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Q: I know you don't want to listen to me whine but really, I have noone to talk to. My boyfriend just dumped me in the rudest way. He made up this horrible excuse that his parents were mad at him and he wasn't allowed to have a girlfriend. He never even told me he was breaking up. Right after that, he put his away message up that said "Oh the phone with the hottest girl ever-Shea!" (Shea is a slut and really easy by the way) Then I imed him to tell him how much he hurt me. And he said, "Yeah whatever, like you would know what pain was. Who cares about you."

I can't stop crying. Is there something wrong with me? He blocked me so anyone who wants his screenname, its: pyroboy9977.

I can't believe this. :(

Hey hun IM me Id love to talk to you and try and make you feel better my sn is b00tiiEfuLlx0
Love maddie
_p.S im sorry

OUh and also when or if you IM me tell meh if i can yell at him =p

Q: okay i really like this guy and i have for 2 yrz! the thing is hes 2 yrz older than i am...i kno i kno its a bigg diff...but i still like him...sometimes i see him looking atme and smiles and ugh! i want him to like me but the thing is tat theppl he hangs out with i HATE! and like then theres no way to talk to him...i have his sn but idk wat to say i mean its hard and confusing! so please help idk wat to do!

Hey. I went out with a guy and he is 2 years older then meh also and i ABSOLUTLY hated the people he hung out with cause they would hit on meh and make rude sex jokes about meh and I just hated it! But I liked him and thats all that matterd. When I was around his friends I would just stay as close to him as I could and just stay away from his friends. About the hole Sn thing and not knowing what to say if youd like I could try to help you. My sn is b00tiiEfuLlx0 feel free to IM me if youd like.
_good like sweety
Love maddie

Q: Well yesterday was my brothers birthday but he died about half a year ago.I'm really sad cause he would of been 22 years old. I noticed that my dad is sad about it and I'm also feeling the same but a bit confused I'm not sure wut to think or feel. I want to do something special to give him the message he's still alive in my heart though I'm not sure what to do.I can't goto where he was buried cause he was buried in Florida and I live in Texas. it's a long story but yea... any idea's would be highly appreciated thanks in advance.
-my prayers goto all who need them-

This may not be the best advice but when I lost someone I loved very deerly I was morning and havin a very hard time. My teacher told me to write a letter saying everything i wanted and then take it outside and burn it. The ashes and smoke will fly up to heaven and cary everything you wrote and feel. I did that and I felt alot better. Even though you will still cry and still miss them dearly doing this helped me a bit.
-hope i helped
love maddie

Q: Ok so I Am only 13 but could I be in love do you think you cAn truley be in love at 13? or do think it is just puppy love? I rAte 5's
~MD_GIRL101~

Have you ever heard anyone tell you.. Age doesnt matter? Like when you are going out with someone if they are older then you some people will tell you "age doesnt matter" well I think that it is the same with feeling you love someone.. age really doesnt matter.. Sometimes though younger people do not know what real LOVE is.. they think they LOVE someone but they just like them so so so so much.. Maybe you can fall inlove more then one time.. so my answer to your question is yes.. You could really be in love

Q: 14/f -- my friends in I call ourselfs "the crew". Mainly, it's me & my boyfriend, his best friend & his girlfriend [my best friend], and occasionally a few others. We all have open relationships were we tell each other everything. Except we don't tell our b/f&g/fs everything so we kinda share secrets and give advice and such. The other day my bf's best friend [he just happens to be my ex] told me that he still has feelings for me and thinks about me more than his girl. now, he keeps talking to me about this and trying to get me to cheat on my boyfriend with him.. i'm not gonna, but what should i say to him to make him back off??

I know this is going to be what probly everyone else will tell you but.. tell him something like "I know we hadd something at some point but I am with (bfs name) now and I really really love / like (w.e is the trueth) him.. and I dont think I will break up with him any time soon..

sorry i dont have any better advice..

good luck

love maddie

Q: ok well here is the deal im 13/f and i really want the top of my ear pirced and i offered my mom to tell her id pay for it but she is still saying no anyone got any ideas like what i could tell her to convince to let me get one please help any info about this just help

Well I wish I new exactly what to tell you.. but I dont so here is the best I got..

Sometime maybe when you are in the car alone with your mom or something.. just be like mom I would really like to get the top of my ear peirced. Its not like im asking to get a swear tattood on my boddy or like im asking to get my nipple peirced or anything.. IM just asking to get the top of my ear peirced!

thats what i said to my mom and it worked..
I hope i helped some
love maddie

Q: ok well there's this guy in my neighborhood and i'm new here (well not really cuz i lived here for 3 years) but anyways... i think i have a crush on him and stuff but hes always around his friends and i met him like 3 years ago and we don't really talk and he's one year older than me.I'm really shy.... what should i do to get him to notice me???

Well If he lives on your street maybe if sometime he is out shootin hoops or doin some kinda sport by himself go out and be like can I play *giggle* ... and if your not very good then say that.. Be like Im not very good haha..

Then maybe he will notice you a little more and you guys can hang out more!

hope i Helped a little

love maddie

Q: hi my name is jess im 13 and there is this kid who stalks me. He callc be 10 times or even somtimes he wont give up until i pick up. Then when i go into the grove (which is a place everyone hangs out) he follows me around and it scares me. What can i do to get him away from me?
Plz Help Me!!!!!

This may not be alot of help! but I think maybe you should get a bf.. or atleast "get with" as in be together with another guy.. then you can be like please leave me alone im with someone! lol..

Thats all I can think of.. Sorry i couldnt help more

good luck
love
maddie

Q: Well I saw this guy and he is like really hott and my friend just took me to the movies with him!She kept on saying like he would talk to me and start a convo but we talked just little! How do I ghet to know him better cauz we will make the cutest couple and I love to flirt with him!! I NEED HIM!! PLEASE HELP!!!

Do you have any messaging system like AIM or something that he has? if so get his user name.. If you already have it then just start talking and be really flirty.. and then sometime just be like hey im bored wana do something? Thats what I do :) its really actualy easy...

Im sorry if this wasnt the advice you were looking for but I hope i helped

love always and good luck
maddie

Q: this guy i recently broke up with wont leave me alone. he is making me feel really bad for him like saying without me he feels like there is no point to living. also he is constantly asking me out but i keep saying no. why wont this guy give up. someone please help me get this boy to leave me alone!!!

well I will try to my best ability to help..

A) get a new boyfriend..

B) tell him that You just want to be friends.. Your feelings kinda wore off and its hard for you to be friends with him when he wont let go and just relax...

C) try settin him up with one of yours friends

I hope I helped some

Love always Maddie

Q: at my school theres some people that think im hot but they are more like the losers and the popular people ignore me and tell me im ugly.. why is this? but people outside my school think im pretty good looking ..why do people do this

Well for some reason people are gay like that. They judge you based on your reputation that you are some how labled with.. and until you go to a different school the people will think that of you. I have the same problem fortunitly I am going into highschool next year. So if you arent in highschool yet. things will get better then because hundreds of people that dont know you will go there.. and they wont have a lable to judge you by. so just try to make friends out of your school. good luck.

maddie

Q: ok this guy ive knowen for 2 years and were really good friedns like well talk about anything but i think im starting to like him and hes starting to like me to should i just keep flirting with him they way i have been like as friends or should i try to take it up a level
thanx

Hmm.. Well if you think you are starting to like him and that he may posibly be starting to like you then this is what i suggest you do..

I think that you should try to take it up a noch.. Like if sometime you guys hang out.. maybe when you guys are walking.. if your walking next to him.. and you start to laugh.. just get closer.. like infront of him but next to him.. so that your back is sorta touching his chest.. just party though dont go fully infront of him.. do you get what I mean? that just see if he ever does anything.. just see what happens...

I hope I helped..
_maddie

Q: this guy told me he could see me as a potential girlfriend... well how long do you think it would take him to ask me out.. and what could i do to make him like me more, so he would ask me out sooner?? please help

Well Im not sure if this is the answer you are looking for but here is what I would do..

I would say "remember when you said you could see me as a potention girlfriend.. well does that mean maybe youd like to go out with me?" and most likely he is going to say yes.. then i think you should say "do you wana try and see what happens?" thats what i would do if a guy said that to me

I hope I helped a little

xo Maddie

Q: I am a 11 year old female and my boyfriend is a 15 year old male. I want to have sex. Should I?

Well you are really young.. but if you really feel like you love your boyfriend. I guess the only advice I can give you is to use protection. Also if you have just started going out with your boyfriend I think you should wait a while. Because if you just started going out.. then im afraid he might be using you. but i dont know him so i dont want to judge him.

Bust of luck
_maddie

Q: Ok well me and my best friend both like the same guy!!and like its big time like,so u cant stop liking him.hehe confusing i know.and so like he was saying he wants to "do stuff" with me then he turns around nd says he wants to "do stuff" with her adn tells her not to tell me because he doesnt want to ake me mad.and like we just want him to pick one of us because its getting like jealousy.but if he picks one of us then one of us will get jealous but we want him to soo like hehe whta do we do??????thanks soo much and ya i know its a little confusing! 14/f

p.s. i really really like him!

Ok.. Im going to try the best to help that I can..

I am going through a smilar problem. My friend has liked the guy i like for a long time.. she has liked him for 3 years and i have liked him for 2.. but with my problem he doesnt wana do stuff with her but he would with me.. and if i went out with him my friend would be mad at me..

well What you have to try and think.. and i suggest you tell your friend this to is.. that no matter who he is with.. if the girl he is with likes him half as much as you do.. then you should try to be happy that they are together.. cause you know if you were with him that you would be really happy.

what I think you should do though is ask him.. do you like either me or (friends name) or do you just want stuff from us.. it might be hard.. but maybe ask online insted of in person.. and just try to find out if maybe he would ever give you a chance.. then if he says yes.. be like ouh alright.. or something dont try to push.. if he says maybe just.. smile or something..

I know this things are hard cause I am having a problem with it right now too.. it seems you can always give other peple advice but never yourself..

I hope I helped atleast a little..
goodluck
-maddie

Q: ok to set the pic i am 13/f and he is 16/m. ok so on to my problem: this kid, lets call him john. well anyways i really like john, but he doesnt like mein that way. he used to be my bros bff, but now we pretty close. wheni was younger i used to like him, and he liked me, but we were too young. well anyways the thing is, i asked him is he liked me nad he was like no,i like this other girl in my grade and i am gonna ask her out. i said oh ok. they just broke up today, and idk if i shopuld tell him how i feel. like i dont want our friendship to change but i really want tolet him know. please help i need to know what to do. also should i ask him how he sees me, i havent seen him in like a month but we always talk on im. so please help

signed,
confused about *him*

Alright first of I would like to start with AGE in this case does not matter.. what that girl said is totaly off.. yes if you were dating a 8 year old it would be odd.. but I was 13 and went out with a 16 year old.. If he was 18 i would say think again but he isnt! so dont listen to her.. im not trying to be rude.. but dont listen to her..

secondly i think you should wait a few days.. then be honest and be like.. "john" i have had a crush on you for a while.. but You had a girlfriend and I wanted to respect that.. so I just wanted to tell you.. and wonder if you could ever feel that way.. but its cool if you just wana be friends.. thats ok to..

You dont have to say exactly that but the point is you want to be honest but let him still have the option of being friends.. so that way.. if it doesnt work out right now.. you uys can be friends and maybe have it happen in the future.

I hope I helped a little bit atleast
-maddie

Q: So thers this guy I like and I only get to see him when I go camping. Well Last year he didn't come bck and said he was sorry he couldn't come see me and thsi weekend he danced with me (slow danced) and was all close and singing into my ear and he rode the 4 wheeler with me and was holding onto my legs. But he also danced with my mom like that. Does he like me or what? I rate high

well first off I have to say.. awwwww that is so sweet and romantic.. From the information you have given me I would totaly say he is falling for you.. I have slow danced with guys and none of them have sang in my ear! thats just romantic.. and when guys hold onto your legs it is a true sign.

-maddie

Q: Alright I'm a 15 year old that wants to loose weight. i'm not excatly tiny but not excalty like obese(sp?) but want to be normal for my height. i have a problem with staying on task with the diet and would like some ideas on how i can stay with the diet. i will just end up eating a lot again...pleae help!

Ok well here is my idea.. Im not sure If youll like it but im going to give it a shot..

Im on a diet right now.. well a semii diet. me and my friends came up with the rules

rules--

1)only eat when you can really feel your tummy rumbling.

2) eat atleast one fruit and one feggi a day.

3) try having atleast 2 servings of dairy a day..

4) drink a glass of water before you go to bed.

and 5) do atleast 50 crunches and 10 push ups a night.

I hope I helped..

-maddie

Q: ok so im going out with guy now and like every time im with him and his friends i can never talk to him cus im really nervous i might say something really lame and his friends will laugh at me. when he is about ot leave im to scared to hug him goodbye . i dont want him to think i dont like him so how do i talk to him without being scared? please help fast! i rate good!

Hi..

I was the same way when I had my Real first boyfriend.. I would be really quiet and the only way I would give him a kiss good by was when he said.. Then one time I was leaving I just asked.. do you want a kiss goodbye.. In your case I think maybe you should try to do the same and be like. "Do you want a hug goodbye?" and just act really inocent ;-) thats the way to do it.

And about the Talking part. Just start talking when him and his friends are having a conersation.. but think before you say anything to make sure they wont think its stupid.. but if they do laugh.. thats ok.. cause they think its funny!

Hope i helped
-maddie

Q: So, last summer I really liked this guy. We hung out a few times, but nothing happened.

Then during this year I kinda stopped liking him.

Recently, my friend told me she found out he liked me now. I'm pretty sure that I believe her since he does seem to like me (he asked me to hang out a few times..he talks to me online a lot, etc.) Today I hung out with him and my other friend and my friend said she could definitely tell that he likes me.

I'm really not sure if I like him or not, and I don't know what to do. He's kinda shy so I don't think he will ask me out or anything, but I kinda want him to, so does that mean I like him? I really don't know what to do... I don't want to send mixed messages.

btw i'm 17/f and he's 17/m

Well I may be younger then you.. But here is what I think..

If you kind of want him to ask you out.. I would say you do like him a little but you might be self conciously afraid if it will work out ect. I bet if you guys hung out more he wouldnt be so shy. And if in the end.. you end up liking him but he still is shy and doesnt ask you out.. i say you ask.. would you ever concider going out with me?.. Thats just my thoughts..

well goodlucky

-love maddie

bio

I'm 17 years old and in the few years i've lived upon this earth I have been throug many and most things that are possible to happen. I wish to ilve my life helping others, this truly brings me happiness. Feel free to ask whatever you wish and ill do my best to satisfy yu with a decent answer.