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Best friends and boyfriends
Ok well me and my best friend both like the same guy!!and like its big time like,so u cant stop liking him.hehe confusing i know.and so like he was saying he wants to "do stuff" with me then he turns around nd says he wants to "do stuff" with her adn tells her not to tell me because he doesnt want to ake me mad.and like we just want him to pick one of us because its getting like jealousy.but if he picks one of us then one of us will get jealous but we want him to soo like hehe whta do we do??????thanks soo much and ya i know its a little confusing! 14/f
p.s. i really really like him!
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This exact same thing happened to me! We just waited a few days and when we were together called him on the phone. Then he always wanted to talk to one of us (me) and asked me out not long after. Of course I had to make sure it was ok with my friend before i said yes. Try waiting it out a little and try calling him a few times on the phone (when your together with your friend)
Hey, it worked for me! haha
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hm, I think maybe you need to learn that guys are not worth it, NO GUY, I mean seriously. You can like a guy, ALOT, I know what that's like, but he shouldn't rule your world or be controlling over your friendship.
You could take the other root and kill your friend though... I suggest a shotgun, more blood. :)
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hMmMm...
listen here.
why would you like someone thats asking someone to do stuff behind your back? what if they actually have and you just dont know it yet?
it seems like your more in love with the competition instead of the guy. who seems like a little punk ass any way trying to play two girls at once.
now think of this...
whats more important
the guy OR your friendship with your BEST friend?
hmmmm?
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Ok, I think this guy needs to pick one of you. You both like him and you cant just stop liking him, right? Then I think you should ask him if he likes one of you and if he does, then it sucks for the other one, but if the other one REALLY cares about the other one, then she wont let it ruin your friendship.
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Umm... This is just my opinion, but if anyone says "they want to do stuff" with you, and you are only 14, there is a problem with that. But if there is someone who says "they want to do stuff" with you, AND your friend. Well, that should make him less of a candidate for a boyfriend.
He
A) Only wants you for sex.
B) Doesn't really care about you or your friend, he just wants to have freaking sex, so don't be dumb, think about it for a second and actually ask yourself "Do I want the complications of sex at the age of 14?". Hopefully you tell yourself no.
Once he does this "stuff" with you, he will more than likely leave you. Its not worth it, try to seek a more fulfilling relationship that isn't strictly physical.
Or better yet, wait until you are old enough to have a serious relationship. You're fourteen for gods sake.
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Ok.. Im going to try the best to help that I can..
I am going through a smilar problem. My friend has liked the guy i like for a long time.. she has liked him for 3 years and i have liked him for 2.. but with my problem he doesnt wana do stuff with her but he would with me.. and if i went out with him my friend would be mad at me..
well What you have to try and think.. and i suggest you tell your friend this to is.. that no matter who he is with.. if the girl he is with likes him half as much as you do.. then you should try to be happy that they are together.. cause you know if you were with him that you would be really happy.
what I think you should do though is ask him.. do you like either me or (friends name) or do you just want stuff from us.. it might be hard.. but maybe ask online insted of in person.. and just try to find out if maybe he would ever give you a chance.. then if he says yes.. be like ouh alright.. or something dont try to push.. if he says maybe just.. smile or something..
I know this things are hard cause I am having a problem with it right now too.. it seems you can always give other peple advice but never yourself..
I hope I helped atleast a little..
goodluck
-maddie
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wow that sucks- it sounds like he's a jerk because he's leading you both on and it seems like he wants the best of both of you. since he's telling both of you guys the same thing then it doesn't sound like he deserves either one of you *find somebody who truely likes you and appreciates you* :)
good luck-
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Okay well it seems like this guy is a playa. He is trying to get both of you. I would just blow him off. Try to get him off your mind. Chances are since youre only 14 there will be alot of drama with you and your friend and him. I would think you are a lot better off without him.
Hope it works out.
CrzyLatinaChc
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Me and my best friend had that same problem eventually he will pick one of you. My advice is that make- out with him thats how my friend got picked by him she did that and the next day he beoke up with me and continued with her. Well try it see what happens.
Good Luck!
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I've been in this situation too many times to count. I'm going to give you the best advice possible. It's going to be the total truth. This boy is playing games with the two of you. If he's saying he likes you then turning around and saying he likes her then there is obviously a problem. It's not worth your friendship. If you really like him & want this to work out then one of you is going to have to confront him & tell him to pick. You'll have to choose whether it's him or your friendship. If it helps, talk to your friend about it. Just a warning, friends are forever but relationships end. Good luck though! Sorry if I sounded stern it's just, I've watched some of my great friendships end because we both liked the same guy & picked him over eachother.
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this has happened alot and the best thing that you guys can do is both get over him, and neither go out with him. like you said if one person is gonna go out with him then the other is going to get jealous and vice versa. I know it might be hard to do but you both could help each other through it, and it will bring u two both closer together. also, hes not really such a good guy if he says he wants to 'do stuff' with you, thats kinda low and shallow. plus thats pretty much using you. especially if hes going to say that two both of you. im sorry but really its the best all of you can do. hope you take my advice and good luck, &hearts.
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If I had that happen to me I would do the same as you. Ask it on Advicenators LOL. Anywaysz, you should have some fun with him. If you and your best friend have a s/n and so does he, IM him. At the same time y*ll plan to ask him out. and if he says yes to your friend, yea I know you like him but...she is your best friend.If he says yes to you YAY! If he turns y*ll down he is a lil jerk! Rate me 5 plzs!!
x3 gRacie
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