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Q: i`m a freshman in high school. ever since i was about 4 or 5, i've had an excessive bladder problem i guess you could say. when somebody makes me laugh, i start to piss myself. it's been happening lately at school and volleyball practice, and i have nothing to cover it up with! is there any type of medicine i could take, or anything that could help prevent this or something.. ? please help

if you're going to laugh or make fun of me, you'll be rated a one, and i'm gonna report you. =)

oh volleyball cool! well anyway, wear a pad...there's a temporary solution...and it really isn't so uncomfortable to wear them all the time! No worries, you won't be needing operations or anything drastic at all...but I also know they have medication that can help you! Also know that you are not the only one in the world with this problem, so don't be embarassed or anything....just talk to your docter. Best of luck to u!

Q: Is there a nice way to say "you're clingy and I need space." I really like this person, but I would like a little breathing room. Is there anyway to say without making them all defensive and stuff.

I would say something along the lines of (and I have said this before): You know, (name), I really love you tons but I dunno, lets not sit together for this class (or at lunch today, or let's not talk on the phone tonight) because I really value our friendship and I want to crave it!

Q: When I walk in my bathroom, theres always poop on the toilet. I think my dad does it because my pets don't use the toilet. LOL. I know it's gross but how can I find out who is doing this. (It's not my sister or my mom either.) HELP!!!!!!!!!!

HAHA thats hysterical! and nasty too, I feel your pain...I had that problem at sleepaway camp...what I did was have me and all my friends making public jokes about "The Mad Crapper" and it embarassed the poor kid, so I guess they aimed better from then on. Hope I helped!

OMG MY ANSWER IS SO GOOD- A 1??? IM NEVER WASTING MY TIME ON U AGAIN! EVERYBODY ELSE TAKE NOTICE!!!!!

Q: What are some good movies.. mostly chick flicks or comedy.. thanks!

the notebook, there's something about mary, win a date with tad hamilton, charlie's angels, camp, superstar, pumpkin, bring it on, meet the parents...theres a brief listing- hope i helped!

Q: i have to do this thing poster project for my LOTE (Language other then english) class and its due next week. The theme for it is: A TIE THAT BINDS: LEARN ANOTHER LANGUAGE. Anyone have any ideas? It has to be original if I hand it in to the contest..which I may im not sure anyone have ideas on how I can design it or any slogans I could you..it cant be copy righted...ehh thanks anyways.

you can do a report on this girl...her name is Ellie Wen and shes at Harvard (i read it in the NY Times Upfront today)....shes made the online website called RepeatAfterUs.com...it helps people learn the english language...check it out! this girl's great, and its not only about english because it teaches non-english ppl

Q: OK for the school talent show, aside from singing, an act I will do is dance with my friends. I was wondering if you guys think Helena by My Chemical Romance is a good song to dance to. I was either thinking that or !,2 step by Ciara. We will most likely be doing Helena and I was wondering if you guys think my friends and I should do the moves the dancers do on the video or make up our own. We have until towards the middle of the month. Thanks

P.S~ if you want to see the video of Helena go here http://music.yahoo.com/ar-309929-videos--My-Chemical-Romance (hit the one that just says Helena not Helena laucnh preformance or whatever)

glad you're not doing 1,2 step...thats getting a little OLD. well ummm it would be totally awesome if u did ur own moves, but if they're bad/corny it would be REALLY lame...if you think that will happen, than go by the music video.

Q: I just found out my boyfriend is a bisexual...i don't know what to do, it freaks me out

Lucy

There's nothing wrong with that...and if you don't feel comfortable than maybe you should end it. But if you feel like it is your problem that you have a problem with that, tell him so. Maybe it would be better for him to dump you since he hasn't done anything wrong...Remember: being bisexual doens't mean he isn't attracted to u: it means he could be attracted to guys too. But he is with you right now, so no worries!

Q: How do u get a girl to kiss you? Or find out if she wants you to kiss her? or let her know that u want her to kiss you or be kissed by u?

Thnx 4 da help!

I really love a cute romantic guy, and one who will make the first move...try saying something sweet like, put on a nice smile and say 'may i kiss u?' if some1 said that to me i would totally melt and be like HELL YES so try that! xox

Q: In the begining of the schoolyear, I made a new friend, Carol. I started to hang out with her alot. Now, I don't want to be her friend anymore because she steals and smokes. Now, Elissa, my old best friend who i want to be close with again, is best friends with carol! In my Xanga (KirksSkater) they said to stop talking about them. All it said was "Which Do I prefer :Carol or Elissa" and it was a fill-in thingy for other people. Now, I have no friends because of them. What should I do?
AAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH
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OoOo..well that's a tough one. And though you might not see the advice in this, I am leaving it up to you to decide what to do. You are the person you want your ex-friends to like, so do what you would do. In the future, never publisize your friends or even compare them...they aren't items!

Q: ok so i was making cookies, then i discovered that we had no butter. can you substitute oil for butter? if you can how much oil for 1 stick [1/2 cup] of butter?
thanks

NOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!! you cannot! it is DEFINATELY worth taking a quick trip to the grocers and stocking up on some butter...your cookies will be very distasteful if you use oil instead of butter...plus, butter is what makes cookies taste so good...best of luck!

Q: every time i shave my legs, its like they dont shave. il go over them with a new blade and still when i feel them, theres like..stubble, when its like the second i get done after shaving! i tried altering the pressure i put when im pressing down and gliding teh blade but that doesnt seem to help either. i use shaving cream and ive tried many different kinds, and ive also tried baby oil, water (alone), and body wash and it still seems like my legs arent...Shaved! and then i end up getting razor burn anyways!! does anyone have any ideas what this is and why?!

I had that problem when I started shaving, too. If you think about it, it is because this hair has been on your legs since day 1 and is still fine-ish. After the first few times, it will be 'used to being shaved' though. LOL. ANyway,the only thing that worked for me is using Skintimate shaving cream (I use it every single time) and a disposable rasor (try the Bic's.). It leaves your legs smooth and hairless for about 3 days, and the hair won't need to be shaved for about a week (but will grow back quicker over time). After you finish, always put on lotion so your legs don't dry up. Hope I helped! Please rate me!

Q: for my school i have to like read lots of books. Does anyone know of any teen books that are good, but not to to long?

THE BEST TEEN AUTHORS EVER ARE:

Zoey Dean (A-List, Girls on Film, Blonde Ambition) they ROCK!!!

Louise Rennison (Angus, Thongs, & Full-Frontal Snogging series) very funny!

Q: Is there a medication that can be taken for worrying and feeling anxious?

ZOLOFT_ it is great for depression, anxiety, nervousness, high blood pressure, worriness, and other symptoms. Ask a doctor, or google it. Hope I helped, cuz Zoloft sure will!

Q: theres this thing on my leg and its like 20 purpleish pinkish dots. i dont know wat it is. does any one know wat it is or how to get rid of it? thanx

i have those on my legs too, particularly my knees. for me, they are bruises...and they do look wierd if you hit them hard...mine are purple and spotted lol. if it does not appear to be under the skin and it is bumpy-feelingg, it might be a rash of some sort- perhaps rasor burn. if this is the case, lotion it and ask a doctor if it doesn't go away soon. hope i helped!

Q: does how a girl dresses influence guys liking of them in any way?

Q: Well i have a big thing with allergies. I take medicines. Is there anyway to have allergies calm down. Like stop maybe for a second. I would like to know.

thats a vvery good question to ask your allergist...and if you do not have one, look in to getting one because they have made a world of differnc in my life

Q: hey, i like this kid brad who ive liked for a while but juss offically meet todaii. and so does my friend Lindsay n some one went up to brad and told him that linsay like him n so he said taht hell call her tonight im scared that he may like her and taht he might ask her out when i really like him i don't know if ishould say something to him its important please help ! !

girl, you must be brave and MAKE YOUR MOVE! why shouldn't he know that you like him too? guys LOVE being adored, so just be bold and proud of who you are, and hopefully he'll see that. winning the 'competition' might be tricky though. rate plz!

Q: OK So this is the first time ive ever done this my friend showed me this website and i thought that it was pretty cool. Anyways there is this guy at my school totally hot right.....well we have never talked but my friend went up to him today and said that i thought he was hot. THis guy his name is Matt he also thoght i was hot i necer thoght anything of it but when ever i looked at him sometimes i would catch him looking at me. Sounds good right well he tells my friend he has a girlfriend.....IN 8TH GRADE!!!!! We're freshmen well actually he's supposed to be a sophmore but anyways, He said he wont break up with her(i wouldnt want him to....kinda)because its Valentines day. WEll im 15 Female and every valentines day im crused like right now ive never had a velentine. What should i Do?!?!?!?!?!

Don't be crushed....it's a big scam and way too much pressure on relationships to be together for valentine's day. If you really need such material proof of the value of a relationship, than it shows there is nothing real there. Besides, sending valentines isthe perfect way to make NEW friends...

Q: Ok, So I met this chick, and fell madly in love with her, but she didnt feel the same, so I had to work on her.. Finally we started going out, but it felt forced, and I told her this, so now she is acting all lovy dovy, like she actually fell in love with me.

But the problem is, with all the coldness she showed toward me.. I no longer love her, I only like as friends, IF that.. so I really dont know what to do, I don't want to hurt her, but I also dont want to be in a relationship with her.. Please Help me!

She sent me an email saying she seriously thought about breaking it off with me, and she was going to, till I finished work, and she realised how much she loved me.. but I'm not who I used to be around her, I don't miss her any more, I don't want to kiss her any more.. HELP!

It doesn't need to be love at first sight; a little work in relationships is always a good thing. It would be bad if you both loved eachother right off, before you even got to know eachothers' faults. If I were you, I wouldn't end it just yet. If your instincts were to be attracted to her, than maybe they were right. So tell her that you want to bring it down a level, and date just to get to know eachother more. It is important to start somewhere before you are immediately soulmates. LOL hope i helped- rate plz!

THANKS FOR RATING MY FAB ANSWER A 1!!! I'll BE SURE NEVER TO HELP YOU AGAIN.
UGH LOSER

Q: First of all thanks to everyone who helped answer my first question

my girlfriend is being a little cold to me lately and i'm not sure why. i mean she might be doing it just to tease me or because she's trying to break up with me. we also haven't talked in a while since we have both been so busy with school. i'm not sure what to think. i know that valentine's day is coming up so she might be doing it just for fun or she wants to make me dump her. i dunno what to think. Please Help!

Thanks!

Confused Boyfriend

I would talk to her...but make sure it is not you being too attached or forceful around her. When you get too close and for too long, chances are she'll get bored, so give her space. It's like the elastic rebound theory LOL (8th grade science!!) Anyway, hope I helped! xoxx

bio

I'm Mecca and i live in the UK, whereabouts you'll never know for certain. My hobbies are polo, singing, reading, and playing with my little brothers. I hope I can help you to any extent with your problems! So many of you have sure helped me with some of mine.