to the poster. My boobs really arent that big, and im so insecure about it. I feel like im not good enough, like he wants more than i can give. how can i like, satisfy him, you know? This is seriously making me really upset :(

A guy should never make a comment about a girls body unless it's a compliment. What your boyfriend did is just not exceptable.

You should know, that boys have fantacies having a pin-up girl. Big boobs, big butt, the whole shabang. They need to know that in reality, not all girls look like that, and the chances of them getting someone like that are slim. Boys are shallow. You need to let him know that that comment hurt your feelings and you really didn't apperitiate it. But just because he made a remark like that about your body, doesn't mean you should be insecure.

Girls never seem to be comfortable with their bodies, wheather their boobs are too big/small, they are too fat/skinny, etc. Big boobs and a big butt are what most girls strive for, because that is what they think guys want, not because they want it. You need to except what you have, and be like, "I may not look like that, but I don't need to to be pretty." You don't need to do anything to satisfy him except be yourself. Don't change anything for a boy, and if he doesn't apperitiate that, then he's not worth your time.

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Me and this girl are bset friends, i love her and she knows it, she goes out with this asshole who treats her like shit and tells me she only used him to get over her ex, she asks me what to do and i tell her that the question hurts me to much to answer, now we are not talking and i am crying constantly. She told me to wait for her to break up with her bf, i did and she rips my heart out and throws it in a blender by not telling me she didnt have feelings for me... plz help me i dont know what to do and i cant sleep....

Aim: gameshark7777

That is the worst thing a girl could do to someone.

I am sorry, I know you cannot help your feelings, but this girl is definitely not worth your time. Not only is she hurting you, but she is hurting this other guy who she is using to get over someone else. You don't want to be used either! You will never know what she actually feels if she is with you because she seems to be so fake and likes the attention.

I think you should for right now, stop contact with her. It could be the only way to actually get over her. Take her screename off your buddy list, her number out of your phone, the whole deal. I'm not saying be mean to her, you can still be nice to her. But I don't think you should consider her your "best friend" anymore. You seem like a really sweet guy for caring about her so much, but she doesn't seem worth it. You'll find someone eventually.

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why do I have to wear glasses?

So you can see better?

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my boyfriend, logan, seems to not like me as much as he did when we wernt going out. all of his friends say that to me. im really good friends with all of his best friends. and today, his friend philip, said that he didnt think he liked me that much anymore. and even clarissa said it( my bff )

i want to ask him whats up and talk to him about it, but im to afraid that he will get mad at me. cause he gets mad at me alot! please give me advice!

I think it has to do with the chase.
Some guys like the chalenge of getting a girl, they think they like the girl a lot, but once they get them it's like "Ok, now what?"

You will never know how he feels unless you talk about it with him. If he gets mad at you because you want to know his feelings, he's not worth it anyways.

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OK, Im dj-ing a dance for a charity thin. and most of the people coming are teens who are dating so i need some good slow songs for dancing. i need songs like Amazed by Lonestar and I dont wanna miss a thing by Aerosmith. thanks for any suggestions

Socco Amaretto Lime- Brand New
Any song that is by Dashboard.
Vulnerable or Last Song Ever- Secondhand Serenade.
I'll Be- Edwin McKain.

Look up acoustic songs and whatnot online, you'll be able to find a great deal of slower songs.

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Can someone please tell me what to do? I'm really crying my heart out right now because I think my best friend is mad at me, but I don't know what I did! It was maybe 2 days ago that when I'd try talking to her, or asking her why she's mad, she would just ignore me. She used to hate these 6th graders on my bus because they were annoying but now she's talking to them like she's their best friend. (We're in 7th grade) I don't know what I did! Sometimes she'd talk to mee like nothing was wrong, and then I'd try to talk to her again, she'd ignore me! Then it would happen again. I'm not sure if she's mad at me and my other 2 best friends, or just me. Sometimes she'd make gestures that told she was annoyed or something. Yesterday I asked her why she was mad, and she said she wasn't, she said it over and over again, but I know it's a lie, you can tell she's lying. Today she ignored me, and then again I tried asking her why she was mad, guess what? She STILL ignored me, and I was literally about to burst into tears but I held it in. I can barely breathe now because I'm crying so hard. We ARE really good friends, I swear we are, or maybe were, I could tell her ANYTHING, we've been BESTIES since last year. A LOT of people which most are my friends, would make fun of her all the time! And she wouldn't mind! We've been doing it since last year! I don't think she minds, but if she did, she would've been mad wayyyy earlier last year. I keep saying sorry, even if I didn't do anything, I don't know what I did. Please don't say to back off because I know! I just really want to why she's mad, and what's wrong. Please help me, tell me what to do. She's changed. She's plays this game "Maplestory" and she's obsessed with it! I'm SERIOUS. She's going to marrry some guy she met, and maple, her maple BF and friends are consuming her life, I miss my old friend. I know she pick her BF over her friends anyday. Then her Maplestory friends. I think it's really stupid that she's LOVE some guy over the internet, I just can't convince that it's wrong. I've told her plenty of times how dangerous it is, and how it's just useless, but nothing works. This isn't just with her. Last year I had the BEST OF FRIENDS. Now I barely get to see HALF of them, they moved, they don't have ANY of my classes, OR they've moved on and made new best friends. Yes. They ditched me. This one girl we were BEST BUDDIES last year. We could tell eachother ANYTHING. We hung out a lot. If she had a Myspace last year, she would be my #1 in my top friends, now I wouldn't even put her in there. I think her preppy life has changed her. Same with some of my other friends. I just miss my old friends. Where did they go? Maplestory has changed my friend. Most of everyone changed, and I feel like a piece of old trash/news to them, cause they have "better" friends to hang out with. Trust me, I DO NOT have the guts to confront them. I just can't. So please, someone help, I'm stilling crying HARD. I just miss my friends.

She's also keeping me as friend on Myspace, and I'm still number one on her top friends! I just don't understand. Why won't she tell me? I'll understand. I'll understand if she thinks I'm annoying, I know I am, if that's the case. It also seem like she would talk to everyone else, except for 3 CERTAIN people. I'm one of them, and the 2 are my other best friends. We're the top 3 who like to make fun of her. In a funny way. On Myspace, she still talks about her BFF's which she states, is us 3, but she's probably lazy to delete it. If she does decide to stop acting this way, then I won't know if she's just faking our friendship, which I know I'm not faking.

You are a true friend, I respect you greatly.
It is nothing you did, she is just being a jerk, she seems to be trying to get a reaction out of you, which seems to be working.

My advice is to don't bother anymore.
Let her talk to her cool 6th grade friends and whatnot. Take a break from her, just don't talk to her. Don't get me wrong, if she talks to you, be friendly. But it seems to be time to find some other friends. Talk to someone new. This girl seems to be playing with your mind, and you don't need that right now.

Try not to put people under the "best friends" catagory, it always seems to blow up in your face one way or another. Stick with being friendly to everyone and making friends. She might crawl back, if she does don't expect everything to be hunky dorry forever, because she might just do it again. Be friends with her, not best friends.

You are mature and very caring, possibly try making friends a little older than you, you would probably get along better with them.

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My boyfriend broke up with me for another girl and i love him so much i just want to how cal i get over him please say just dont talk to him and it might help. ='[


Time Heals All Wounds.

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why do i see people spitting on the ground randomly while walking by?

I run, and in running you mostly spit. It is out of habbit for some people, mostly athletes.

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There was a guy that went to my school that was my age and seemed to have a good, normal life... I mean, he had friends, girlfriends, good grades, played sports... and I just found out like twenty minutes ago that tonight he killed himself. I had only talked to him once ever. I just don't know how to feel right now. I don't know how to help my friends deal with this... I don't know much because there hasn't been anything on the news yet because it happened just a few hours ago. I guess I am just looking for words of advice, or experience... thank you, everybody.

I answered a question like this in the past, so I am going to just post what I said to them.

I know you have gotten many answers like this one, but I, too, went through this perdicament.

I did Cross Country for my school, and I was having a hard time with certain things. There was a guy whom was a Senior. He had a heart of gold and a smile that could cheer anyone up. He helped me through so much.


After the season ended, him and I didn't really talk anymore. Just a simple Hi in the hallway on occation. Sometimes would sit with him at lunch, mostly because my friends sat there. Couple months later, 4/20 to be exact, all of the teachers were told to read an email that they have received. My english teacher read out loud that someone had committed suicide the night before. We asked who it was and he said the guys name. It was so unreal.

So unreal.

Everyone who knew him in some sort of way went down to the library. Though I was not close to him, it still hurt that someone I knew hurt so much to kill himself. He was 17 years old, and 2 months away from graduating.

That whole day was just a blur. I was with my friends the whole time just walking around.

What made it worse what that I wasn't close to him either, but seeing his best friend's faces was heartbreaking.

My best friends were close to him, and it was the first time I have seen any of them cry.

Just knowing someone who has died is a horrible feeling, a feeling that you cannot decribe.

It makes you realize that it can happen to anyone, and to really pay attention to different feelings of people.

Cherish your friends and your family, they are there for you no matter what. Be a shoulder for them to cry on, and listen to everything they say.

Don't forget him, pray for him.

It's a hard concept, but if you keep him close to your heart, and stay close with your friends, you will be able to handle it.

Be strong, and I am sorry for your loss

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ok im 13/f.

my boyfriend and i have been going out for a few weeks now, maybe 4 or 5 somewhere in that range, and the other day, we had a fight. he got mad at me because he said that i was making fun of him, and then he started to pass notes with this other girl. and it really made me pissed off!!!!.

and i told him to not pass notes with her, and he said " why not, were friends, were both in band"

and then he got mad because i got mad for him passing notes with her. all the note said was her asking him if he was mad at me. but it still made me really mad. and then i started to think that he was cheating on me with her. and then that made him even more mad, and he dosent even want to talk to me, and he said that he might break up with me. i dont want to go to school monday, and him break up with me. what do i do?!?!?!

He was just passing notes. Since you are 13, I know that passing notes seems like a "big deal." But like he said, they are friends. You need to learn to trust him if you are going to be in a relationship with him. Note passing isn't cheating. Switch the situation around. Say you passed a note to one of your guy friends, and your boyfriend all of a sudden freaked out. How would you feel?

You just need to cool off, and realize it is no big deal. Now if you see them sneaking around or whatever, then it's a big deal.

You are 13, still in middle school. Even if he does end it, so what? You still have so much time to find a boyfriend. You will probably go through so many more by the end of your middle school years. It won't last forever.

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Okayy im 16 years old.
and havnt even had my first kiss yet!
im a girl. so u know.
but i been with a couple guys but we havnt really kissed.
but i really want to have my first kiss.
the last guy. i really loved, i wanted it to be him i had my first kiss with. but when i went to talk to him about it. he dumped me =/ so i dont know what to do. Help me please. ?

A first kiss can be two things. It can be one of the many romantic moments in your life, or an embarassing disaster. Usually, it is both. Either way, it is memorable. You shouldn't want to throw it away on someone. Don't think about it so much. When you find the right person, you will just know. Sometimes it comes out of the blue. You just need to live your life without any worries of it, and the time will come.

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My best friend, Claire, is basically the leader of the 'bad crowd' at our school. She started drinking/having sex at the age of 13, and we are now 16. We've been very best friends since age 12, but I on the otherhand follow all the rules. She got arrested for having alcohol/getting drunk on school property. She swore she wouldn't drink after a near-death drinking expeirence that hurt everyone around her when she wasn't expected to live through the night. We fought on and off about her problems, but finally she toned down the drinking and we became closer then ever. She truly is my very best friend, she's been there for me with everything.

Now, she's skipping school again, she's drinking every weekend, and having sex with random guys more then ever. I want to save her again. I can't fight against her. When I do, she pushes me away and does more and more illegal things. I don't want to lose my best friend again, it hurt too bad the first time. Please help.

Don't fight her! As you said, it only makes it worse. You'll probably get a bunch of advice like this, but you need to sit her down and talk with her. If that doesn't work, I think the best thing to do is to scare her out of it. Tell her parents if it gets way to out of hand, or if you are that worried about her, calling the cops might have to be an option. I know you love her, but if you want to help her, the best thing to do is to let her learn from her mistakes. Also, theropy might work out too. Be a friend to her, that's probably what she needs right now.

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I'm taking drivers ed & we need to complete a certain amount of hours on the road. Last time I went driving, my teacher yelled, cursed, got really mad at me for making a few mistakes, and really just scared me. I'm nervous when I drive to begin with so extra yelling isn't helping me. I came home shaking & started crying as soon as I got into the door. I think driving is full of pressure alone, so all of this extra stress isn't helping me. I don't know what to do. I still have quite a few hours to go before my test, but I doubt I'll even pass it now. What should I do?? Any advice/tips?? Thanks!

You should probably tell your parents. Try getting a different teacher, or going to a new school all together. The teacher is supposed to help you out, not make things worse.

Since you have just 6 hours to go, I bet you can tough it out, since I bet you toughed it throught a lot more than 6. Then when you do get your license, you will be free from her, and shove it in her face. Good luck though! :]

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I have a project that I'm doing for class, basically its comparing my school to those other schools around America. I was curious if you guys could send in facts about your school such as its location (just state will be fine), dress code rules (especially if you have really random, strict ones!) number of dances/events a year, if cell phones/mp3s are allowed on campus, other positives/negatives about your school!

Thank you so much, I appreciate your help!

Seymour, Connecticut.

-No tank tops. They used to be easy on that rule, but they became more strict with it.

-Shorts/skirts have to be fingertip length. Again, gotten more strict this year, even giving kids ISS for it, or sending them home.

-Cellphones are aloud on campus, but can't be used in school. Some teachers don't care though, and kids don't listen.

-Water bottles not aloud, which sucks for athletes. They think people will sneak alcohol in.

-Bathrooms are locked during passing time (stupid, I know) and during classes have a teacher sitting outside collecting your pass to the bathroom. This is because a kid last year went to the bathroom and lit a paper on fire to set off the fire alarms. Now they are taking extra precautions.

-It depends on the teacher, but MP3's aren't usually aloud.

-No jackets are to be worn during school, I don't yet know why.

-Confederate flags are not to be worn/in lockers/in site on campus. Last year they went bulistic and went through everyone's lockers and suspended anyone wearing the flag. This year they told someone they needed to take their confederate flag stickers off of their car, or to not come to school. I think it is quite ridiculous. We are a hick town, so 80% of our school wear it.

-We don't have air conditioning/heating, only in the science wing and offices, not fair.

-Everyone is aloud to homecoming. We have a homecoming dance, a game, bonfire, concert, pasta dinner/volleyball game. Juniors get ring dance where they get their class rings, and prom. Seniors get Senior Semi, picnic, and other fun days.

-We are a "sports" school. Football is a big thing, and definitely Track.

-The cheerleaders in our school are not the most popular people.

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Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now and he's very good to me. The only problem is...a little while before we met he hooked up with this girl that I really dislike. They had a friends with benefits arrangement going on for a while and worked together, but fortunately no longer speak. One of the first times I hung out with him before we started dating they were cuddling, and I think this may have impacted my impression of him. She was still calling even after we started dating. She's gone now, but I can't stop thinking about the things they did together and it disgusts me because I'm very morally opposed to that kind of thing. I really want to just put it behind me and move on but it seems I can't, any advice would be greatly appreciated.

You guys have been together for over a year, so obviously his feelings for this girl are no more. Feelings prior to your relationship could have been there, but I don't think he would be with you for this amount of time if he still had something for her. She's gone, and since she is no longer in the picture at all, it should send you a sign that says everything will be fine. He either stopped connections with her, or she realized that she's not going to get anything out of him anymore. He loves you now. Just keep reminding yourself who he picked, and why.

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So, my boyfriend Alex & I have been dating now for four months. This weekend we were supposed to spend it all together. Tonight, we were supposed to go to a haunted house, tomorrow we were supposed to hang out before we both had work, and Sunday we were supposed to hang out ALL DAY together, & just go sight seeing around Texas.

Unfortunately, on Wednesday he hurt his leg, and went to the Emergency Room, and now he's on crutches. His parents don't want him leaving the house and just want him resting, which is totally understandable because I want that as well. I haven't seen him since he's been hurt, and I'm finally going to be seeing him on Sunday, because his parents agreed me going over to their house is a good idea. Both of his parents will be home, but I wanted to do something really nice for him, since he's sick and stuck at home. Does anyone have any good ideas?

Thanks in advance! (:

Try bringing his favorite movie over, with popcorn and his favorite candy. You guys can just lay on the couch (or because his parents are there, sit) and hang out. There isn't much to do since he's hurt, but just try to cheer him up and not worry about his injury.

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its by a man and the chorus is something like:

i have a bbq stain on my white t shirt she was killing me in that mini skirt. she had a sun tan line and red lip stick i worked so hard for that first kiss and a heart dont forget...

but i dont know what its called or who its by.

G-oo-gle.

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15/f

this is gonna sound way conceited, but i promise, im not trying to be. im much prettier then my friend. i mean, shes like fat and everything, so i mean obviously, guys dont like her much. plus she acts really stupid alot. anyways, since im a freshman, ive made alot of new friends. and so when me and her will be wlaking down the hall, just about every person says hi to me, and i stop and talk and make yano small talk. and she gets mad, and walks away. anyways, whenever i talk about like guys or something, she like finds some way to insult them. and its just really annoying. what should i do?

Way to contradic yourself.
You seem like a sucky friend.
Might as well tell her what you said to us, then you won't have a problem with her anymore.

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