Member Since: May 3, 2004
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Last Update: May 11, 2004
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I had a great friendship with a girl, but I made the mistake of asking her to open up to me about my past and feelings. My logic was since she's so afraid that my opinion of her would be lowered if I knew about her past, then she would come to some relief in knowing that my opinion of her would never be changed by something she did years ago. She told me, then days later she was furious about me knowing about her past. So my problem is this: I am in love with her, and she's very distant. I never asked her out because she's against dating, but now she is around another guy a lot who also loves her. I don't think she's attracted to me, so there's little hope to begin with (We told each other everyone we had a crush on. She was on my list, I wasn't on her's). This guy is open about his love, and is very touchy-feely towards everyone, especially with her. I'm afraid she'll start dating him, and never really speak to me again. I give her rides from school, and recently she just walked off with the other guy without saying a word. I caught up with them, and she said she was walking home, and had plans to go mushroom hunting. But she walked in the opposite direction of her house and it was starting to rain. I'm not sure if I'm reading too much into this,or if she really doesn't want to see me anymore. So should I tell her how I feel and ask her who she'd rather be with, or should I spare myself the pain and depression that would follow and ignore this or ignore her. If this, then how do I possibly get over her, I don't really have many people I can talk to and I'm so very in love. (link)
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It is possible that she did like you, but was ashamed/embarrassed to admit it. Perhaps because of her painful past, she is afraid that you might cause her more pain, or that she might cause you grief. If you two are as close as you say, then she may have some latent fear, based on past experience, of dating a friend. Maybe she believes that pushing you away will be better for you in the long run. I believe you should ask her out. Rejection can be painful, but the worst thing she could say would be, "No!" Remember that you never know until you try, and if she says does tell you no, also remember that if you love someone, you have to let them go.
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i was just sitting at the computer and i had my webcam on and i didnt notice it but with how i was sitting u could see down my shirt and when my mom told me she told me to turn the webcam off. i did. then i fixed my positioning and check to make sure no one could see anything then i turned it back on and she took it!!!! how can i get it back without sneaking it back then getting caught and getting into even bigger trouble??? (link)
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You should not have turned it back on without asking her permission first. Even though you did not mean to display your 'assets' on camera, doing so made your mother believe she could not trust you with the camera. Go to her, and explain, without raising your voice or whining, that it was quite the accident, and that you've no intention of doing so again. Try to compromise with her. Suggest that you can chat via webcam under her supervision for a day or two, to prove that you have nothing to hide. If you do not want to do that, offer to go a week without the webcam, and during that week be extra-well behaved. Remember that though it may seem rude and insensitive of her, your mother was just trying to do what is best for you.
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i havnt seen my boyfriend in two monthes. he just ask me out about 3 weeks ago. im planning on seeing him this weekend. i'm not excatly sure how he is though. like, what kind of girl he likes, i met him at a birthday party. he likes being chased around and stuff so thats a good way to flirt. but i dont know weather to wear like, a lowcut shirt or look all goody 2 shoes. im not asking him cuz that might be a wierd question. i got the pants picked out. they are a navy green color so grass stains wont look as bad. and he hasnt had his first kiss yet. i want that to be me but i dont wanna like just kiss him cuz it might be important to him who his first kiss is and all that stuff. i dont really know what the main question of this is but whatever you can give advice on will help. please and thank you! bye!
signed,
lovin-him (link)
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The time frame you have given is confusing. If you haven't seen him in two months, did he ask you three weeks ago over the phone to be his boyfriend? This weekend is the first date between the two of you, I am presuming? Just be yourself, and act like you always would on a date. If you have never been on a date before, just dress like you would if you were going out with friends to some place nice. I believe the phrase is 'Dress-Casual.' You know, something nice looking, but not too formal. Also, do not assume anything. If you want to kiss this guy, as you seem to, do not be too forward, but do not be prudent either. Just 'go with the flow,' if you will. I am sure that if you treat this like a fun first date, be yourself, and let him do the same, things will work out.
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Hi advicenators (trys to smile)
I really could use some advice.
Its my friends, I am a very nice personI'm 14 a gurl I'm christain I have always been made fun not liked that well by my peers Myeber they'er jealuse I don't know why. well I happend to become friends with I thought my BFF and my other friends (anna-n-lana) that become friends with my BFF and snece they became friends with eachother I have faces thrown my way every time I see anna and lana. and everytime I talk with my BFF she won't believe a word I say and acts like I'm making everything I say up. I don't know why they don't like me. I have never been rude never fought them when they were wrong.
I will be honest that most adults really like me, and seem to favor me ( reason I dn't kknow why) I want to know why they don't like me. I try to be nice They'er always making lies about me and spreading them around. It really hurts and I don't know what to do.
please help.
signed,
hated friend (link)
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I'd like to start off by addressing your nick name, 'hated friend.' Do not consider yourself hated. Hate is such a powerful emotion, but I doubt that is what they feel for you. People who treat you that way are not very good friends. It is probably all just one big misunderstanding anyway. Give them time, and seek out some nicer friends in the interim.
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aaalritez.. im a 14 year old girl..im dealing with this guy.. ive been going out with him off and on for a while.. first 4 months.. now.. i forget.. i lost track.. anyways.. in february.. i was put on lockdown.. so i couldnt see him as much.. we talked a lot though.. but now i find myself getting bored of him.. but we have a history..n i would feel bad about dumping him.. what do i do? (link)
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When I was 14/15, I dated a guy for a year and a half. He and I had a lot of history together, but, just like you, I began to get bored with the relationship. Eventually, I broke it off with him. He was hurt at first, and though I had been the one to end it, I felt pain and sadness as well. In the end, he and I became friends again, and both of us are now happily engaged to other people who are better suited for us. Moral: go ahead and end the relationship if it is not right for you, and everything will work out in the end.
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BTW~ this is a question I asked earlier but I'm repeating it cuz I have an account now. *'s are additions
Hiya!
I'm Annie (13, fem, MD). There's this guy and we used to be together like last year but I gave him the dump. I'm starting to feel that it was a mistake- I mean thinking about it, I can't remember why I dumped him in the first place. It was for my own good, and I know good from bad, don't smoke straight-A's only drink a little is my description. But this guy- he's so amazing. I totally can talk to him really closely and he has all these amazing aspirations for his life. He hangs with me at parties a little but he's a little safe- no kissing, no sex, though he is a druggie. I like the fact that he has very few friends- I admire people who don't require a possie to function. SO anyway, you probably are accustomed to giving guys advice but I really hope you can help me. I need to know if he likes me at all. How can I tell? And if so, what moves should I make, like how fast should I make them, aswell? And what can I do to keep him liking me? Please help!
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***~I'm pretty cute looking, but I havee kinda small boobs. Would him being predjudice against that be a big factor in the eqation, particularly at this age? Do guys REALLY care about that? (link)
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Annie, if you like the guy, you should go for it. The fact that he is a druggie could be a problem, but if you are okay with that, or help him to change it, then that would be alright. The main reason I wanted to answer your question is to reply to your statement about your breasts. Yes, some guys can be hounds about that sort of thing, but if you are confident in the way that you look, then the size of your cleavage should not matter. If he only cares about how big you are, then he does not seem like a very nice guy. At your age, I was not entirely flat-chested as they say, but I was not really well-endowed either. Guys did make fun of me, but I still dated, because I found people who liked me for how I am on the inside, not how much of a trophy I could be. Beside all of that, do not wish for your breasts to be larger, because when you get older that could cause lots of health problems if they were too big. If this guy is not the right one, you will find someone who will love you for all that you are.
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I have liked this guy for about 3 years.. we have been really great friends like my best friend in the whole world but everytime we go out i always end up getting hurt.. like when he "just wants to be friends" it makes me feel soo bad.. but i feel like life is not fun without him.. its sounds like the typical realtionship and i should just get over him but i cant and i dont know it i can or what i am supposed to do please help (link)
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I know it sounds cliché, but you should consider the age old adage, “If you love someone, you have to let them go.” Eventually, if the relationship is right, the two of you will end up together. I am currently engaged to the love of my life. I was the one treating the relationship all wrong, but he let me have my freedom to fly and my room to grow, and you know what? I did go flying back to his arms, after seven excruciating months of reality, in which many painful experiences taught me that I had been looking all over the place for what was right in front of me. You see, I am just like this guy you say you are in love with. I am not guaranteeing that he will come back, but I did, and I think you should take that chance and let him go, but never, ever stop caring about him, no matter what happens.
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