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I dye my hair dark brown/black and my hair is naturally light brown, so my eyebrows are also light brown. It looks weird and I would like my eyebrows to match my hair color or just somewhat close. I don't want to use a pencil or anything and the dye boxes always says not to use on eyebrows. What can I use or do that will work? I'd especially appreciate answers from people who have actually dyed/colored their eyebrows.
I'm pretty sure you can dye your eyebrows anyway, like the user below me stated. If not, one of my friends who was actually born with two different colored eyebrows goes to a salon to dye them to match. You could just check with your local salon to see if they can do that and how much it will cost :) hope I helped!
-jessica 15/f
Alright So I have had a YOutube account for a very long time now, but it's driving me crazy when I see really hateful comments and I put the thumbs down and I refresh the page, it doesn't show any sort of difference, it just won't let me click either the thumbs up or down anymore on that particular comment. And if I do leave a comment, it doesn't show up. Anyone know what's wrong?
Don't worry about it, that happens to me too. Sometimes it just takes a while to process comments and ratings so it won't show up automatically, but it does eventually :) hope I helped!
-jessica 15/f
I'll be going to college in new england and I have been interested in converted to paganism. My campus is mainly a Christian/catholic community. I was just wondering for anyone who is or was in the same situation as me how do you fit in your religion when nobody around you believes the same thing?
Thanks!
I tend to not really bring it up. I mean, it's really no one else's business. Besides, if they're narrow-minded enough to let something like religion get in the way of a potential friendship, they probably wouldn't be a good friend anyway. Really, I have never met anyone who actually asked about my religion. It's your own business :) goodluck!
-jessica 15/f
Okay. I feel my hair growing all over my head insted of the back of it. Is it because i sleep on the back of it everyday?
No, I don't think that would cause it... I sleep on my back everynight and my hair grows. You might want to go see a doctor if it's really bothering you :) hope I helped!
-Jessica 15/f
ohkay all my life i never looked my age and it's finally dawning down on me that i didn't grow up. so i need u guys to help me i'm turning 16 in july and i want a new me. and help we keeping it for senior yr. thankz
Um ok...contrary to what the person below me said...I disagree. Bright colors actually make you look younger. I think most older people dress a LOT more modest and in darker colors. But it's completly up to you :) Also, there's a girl in my school who just died her hair from blonde to brown and WOW she looks SO much more grown up! I mean it seriously looks like she's so much more mature and stuff :) So, I don't know if it's for you, but you can also dye your hair. But I would consult with my hairdresser if I were you. Just go in and say "Hey, I just want to look older...what do you think will help with that?" and they're usually pretty good at giving you ideas and suggestions :) Hope I helped!
-Jessica 15/f
I've been on Advicenators for a few years, on and off, and this hasn't been a problem so far.
I received a very hurtful feedback to a question that I tried my darndest to answer well! I know we can file a report, but it wasn't exactly hateful. The person who wrote it was obviously upset, and directed that towards me, even though I obviously put a great deal of effort into my response.
Now I'm seriously thinking of leaving the site. Honestly, I'm only here to help (just like everyone else here) and if people aren't grateful, what's the point in wasting my time?
Rant's over. My actual question is, how do you guys keep from getting upset over hurtful feedback? I'd try not to take it personally, but it is personal. My feelings are hurt :(
Well, I usually just ignore it... I mean it really just proves that the person isn't really asking for "open advice". They want a certain answer, which isn't the point of this site. I mean, if it's down right unnecessarily mean, I'll retaliate and edit my answer :/ but I don't normally recieve feedback that bothers me too much. Don't worry, the person who gave you that feedback was probably ignorant and immature and, chances are, it won't happen again :)
-Jessica 15/f
well,as the subject said my friend recently moved.he is the best friend i have evey had.we did everything together.if we fought one of us would say a funny comeback,we would laugh and be bestfriends again.i just need help on how to get through it.thank you..:)
Wow, I can't tell you how many times I've experienced this... My best friend just recently moved, without either of us knowing she was going to. She was just supposed to be gone on a trip for a couple of weeks but something happened, so she moved a bajillion miles away :/ I know, it's so not fun at all... and I DO miss her. Really, we never got in a fight and we understood everything about each other. But now, 3 weeks after her move, I'm still alive. I found that this made me a bit closer to my other friends. Plus, me and her still keep in touch a LOT. We both have myspace and email and call/text each other all the time. Yeah, it's not the same, but it's kind of like testing your friendship. If you two have a really good friendship, you should be able to keep in touch pretty well :) don't worry, life goes on and there are other people out there who you probably have a lot in common with! Goodluck!!
-Jessica 15/f
How can something be New and Improved?
If it's new there has never been anything before it, and if it's improved there had to be something before it to improve!
Haha good question...never really thought about it. Well, think about it like this: if there is a type of car that is somewhat old and they remake the car, but make it BETTER, then it's new because it's a new model and it's improved because it's an improved model of the car... that's my logic anyways haha. Hope I helped a bit...
-Jessica 15/f
ok, im a 14year old guy and i watch porn every day. I always wonder what a naked girl looks like , but i onlyu find 18+. is this normal for guys to be obssesed for naked girls?
Yes. Completely normal.
-Jessica 15/f
Ok I am in the 7th grade and all of my friends have boyfriends, I can get boyfriends but they arent my age.. I usually go out with older boys as in 9th graders. My friends think that it is gross, do you think it is gross?
No, I don't. You're friends are probably just jealous because you can get older guys. However, be careful with dating older dudes because the older they get, the more they'll expect out of a girl. At least when they're teenagers they do. Hope I helped!
-Jessica 15/f
i have shaved my thighs before and i do on a regualar basis but i was wondering which way i should shave, up or down, in order to avoid the red spots i sometimes get.
I shave up and I don't get razor burn. If you don't use shaving cream, you probably should because it will help with the red spots (which are razor burn). Or you can try some lotion to help the irritated skin. Hope I helped!
-Jessica 15/f
i really really really want hair extensions.
i have medium length blonde hair that i get colored just about every two months (fyi) and my hair has been pretty much the same length for about a year now.
what are YOUR experiences with hair extensions?
painful? hard to manage? any problems? how long did they take to be applied? etc;.,
and i don't want clip on ones like the Jessica Simpson brand.
Ok, my friend has extensions that aren't clip in and she said
"they feel kinda weird when you first get them and the keep feeling weird for about 2 or 3 weeks until you get used to them."
so I guess they're somewhat uncomfortable for a few weeks. I have human hair clip in ones and I can honestly say I haven't had a problem yet :) they're easy to put in and you don't always have to wear them so if I don't want to put them in, I don't have to. They don't feel weird or like they're going to fall out at all and they're relatively easy to put in once you've done it a few times.
So now you know what both sides say :) hope I helped!
-Jessica 15/f
I'm 15/F. And i'm dating a guy who is 17. We've been dating for 2 months now, and he's starting to talk about wanting to have sex. I'm still a virgin, and i'm scared to death. I told him I didn't think I was ready yet, and he got kind of aggravated, and said, "that's okay, that's not what i'm in this relationship for anyway" And he's been mentioning it more and more. Any Advice for if i do decide to have sex with him? Or anything else i should do?
I really don't want to lose him.
Woaahhhh slow down there. You say it's only been two months? I think that's kind of a short amount of time to get to know someone well enough to have sex with them. Now, I don't know this guy personally, but it sounds like he may be using you for sex. However, I don't know him so I could be wrong. There are other things to do if you don't want to have sex yet. I'll assume by your age you know what they are, but if not, just type in "alternatives to sex" in google. I think if you give him sex so early, there won't be that much for you and him to look forward to physically. I mean, sex is like the ultimate goal in a relationship, after marriage. If you do it right now, you two might get bored of it and your relationship could end. If he truly cares about you, he will wait until you're ready. Don't let him pressure you into losing your virginity. It is special to keep your virginity for the one you love and it lets them know they matter, so I think you should wait until you know you love him for sure. Goodluck!
-Jessica 15/f
Okay, right about now,my life isn't so great. I don't have any close friends, absolutly hate the close minded town i live in, and can't stand my family! I want to get away from it all,and the only way I can do this is by moving in with my dad who lives in another state. See,theres some problems with this though. My brother (who i hate, no,not the kind of hate thats like "he's still your brother"-he's deffinatly no brother to me.) moved with my dad about 3 years ago. He hated it there and fought with my dad all the time so he moved back here. Now,my brothers a very controlling person and always believes he's right(he also breaks everything.) But its so much more as well. Thats how my dad used to be,but he changed. I honestly believe my dad's a much better person now-he's just much more happier. We're also interesting in the same things;music,acting. Anyways, i told my mom i was depressed here and wanted to move away with my dad and she completely flipped out. My moms very mean,not caring.She doesn't care about my feelings what so ever. She thinks my dad's giving me ideas to live with him. I really want to move in with my dad,but she refuses. It's really bad though,because my dad made a credit card under my mom's name and she might have to pay 800 dollers. I'm mad at him for that, but i'd rather be with him than live with my brother and mom for another day.I just want to move so bad, but i feel like theres so many things on both sides telling me to go and not to go. I'm 16,so i have a choice,right? The only friend i told about this didn't understand, so this is really the only place i can go to. Should i stay,or should i go? sorry this is really choppy by the way, i'm just really sad. thanks for the advice though everyone
I almost fell out of my chair when I read how similair your situation is to mine haha :) guess we're in the same boat. My mom, as well, flipped when I mentioned moving in with my dad in Florida. I haven't done it yet, but I'm planning on writing a letter to my mom. I think it's easier because you get to think about what to say and there isn't any yelling or crying if you're not there when she reads it. Plus sometimes when she flips out, I accidently say stuff I probably shouldn't say, as it creates more screaming and crying and havoc. So, in writing the note, I think she'll listen better because I won't be around when she reads it for her to scream at me so she'll have time to let it soak in. As for if you should stay or go, I think you should do what will make YOU happy. I have a pretty good life here, but I know if I move I would have a fabulous life whether or not I make a lot of new friends because my life at home won't be crazy and emotional like it is now. I am fully for the idea of getting the heck out of here, and it sounds to me like you are too. If I were you, I would move, but that's just my opinion. I wish you luck :) hope you get through to your mom!
-Jessica 15/f
m/15
Well I want to ask this one girl that I havn't talked to in a long time to go and do something with me, but I don't want to make it awkward because I havn't seen her in a long time and rarely talk to her anymore but we used to like each other when we went to the same school, but I don't what she's been doing lately. How can i ask her without being awkward?
I think you should just text her or call her and just start talking to her again. Then after that conversation, just ask her if she wants to hang out sometime. It shouldn't be to hard :) goodluck!
-Jessica 15/f
I truly don't know where to start with this.
I would like as many opinions as possible.
and I'm sorry, but it's long and a bit scattered, so please bear with me.
I have a best friend who I've known since I was 5. I am now 20 years old. I am female and he is male (he is 19 and we will call him "M"). 2 years ago, he told me he liked me, but at the time I had a boyfriend - and I still do now (different guy from 2 yrs ago) who's now actually my fiance (we will call him "B").
I told "M" I didn't like him in *that* way and thought we would be better as friends. It didn't seem to affect our friendship after that. He still told me he liked me, but knew nothing was going to come of it. I didn't mind this, because I didn't expect him to just wake up one morning and be over me.
Throughout these 2 years after he told me he liked me, our friendship was great - we would hang out a lot and do what friends should.
but a few months ago, "M" went to university. During that time, I got a new boyfriend ("B" my fiance) and when "M" came home from uni for the Christmas holidays, a few things happened.
Bear in mind this is the first time "M" and "B" met.
We (along with my other friends who also came back from uni) went on a night out. "M" got too drunk and let's just say he did a few things which he shouldn't have (was acting flirty with me, trying to touch me etc with "B" right there) "B" hated this and I'm sure anyone else would.
Since then, "B" has tried to get along with "M" the next time everyone hung out but it just wasn't happening and "M" kind of ignored him.
I spoke to "M" about the incident of him trying to touch me and he simply said he's sorry, he doesn't remember and he was obviously too drunk.
Then he went back to uni and so did everyone else.
After that, me and "B" were fine. "M" would ring me sometimes and it would annoy "B" a lot because it was at silly hours of the morning and he didn't appreciate someone who caused us problems and who he knows likes me, calling me quite often.
But I didn't answer the calls anyway cos I knew it upset "B". Instead, I asked "M" to only ring me if he really needs me for something. It took a little while for him to listen, but so far I seem to have got across to him and he only calls me if necessary.
Here's the big problem which is jeapordizing my relationship with the person I love.
"B" constantly talks about what happened with "M". I told "B" that I forgive "M" for the problems he has caused.. and he went mad.
I believe in giving people chances and I would like to give "M" one chance, because deep down, I know he is a good person, with a kind heart and I do believe he would never do what he did again. but "B" isn't having any of it. He hates me talking to him and he won't let me see him when he comes down from uni again in 2 weeks time.
"M" is oblivious to the fact that "B" and I STILL argue over something that happened 3 months ago. Sure, I told him about the incident and to stop calling me so much at the time and it's worked.. but I don't know what to do, cos I know "M" is gonna ask to hang out like we always used to..
I don't wanna hurt "B" and go against his wishes, but I just don't know what to do. He trusts me and he knows I would never do anything. but he says "M" doesn't deserve to see me after what he's done.
I need all answers please. I don't know if I should just keep my fiance happy and not see my best friend.. or see my best friend but hurt my fiance. There isn't any other option because "M" definitely wouldn't want to hang with me if "B" is there.
It sounds to me like these two need some male bonding. Majorly. First off, B needs to accept the fact that there will always be other guys in your life who will want to establish a friendship with you and he can't have you all to his self. If he'd rather leave you then accept that fact, then he didn't really love you in the first place. So if he even threatens to leave you, you know that he probably doesn't love you as much as you think he does. I think it's interesting that you say he "won't allow you" to see M. He is not in control of you, and you have free will to do whatever you want. If you want to hang out with your best friend that you don't get to see very often, then you do that. If this makes him mad, he needs to learn to see it from your point of view or else the marriage probably won't work out. I think you need to sit the two of them down face to face and have a talk with both of them. Explain to B that M is just a friend to you, and have M explain that he was just drunk and that he would never do anything to jeaprodize you and B's relationship. B needs to learn to accept the fact that you have a male best friend, and needs to know that M is not threatening to steal you away. Basically, B is just feeling threatened and doesn't want to lose you, so it sounds to me like he cares about you a lot. So they both need to talk and move on from that one night that M was drunk. Explain to both of them that it really hurts you that they don't like each other. Since they both care for your well being, they should put their differences aside and deal with each other, if not on a friendly note, at least not on a fighting one either. Goodluck, I hope I helped.
-Jessica 15/f
how do you move stars for a person you love that much ??...and how do you show a person how much you love them...whilst haveing nothing to give.....how do you make that person smile when i cant do it properly my self.......how do you let go of bein in a cuddle when tbh...you dont wna ever have to leave there arms......how ??....nd how do you not cry infront of this person when u wna be there to protect that person from the bad people and things in life ?? ....how ??.......how do i know if im holding this persons hand to tight or if its not tight enough and how do i turn anger into more love for this person...does it matter if i dont mind being cold aslong as this person is warm....and does it matter if when where sleeping even tho its a double bed sheet on a single bed this person takes all the covers and i lay there freezeing ??.......how do i show im truely sorry to this person when i get angry at this person when all i want for this person is for her to have nufing but smiles on her face and to feel like her face is gna brake coz the smiles and laughter keep cmin out even tho she wants it to stop coz it hurts...........how can i wipe away her tears when they come and make her feel secure again when the werst of things happen and ......how do i tell this person just once.....not everyday......every ten seconds and after every nice thing that happens...but just that one time that it hits her so hard she falls over and realises.......i love her so much ti forces tears out of me at the smallest sign of a sad slow song ???..............how ??
I'm 99% sure if you tell her all these things you just stated above, she'll be so stricken, so happy. It will overwhelm her, yes, but it will make her realize that you've fallen for her and that you would do anything for her. Be her romeo. That's really all I can say.
-Jessica 15/f
what is your take on strippers do you think their trashy or do you have any level of respect for them?
I think strippers are either women who really need money and will do what it takes to survive, if that means forgetting about their dignity. And it takes a lot of guts to forget about your dignity and go up and strip in front of a lot of degrading men. Or strippers are strong women with confidence who like what they do and understand a man's point of view. So I respect them. You definitely have to be strong and confident to do such a thing and I don't think I could ever be so strong to do it. And, let's be honest, what woman wouldn't want a lot of guys staring at her as if she was the hottest thing on this planet? haha seriously :) hope I helped
-Jessica 15/f
13/f
i really like this popular guy. i have an insane crush on him, and ive had it for awhile. we talk to each other sometimes and everyone thinks he likes me but i dont see it. i really think hes hates me actually. i dont want to go and just ask him flat out so does anyone have any ideas on how i can do anything else.
Here's a couple of choices of things you can do that worked for me 99.9% of the time :)
1) flirt with him. Flirt flirt flirt. Flirt so obviously that there will be no doubt in his mind that you like him. Of course, persistance is the key to getting a date with someone, so for some reason this always helped me get the guy to like me. And this also is a cool trick because if it turns out he doesn't like you, you can just claim you didn't like him either and that he must have misinterpreted your actions as flirting ;) which they were, but saying this will kind of turn the card on him so you're not humiliated and everyone else thinks you rejected him :) It always worked for me, but in case it doesn't for you, here's another trick I used-
2) Spread the rumor that you like him. If someone asks if you like him, giggle a litte and smile secretivly. This usually leads them to the conclusion that you do, and they'll usually go and tell others about it. Also, talk to a few of his friends about him. Ask questions like "does he have a girlfriend?" or "does he like anybody?". Things that mean you obviously are interested in him, but are trying to be a little bit subtle about it and not just say "does he say anything about me? Does he like me?". They will probably tell him that you asked about him and then he will know that you like him and will be teased about it until he is forced to confront you haha :) It's funny how gossip always spreads to the person it's about, but in this case, it's not bad :)
Well, those are my suggestions, and they always worked for me, so I hope they work for you too! Goodluck!
-Jessica 15/f
Hey! OKAY so i have this confusing situation.
let me first tell you i am 17 years old & female.
alright, well. last year you i met this guy and everything was going well until i found out he had a girlfriend and then he heard some weird stuff about me that wasn't true so he stopped talking to me, that was last march. recently this year in january he started talking to me again. and everything was better then ever! about a month ago he started dating another girl, its like it all happened all over again. then theres this other guy who moved away but i still have feelings for him but we argue all the time, its just impossible for it to work. RECENTLY i met a new guy, who i have actually known for a few years but we just started talking again, he has been amazing so far. i am really happy about him. i don't know what is wrong with me.. but i just cannot stop thinking about that 1st guy..i have had feelings for him for a year now, even after all of this. and as for the guy that moved to texas, he is just too complicated for me, but i care about him tons. and this new guy i actually really do like him, alot. but it is kind of frustrating because i don't know how he feels, and i don't think i can just ask him that. What do you suggest i do?
Well first off, forget about the guy who moved. I mean in the romantical sense, of course. You can still be friends with him or whatever, but if you two argue a lot, he obviously isn't mature enough to handle a lasting relationship. As for the first guy, this guy totally blew you off just because he HEARD some rumors that MIGHT be true, but didn't even respect you enough to ask you straight up if they were :/ sounds like a sissy to me, but I don't really know him so I won't judge. Of course, it might not hurt to continue to be friends with him, so if your other relationship doesn't work out, you'll have someone to fall back on. Also, about the whole "can't stop thinking about him" issue, I actually have experienced that. At first I thought it was love or something, but eventually I realized that the reason I couldn't stop thinking about him was because I got a rush at the thought of HIM being in love with ME, even though I knew it wasn't true deep down. I guess you could say I didn't love him, I loved the idea of being in love. I think you kind of like just thinking that there may be something beneath the friendship and he might some day admit his love to you and he will be really sweet. But it doesn't really work that way, unfortunately :( so as sorry as I am to say this, if he doesn't act interested, he's probably not. Plus if he's got a girlfriend, you definitely don't want to get tangled up into THAT drama o.o If I were you, I would get to know this 3rd guy a bit better. It sounds to me like he might be a great guy and if he doesn't already like you, he will if you keep persistant and continue trying to get close to him. You probably shouldn't ask him how he feels about you if you just met him because he might feel pressured to go out with you. However, once you get a bit more aquainted with him and get to know him better, feel free to admit your feelings to him (in the most uncreepy way possible o.o haha) and see how he replies :) Just don't come off as too pushy :) So yeah, keep up your friendship with all of them if you want, and I'm sure after you get a bit closer to them, you'll be able to narrow it down to just one guy :) Goodluck!!!
Jessica 15/f