I am new at this whole dating thing, but I was with this boy I really like last night. He held our hands up to the ceiling of my car and said to see who would let their hand drop first.. He wouldn't tell me what it meant, so please, can anyone tell me what it means? Thanks x a million :)
Guys are weird. He propbaly just wanted to see if you would do it. To see if you like him enough to do it.
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so there is this guy, he only wants me because i almost grinded on him. I'm only seventeen, and I know that i'm not supposed to take any relationships at this age too seriously or anything like that....its just basically about dating a lot of guys and getting to know what i really like and don't like, and just having fun. He is hot, but he is a player. Should i let him in? or should i not? or should i just let him in and just have fun without taking anything too seriously?
O go ahead and have your fun girl. You know he's a player so do not taske it to seriously, you know. Test the waters, see if you like the tempereture. haha
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15/f
I could never trust anyone but my closest relatives.Everyone I knew would betray me.People would always make fun of me for reasons I wasn't familiar with.First there were the ones I went to elementary school with.I'm not exaggerating when I say I had almost no friends at all.Only a few out of hundreds of them could actually understand me.For 8 years it seemed like nothing would ever change.I thought they hated me because I was and still am a straight A's student who doesn't like going out at night and getting into trouble.But that's not all.I had a boyfriend who I was truly in love with.He was with me for 7 months,but then cheated on me with my best friend who ended up not caring about me and went for him.I was destroyed for months.He was my everything and I grew up with her.Luckily,my grades remained the same.The thing is I can't bring myself to trust anyone now.Especially boys.For some weird reason I always think they're kidding me.I'm in first year of high school now,and today a guy from my class who's apparently hitting on me came up to me and said I was the hottest girl in class,and instead of feeling good about it,I wanted to slap him! I did say thanks though,but I have major trust issues!I always think people hate me and make fun of me behind my back... I want to fix it but I'm lost and I don't know how.I hate when some people who are good to me,mostly girls tell me they wish they were me,because they have no idea how I feel and what emotional mess I am.What should I do about this? It's just too much for someone my age to handle.Thanks for taking your time to read this.
I'm a freshman too. Out of this world you will be lucky to find one good friend. So don't exspect it to come at one time. My childhood friends and I broke up and we all don't have really true friends at are school. Though you can VCR those friends who are there but you don't have to trust them with everything. The boy might be good and he might be bad but don't let one bad friend and one bad relationship screw up your life. But what ever you do don't screw up your grades. Those are your tickets yo a better future.
Lillian
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kaaay so this is prolly gonna sound retarded, but lately I've been seeing this one kid EVERYWHERE. Like literally, almost daily - and every time the thought 'I wonder if I'll see that kid today' enters my head, it happens like immediately afterwards it seems. I see him at parties, uptown, at restaurants, when I'm working (he comes through, but it's Mcdonalds, everyone comes through haha) at the movies (sat right behind me), like everywhere, to the point where I can't imagine he hasn't noticed it too. Andd today I opened up the newspaper and NO SHIT his name was in the first article I turned to. It's not like it's a crazy unique name but still. (i won't say his name on here for obvious reasons, but yea)
so anyways. I dunno. I know it sounds silly or like I'm obsessing for no reason, but the superstitious side of me keeps thinkin that the universe is like directing me towards him :P anyone else every feel that way? Am I craazy?
Haha this sounds just like punch buggies. I mean have you ever played that game " punch buggy no punch back".
Once you see one you notice all of them once you play that game. If u like this boy then you should try something. But if your just seeing him it's just cause once you see him you think of him the rest if the day.
Lillian
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im a female and 18 years of age
i lived with my mom from the time i was born until i was 13. then i went to live with my adopted dad because was a physically and emotionally abusive person. well, when i was 17 (i am 18 right now) i went to visit her and her husband, which is my step dad, because i thought maybe she had changed. what happened was she abused me again, and cut me with a knife. also, she let my step dad try to rape me while she helped. even though all this happened, i still have feelings for her and i feel bad getting her in trouble. is that wrong? should i go through with the court and press charges?? some good, honest advice would be really helpful.
Its not wrong for you to feel that way. It's your mother for goodnes sakes. She gave birth to you. You do have a duty to go to the police. What if they do this to girls on regular basis that you don't know of. They hurt you. You can still love your mom with out her being there. As much you may love her she needs help. Your helping yourself also.
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So after my couple of months revenge on my cheating ex-boyfriend, i have come to forgive, then turn to someone else xD (evil isn't it?)
Anyway his name is Jovon, we have been friends since the 7th grade but ever since the recent breajup, we have gotten much closer. Later on, i told him i had feelings for him (bad idea???) He told me that he likes me too, only thing is he doesnt just want to like me for my body. I completley understand: he's kinda known as a man-whore, he bounces from girl to girl for theirr bodies. He also told me he wanted to spend some one on one time with me, so he could get to know me better, that he didnt want me to be, "another fling" that i could be a promising girlfriend and lover (we are both freaks, so i saw that coming). I need some more opinions!!! Could he be real serious about me?? I mean he has fingered 3 of my classmates in short-term relationships (1-3 months)and then moves on. But if it was like the others he would've forced it on me...
Question: Should i ho for it??
Gracias
~Olie 14/f ;)
You shouldn't HO for it! But if you think he's truly truly truly honest go for it. But your kinda young to be doing anything really serios.(Not trying to be a parent) Go slow to be sure about things. But if you guys were friends since 7th grade he should know you pretty good by now don't you think.
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i have been through so much in the past year, that the truth is, i just don't know how i've been able to do it all. I've been trying to fight an eating disorder for the past year. Close to full recovery, right after the day I graduated from high school, my mother decides to tell me that i'm adopted. i started college in the summer, because i enrolled for summer b, before i knew my mom was going to tell me that. so, right after graduation, she tells me that, i get back into my eating disorder, and i have to start school right away. i started school extremely depressed. i didn't know who i was anymore, or where i came from. two weeks after that, i find my biological family, and i discovered way too many things. some were good, some were bad. but the bottom line is, that i'm a little bit depressed. there has been a lot more going on in my life. this is just an overview. i can't do it anymore. sometimes, i get so depressed, i can't go to school. my mother treats me like an infant. i'm in freakin college, and i love my mother so much, but it pisses me off. i constantly have to remind her that i'm not a baby. i'm so upset and i hate my life so much. its like nothing makes me happy. i honestly don't know what to do, and i wish i could just not go to school or anything, but i fear that it will make it worst. can anyone give me any type of advice? i use to be a happy girl... and i now i can barely remember what it feels like to be happy.
Hang in there. Not to make you feel bad but many people have it worst. And I know thats not your problem but you have parents who love you. You have money for college. You have a future. Look at the good things in your life. Take the good things and run with them. Take the bad things and just remember them, so they won't or can't happen again. Pray about it. You have things to live for. Always know that you where put on this earth for a reason. Only you know what it is. I wish you the best of luck on your journey.
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I have a nine month old daughter and i'm 19. I am married to the father of my baby. When we got married 11 months ago i told him that i wouldn't marry him unless he stopped smoking weed. since then, he has stopped and has done many good things, such as get his GED and be a great dad and show a desire to go to school. recently however he told me that he didn't see a problem with it, and that it wouldn't hurt anything if he smoked weed 4 times a month. I told him that it would hurt me, and he said well if you don't love me enough to let me do it then i guess we can't be together. I need to know if I am being too strict and i just need to deal with it, or if I do need to leave him. Please help me.
You need to help him and if that doesn't work then you need to leave. You have a 9 month old baby. What if he/she is exposed to that? When you expose that behavior to your child you are telling he/she that they can do it 4 times a month. He is being inconsiderite of your baby and you. If he loved you and his child he would stop. He should rather leave the weed then you two. If not get a man that will.
Lillian
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Ok so im 16 almost 17 in a day or two
I have a girlfriend who has repeately broke up with me like 11 times in the year and 2 months weve been dating. She breaks up with for now reason like shell say she needs space or she says is mad at me for no reason, but then she usually comes back in less than a week and apolizes, even though I tell her she doesnt have to apologize. She did again with stupid reasons and she was acting unlike I thought she would because she is my best friend and she just wasnt talking so I asked her why and she said because she wanted to give me another shot then she didnt know if she could do it and then I asked why she even said anything she said "I Love You" then I said whats the problem then she thinks I need to be the leader in relationship and doesnt believe I can change.
Other things you should know are she is 16 also and when I say, say I mean she sent it in an email and Ive set up times for us to talk and boy can she talk an hour solid so I dont understand why we cant communicate.
You guys might not be that compatable. You might need two different things in your life right now. Talking is a big part of going out with someone and if you guys can't do that maybe it shouldn't be.
Lillian
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Basically, when I was in fifth grade I began self mutilation. It's been on and off ever since then. I'm a sophmore now. When I was in sixth grade I was at my worst, I cut every day. I cut over everything, anything that somewhat upset me. Eventually one of my friends found out, told everyone and someone went to my school guidance office and they then called my parents and what not. My parents would try, they truly would. They put me in counseling but I just could not open up to them because I truly have no trust in those people.
In seventh grade, I barely ever cut. I think I did maybe about, 5 times at most. In the summer going into eighth grade I cut myself one time. During the school year I didn't cut a single time, but I did however get involved with smoking weed. Only on occasion however. Once or twice, not too bad I guess. During January of this year (2008) I was sent to the hospital for OD'ing. Suicide has always been in the picture, since the beginning of cutting.. I have had numerous attempts at suicide. But for the first time, my parents actually took notice and I spent the night in the hospital.
In ninth grade, I attempted to OD I believe twice, but I didn't let anyone know. I just wanted out. I'm no longer suicidal, in fact death scares the shit out of me. But I have begun cutting again.
I don't want to get help from strangers, my parents, friends or family. I want to get better myself because each time I would receive help from someone else, it did nothing. That last time I cut myself before I fell back into the habit was the summer of eighth grade, going into ninth. The last time cutting since I've fallen back in, less than an hour ago.
I can't help it, I truly don't know what to do. I need to stop, and I recognize that. Self mutilation doesn't solve anything, it makes things harder. I know the first step is to admit, blah blah blah. But that's not true. I need to stop, and I need to now. But I can guarantee if I don't get some sort of ways to not do it, it's going to keep happening.
I admire you so much. Some people don't know when the need to stop and when they do it's to late. Doing it alone is kinda hard. I know from some of my expierinces. So what I did was wrote to myself in my journal whenever I felt it was neccasery. Not every day cause that was lame haha but after I wrote it I tore it up so that I didn't have to remmber it again.
Lillian
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Im a 14 year old girl who has a major crush on her friend who happens to be a cute n funny guy. We hang out in class and i told him i liked him i even asked my sis to ask him if he likes me he said no but continues to flirt, hug, and make me laugh. No matter what i do i cant get over him. I dont know what to do.
Your gonna have to find like a new crush or hobbie to get him off you mind. It's not going to be easy. Or flirt back the way he is but know in your head that your trying to tease him. Kinda like a game.
Lillian
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i got a tattoo on my foot about 3 months ago, and it's already fading a little and isn't as bright as it was. are there any things i can do to enhance the color and keep it looking really good even though it's already done healing?
Vasaline
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well, heres the story. my boyfriend and i had planed to have sex saturday night, the first time for both of us, but it went all wrong. he couldnt get turned on enough so we had to stop trying. now because of that he hates himself, he says to me that everytime he thinks of it he just wants to cut his throat. i dont know what to do anyore :( he wont let me help him and he refuses to talk to me about it face to face. he also wont tell me whats wrong. its now tuesday and all ive found out is that when i was trying to get him excited with oral sex he just felt nothing. he doesnt tell me what he's thinking either, i dont know what he likes and what he hates cause he wont tell me, he just lays there doing nothing. sometimes i can get him excited but not this time. is this normal for some guys to feel like this? he told me last night that he just needed to sort himself out and refuses to let me help him :( i really want to help him though, i feel like all of this is my fault. do you think he might be feeling like im pushing him into sex too soon? he wont tell me anything so i dont know :( is this normal or not? please give me heaps of advice.
by the way, he's not gay and he's not going out with someone else, i know this because i know him too well.
thanks
im 16f he's 17m
um....Lets see here. Sex is not the thing you plan. It kinda just happens when you both feel it. But you guys are young. So I wouldn't incourage it now. But he'll be ready when he's comfortable.
Lillian
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...as more than a friend?
We're 17 by the way
When he seems to favor you over them. Talk to you more. Focus on you.
Lillian
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what is the definition of a political regime? I cant seem to find a definition anywhere!
This is a political regime in which representatives are directly elected by the citizenry, and these representatives then make political decisions for the populace, with the assumption that their decisions will reflect the general will of the Republic
Lillian
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Im a little torn.Ive just stopped caring in life if I live or not and its scaring me.I feel as if I am ready for death or something.
It's a really scaring feeling when you think like that, but we all go through it. But it seems like its only you. Things can get worst so don't think that this is the end, because its not. Pray on it. Focus on the good things in your life. Your alive, have a home. If you think you don't have anything going good for yourself then make good things for yourself. This is your only life. Live it to the fullest. Don't let anyone or anything take that away.
Lillian
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15/f
I thought I was over my ex. I am. But I haven't seen him in forever since Sunday. We broke up like 7 months ago. So this big thing happened between us and we don't even talk anymore. There was this huge lie that went on. He thought I cheated on him the whole time we went out because my friends told him that because they were mad at him. It's a long story. But I started drooling over him when I saw him. But from what one of his friends told me he is still mad at me. I understand why he would be, but it was never true. To be honest I still care about him, but I don't like him. I'm just wondering what I can do to fix things. His friend wasn't sure if he was still mad but that he gives me these looks. His friend is going to talk to him the next time he see's him. But if he is still mad, what do you think I should do about it? Like I said, it's not too much of a big deal to me, but I still care, it's just that fact that he is mad about this. Thanks so much.
Talk to him. Explain to him that you don't want him to mad any more. You want to be friends and put it in the past. And if he doesn't except that then just move on.
Lillian
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15/f
So I liked this guy since about May. We are good friends. It's just the fact that he is 17. So it's like a 2 year difference. So I didn't want to do anything about it.
Then about 2 weeks ago I found out my friend liked him. She is the same age as me. I was fine with it. I'm not the kind of girl to get jealous. Especially if he isn't mine. So she told him. She told me that he said he liked her but didn't want to do anything about it because he is a senior and he is graduating, plus he is on the football team. So he isn't allowed to have a girlfriend. Stupid new rule they made recently. If he gets caught with one then he gets kicked off the team.
I asked him about it. He said he didn't like her but he did tell her that he wanted to wait till he graduated to date.
So pretty much she lied about that. Then I found out he liked me that whole time too. I didn't really put much to that. I know we wouldn't be able to get anywhere anyways. I never go out with guys older than me so it would be weird. I do still like him though.
So he says he doesn't like my friend but he sits with her and all this stuff. He is doing it to be nice. I haven't told anybody about my feelings towards him. His friends kept bringing up everything with us. I don't know what to do about this. If he is really lying about liking her and if he actually does like me and his friends are the ones to lie about that. But yeah, my question is, how do I deal with this? I still like him but my feelings keep building up every time I'm with him and now that my friend likes him, it makes it worse. Thanks.
Their a lot of ways to deal with it. Write about it. Write about all about the things that is on your mind. And music can change your mood. When your all lovy dovy play some gospel so you get your mind way off that haha.Or deal with it and just tel hi everything and that you know that it can't go anywhere, you just wanted to get it off your chest.
Lillian
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Hey! 14/f
Well, ok i was dating this older guy ( Jimmy)well he's a freshmen and im a 8th grader so its not that bad, but well i thought we were in a good relation ship he treated me pretty good, well until he unexpectedly broke up with me because he THOUGHT i was cheating on him which i don't know where the hell he got that from! I was ONLY dating him, i fell hard for this guy when we first met and i thought we were meant 4 each other. Apparently not. :/ Soo i want to know H.O.W do i stop thinking about him? Just last night i started crying on the phone with my best friend because she played jimmy and i's song (well use to be song.. hanging by a moment by life house :/) She said i cant help being sad over it he broke up with me without an explanation, but i feel bad for crying and missing him because i have a bf (Joey♥) He was the one who helped me stop crying.( he called JUST at the right time, when me and jimmy broke up. ) He was really caring and helped me, that day he called to ask me out,(you see i waited on him to ask me out,it took him 5 months to do it so i said yes♥) It's almost been a week sense we started dating and its going pretty good, but i ALWAYS start thinking about Jimmy again, even though its for about 5 minutes a couple times a day i still want to figure out how to stop. Sorry its so long haha help?
Thanks for reading! I appreciate it♥
If you still have tears about it, cry, get it all out and while your dong that talk to yourself. Not like in a crazy way haha just say to youself: What made him more special than the boy I'm going out with now? And think about him until you get annoyed and say my new bf is way better. And if that don't work whenever you think about him think about your new boyfriend.
Lillian
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I just moved to San Antonio, and I was a little desperate to make friends with any of my neighbors. I am white and I befriended a Mexican man, Carlos, living nearby. I started loaning him money and buying him drinks. He made it very clear that he didn't want to date me, but wanted a purely physical relationship.
I ended up befriending his sister "Jenny" also, and she told me that he didn't like me and was using me. I bought her drinks and smokes, not really caring about the money.
I was a little hurt, but continued to hang out with him and loan him small dollar amounts here and there. Although he did try to put the moves on me, I said "no".
Carlos and his friend, Jon, came over to my house one night, so they could download music and play on the internet. They were mad that I had talked to Jenny about my "giving" relationship with Carlos. Carlos told me never to talk about it with anyone. I said Jenny was a hypocrite, because I had bought her stuff also. Jon later told Jenny what I had said.
Jenny confronted me on the sidewalk infront of my house that I had talked about everyone behind their back. She called me immature. She brought up the relationship with my neighbor and my feelings for my neighbor infront of other neighbors. I was mortified, I apologized and ran inside why she still ranted. Carlos watched the whole exchange from his yard and let his dog go into my yard. He smiled while it chased me in the house. I no longer have any feelings for Carlos. However, I did want to get along with my neighbors and make friends.
I am afraid to leave the house, and I plan never to talk to my neighbors again. Can you give me any advice?
Don't let them scare you in the house, go out side and live your life you have monyen to spend now.haha. They needed you, you don't need them. You can make friends easy.It will take them a while to get money. But your better than that. When you see them don't pay them any mind. And when their dog comes on your yard call the dog people they'll give them a ticket. Forget them. But you also need to hear this. You lead them on. You know they only liked you for what you had not who you were. But you learn from your mistakes. Have fun enjoy life.
Lillian
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