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boyfriend might break up with me
ok im 13/f.
my boyfriend and i have been going out for a few weeks now, maybe 4 or 5 somewhere in that range, and the other day, we had a fight. he got mad at me because he said that i was making fun of him, and then he started to pass notes with this other girl. and it really made me pissed off!!!!.
and i told him to not pass notes with her, and he said " why not, were friends, were both in band"
and then he got mad because i got mad for him passing notes with her. all the note said was her asking him if he was mad at me. but it still made me really mad. and then i started to think that he was cheating on me with her. and then that made him even more mad, and he dosent even want to talk to me, and he said that he might break up with me. i dont want to go to school monday, and him break up with me. what do i do?!?!?!
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Honestly, you completely overreacted. How would you feel if he got mad at you for talking to one of your guy friends?
He probably feels like you're controlling him by telling him what he can and can't do. Plus, if the note was her asking him if he was mad at you, wasn't it HER who passed the note, not your boyfriend?
I'm not sure there's much you can do about the situation. I'd send him a serious email/IM/contact him in some way, to tell him that you're very sorry and you know you were overreacting. Say that you trust him. If you don't trust him, there's no point in the relationship, to tell you the truth.
Good luck.
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Well, you shouldn't have gotten angry about him passing notes with her. It was immature that you jumped to conclusions and thought they were cheating together. He's going to have other friends who are girls- you need to accept that.
In school on Monday, do the right thing and say that you are sorry. Explain that you know you were wrong and that it won't happen again.
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He was just passing notes. Since you are 13, I know that passing notes seems like a "big deal." But like he said, they are friends. You need to learn to trust him if you are going to be in a relationship with him. Note passing isn't cheating. Switch the situation around. Say you passed a note to one of your guy friends, and your boyfriend all of a sudden freaked out. How would you feel?
You just need to cool off, and realize it is no big deal. Now if you see them sneaking around or whatever, then it's a big deal.
You are 13, still in middle school. Even if he does end it, so what? You still have so much time to find a boyfriend. You will probably go through so many more by the end of your middle school years. It won't last forever.
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You sort of had the right to be mad at your bf for passing notes with another girl, but you need to respect that he has other friends who are girls like you have friends that are guys.
Dont avoid the issue, go to school monday. apologize for what you did. if he breaks up with you, he breaks up with you. if he breaks up with you in front of everyone, hes just a jerk.
give him some space. i dont agree with that whole "take a break" thing, but you could always do that. or maybe you should break up with him.
xxtiffany
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