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going through so much and i can't deal with it all
i have been through so much in the past year, that the truth is, i just don't know how i've been able to do it all. I've been trying to fight an eating disorder for the past year. Close to full recovery, right after the day I graduated from high school, my mother decides to tell me that i'm adopted. i started college in the summer, because i enrolled for summer b, before i knew my mom was going to tell me that. so, right after graduation, she tells me that, i get back into my eating disorder, and i have to start school right away. i started school extremely depressed. i didn't know who i was anymore, or where i came from. two weeks after that, i find my biological family, and i discovered way too many things. some were good, some were bad. but the bottom line is, that i'm a little bit depressed. there has been a lot more going on in my life. this is just an overview. i can't do it anymore. sometimes, i get so depressed, i can't go to school. my mother treats me like an infant. i'm in freakin college, and i love my mother so much, but it pisses me off. i constantly have to remind her that i'm not a baby. i'm so upset and i hate my life so much. its like nothing makes me happy. i honestly don't know what to do, and i wish i could just not go to school or anything, but i fear that it will make it worst. can anyone give me any type of advice? i use to be a happy girl... and i now i can barely remember what it feels like to be happy.
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Lady, or mis or girl, Jesus Christ will fill that empty spot of yours. He won't turn you down
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You said: i'm a little bit depressed. use to be a happy girl.
You can't change other people or the past but you can change the future. I had an anorexia thing going on for 2 yrs I was 36 I was punishing my self by not nourishing my body. It's a sad way to beat yourself up. My Grand father was told on his wedding day he was adopted. Talk about bad timing but he survived. So will you. Your drepression is not your fault, Anti depressants will solve your sadness & bring you a joy just like you remember. Please take yourself to your Dr. and get a script.
When you start to act different (happier) your Mum will notice, you will be able to discuss things with her in a whole new mature way. You're concentration is in tact you can proceed forward with your life. good luck
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i can relate.not so much the eating disorder but depresion.we all go thru it from time to time but its part of what makes us who we are. im 25 years old and ive already been incarcerated 7 years since i was 16.you have to look at the good things your freedoom,your future i see your in college.you cant let saddness fill your days when your life is free.
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Damn. I'm really sorry about all that. You've been through alot. :/
I was saying those exact words a couple months ago. Everything was so overwhelming. I would snap over little things. I either couldn't sleep or was sleeping a TON. Nothing could make me happy, and I didn't ever feel like doing anything. I felt helpless. I didn't want to go to school. Nothing.
What you need to realize is your more than a little depressed. You're depressed, plain and simple. The sooner you start to fight it the better.
Talk to someone. There's help out there. No one even has to know. If you're 18, you can just go on your own. If you're younger, you've got to get your mom to take you. I know it might be a bit awkward trying to explain that your depressed, but it's better to deal with a little awkwardness than a lifetime of depression.
I've been taking Lexapro for 3 months now and the only person who knows is my mom. It's the safest antidepressant with minimal side effects (I had none though), it's FDA approved for teens, & it's also very good for anxiety. I'm not a big fan of medication, but I honestly have to say that it saved my life. It took a good month or 2 to kick in, but it made me myself again. And you can get your life back too.
In the mean time, find something that you really enjoy doing. Take up music lessons, play the guitar, paint, draw, color, volunteer (church nursery, assisted living, homeless shelter etc.). Start walking or running everyday. Get a new hair cut/hair style. Go shopping & get a new cute outfit. Find something that inspires you.
Hang in there girl. I know it doesn't seem like it, but things will get better.
Good luck! :D
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Hang in there. Not to make you feel bad but many people have it worst. And I know thats not your problem but you have parents who love you. You have money for college. You have a future. Look at the good things in your life. Take the good things and run with them. Take the bad things and just remember them, so they won't or can't happen again. Pray about it. You have things to live for. Always know that you where put on this earth for a reason. Only you know what it is. I wish you the best of luck on your journey.
Lillian
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