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Hello, my name is Sarah and I'm a sophmore in highschool. I've been through many exhausting and depressing trials with friendship and drama and know my fair share of heartbreak. If you have a problem I'll be here to answer so don't be hesitant. :]

advice

My friend and I met online from another friend of mine. We were always good friends, but the only time ( it seemed like)we get in to fights is online. It's kind of weird now seeming that we met online. I mean, It seems like just because I wanted to meet her, we have gotten in a fight.

Any Advice?

~.CoOkIe~.

She's probably feeling a little scared. I know I will never ever meet anyone in the flesh that I've met on the internet, unless it's through a controlled service because there are so many wierdos and child porn sickos out there that will trick you into thinking they are a kid but really aren't. You should respect how she feels about that sort of thing because in my opinion she's making the right decision. Hope I helped a little, though I was sort of confused by your question, hope I answered the right thing. If you need anymore advice you know where to find me.

!Sarah

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So i met this guy, and by his looks he is definitely not my type. Infact, i dont go for guys out of my race. (He's still half white though). But he has an amazing personalility, all the qualities of a guy im looking for; he's beyond perfect. I want to ask him out, but the looks are bothering me. I know looks have nothing to do with anything, but even though i like him, i dont think i could do anything physical with him like kissing. Do you think its just because its in my head? And do you think a relationship can last even though you arent sexually attracted to them? Do you think i should just be friends or go for something more?

you said it yourself

"I know looks have nothing to do with anything"

and that's because they don't. If you are so attracted to his personality I think you would have a much better time than if you went out with some guy you melted when you saw him and had the brain of a vegetable. His skin color should determine how you feel although I know some people it's harder to get over things like this because you were raised that way or grew up that way, but my advice is this. Ask him out, you will have a great time by the way you talk about him and soon you will be able to see past the skin. Good luck, if you need anymore advice I'm always around. :)

!Sarah

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Ok well it all started when me and my friend ( chelsea ) was sitting at lunch and matchng people up with good couples she matched me up with this new boy michael in 8th grade ( im in 7th ) i didnt know who he was and when i did find out who he was I LIKED HIM .. ALOT .... and i found out he had a girlfriend in 6 grade but she was cheating on him so I told my friend to ask him out for me and to tell him his girlfriend was cheating on him ... he told my friend he didnt know who I was and he would ask his girlfriend about the cheating thing... so then after that, the next week or so ... my friends dared me to say hi to him and i was really scared but i managed to choke out a fast hay and then the next day ( today ) i got caught throwing food and i went to turn in my tray and he said haha you got caught throwing food and he just smiled and laughed ( i didnt care that he laughed @ me i was just happy he talked to me )then i told my friend to ask him out for me and she said he said he didnt know who I was ( but he really does because i wrote him a note and all saying I like him and blah blah blah ) ... and then today after school my friend said she talked to him and he said im OK looking ... but honestly i dont think he knows who I am because before that he said is she that short fat girl and my friend was all like no she is tall and skinny so he said Ohhh she is ok .... so does he like me r not my friend said he was flirting wid me when he said that thing about me getting caught throwing food signed ~!~ confused ~!~

why don't you try getting to know the guy in the first place.. for god's sake. He won't like you if he doesn't even know you.

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ok, well my two friends ALWAYS fight. and this time it's about depression aka attention. anyways, my friend (we'll call mandy) had depression all this year because of guys. every single one that she liked, didn't like her, but my other friend (call her taryn). taryn has always been pretty popular,and now has a very popular boyfriend. anyhow, back to the real story. when mandy told us that she had depression, i was the only one that comforted her. a girl (call her sam) was mandy's best friend since like 4th grade. and sam didn't even say anything positive when mandy told her about her depression. and now, like a week ago, taryn told everyone that SHE was depressed. and when she told everyone, sam was like all over her asking if she was ok and stuff.so, sam made it seem like she only cared about taryn, and not mandy whom she was friends with much longer. this is confusing, but important. they are fighting and both of them are asking ME what THEY should do, and I don't even know what I should do. plz, anything constructive will help! i rate 5's!
~mandy

I would answer no matter what you rate, but here it is.

OK so first, you should tell Sam that she should probably have been more considerate of how mandy was feeling. If you think about it, it sounds like Sam isn't really her friend anymore, you know, sometimes that happens, you just gotta know that you pick some friends up and lose some on the way. I've had my fair share of that and know what it's like though, and it's probably hard for Mandy to take it that she's losing her friend. If anything, you should get THEM to talk to eachother and don't give any advice, just let them talk. It'll decide whether they are friends anymore or not because you don't want to be in the middle of this and frankly if this were happening to me, I wouldn't either. To be a good mediator, you can't let your opinions get in the way, you have to let them make up their own solutions to the problem and work it out amongst themselves. I hope I helped a little with your problem. If you need anymore just ask, I always answer, :)

!Sarah

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i sweat alot under my arms even though i put on deoderant.The docoter gave me better stuff to use but i still sweat is there anything i can do so i wont sweat there? i rate!!!

I think there is some sort of powder than you can use that soaks up the moisture, but really I'm not sure.. you've been to a doctor and it didn't help..? hm, wow, you've really got a problem there. I think you might want to think of wearing lighter clothes and to try not and put yourself in situations where you will sweat a lot..

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Hey I do track and My ankels and Knees hurt really bad. anyone know how to cure this? and i just got new shoes for the arches of my feet because that hurt.

This may sound funny but, does anyone know some tips to go faster?

we have our first meet on monday!!!

I do short distances, and i wanna do hurdles.

anyone have some tips on hurdles??


THANKS GUYS!!!!!!!!!!!

*-KeLs-*

:)

check out my answer for speed training on this page of my colomn :) It helped the last person I gave it to, and hopefully it'll help you.

http://advicenators.com/column.php?u=JadedinNowhere&t=&skip=40

!Sarah

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theres this guy i like and he likes me too... but i dont think my mom would approve of him because he smokes. everytime i want to hang out with him i have to lie to my mom, which i feel bad about. i've tried talking to her but she doesnt listen. any ideas?

Has the guy every asked you to smoke with him? If so, he probably isn't a very good person to hang out with although you like him. I'm sorry but if I was your mom I would have the same position.. Imagine how she feels, probably scared for you. I mean, it just shows she cares, as mean as she probably seems right now. If you really like him and want to get to know him better I suggest you ask him not to smoke around you. If you tell your mom he won't do it around you, or if you introduce him and let him tell her that.. then she'll probably trust you more.

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i just got a record deal. But they want me to do all these things I dont want to do. How do i tell them i want to do some things my way without getting fired?


Try and meet somewhere in the middle with them, try and compromise.

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i have a project in school.. does anyone know any good cases of women put to death!? please help!!
google and yahoo arnt much help. THANKS!!!
♥ xoseenbeenxo

three words. Salem Witch Trials.. Although there was one man put to death.. he was pressed to death with heavy stones.. :/ you'll be able to find plenty about it and if you search google. Also Joan of arc is a good case of a women being put to death.. a very dramatic story and you could contrast both sides of the story, the british, and the french. :) hope you do well, good luck.

!Sarah

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14/female
A lot of people at school thinks my life is perfect. it is far from it. i wont get into too much detail and make this too long but i have a few good friends that i love but there are so many morons that get mad because i get good grades or whatever. i just wanted to know does this go away in high school? or will people still asume my life is great because i get good grades?

thank you

people will always be jealous.. that's probably why they are mad. I feel that way sometimes.. I mean, I will have this crap grade and they'll be making a 100.. it sorta makes me feel bad about myself, maybe you should consider how that feels. You're probably jealous of a few people, and without realizing it you are probably mad at them for it. Be understanding, it's hard but you gotta understand life. It's too short to get caught up with what other people think of you.

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my friend has depression and shes not taking her pills and she doesnt realize it makes her worse. she thinks it makes her better. and we got into a fight and we are over it now but i dont want this to happen again. she thinks the pills dont help but they do!!! and i dont want to lose my temper and say "WELL IF YOU TOOK YOUR PILLS WE WOULDN'T BE IN THIS SITUATION!!!" because i know thats mean. but i dont want to just sit here either?

any advice?

You know.. when you take pills you feel sort of controlled, backed into a corner.. don't you think that maybe she's feeling sort of trapped. You've got to be patient because it's all her decision. I have a few friends that are ADD and sometimes they are just sick of taking the medicene.. I mean I had to take a bunch of pills once for strep for about two weeks and I felt like I was gonna crack. I felt like all my emotions and feelings were controlled by it.. and being myself I hate being controlled or forced. Why don't you try and be conciderate of her feelings, you'd probably feel the same way. In the meantime try and be nice? I mean what could it hurt.. maybe that's the kind of medicene she needs.. a smile, a hug. Just some suggestion, and advice as always. If you need anymore, I'm always around. :)

!Sarah

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i was wondering, why are there so many groups in skool? like preps, goths, punks, metalheads, populars, secondary populars, loners, gunks(a mix of punks and goths), and just "others". it all just creates mayhem, like a popular cant go out with a goth, or they will loose all their friends. i think it is so stupid. can you explain to me why people must insist on putting people in different catigories? does it really matter?

I hate it when people catergorize me.. but what's ironic, is that YOU have put everyone into a catergory.. There is some sort of unwritten law that hangs over us all the time that we have to be catergorized but I for one insist that I am not a victim of this law and will not be controlled by it. I suggest you do the same. I advocate how I feel all the time about this.. and as much as we try we all tend to catergorize people into neat little packages.. it's just how we function, we can't live with people being unselectable.. unnamed.. It's humanly impossible. I found that you can go with it most of the time, but I know what I'm not.. I'm not a prep, I'm not a goth, maybe I'd fit into the punk catergorie.. but sincerely I believe that I am apart of the individualist catergorie.. just about everyone is against me at my school and I don't feel afraid to share my opinion when I think I'm right.. unless I could get more than just myself in trouble, because really that isn't fair. Anyway, knowing who you are is the key, you don't have to necessarily narrow yourself down to one thing, but know what you aren't.. you don't wanna be a slut, you don't wanna be a stoner.. I think that is what is most important.

if you need anymore advice or explination. I'm always around. :)

!Sarah

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hey, for ela we have to bring in a poem or song lyrics that we like and read them to the class...anyone have any suggestions? (they have to be appropriate for school obviously) thanks!

It all depends on what you like, but I personally love Smile Empty Soul lyrics and some greenday lyrics are clever as well.. I always look for stuff thats a little more tricky than just the usual

I lost my baby..
I'm going crazy..
aint anyone gonna save me..

I mean.. how bland can you get? but yea.. hm, here's another list for ya if you want.. I'll put down some songs.

Smile Empty Soul- Silhouettes, For you

The Used - The taste of ink ( it has some language but you can easily edit that out, and say that you did. It's a great song.)

Edgar Allen Poe - great great poet.. the raven, the tell tale heart..

Walt Whitman - very good as well, o captain my captain.. and many others.

Three Days Grace - now or never, just like you.. so on so on.. there are thousands of great lyrics out there.

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i dunno where to start or how to explain it but me and my mom have a very close relationship, like we tell eachother everything and could talk about anything. well when i was little my dad died and she was with this real jerk that hit her and all this other stuff, she went back to him maybe like 10 times and that was hard for me. then finally she realized that that was enough. but the problem is i think shes actually going through it again. she was with this other guy and they seemed happy together and everything. but he had a problem with everything about my my mom, he even yelled her for her job?! she finally broke it up with him cuz she said she couldnt it anymore. but then last night she had told me she was going over his house and i just kept my mouth shut cuz i like to see my mom happy. but he just has a very bad attitude and he scares me. i just dont want her and me to go through this again. i need some great advice..plz and thank you

your mom's a grown up intelligent person, and if she wants to hurt herself than it's her own fault for taking the guy back. I think it's sweet your concern for her though.. maybe you should try talking to her about this yourself.. sit her down and say that you don't want this sort of thing to happen again. She'll get the message if you guys are as close as you say you are. I hope I helped, if you need anymore advice just ask. :)

!Sarah

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I'm 14 years old, female and in the 9th grade. I've been sick for 4 1/2 months now, out of school and everything with an illness called colitis which is a disease in your large intestine and causes constant trips to the bathroom...it's embarassing yeah, but it's not like i picked to have this. Anyways, i would have thought being sick would bring me and my friends closer together but really, it ripped us apart. My best friend, or at least thought she was my best friend, completely ditched me 24/7 and said some really mean things to me and she lives right down the street from me and not once outa the 4 months did she come to my house to just visit with me and whenever she needs me, i'm ALWAYS there for her and like i wanna end the friendship cuz she is just a complete b**** like you wouldn't believe but the thing is, its hard to end the friendship as much as i wanna cuz i have so much fun with her. I need advice on what to do!! It's been driving me crazy for months on what to do and i just don't know anymore...:/

If she wasn't there for you she isn't your best friend. Plain and simple. I think you should at least tell her your feelings before you tell her that it probably can't work.. I mean the base of a best friendship is being there for eachother.. it's like the foundation, and without it nothing can build..

p.s. sorry your sick.. that sounds horrible.

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This is for all you lovely ladies out there.
- What types of things do you like to hear.
Example. "You're beautiful"
What other things do you like being told.

Thanks!

if your trying to drop a corny line or two your in for a wake up call because some of us don't fall for it.. whatever comes to you in the moment is best.. I personally hate fakeness..

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does it mean someone is gothic if all they wear is black? and they dyed their hair pitch black?? thanks

no, a gothic person is someone that is also satanic.. we peoples that wear black hate it when people can't differenciate between like individualist, punk.. someone that likes music? I mean, hey, some of us like black.. *shrug* don't call someone a goth if you only take one look at them and think you can call them that, you might want to try talking to them.. because that's the only way you'll figure it out.. unless you see them carrying like a satanist book.. o_0

p.s. tried to keep myself from sounding angry in this.. but people have asked me if I'm a goth AT CHURCH.. .. amazing..

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Hey how can you change any font on your Advicenators page?

I don't think you can, you can only change the colors.

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I have this friend who always talks about me but is like in all my classes. I don't really like her but my other friends get all mad at me if i get mad at her. Should i just tell her i dont wanna be her friened or should i be her friend?

I think that if you two really don't get a long that you should try and ignore her. Try and explain to your friends that just because she is their friend, doesn't mean she has to be yours. Sometimes people just don't get along, that's the natural order, people shouldn't be forced to get along because sometimes it just doesn't work. You don't have to tell her you don't want to be her friend, just explain that you guys just can't be friends, it's nothing you have against her, you guys just don't get along. Hope I helped, always.

!Sarah

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Is there any way you can record youself on the computer? Cause I sing, and so I can show it to people to see if It's any good. Does anyone know how??

You can hook up a microphone to the computer and there is a small recording program I know that most people have, it's under accessories, then entertainment, then sound recorder. You will probably get more help if you went to an actual music store because they have recording stuff that people can use to make simple demos. Good luck. :)

~Sarah

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