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Hi There! I'm Nicole, and I'm 23 years old. People tell me I give good advice, I would like to hope so. I can try to help you with anything, so please leave some question in my inbox and I will answer them A.S.A.P. but I must let you know that I don't sugar coat my answers, and I give you my 100% honest opinion. ♥
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Can anyone tell me where I could get those Easton 'Unbreakable' Drum Sticks and prices for them? Thank you! (link)
this wont be a very good answer, so i apologize in advance.
easton "unbreakble" drum sticks... AKA Ahead Drumsticks?
I think it may depend on your location, i think you should go to a close music store, see if they have any, and if not, ask if they know where you can get some.
You could probably order them online as well.
but i have heard, that they do break, and last about a year, but most people i have talked too found that wood sticks are lighter and more balanced, and have a better rebound because they don't have a shock absorber preventing it.
good luck.


sorry its long but if you try oll give a 5.. ok look i have this niebor and i go to his skool and hes 13 and i am to but he has 2 older brothers who realy like me and i think their hot to but im dating thier younger brother one is 16 and the other is 18 and i think his brothers want him to date me cuase i go to his hpouse a lot. i went yesterday to play ball and wen i like shot the ball jacob whos 16 would always like push me forward with his dik wen my bak is torward him and he does it a lot and his other brother jery whos 18 does the same too.. so i think they like me but the one im dating dont cuase i think thier just makming him to so i can come up.. wat do ya think (link)
well, when you play basketball you sort of crowd the person with the ball. in some positions they are gonna be sort of bending on you, and it will look like the "doggy-style" position...thats just how it is. and guys have dicks, if they are trying to get the ball from you by bending over and trying to push it down from over your shoulder that "position" will happen, and you will most likely feel them..
i honestly dont think they like you.


I don't know exactly is going on. I'm definatly overwhelmed.
First of all, I'm (female) 16.. he's 15. We've been going out for almost a month and a half. When we first started going out, it was kind of rocky. I felt neglected, but he did change after a week of dating. Then when it seemed like things were seriously turning around.. he gets kicked out of his house. Now he lives across the state. His phone got turned off and I haven't seen him since he moved unannounced.
So I can't see, hear, or touch him. So I'm basically going out with thin air, and I'm MISERABLE. Sure we IM eachother just about every day.. but that is pathetic. He is worth my time, but I don't know if I can manage dating someone who is slowly becoming a stranger to me. He like me a lot more than I like him.. and the move devastated him.
I'm not sure how he'll take it if I do break up with him. If I do break up with him.. it will be to his face. I have enough respect for him to do that to his face. He might be around town this weekend. =|
I do like him, he likes me back. He treats me well, and sometimes it seems like we're made for eachother. He MIGHT move back, but I don't know. I hate this so much!
I guess my question is, should I end it.. or stick it out? (link)
tell him exactly what you wrote to us.
"[listen, i like you but]I can't see, hear, or touch [you]. So [it's like] I'm basically going out with thin air, and I'm MISERABLE. Sure we IM eachother just about every day.. but that is pathetic. [you are] worth my time, but I don't know if I can manage dating someone who is slowly becoming a stranger to me."
by his response, he will be able to help you make your dession.
im sure this isnt quite the answer you were looking for, but IMO, if the feelings are mutual, and *if you think things can get better*, stick it out..but if there is an understanding, maybe you can have "a deal" that if he moves back and the feelings are still there, you can give it another shot.


do you think im a nerd b/c im on the middle school orchestra? be honest...i wont get mad if you say yes...im just curious (link)
honest opinion...


no, i dont think you are at all. i think that you are musically inclined. =]...lucky!


ok so i know this guy, and we dated for like 9 months. he was my first true love and i really was in love with him. but the timing was never right with us. it started out i was obsessed with him and he just "liked me".. then he became obsessed with me the less i liked him.. it ended when i completely lost all feelings toward him and treated him pretty bad. then i started treating him decent again, and he still liked me, but the feelings just werent there for me. he told me he needed to take time away from me and stop talking to me and hanging out with me b/c it was hard 4 him cuz he still liked him. now, he has another g/f.. thats just like how me and him were. now im starting to feel like i like him again..but i cant tell if its b/c hes the only guy i've REALLY ever cared about, and theres no one else, or if i actually do like HIM again... is it jealously and pain...or do i actually REALLY like HIM? i cant tell.. i need help please.. (link)
Well, you may like him, but you are the only one who knows if you really like him, i can just help you try and sort your feelings out.
it sounds like you only want him because now you cant have him. that happens A LOT with people, when the feelings arent there.
and you may possibly be jealous, because the guy who liked you, likes someone else, and you miss that kind of attention and knowledge (i hope this doesnt sound "mean", i didnt mean it too if it does)
i think, by your question, this is what it probably is, if you still have the feelings after they break up, then im wrong, and you do like him. lol. but i honestly think its just a jealousy, wanting what you cant have type of thing.

hope i helped you out a little.


Hey I'm a guy and was just wondering...should age matter in a relationship? What's your point of view on this one, like does it matter if both are close in age or far apart...by far I mean less than 5 years or so. Thanks in advance, will rate. (link)
i dont think age should matter at all as long as the feelings are there.
i think society looks down upon some, (demi and ashton for one) but i dont think it matters at all.


OK,
So next year I'll be trying out for High School and I play all positon's including goalie. And to be on the High School team and to go farther in life playing soccer I really need to find a position and work on it really hard. I just can't choose. Foward I love but I don't really have good endurance but I have speed and a hard kick. Midfield I'll always be moving and usually touching the ball but once again i don't really have the endurance for it. Defence I love too there's nothing really anything bad I can say about that. Then goalie I love to be goalie espically when I save the ball and everyone cheers (lol duh) but then i hate it because feel like I let my whole team down. Well i just can't decied what position to play and work on. What position would the High School probably need?

Thanks, sorry for the length (link)
Tell the coach you are ale to play all positions if need be. Chances are, if he/she thinks you'd be a great addition to the team, he will put in one spot, and maybe move you around.
You said "i love" to forward, and goalie..so lets knock out midfield.
and since you dont like the feeling of letting your team down, id say forward should be your main goal (haha no pun intended)
Until try-outs, work on building your endurance, do you belong to a gym? would you be allowed to join one? if so tell a trainor that you are working on building endurance, and ask what machines would be best. if not, i suggest (hope you can follow this) walk for some distance, then jog for that same distance, then walk, then jog, then walk, then run, then be done. lol.(i suppose you could do that in one spot if you think about it)
well, im not a gym teacher or health teacher or anyone, but i think that can help endurance.


Whats that one song called by death cab for cutie?? It goes like this: I want to live where soul meets body And let the sun rap its arms around me.

asap
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soul meets body


is sex a verb or a noun? (link)
both depending on how you use it =]
sex can mean girl/boy..the noun
and sex can mean..well, sex. haha which would be the verb


I am a 19 year old female who has dated a lot of immature 18-21 year olds. I joined an online dating site recently, just because I thought it would be fun. Well, now I seem to be drawing myself towards older men, such as 30 year olds. I suppose it's because of their maturity level, financial stability, and experience.

Would this be socially acceptable for me to have a relationship with a 30 year old, or a bit taboo? How would others perceive us? What should I consider before dating an older man? What sort of problems may we encounter in our relationship? Any thoughts would be appreciated. (link)
Well, *i* dont think age is, or should be, a factor in a relationship, especially if the feelings are mutual.
honestly, people may look down upon it, but why should that matter if you too really like eachother?
in any relationship, you should keep yourself safe, and dont do anything you want to. im not an older man, (lol) so i dont know how they act, but they may be more sexual than you, or more ready for committment, just wait until you are ready.
you will always encounter problems in relationships, and i think in way the problems in your relationship would be pretty equivalent to one with a younger guy.


I`m a straight A student. Last week I grabbed the wrong composition notebook so I wasn`t able to turn in my weekly D.O.G Work. My teacher refused to take it when I turned it in late for half credit. I told her today I admit I made a mistake and asked if there was anything I could do. ( my grade was a 96 but since I didn`t turn it down it went to a 71%) She yelled at me, Told me she wouldn`t grade any crap that I would do to get extra credit, laughed in my face, and completly insulted me ( and made me cry ; I don`t cry easily ) in front of the whole class. Now getting a C wouldn`t upset me, however if I don`t get 98 or above on ALL my papers/projects/tests from now on that grade could easily fall to an F and I would be kicked off of the cheerleading squad and lose my Captain position. What do I do ? I Have no hope of getting any sorta extra credit ; progress reports come out on this coming Monday and my coach always does grade checks.
PLEASE HELP ME. (link)
you need to report your teacher, have one of your parents/guardians call school and have them talk to the principle.
there is no reason for a teacher to react this way, at all.


hope things get better-*


Yo nicole. Its C man again. I put up a new pic on my collumn. The girl{I admire} next to me is named Sarah. Shes beautiful, eh. Not as beautiful as you though. I saw that your B-day is on the 25th. I will try to remember to tell you happy b-day. If I forget, happy B-day on the 25th :]♥♥♥♥♥ (link)
aw cute ♥

lol, thanks


i am totally in love with my ex. He broke up with me about a month ago because he said he didn't have time for a relationship and that i deserved someone that could put more time into it and spend more time with me. well it's been a month since our breakup and i'm still in love with him and can't get him off my mind. i really want to get him back and talk to him about it but i don't know how to get him back or start out the conversation about it. anybody got any ideas that could help me? (link)
why be one to beat around the bush?
just come out and tell him that you miss him and you want to be with him.
if you cant do that, when you talk to him just talk like you are normal friends, then after a little while of talking tell him then.
or..if you cant do that
have a friend ask him about you, see what he still feels, unless you already know.
i think you should just come out and tell him though.
"hey, listen, i know we are broken up, but i miss you, and i still want to be with you" ect.
he might feel the same way, but is too afraid to let you know...-*


go get him. =P ♥


Hi everyone!

I feel terrible. Allow me to explain. I'm Todd, and I'm 15. A friend of mine (female) was cutting herself and that she was really depressed. I went to the counselor at my school to make sure that she didn't do anything hurtful (like suicide).

When she came back the next day after I told the counselor, I found out that she was on a new anti-depressant: Zoloft.

On Friday, I found out that the principal called her down and said that she wouldn't be allowed back in school unless she had a note from her psychiatrist. She told me she might be out for a while. :-(

Some of my friends said I shouldn't tell the counselor (on the day before I told the counselor), but my parents and several people said that I should. I was pretty nervous, and I didn't want her to commit suicide or do anything terrible.

I feel terrible, like I made her go away. ;-( She's not sure when she'll be back, but I feel like I committed a crime or killed someone. :-(

I'm also afraid of what my friends might say when I go back to school tomorrow. Most of all, I feel terrible since I won't see her, and I don't know how long I won't see her either. :-(

Any comments, advice, please feel free to say so.

Thanks,
Todd (link)
Todd,
dont feel bad. you did the right thing. if you didnt tell someone, then they couldnt have gotten your friend the help she needs, and she wouldnt have gotten better. You'll see her again, i wont lie, it may be sometime, but at least you know she is getting better.
as for your friends, it shouldnt matte what they say. Them not saying something makes them look like someone who doesnt care, cause if they did care, they would have told someone too.
But don't worry, things will be fine in the end, and if it isnt fine, it isnt the end.

you did the right thing kid ♥


Do you know where i can find some neat 3D backgrounds that i can right click, select properties and copy the url instead of highliting text from a box or downloading.
I tried peachie.nu but it isnt what im looking for. (link)
honestly, i dont.
but google has some cool ones if u type in 3d bakgrounds
u should be able to get the url from there by right clicking
if not save it as a normal pic and get a host, like www.tinypic.com and use the url they give you.


Its C man. I checked out your myspace page. I added it to my favorites {websites that is} (link)
aw. thanks
(-*feels special*-)


Hey Nicole! Do you have any ideas on where I could have my 14'th birthday?

I was thinking about Lazor tag, but that's in Illinois and I live in Missouri.

Anyways, I can't have a house party, too cold to do anything outside. I just want somewhere fun and I was thinking of just having like 5-6 people.

Thanks!! ♥ ♥ (link)
is there a skating rink by you? (skate or ice skate)
then after maybe have a sleep over and watch movies?
i know you said not a house party, but this is a sleep party =P lol
thats what i did for my 14th.


okay well i used to be best friends with this one girl for like ever. and then we stopped talking for a little bit because we were both really busy and she got all mad and said that i was mad at her and she could never trust me again. that was a few months ago and were still not friends. well i was wondering if i should write her (she blocked me and she lives in another state so i cant call her). because i am just wondering if shes okay and maybe we can patch this thing up. should i even bother?

*i rate 5's* (link)
were you mad at her? if so, apologize. if not, just explain what was going on.
i think it would be a good idea to patch things up with her, and see how she is doing.


Does anybody know a website of a place that sells cute women's vintage-style sweater vests? Any help is appreciated.
Thanks (link)
sorry this isnt much help, but i found this site
http://search.urbanoutfitters.com/exec/?cartpost=0&query=vest&t1=Women's&u1=query&u2=t1&cm_mmc=Google-_-womens_apparel-_-vests-_-women's_sweater_vests



Does anyone here have the DVD X COPY Platinum? The DVD-burning program? Well, I was burning a DVD on my computer, and after it got done reading the movie, it said "insert blank disc." So I did, and the START button was still grayed out. I don't understand! Was I supposed to insert it into the Compact Disc Drive on my computer, or the burner? I tried both and the START button was still grayed out. What should I do? Oh, and I know the program isn't messed up. Please only answer this question if you've used the DVD X COPY Platinum. Please do NOT answer this question if you are only going to say "I haven't used this program, maybe you..." I repeat! IF YOU HAVE NEVER USED THIS PROGRAM, THIS QUESTION IS NOT FOR YOU!!!

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i know you don't want people answering if they have never used it. but i also see that you havent gotten any answers to your question.
so i am sorry for answering.
but, is there a number for the manufacturing company of this program? Even if there is no problem with the program, the creators of it probably no more, and can help you better than some people here.




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