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ok, well im 5'4" and 101-102 lbs. I'm so sick of people callign me anerexic and bulemic . I feel so low abou myself. I eat SO much and in my eyes, I'm average. What is the average weight for a 14 year old 8th gader whose 5'4"? Am I ok w/ the weight that i am, I mean I eat so much, dont' do sports, and like never exercise, I'm liek naturally fit. Shoudl I gain weight?

Generally, the average weight for a 14 year old girl whose 5"4 is about 110 lbs. But I think you're fine. As long as you have healthy eating patterns, you'll be fine =)

You're a bit underweight, but not dangerously underweight. Trust me, those girls who call you anorexic and bulimic are just jealous that they're not as thin as you.

Don't worry! You don't need to gain weight, though it wouldn't be bad for you.

I absolutely love to read. Can anyone give me lots of great teen books (novels are great!) that you absolutely loved...Most likely if a lot of people have read it, ive read it too. so think of some good ones that not many have read. some examples of my faves are Looking For Alaska, and Hard Love. Just looking for some more options!Thanks a bunch.

Read these!

THE CRUCIBLE by Arthur Miller

Abigail, a nasty teenager accuses the wife of a man she's in love with of being a witch in Salem, Massachusetts during the Salem Witch Trials. Chaos breaks out.

PRIDE AND PREJUDICE by Jane Austen

The intelligent farm girl Elizabeth Bennett puts aside her prejudices to fall in love a snobby, arrogant nobleman named Darcy. Light, engrossing comedy. This was originally written for women in the early 19th Century

THE PHANTOM OF THE OPERA by Gaston Leroux

A ruined genius with a distorted face causes catatrophes at the Opera House (which he inhabits the catacombs under) while dangerously falling in love with an innocent, virginal chorus girl and turning her into an star. Very exciting, but tragic.

THE HOBBIT

The storyline is too complicated to describe. Basically, a hobbit goes beyond his comfort zone to help a band of hardy dwarves retrieve their lost gold from the vicious dragon Smaug. Read it! It's my favorite book.

THE SISTERHOOD OF THE TRAVELLING PANTS

Four girls keep their friendship alive by mailing their favorite pair of pants to each other as the travel all over the world. A delightful read about friendship.

ANNE OF GREEN GABLES by L.M. Montgomery

A story fresh from the Victorian Age that follows the life of an imaginative, redhaired 11-year-old orphan (Anne) who goes to live in Avonlea. It sounds old fashioned and stupid, but it's really fun to read!

MEMOIRS OF A GEISHA by Arthur Golden

An impoverished Japanese girl who is said to have "special talents" goes to be trained at a geisha house. She changes her name to Sayuri and blossoms into one of the greatest geishas in Japan. But she's secretly in love with an unattainable man of her childhood.

JUNO AND THE PAYCOCK by Sean O'Casey

This book is about a poor Irish family who believe they've inherited a fortune. This treasure is obscure, but you can find it at most local book shops (not Barnes and Noble or Borders)

THE IMPORTANCE OF BEING EARNEST by Oscar Wilde

A hilarious, readable play that mocks English society. Algernon is in love with his cousin Cecily. Cecily is a moronic bimbo that only loves men named Ernest, so he changes his name to Ernest. Go figure.

If you seen the phantom of the opera.. what is the song called when christine takes the mask off the phantom?

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Christine rips off the Phantom's mask twice during the show.

If you mean the part where Christine is underneath the Opera Garnier and she sees the Phantom's face for the first time and he roars in fury, it's called "Beyond the Lake."

If you mean the song at the end where they're singing a seductive song in an opers that the Phantom wrote, and he proposes to her onstage and she rips of his mask and the lynch mob is descending upon him, it's called "The Point of No Return."

I love that musical!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

well if it makes you feel better he also said that i looked really nice today and that i look better with the glasses i have than the skinny ones. that was nice wasnt it so he does care about my feelings after and he is also a wild sexy skater type guy who is hott and is not afraid to show his emmotions
so ya he is a good guy

I am going to say this for the last time. SPANKING YOUR ASS IS SEXUAL HARASSMENT. It means he just wants to get a piece of that.

Just because he says you look nice doesn't mean he cares about you. Has he ever tried to comfort you when you're upset? Has he ever done anything remotely sensitive? Has he ever asked about how you're doing? Has he ever asked whether you're ok?

So "ya hes a good guy" and calls you a ho. You're not supposed to be flattered by that. That's an INSULT for God's sake!

I'm getting sick of you. You're obviously another one of those affected, 13-year-old cretins that clutter this site. And definitely too immature for a boyfriend. Stop taking up space in my inbox that could be used for intelligent people with real problems.

but that is how much i like him and i would rather be in a relationship where the guy is not afraid to show that he thinks you are sexy and i think that it just makes me like him more . so that is just how i feel
jul;ie

Use your brain. Would you rather have a boyfriend who cares about your emotions or who just thinks you're hot?!

So all you look for in a relationship is someone who thinks you're sexy? Wow, you're really shallow. You're definitely not mature enough to have a boyfriend.

If he had just said something like "You're really sexy" but treated you with respect, that might've been a different story. But he didn't. He SLAPPED your ASS. And called you a ho. Give me a break.

He doesn't care about you at all. A guy who calls you a ho does NOT care about you. He just wants to use you and get some.

But if you're going to be an emptyheaded moron and get taken advantage of, go ahead. Nobody's stopping you.

I don't even know why I wasted so much time into answering this question. Idiots like you need to get a clue.

hi i am julie and i am 13. well there is this guy ashtyn and he is kinda hott! well today at school he sad that i always dress like a hoe but i was just wearing a mini skirt and a short shirt and he is constantly staring at my ass so today he was all like hey julie damnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn (in a good way) and said i can almost see your ass. and he is always staring at my legs and every once in awhile he spanks my ass lightly but i like it.
what do you think i should do???
do i show him that i like him
luv
julie

If you have any sense of pride, you shouldn't "like" the fact that he spanks your ass. That's called "sexual harassment" and he should be reported to the school.

"do i show him that i like him"

You seriously need to get over him. Guys who sexually harass girls are NOT COOL and make terrible boyfriends. He sounds like all he's interested in is sex. If you let him know that you like him, he's the kind of guy that would take advantage of you. Don't make a fool of yourself and let this happen.

Can you be forgiven for being gay? Is it really a sin? What if you just want to try it and see what happens are you going to be penalized for that? Can someone help me asap.. these questions are for a friend who really needs it

I'm not Christian anymore, but from what I remember, the Bible does say that being gay is a sin. I personally think that this religion is very hypocritical. All Christians I know say "God Loves All" but then you go read the Bible and it says that God doesn't like gay people and that being gay is a "sin."

So can you be forgiven for being gay? No. You can ask God to be forgiven, He couldn't really forgive you because you're living your life "sinfully."

If you just want to see what a gay experience is like, he'll probably forgive you because you're just doing it once (or twice. or three times.)

If your friend is gay, don't worry about it. You're not perfect anyway, and neither is anyone. So why try to be? You are made the way you are made. That person Shortcake22 who said that "being gay is something created by Satan" is definitely wrong. Scientific tests show that people are gay because of a certain chemical reaction in the brain while they are still fetuses.

I see that many people below said that even though someone is born gay, he can choose whether or not to indulge in gay sex acts. But why should your friend hide that he's gay? For God's sake, everyone's got the right to have a life. If your friend loves someone of the same gender, he should go for it, regardless of the beliefs of some people.

And what is God, anyway? There's no tangeable evidence that he actually exists. If he really existed and "loves all of his Children," then why are there starving children in India?! Innocent chldren who harmed nobody?! In my opinion, God is just a mythical figure who was first created by narrow-minded people who want an excuse for their prejudices. Now this is entering a very tender topic, and I don't want anyone to misunderstand me that all Christians are narrow-minded people. I know many wonderful people who are Christians, but I'm talking about the very first Christians who wrote the Bible.

Tasuki is right. You don't need to be forgiven for having red hair, an extra finger, or being gay.

I know I'm going to get a bad rating for this answer, but at least I'm trying to be honest.

i would like to know the approiate age to wear make.. can anyone tell me if so how much make up. and is it true that it ages your face and it will get ruined faster then an average person would age because of make up?

I think you should be at least 12 to actually start using real make up. But if you look older than you actually are, I think it's fine to go a little younger. I know a girl who's 11 and looks 13...she wears eyeliner all the time and she went from being a very plain-looking girl to beautiful! I think that you can be as young as 10 or 11 to wear lip gloss (NOT colored). By the time you're 13, you can wear eyeliner and mascara on a usual day. As you get older, you can start wearing foundation, lipstick and lip liner (at least 16 for lipstick), but remember that with makeup, less is more. The more makeup you put on, the more you are at risk of looking like a clown.

My problem is that I'm like head over heals(in love :-P ) in a girl in my classe and I don't know what to do, and I don't know what to do beacuse of a few reasons
*She is a really good friend of my & I'm afreid that if I tell her it could kill our friendship
*She is curentlly dating someone

please help me....
what should I do?????

Ok, here's what to do.

Do NOT try to turn her away from her boyfriend, win her over, or badmouth her boyfriend. It would make you look like an asshole, she would be very angry and so would her boyfriend. That alone could end the friendship, and you definitely don't want that.

Don't tell her that you like her while she's in a relationship. You know that it would be futile, because she most likely doesn't like you back in the same way right now.

After she and her boyfriend break up, wait a while. If you tell her too soon, then she might think that you are being insensitive to the break-up.

If some event happens that when you tell her that you like her, and she likes you back, you guys can start dating. You can do all the things that a boyfriend and girlfriend do together, but don't offically call it "dating." That way, if you guys break up, it will be less awkward and you could go back to being friends again.

Ok, this is a random question, but; is there a way to buy movies that havn't been released in American but in other countries for an extremely low price?

Go to China. You can get bootleg DVD's for as low as $5, but that is illegal and extremely disrespectful to the director, actors, and all the people who made the film.

Well recently my best freind told me that she no longer wanted to be my friend just because i wasnt pretty enough and all most everyone has to disagree with that she also told me i didnt have enough money because i could never go out to the mall movies ect.. very often cuz i never had the money. Then she wrote me a note in class today and said you dont have a good enough body to be my friend im only friends with people that weigh less than 103pounds! SO what should i do to prove to her i am a good person even though i dont have as much money to spend as she does? Should i start skipping meals to loose weight? Should i duble my gumnastics classes i mean i go once a week for 3.5 hours and its really expencive so how do i prove it to her? Please help!!!!!

Alyssa/13/f

This girl is a nasty little bitch. Money, physical appearance, or weight are definitely not factors for friendship, and anyone who thinks so should be slapped. For your health's sake, don't skip meals or double your gymnastics classes. I think it's actually HER who needs to change for YOU. Eventually, people will realize how shallow she is. Next time she says something derogatory, just say "Now, get this. You're a fucking bitch and I don't need the friendship of someone as shallow as you," or something along the lines of that.

I hope everything turns out well for you, hun. And dump that girl.

I am in so much pain!!! This is my first period and I have been crying since about 8 this morning. I tried tylnol motron a heating pad a warm shower nothing works!! pleasew please please send advice i am in so much pain!

There are various reasons why the pills don't work. You know, Motrin/Tylenol/Ibuprofen/whatever doesn't work unless you've eaten something. It also doesn't work if you don't drink a huge glass of water with it. It takes a lot of water to dissolve the pill in your stomach.

Here's what I always do. Whenever cramps become unbearable, I always boil a cup of hot water with brown sugar or ginger. The brown sugar/ginger helps the blood circulate better. Then, I drink it with two pills of Motrin, lie in bed under an electric blanket, and just wait. It works! Try it. And next time, take TWO pills. One might not be enough.

Feel better!

kay, this is kinda a weird question, but how do you pronounce the band Atreyu? I absolutely ADORE them but don't want to talk aobut them and sound like a moron.

thnx to anyone who actually helps. =]

It's pronounced like this: Uh-TRAY-you.

well im 15/f and i think i want to go to a away from home (boarding)school next year. i have many reasons for this one being i just dont really like to be at my house anymore (family issues) another being i dont really like my school&most of the people. i am friends with alot of people but i just want to get out of here, well for a while anyway.

i have to ask how can i apporach my mother or father about this?

if i didnt like it at any point would i be able to return to my school? or do parents pay at the beginning?

are they eally strict? like are there really early curfews and stuff?

I'm really sorry, but you're talking to the wrong person. I don't know a lot about boarding schools, but I will try to help anyway.

If you really want to go to boarding school, tell your parents about "another being i dont really like my school&most of the people. i am friends with alot of people but i just want to get out of here, well for a while anyway."

Are they really strict? Probably. Since the students live at the school, they'd have to set tighter rules because they need some kind of order. They can't let kids run wild. Depending on the boarding school, some will be tighter or looser, but the following are universal rules:

They will have to control exactly what time you go to bed.

There will be almost always be someone doing a nightly midnight check to make sure nobody's sneakin' off to the opposite sex's dorm room to do..."naughty" things.

There will be a room check every week to make sure that your room isn't a mess.

Are there really early curfews? I'm assuming yes. Since most schools begin at around 8:30-9:00, the school would probably have you get up at around 6:00-7:00 so you can get dressed, brush your teeth, eat breakfast, etc.

I'm sorry if this wasn't helpful to you.

what does dyke mean? because on mean girls in the burn book they said janice was a dyke? whats that?.... rate high for good answers!

It's a very rude term for lesbian. Don't ever say it.

does anyone know where i can get the acrylic stuff and all the supplies they use at like profession nail places. i love getting my nails done but i hate playing $30 a set and i know how to do it and would like to be able to find a kit and do it myself!

please dont tell me to google it because ive tried but i dont know what to trust and what is real or whatever and what isnt!

They only sell that stuff to professional, licensed manicurists. However, you can use NutraNail, which is available at any drugstore. It's not as strong as the acrylic. The texture is more like the syrupy stuff they put over the acrylic to make it shiny. It's in between a solid and a liquid. Way stronger than nail polish, but not hard enough to be a shell. But I find that the NutraNail stuff keeps your nails nice and strong in tiptop substatial state. And it looks really good, too!

Me and m boyfriend have been going out for a year and a half now, we spend most of our time with eachother. I can say I love him and he loves me too, but he is such a liar. He doesnt lie about big things(at least I think he doesnt)But I know him pretty well and always catch him lieing about the little things. Even if he has no reason to lie he just does. I hate it, also when I catch him in a lie he gets really mad and gives me an attitude as if I did something wrong.Why does he do this and what should I do?

There are an array of reasons he could be lying.

Reason #1

Since you haven't given me any specific details, it could be that he's just exaggerating and doesn't take the time to think about specifically what he did. This is probably the case if his lies typically have a grain of truth in them. For example:

YOU: *insert name here*, why didn't you practice your piano?
HIM: I did practice the piano! What are you talking about?!
YOU: I was at the neighbor's house, and I didn't hear anything. Tell me truth. If you practiced, how long did you practice?
HIM: Two minutes

In this case, he's just a little scatterbrained and this is just his nature and you shouldn't worry about it.

Reason #2

It also could be that even though you've been dating him for a year and a half, he still doesn't fully trust you, like he doesn't like the idea of you knowing information about him. Though generally most people trust their girlfriend (I'm assuming you're a girl) after so long, there are always people who are different like that. Another example:

HIM: Hey, I'm going to go eat lunch with Billy today. Is that ok with you?
YOU: Sure, go ahead. (10 minutes later, you look up and see him sitting with Larry)

Reason #3

I find this the most common reason why people lie. Here's a typical situation:

YOU: Hey, *insert name here*! Did you take out the trash?
HIM: Well yeah, I took out the trash.

Even though taking out the trash isn't a really big deal, he subconsciously (or consciously; usually subconsciously)doesn't want to disappoint you when he hasn't taken out the trash. Or, he subconsciously feels lazy because he hasn't taken this responsibility at hand. I know that sounds weird, but it's very true. So therefore, he lies so he feels like his conscience is clear with you, even though it isn't. When you catch him in a lie, he gets mad because he thinks you're just trying to give him a hard time.

Here's what you should do. Give him a talk about it when he's in a good mood. Because I don't know the details, I'm not going to come up with something to say for you, but if you want me to, send me another letter in my inbox giving me specific details about him, etc.

I hope this fills in the cracks! Best of luck!

If a white person called a black person a "nigga" on the computer, is this some sort of discrimination, could that person get in any kind of trouble or anything like that?
Thank you.

In case you didn't know, "nigger" is probably the worst name you can call someone. It's extreme discrimination---horrific beyond words.

Can someone get in trouble? It depends on the site. On most places, you can report the person and they'll get banned. You definitely can on Advicenators.

Legally, no, you couldn't get in trouble. But if a policeman hears you talking like that, he'll pull over and give you a talk (Mind you, don't think I know this because I called someone a n*****. I saw someone do that a few weeks ago). However, that isn't an excuse to use awful words like that.

my friend didnt know how to make out n like use her tongue n stuff......so she like did it with her dog i guess

is it just me or is that a lil weird?

she told me she did it tho so she wouldnt look stupid when she does it with a guy fer the 1st time

Oh my god. That's not just weird. It's just plain GROSS.

Dogs lick their assholes and genitals. If she French kisses her dog, she might as well eat dog shit. If you're a halfway decent friend, you'd tell her next boyfriend to get his tongue out of her mouth in a matchbox

how do you apply eyeliner (black) on the lower eyelid. like not overdoing it, but you know sexy enough. haha jk. but you know what i mean -- also what kind of eyeliner is best? thanks in advance

Pull your cheek down. There will be a flesh-colored barrier between your lower eyelash and the red part. Color in that part with the eyeliner.

My personal favorite eyeliner is Revlon. It stays on longer and glides on smoothly. Maybelline smears and falls all over your cheeks in a few hours. Don't use it.

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