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Liar
Me and m boyfriend have been going out for a year and a half now, we spend most of our time with eachother. I can say I love him and he loves me too, but he is such a liar. He doesnt lie about big things(at least I think he doesnt)But I know him pretty well and always catch him lieing about the little things. Even if he has no reason to lie he just does. I hate it, also when I catch him in a lie he gets really mad and gives me an attitude as if I did something wrong.Why does he do this and what should I do?
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There are an array of reasons he could be lying.
Reason #1
Since you haven't given me any specific details, it could be that he's just exaggerating and doesn't take the time to think about specifically what he did. This is probably the case if his lies typically have a grain of truth in them. For example:
YOU: *insert name here*, why didn't you practice your piano?
HIM: I did practice the piano! What are you talking about?!
YOU: I was at the neighbor's house, and I didn't hear anything. Tell me truth. If you practiced, how long did you practice?
HIM: Two minutes
In this case, he's just a little scatterbrained and this is just his nature and you shouldn't worry about it.
Reason #2
It also could be that even though you've been dating him for a year and a half, he still doesn't fully trust you, like he doesn't like the idea of you knowing information about him. Though generally most people trust their girlfriend (I'm assuming you're a girl) after so long, there are always people who are different like that. Another example:
HIM: Hey, I'm going to go eat lunch with Billy today. Is that ok with you?
YOU: Sure, go ahead. (10 minutes later, you look up and see him sitting with Larry)
Reason #3
I find this the most common reason why people lie. Here's a typical situation:
YOU: Hey, *insert name here*! Did you take out the trash?
HIM: Well yeah, I took out the trash.
Even though taking out the trash isn't a really big deal, he subconsciously (or consciously; usually subconsciously)doesn't want to disappoint you when he hasn't taken out the trash. Or, he subconsciously feels lazy because he hasn't taken this responsibility at hand. I know that sounds weird, but it's very true. So therefore, he lies so he feels like his conscience is clear with you, even though it isn't. When you catch him in a lie, he gets mad because he thinks you're just trying to give him a hard time.
Here's what you should do. Give him a talk about it when he's in a good mood. Because I don't know the details, I'm not going to come up with something to say for you, but if you want me to, send me another letter in my inbox giving me specific details about him, etc.
I hope this fills in the cracks! Best of luck!
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