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Why do my friends hate me?
Hi advicenators (trys to smile)
I really could use some advice.
Its my friends, I am a very nice personI'm 14 a gurl I'm christain I have always been made fun not liked that well by my peers Myeber they'er jealuse I don't know why. well I happend to become friends with I thought my BFF and my other friends (anna-n-lana) that become friends with my BFF and snece they became friends with eachother I have faces thrown my way every time I see anna and lana. and everytime I talk with my BFF she won't believe a word I say and acts like I'm making everything I say up. I don't know why they don't like me. I have never been rude never fought them when they were wrong.
I will be honest that most adults really like me, and seem to favor me ( reason I dn't kknow why) I want to know why they don't like me. I try to be nice They'er always making lies about me and spreading them around. It really hurts and I don't know what to do.
please help.
signed,
hated friend
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"Hated Friend" well to start "hated" and "friend" do not go together at all. I know that when you are 14 your friends are very important. But once you get older and wiser you will realize that most of the "friends" that you had when you were in school aren't around anymore. You will have a few close friends that wil always be there after you are out of school and they probably won't be any of the friends you have now. Go to church and find some positive friends and keep away from the people that make you feel bad about yourself. Those girls aren't friends...they are "fair weather friends". Do you right now and don't worry about those toxic friends. You will come out ahead and you will be a better person for that. Good luck!!!
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Hated,
It sounds like you are the mirror that they hate to look through. When we meet people or associte with them on a consistent basis, we often find ourselves judging our selves through what we see in them. They may see you the same way as the adults do, nice, responsible, caring, etc., and that only makes them look at themselves in a way they would rather not see. So being around you makes them feel bad about themselves. At that age, they will never admit it, and probably don't even see it themselves, but to keep from feeling that way, they have to find things about you that make them feel that you aren't as good as THEY think you are. So, in reality, they don't really hate you, they hate the way they LOOK when they're around you. I know this doesn't help in a practical sense. You would still like to be part of the gang. But at least know that deep downinside....they would rather be you, too.
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Hi hated Friend . . .
These people that you call your bestfriends don't sound much like friends at all! And, why are you worried about how they view you anyway? Here's some advice you may not want to hear but I think you need to know. Maybe it's not your friends that are making you so unhappy? Maybe it's that you're not happy with the person you see in the mirror and need their approval to make you feel accepting or happy with yourself. If you're a good person and know you're a good person, then whatever they're saying about you will be proven wrong as others get to know the real you. Stop basing your worthiness to be a friend on that of what others think of you! You can't make someone like you! You can't make someone believe in you if you don't believe in yourself! My advice to you is to stop worrying so much about them and start caring more about you!
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Dear hated
do not worry about what other people say it doesn't matter. so people don't like you . you just need to focuss on school cause you don't go to school for a popularity contest you go to learn and rememder as long as you have family, god, and your pride you don't need nothing else
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I'd like to start off by addressing your nick name, 'hated friend.' Do not consider yourself hated. Hate is such a powerful emotion, but I doubt that is what they feel for you. People who treat you that way are not very good friends. It is probably all just one big misunderstanding anyway. Give them time, and seek out some nicer friends in the interim.
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