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Q: So my boyfriend the other day asked me about a comment this guy Chris had sent me over myspace that read "Its Chris so whats my Christmas present. You said it would be the best Christmas present ever" Which was referring to something I said to him earlier about getting him "The best christmas present ever" because he lent me some money. It was a harmless joke. So my boyfriend asked me about it, and I explained it to him and he was fine. But just a few minutes ago, I was fixing something on his myspace and I wanted to see if he got a message I sent him. I checked his inbox to find that he had been messaging the guy before he had asked me about it, threatning him. I can't believe he reacted that way over a stupid comment. I don't get how a girl can post "I'd bone you" on a picture of him and I don't go off on her, but yet he can do that to a guy that wasn't even serious. Was he just being overprotective or did he have a right to be worried? btw I'm 14/f

my ex boyfriend was the EXACT same way but even more dramatic about it..he definetely didnt have a right to be worried hes just at the point where he loves you alot and he doesnt want anyone else to have you so when guys say things like that he gets worried you might like it and wanna talk to them instead of him...just reassure him that people just joke around and he should relax because he's the guy you care about.

Q: how do you get your eyeliner to stay on all day or for a long period of time.
i mean right when i put mine on, ( i do the whole pull ur bottom lid down and line it with the eyeliner thing ) but what are some other ways cause when i do that it goes away in less than 30 minutes and smudges below and is really messy.

thanks so much.
and please don't say "you should ask ur beauty consultant about that" or "you should ask someone who works @ the make up counter about that"

it really depends on the eyeliner. Loreal eyeliner stays on ALL day for me. i used to have the same problem before i got loreal and what i would do is close my eyes and put translucent powder on my eyes( the kind you put on with a brush that has no color..just matches your skintone) which would keep it from rubbing off. oh and if your using the pencil kind i recommend trying the kind thats more like a marker..the kind you roll up at the bottom.. (not the liquid kind) because it stays longer than pencil or just try loreal haha

Q: Hi! I need a really good body wash that makes you feel really clean and smells really good.
Does anyone of any?

i LOVE Dial cucumber yogurt bodywash it smells so fresh and makes your skin soft

Q: I'm doing a project in school and i need to find the following poems:

"On a Bird Singing in it's Sleep" by Robert Frost
"Jazz Girl," "Note in Music," and "Drums" all by Langston Hughes

If you know a website and can give me a link to it or something like that, it would help a ton. Thanks!

www.google.com

Q: I have a crush on this boy and I want him to notice me not he otha girl thats much prettier than me what should i do for him to notice me??

confidence is really really important! realize that you CAN get him and dont think negatively of yourself. focus on the qualities of yourself that you know are good. guys can tell when girls have confidence and they love it. dont compare yourself to the other girl. be outgoing, try to start conversations with him even if its just about little,random things. complimenting him would be good..but dont go over the top. SMILE alot..guys love to see girls who seem happy and ready to have fun. just dont hold back..obviously be yourself.. and try to make yourself stand out in a really good way, whether it be by dressing really cute that day or just talking more than usual! you dont have to look absolutely perfect for a guy to notice you, he'll notice you if you seem like someone he would love to be around, which im sure you are. just dont be afraid to take chances and go for him!! the 1st step is to become friends with him so then it could maybe go farther!

Q: i need to know, how can you become a pretty person outside? i dont think im pretty or anything,i want to be a girl some guy would like. but how? tips? gerneral stuff? im a kinda preppy person,i dont dress bad,i wear makeup,but i dont know how to be pretty. i have brown hair,big brown eyes,long eyelashes,dark eyebrows,kinda light skin,kinda circles under my eyes,oval face shape,4"9 13...please help i want to look nice and aprochable,and pretty.

you sound pretty to me..you have alot of good features! i have big brown brown eyes and brown hair too. im sure you already are pretty, but if you want to look even better you can just draw attention to your best features. purple-ish shades of eyeshadow make brown eyes look even better, and just a little bit of black eyeliner on your eyelids and along the bottom will make them stand out.your eyelashes are already long..so only wear mascara if you want to. to cover up the circles under your eyes find a concealear thats a little bit lighter than your skin tone and apply it over the circles with your fingertips and itll cover them up. i think light skin is really pretty and it looks even better when it kinda glows so you could put highlighting moisturizer (they have really cheap ones.. like "clean and clear morning glow" on your cheekbones. ive read that layered hair looks really good with an ovalshaped face. and you know what else will bring out your beauty? CONFIDENCE. dont compare yourself to those other girls in your school, cause youre probably way prettier than them than you realize. focus on the things you like about yourself and just enjoy life and be comfortable with who you are..if you can just do that then you could definetely become a model or actress!

Q: me and my b/f have been datin for almost 6 months. hes means so much to me but a lot of the time she doesnt treat me that well. im a freshman thie year and was considering breakin up wit him b/c i never see him and just felt too tired dwon.but then i chagned my mind and figuared i really loved him. but today this kid who knows him and me came up ot me and said that he wasnt breakin up wit me because he wanted to move on...i was feelin the same thing but i like him so much still. i sent him a text saying that we needed to talk and he said ill pass! and i said..were over.ur friend jeff told me everything..and he said..yull get far listenin ot him...i mean i ended a really long realtionship wit this guy and im not sure if i should beg for him back or just move on....help me pleeeease =).thanks so much

if you truly do still love him and want to make things right, i think you should talk to him about giving the relationship another chance! dont beg because that just makes things harder..and if it doesnt seem like hes gonna treat you any better if you got back together then maybe its not worth it..you deserve to be happy and treated right so just talk to him about how he feels and if he seems like he would put his heart into the relationship and u would too..things could definetely work out! oh and by the way the fact that he was telling his friends about that and jeff was the one to say something is VERY wrong. dont let yourself get walked all over and always stand up for yourself even though sometimes its hard. well just follow your heart and follow through with what you feel you need to do..i hope everything goes well!

Q: I havent had a real boyfriend in a while and a guy just asked me out that I like but I have liked another guy for a while too. I am totally having second thoughts on saying yes. but I think right now I would be having second thoughts if I said yes to anyone becauseI am so used to being able to do what ever I want and not have a comitment. is this normal??

listen to your heart.if you really do like this guy and the thought of being with him makes you happy,then you should say yes. second thoughts are normal, but if you have more negative thoughts about it than positive thoughts..you might want to spend more time with him so you can let your thoughts and feelings develop. committment isnt a bad thing whatsoever..it may be new to you but im sure you'll love it cause when youre in a relationship you feel like youre always safe and theres always that one person that loves you and will be there for you. well thats all i have to say..if you truly want to be with him..then go for it!

Q: Hey! I'm not shure if this goes in this category but - does anyone know how to get good karma?

Thank yoU!

karma means what goes around comes around, so if you do alot of good deeds and are a kind person to others..according to the belief of karma...itll come back to you later on in life!

Q: Well ok, so me and my bf are almost to our 3rd month anniversary right. He was in a different country for a month. But when he came back. We realized how much we have changed the past almost 2 months. I love him very much but we just changed a lot. He is one of those guys that get very jealous easily. When I'm with my guy friends he's always soo jealous. I told him he had nothing to worry about. I Love him not anyone else. Then right now we've been really into a lot of arguments and its really hard to be with him right now. He has a lot in his life and I do also. Its just really frustrating. My friends have told us that we just needed a break, but I don't think that will resolve anything. I think that way, we'll get farther apart. I don't want that. I don't know what to do right now. Its hard and painful for both of us. Please I know this is very ummm not clear but yeah. I just need some comment about this. Should I keep the relationship or just let him go?

im im the same situation! except my boyfriend was only gone but everything else is the same. well,breaking up with him isnt the answer. i thought it was too and i did that the other day and then 5 minutes later regretted it so much and now we're back together. you have to let him know that you feel things are different but you love him alot and dont wanna let him go. try to stay off topics that could cause arguments when you're talking to him.oh and about the jealousy thing, this is a sign that this guy really is in love with you cause my boyfriend is the same way..hes just insecure and doesnt wanna lose you thats all! you just gotta keep reassuring him. if your friends tell you to take a break but thats not what you want then definetely dont do it because you have to listen to your heart and give this relationship another chance.

Q: How do you ask a guy whether or not he has a girlfriend, with out just coming directly out and saying it?

you could say"so hows the love life?"or tell him youre single and see if he says "me too"

Q: ok.. like.. i get really hyper. & like yesterday, i was at the carnival, & i was like idno, fulling around. & like, my one friend is so quiet, & shy. & im more outgoing & everything. soo, should i change? & be more like her? or should i stay the way i am? i dont want to like annoy someone. & how can i stop acting so hyper sometimes?

no you should never change in order to be like someone else! being outgoing and hyper is actually a good thing, because youre enjoying life and having fun without holding back! i think you should stay the way you are because being fun is a desirable quality.i doubt you'll annoy people unless you are purposely doing something to others so dont worry about that.! if you feel like youre being TOO hyper, just try to contain it inside and focus on talking to your friend.maybe your friend will be influenced by you and wont be so shy anymore and thats a really good thing!!

Q: okay. so i just recently got out of a year long relationship, that was reallllly emotionally draining. and ive been trying to meet and get to know new people.

about a week ago, i started talking to someone i met last summer, and ive found myself realllyyy interested in him.

i asked him if hed ever like to go to dinner or see a movie with me, and he said " i would love to hang out wit u...thats a wicked good idea...i cant toay but ill talk 2 you later this week" (exact words)... its been a few days since then, and we still talk... he says things like "hopefully ill talk to you tomorrow" and "i love talking with you" and "we should deff. hang out soon".

soo my little problem is... i dont know if all this to him is the same as it is to me. sometimes he acts really interested and he even gave me his number and told me to call if i wanted to talk.. but other times i feel like im annoying him, and hes not really into it. its been a while since ive started a new relationship. and i dont know, i just need some guidance i suppose. i dont want to feel like an idiot and keep trying if hes not interested.. but a lot of the signs are telling me he is... im sooo confused!!! i dont know how he feels,, and i knowww its only been a week.. but does he seem like he lkes me in any way?

it sounds to me like this guy really likes you! ive felt like i was annoying a guy before too.. but then i found out he really liked me and now hes my boyfriend. since hes showing interest in you, i think you should definetely go for it and hang out with him sometime soon! you could ask him if he sees you as more than a friend if you need an answer directly from him.. but by the way u describe what he says to u, this guy definetely likes u! you could end up having an awesome relationship with him, so dont be afraid to take chances..this could be your fresh start.

Q: alirght im a male and 16 and usually i know what im doing around girls but this time im in a hole,well me and this girl were going out awhile back and she dumped me and it didnt bother me,but the next day she was all over me again(well apparently she doesnt know that doing that hurts) anyways she did this the rest of the school year until about the last week then she just stopped.Well now to the question recently shes been inviting me just about everywhere cause we are freinds but than she messages me saying things that well lead me to believe she liked me so then the most recent time we were hanging out with a group of people and a kid pulled up to a car well you could tell she was trying to make me look at her cause she was doing "certain thing" i will not speak of but nothin dirty,but next thing i know i turn around from talkin to someone and shes all over him and i mean kissin and all of that but she wpuld stop and flirt with me a little bit but go right back to him and she continued the back and fourth. i think it was trying to make me jealous but i let you figure that out.
Apparently people dont understand that makes people mad not wanting them.
thanks for the advice i may get.

this girl is very desperate for attention and is a MAJOR tease. she wants you to want her, but as soon as you do she leaves because she wants to leave you hangin. girls with this kind of attitude have low self esteem and also she probably just wants to see your reaction.it does sound like shes trying to make you jealous and i think that you should tell her that whatever shes trying to do she needs to stop..and try to stay away from her if you can!

Q: Last night my boyfriend got mad at me and said he was mad because he doesn't think I care about him. I love him with all of my heart and he loves me too. I just don't know how to show it. Please help.

sometimes guys just need some reassurance! your boyfriend is probably afraid of losing you because he loves you ALOT..the best thing to do is show him how much you care by doing simple things such as telling him how happy he makes you and how much you truly love him, kissing him often and looking into his eyes, calling him to see if hes a had a good day and to tell him you love him, and complimenting him. also if you show that you LOVE being with him that will reassure him too. you could say "im so excited to see you!"before you hang out. i know these may not sound like a big deal, but sometimes the simple, sweet things are all the reminders a guy needs

Q: Hey yall. Well, I'm 14/f and I'm not so good on the whole introduicng yourself thing. If anybody could tell me the good way to introduce myself to someone, what to say, and what topics to talk about in a conversation so that I don't sound stupid would be great. I really want to make good friends this summer, but I just need the right start. Thanks!

The key is to be friendly! smile and tell them your name and once you exchange names you could talk about the certain place youre at, or ask questions about their lives, etc. Complimenting is always a VERY easy way to get to know someone! As long as you present yourself in a friendly way and dont seem uptight or distant..meeting people can be pretty easy! Once you get to know some people..try to make plans with them because spending time together is what makes a friendship begin.

Q: i always feel so ugly my friends are gorgeous and have boyfriends no matter what i always feel left out or outta place what do i do to gain self respect and a more pretty appearance

comparing yourself to everyone else just makes it harder on yourself. you have to realize that you have beauty that is just waiting to be let out! boyfriends are most definetely not everything..being single and having confidence can be much more meaningful than having a boyfriend. i think you should think of all the things you like about yourself and focus on those things, and realize that you are worth so much more and can go far in life if you eliminate the thoughts that say you are ugly..because those thoughts are never right! let your best aspects of your personality come out..let loose..and enjoy the little things! youre certainly not out of place! just focus on the things that make you happy in life and love the person that you are without worrying about not being good enough..cause those worries take away the beauty of life and you are most definetely good enough.

Q: i have this really embaressing problem with underarm sweating. i've always had this problem ever since i started puberty and my sweat glands started, for lack of a better word at the moment, working. now, it seems like i start sweating at random times. heat isn't even a factor, somtimes i sweat after i come out of the shower or a few minutes after i wake up, even if i haven't done anything physical. what's happening to me? and how can i get rid of this problem? please don't tell me to buy those expensive sweat reducing chemical things because i can't afford it. thank you

sometimes worrying over the sweat being there can make you sweat more..thats what ive learned..cause stress can cause sweating. i think as long as you have a good deodorant, just dont worry about it cause no one else can see it! unless u run around raising ur arms up for some reason..haha! there are certain foods you can eat that that can reduce this too..but i forgot...you could probably find it on google!

Q: Im considering going to sleep away camp for my first time. Im 14 & Female. Its a boy/girl camp and I was just wondering if anyone could tell me everything I need to know about going to an overnight camp. Its in 10 days so Im nervous. Do camps let you use cell phones? And also, I straighten my hair every day..what about that? Also, any advice on how to meet friends? What is important to bring or ABSOLUTELY essential to bring? Ill take ANY advice about going away. :] thanks!

i was nervous the 1st time i went to my camp too! i go to this camp called lakeshore and i absolutely love it! i think you\'ll love the experience of camp cause it is a get away from home and you are always busy and you leave with so many new memories and friends. anyways, most camps will say not to bring cell phones but everyone does anyways! i also straighten my hair and if the camp youre going to has electrical plugs in the cabin, you can straighten it there anytime you want!! thats what i do! as for meeting friends...meeting friends at camp actually comes very naturally! once you get there and meet the girls in your cabin, the counselors will have everyone talk and introduce themselves..and usually everyones so friendly that the whole cabin just kinda clicks and has a great time together! and when youre walking around the camp..you can just approach people and smile and be friendly and most likely you\'ll meet alot of people, cause that makes camp as great as it is! its normal to be nervous..but going to camp is always amazing and once you get there you\'ll feel comfortable and ready to have fun. the person below me already explained what to bring. i suggest bringing your ipod if you have one..it makes cabin-time funner! k wow long answer hope i helped!

Q: for that show on mtv; 8th and Ocean, why doesnt it play anymore?? i loved that show but it never seems to play anymore. did it quit or something? thanks .xox.

it doesnt play anymore because the season ended and once a season of a show ends they stop showing it. hopefully it will come on dvd cause i love that show!

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