I am a father of three, girl, boy, girl, all are now over 18. I have been married for 29 years as of 6-30-07, so yes, if you do the math I was married at 18, just after graduating high school. I am very aware of the pit falls of doing so, but we made it through the really tough times. I came to this site, because of my daughter, she also uses the site.
I am an author and have written three books, only one under this name, but it is not how I make my living. I am in business, working full time and I have a seasonal business in ponds, selling Koi, goldfish, water plants and supplies. I help people to plan and build ponds, as well as, maintenance if they need it.
I am not here for the ratings and could careless what you rate me. I will tell you things I know, I will tell you what you don't want to hear, but most of all, I will tell you things from my perspective. I have experienced a lot in my life, I have not lived with my head in the sand and I'm a realist, you want someone to blow smoke up your as*, don't read my writings, (I don't do fairy tales).
I am not so foolish as to think I am always right, I can only tell you what I know and give you something to think about. It is up to you to find out if I'm right or not.
Life is complicated, because people are complicated and one answer does not necessarily fit all, but that doesn't mean you should not consider what I say as a possibility.
Feel free to write me personally if you wish, there is only so much you can say in such a restrictive environment as this site is, it doesn't allow for proper conversation.
Thank you for coming to my column and giving me the chance to help.
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15/f
so me and my best friend have been best friends for almost two years. recently she's starting to diss me in front of people but act all nice to me when no one is around. so today we were talking about first impressions. And she was just saying to me how her facial expressions may seem rude but she's a nice person. She wanted me to agree with her but i didn't fully agree with her though. so i just nodded my head and stayed silent. so then she goes " Well if i'm not nice you're not either!!" do you think that's rude?! would you think a person is nice if they act rude around people but nice to you when no one is around? what should i do about her?! how should i tell her that she needs to stop?!
THANKS IN ADVANCE! (link)
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Tell me, what should a person do when someone shows their true colors and you don't like what you see? People who have two faces don't stop using them, trust me on this one. When you find someone who says one thing to your face and another behind your back, (so to speak), they are not your friend. I really don't think I need go further.
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My family has molested me, beaten me, vandalised my property and homes, told lies to my bosses and co-workers, had me fired numerous times. And I'm the bad family member.
I had blocked out most of my life and has taken me 20 years to remember. During this time, I have had no control on what I remembered and when, it just kinda happens.
My question is this: Do I owe it to the rest of my family to shut up about all the crap they did and still do to me? Or should I seek legal remedy? Prosecute them for all of it? They have brainwashed my children as well.
In a way I feel like a traitor, but they are the ones who betrayed me. The "adults" of the family have lied about things since I was 3 or 4 the first time I was molested.
My mother, who is 82, vandalized the home I purchased. It was 1 year old when I bought it. She and my brother tore holes in the walls, tore up the kitchen floor, scraped the stainless steel from the kitchen sinks, tore the rubber splash guard from the disposal, tore up the carpet. My daughters, broke the top of my glass stove, tore apart a computer work station. They made sure it went into foreclosure by having me fired and calling the place I had a job lined up. They gave me 2 seperate start dates then told me they gave the job to someone else. My youngest daughter was the only person I told. I paid $103,000 for it.
It was done so I would under their control. For 7 months, she told me what I could and couldnt do, what I could and couldnt eat, they disabled my car so I couldnt go anywhere.
Oh, I'm 49 years old and am ill. I have Multiple Sclerosis, Lupus, Raynaud, Crest syndrome, I have all the symptoms for Scleraderma and Sjodrens Diseases.
I am currently living in a rented storage unit.
Please advise. (link)
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Please research and find a very good Psychologist. You will need to tell him or her of all this, as well as collect all the evidence you can that these things occurred. You will need an expert to testify, for they will not take your word in court over the number of people who have did theses things. You know they will all lie in court and the judge will believe them over just you. So get professional help.
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Im 16 straight and I have a problem with my best friend.
She is a little older than me. She is like my sister and I her brother. but what I need help with,is that she loves me more than that, she wants the relationship to go further. Im ready for that yet and I don't feel the same towards her.
I've never had a girl friend before and she has been with guys that have tried to have sex with her or have sexually harassed her. She says that Im the her knight in shining armor.
I don't want her getting hurt again.
Please help me with this. =( (link)
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There is nothing wrong with telling someone you are not ready for dating, I wish more young people would just admit that. You don't have to go into any more detail then that, just simply tell her as you did us, "I'm not ready for dating yet" and leave it at that.
If she can't respect that, then she can't respect you, or your decisions and that should tell you something.
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I'm married (have been for 5 years) and I recently ran into my old high school flame. I was crazy about him but it didn't work out because he moved away. He is married now as well (but not happily). We decided to secretly meet up and catch up on old times. Since then we have been talking a lot and he says he thinks he is falling in love with me and he wants to leave his wife. He asked me if I would leave my husband for him. Truthfully I have thought about it. He says he thinks it is meant to be, and in a way I do too. I'm just not sure what to do. I love my husband but I don't think I'm in love with him anymore. I'm just not sure if I would be making a mistake. I just need some advice without being judged. (link)
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Let's see, your husband is disposable, his wife is disposable, how long before you are disposable? Hey, why don't you go for an alternative life style and ask your spouses if they just want to trade back and forth?
You know, I struggled with even answering this, because no matter what is said, your just going to do what you want. Your mind is already made up, your just looking for someone to approve of you and be on your side. A vow, is a vow, it amuses me how easily the two of you are willing to go back on your word. I sure am glad you are just another person in a box so I can think that this scenario is not real and it's just a story.
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ok my friend keeps saying he likes me and he is going out with my friend she is clueless on this whole ordeal and i really like the guy and this always happens to me and hes telling me to wait for him for like 5 more months but he is wanting to kiss me makeout with me hold hands etc. and i just dont no if i should tell the friend or not and should i tell him i loe him to cause i kinda do. (link)
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This is very simple, he's keeping you on the line as back up. If he can't get what he wants from your friend, he'll move on to you. So if 5 months go by and she hasn't given him sex, he'll give you six months maybe and if you don't give him sex by then, he'll move on to the next girl.
I don't know how old you are, but I do know you are not ready to date. Learn, watch, know yourself and pay attention to what goes on around you. When you don't have to ask people these questions and you can identify the different types of guys, (Like who's a predictor and who's honestly looking for a friend), then start dating in a bit more informed manner.
Please take care dear one and remember, knowledge is your best protection.
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ok i am gettin EXTREMELY annoyed with my freinds freinds putting me down all the time, since i have started working with them all in a shop all they'v proceeded to do is demise my intelligence and throw ideas at me like "well if he did that it would destroy the county" and other stupid things liek that, it normally doesnt annoy me but i dont see any of us leaving any time soon so i need a way around it. the key points of them i want to block out is thier annoying *omfg your such an idiot* attitude towards me because i dont see them doing it to any of their other freinds. i may not be the most skilled to apply to thier oh so high list of needs but they dont see what psycological hate i am growing for them. any advice on these pathetic lowlifes would be much much appreciated cause im gonna end up beating the living **** out of them (link)
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I will tell you a hard and fast rule. Never make friends with the people you work with and never work with friends. Be friendly, but don't take the relationship outside of work. There is all kinds of problems with that and your just starting to find them out. You are experiencing the dog pack mentality, they must show their dominance over you, so be a good puppy and go lay down by your dish.
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"so be a good puppy and go lay down by your dish" This was not directed at you by me, it is in reference to what they are telling you to do, just not in those words. I'm glad to see it had my desired effect on you, it was meant to grab your attention and ruffle your fur, but direct your anger towards the ones you should be directing it at, the ones that you should be standing up too. Now that you've shown me your a man, show them.
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ok so my best friends and i have been together since the 5th grade. but one time i made a mistake and sent a kinda rude e-mail to them. i apologized and we were friends again. but then they acted like they didn't want to be friends with me anymore. so i sent another e-mail asking what was going on and why they were leaving me out. my one friend responded, yelling at me, she told me that it was my fault and im becoming distant and im being moody. she didn't understand that im busy and im growing up as well. soo today i figured out that all three of them, got together and hung out behind my back and once again, she acted as if it was my fault. i don't know what to do? im not becoming distant or moody! im a woman, and im growing up. i don't know if they're right or if i should move on and make more friends besides them? what should i do? (link)
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Never stop growing for anyone!!!!!!
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so, I really like this site and will continue using it, but sometimes I get tired of all the repeated questions of "does he like me?" "Boy problems" "am I pregnant" etc, etc. I am not a teenage girl, but I do understand the teens asking these questions though. Anyway, does anyone know of another site like this that is more adult oriented? thanks (link)
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You know what? This site would not have these questions over and over again if adults were doing their jobs. It is our most important job to help kids understand these things and from the look of this site, we are failing misserably.
In case you haven't noticed, the ones who are asking these things are most often 13 to 15 years of age. Why are they asking these things? Because they are having SEX! My question is, is why are they having sex when most of the time, they don't even really know what it is. These young spirits should be exploring themselves, finding out who and what they are, not exploring something that many adults can't handle.
How hard is it for you to click a button and tell these young people this. You could help them to understand that there are things that are meant to wait for a later date. Instead you would rather ignore them then give them the benefit of what you know as an adult. You want to live in this new world were anything goes and you better not speak out when a child is doing something wrong, because you don't want a bad rating, what the hell is wrong here. It sure ain't the same questions being asked over and over, it's complaisance. Your happy just letting these kids get knocked up, or waste their time dating, trying to understand the opposite sex, when they don't even understand themselves.
You want to give free advice to people who most of them can afford to pay for it and most of them are beyond your help. These children come here looking for help and most of those who advise them tell them what they want to hear so they can get good ratings, when what they need to hear is the truth. They are not going to get the truth from someone who is in the same age bracket.
You disappoint me and those who side with you. Please, if you can't tell the people here what they need to hear, please, please do find another site, these kids get ignored enough the way it is and they are what is important, not you and not me.
You all have a long way to go to becoming Human Beings.
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There's this guy who was my first boyfriend. We dated for a year and a half in middle school. It was very much a middle school relationship. In the fall of last year, he contacted me again for the first time since middle school. In eighth grade he moved, and I moved in 9th grade, so we haven't spoken to each other in about six years. He lives a state away from me, about 6 hours away. Anyway, last fall he wanted to come visit me, and I agreed since it might be nice to rekindle an old friendship. Anyway, a day after arriving, he wanted to date me. I of course refused. The problem with him is that he has never been single since middle school. He's also only dated three women, with me being the first. So basically, he dated me through out Middle school, then another girl through high school, and a third girl afterward. He can't stand being single, and he even told me that his girl friend (whoever that is) is his best friend and that he spends all his time with her and they do everything together. His life is even more messed up than mine is, which doesn't bother me, but it has led to him being pretty directionless. Though I consider myself pretty directionless, he's more directionless than I am and has given up on more things. He's tried being a computer web designer, a police officer, a marine (which didn't work out because it turns out he's partly deaf and colorblind), an arcade mechanic, and now works at Walmart. He hasn't even turned 21 yet. He has a very idealistic view of relationships and wants to find his one true love and believes that we may be fated to be together for an eternity, since I was his first girlfriend. His mom is a drug addict, and he was abused by a lot of his mom's lovers in the past, so I think he really just wants someone to give him the type of love he didn't have in his youth. He also wants a long term relationship, because he doesn't want to be like his mom and go through 4 divorces with abusive men. So basically, I think he only wants to date me because he doesn't want to be single. I do feel very attracted to him sexually, but two people dating each other because one wants a girlfriend and the other wants sex (I'm not sexually active, but I am sexually frustrated) is a stupid reason to start a relationship. I know him pretty well, and I like him as a person, but I don't love him, at least not in the way described in pop music or romance novels. He wants a long term relationship, and I sort of just want a short term fling, and I don't know if this relationship could last for the long term, since we're at very different places in our lives. I will graduate college in a year, and he's just working at Walmart. I don't look down on him for doing it, it's just that my future will probably involve me moving somewhere after I graduate, and I have more goals than him, and I don't see him following me to where ever I go. He says he likes long distance relationships, but I'm terrible when it comes to them. He contacted me again recently, and wants to visit me again. I know he also wants to visit me as a way to escape from his problems at home. I am tempted to let him visit me, but am unsure about pursuing a relationship. The thing is, that I have liked guys and I have lusted after guys, but I have never lusted after a guy that I liked, and I don't think I have ever been in love before, not the way other girls on here talk about it anyway. Am I just being too picky in my relationships? A lot of guys have wanted to date me, but I keep saying no because I either like them but am not attracted to them, or I'm attracted to them, but don't feel we have anything in common. Why can't I just find a guy that I like, love, and lust after at the same time? Is there something wrong with me? Should I just give my ex-boyfriend a chance and hope love develops somehow, or is love supposed to be instant? What does romantic love even feel like and why do I seem incapable of feeling it? I used to think I was asexual, but I don't think I am because I have a very high sex drive, so I don't know whats wrong. I do want a relationship with someone though... (link)
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You are absolutely incredible and I mean that. Control is a very important thing in life if you want to grow and I am proud of you. You are still trying to find yourself and understand what it is you are thinking and feeling, it is obviously not time for you to drag another person into your life to complicate it.
Think about this for a time, see if it makes sense to you. Love is most often given first, look at the bible, it is taught to love thy neighbor and to love they enemy, do you think that love is meant to be the complicated emotion here, or is it like that is the most complicated? I would put it to you that you already love this person and have for many years, but your degree of liking him is not very high. Yes, physical attraction comes into play, actually, it is rather important when your young, but being able to fall in like with the person your going to spend your life with is the most important thing.
The degree that you like a person is what will get you through the hard times. It is what will get you through the tragedies, being fired, losing your parents and oh so many things that I guaranty are going to happen to you. (Never stop being picky.)
Remember what you are, a Human Being, the marring of the Human animal and the Spiritual being. The human animal has all these urges that you speak of and it is real easy to give into them. The spiritual being is there to learn to control the animal. Feel the feelings, understand the feelings and learn how to use them at the proper time. Every one wants the animal in bed at times, but we want that animal to mean something, not just a memory we hold dear from a ship that passed in the night.
Being all you can be does not just apply to the armed services, being everything you can be applies to your mate, to yourself and to your spirit. Find yourself, then find a guy that will be everything to you, than be everything to him. I will guaranty that you will be happy with him till the end.
Much love my sweet, good luck on your journey, don't hesitate to write again.
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14/m
i have a big problem here. im going into highschool this year and i havent had a girlfriend in such a long time. the last time i had a girlfriend was back in december and it was a girl in a lower grade then me. and i have lots of friends and everything and i guess im popular. ive mad friends with pretty much all the attractive girls. and if i would ask any of them out they all say "were too good of friends" and dont even give me a chance. it makes me so frustrated. i think they are lying to me and just saying that as an excuse. ive tried changing myself so they will like me but it doesnt work. i think its because im fat. i think im fat. i just want to know why none of my friends will date me?? it makes me so sad and it makes me want to give up (link)
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You should realize that your problem is, at 14, most people are not ready to have girlfriends/boy friends. A large portion of these girls aren't considering you, because they don't want a boyfriend period.
You should be working on friendships during this stage in life, not trying to find your life partner, (that is the reason for dating you know). You are looking for your life partner at age 14? You looking to get married at 15? You often find what you are looking for, when you're not looking for it. Stop prioritizing the wrong things, focus on what is really going to help you, like finding out more about yourself, who you are and what is really important, that is when the girls will start finding you interesting.
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my boyfriend just broke up with me
we never see eachother because we live in different states
but i loved him. and i still do
i knew it was coming too, but it still hit me pretty hard
he just wasnt acting like a boyfriend anymore
and i told him stuff last night bout our relationship and how i felt about what hes doing to it and he was crying for a while and i tohught it was cute
and hes just like i love you soo much and i never wanna lose you
and then i told him id call him when i got home tonight
and he never answered. i called like like a billion times and then he finally calls at like 3:00 and hes like we cant be together anymore
btu hes like we can still be reallyeally good friends
i just have been getting alot of crap from people (i have too but if he really loved me that much he would stay with me and forget waht people have to say. its a relationship between us too. not the whole world)
and he said i dont know what to do right now i think we should just have a break. but i think he just said that to make me feel a little better.
ive been crying and i dont know waht to do.
i wanna talk to him
but idk what to say.
helpppp! (link)
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You're going to love many people in your life and what's wrong with that? You should accept that and take every love for what it is. Right now, I love you and mentally I am sitting beside you giving you a hug. I should not feel this, or experience this?
Love is what we are suppose to do, that doesn't mean we are suppose to be with that person. I will never actually be beside you and will never physically hug you. We will not spend our life together, but does that make the love I feel for you right now any less, or invalid?
Stop treating love as if it's exclusive and understand that it is meant to be given. Don't cheapen it by thinking that it is something that can be taken back, lost, or even lessened by distance.
The decision he is making is the right one, for him, respect that. He lives in the physical, as most of us do. He needs to feel love, not just read it and hear it and so do you.
We don't know what the future will bring, but experience love in all its forms, don't limit it.
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well i have this best friend and hes so great! i really want him to like me more than a friend but i dont know why! i kinda think i like him but im not sure. i dont know if i just want him to like me because i crave guy attention or because i like him. i just know hes just what i look for in a guy. but his family is also my familys best friends so i would be very apprehensive of dating because what about when we broke up???? AWKWARD!! his family comes over all the time and he and i are best friends and i would be afraid things would end badly. Anyway! back to the main point: how can i know if i want him to like me because i like him or because i crave guy attention or what? i would rather date a guy like him whos family isnt so close to mine but i dont know any as good as him. please help! i keep debating this and im so confused!! just tell me what you think and how to figure out if i like him because i know you cant tell me if i like him or not but you can help! thanks!!! :)
ps i got jealous because hes been talking to my bff (who lives really far away so i kno they wont ever date or anything but still) because i want him to be interested in ME (link)
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I'm amazed, your actually asking the right question here and to top it off, you seem to know yourself, I am near speechless.
You sound very much to me like you like this guy and the confusion probably comes from the fact that you have already given your love to him and don't realize it. Now don't jump on this and react, love is a very easy thing to give, it's not like that is the challenge here. The main thing is that you find out your answers and none of us here can give them to you. Time will give them to you. You are doing great, exactly what you should be doing, exploring your feelings and trying to understand just exactly what they are. Continue this until you know for sure, it's good to learn and grow.
Continue to shine dear one.
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F/15
I'm going to be a sophomore this fall. I've had boyfriends before. A guy I sorrta like says I'm a scene kid. I disagree. That's him.
A good few people say I'm sooo pretty, absolutely amazing. I guess I'm straightedge? I don't even curse.
I have a friend. Neither of us have kissed a guy. Since we came into highschool she's changed soo much. It breaks my heart! A few close friends of mine warn me that she seems a little 'familiar'. She's trying too hard to be like me.
She just got a boyfriend over a week ago and only told me now.
So, If I'm so great, why can't I get a guy? I am pretty shy and don't like school activities, picky, and no one understands me [in a good way].
I have high selfesteem but not so much to come off as being cocky, if you know?
But I do get jealous of others easy.
I'm willing to out with a boy, kiss him, as long as he does first.
but..is it okay to be upset with my friend? She's pretending to be me and got a guy first. I find this so odd. Oh! NOWW Shes sorta 'cool'. Her boyfriend is quarterback of class clowns.
Hah, shes such a prep (link)
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Not only do you have a problem with jealousy, you have a problem with being too competitive. You have a friend that likes who you are so much that she mimics you. Now is the problem that she acts like you, or that she does it better then you?
At 15 you should not be so concerned about having a boy friend. Your life is going to be so much fun spending it playing follow the leader. You don't have an independent bone in your body and your going to go through your life reacting, instead of acting and actually doing something with your own.
Congarts, you actually got me feeling sorry for you, that's a real accomplishment, it happens so rarely.
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I feel sorry for you, because I knew that you would and probably never will see the truth. Wow, am I surprised; you can write your letter, but not see how it drips with competitiveness. There is a saying that goes "Impersonation is the sincerest form or flattery", yet all you can do is hate her for it and want to be "yourself", better then her, (I'm just not sure how that works exactly).
I'm not sure how she does you, better then you, but my guess would be, you don't know who you are very well. Instead of hating, why don't you try learning more about who you are, you might find that not only will the boys like you better, but maybe the girls will like you better too.
And for goodness sake, stop playing the victim, it gets old real fast.
Remember, you are precious and special in your own right, you don't need to compete.
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I've been seeing this guy for about a month now, but we haven't officially started a relationship together. I am positive he is interested in me, but I'm not sure about my feelings. He's a good guy and all my friends approve and my parents like him. He's very talented and into music and he's pretty easy-going. And he treats me with a lot of respect(opens doors, pays for dinner, good manners). But I don't know if he's my type- I'm athletic and outdoorsy, and he doesn't like to work out (and he's slightly overweight). We get along well, but he's not my dream guy...
Point is, I'm a busy girl, I don't normally invest time in a relationship unless I think it will have potential. Is this guy worth sticking with? (link)
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If your friends and parents approve, he's not the right guy. Kidding aside, never base anything in your life on others approval. The main reason I say this is, most people are competitive and don't want you to do better then them. They may seem like they do, but most really don't.
I have passed up many opportunities in life because of the non-approving parent or friend saying, "You can't do that", only to have someone else do it later. The same goes for approval, if you go through life seeking approval all the time, you will pass up countless opportunities and your life will not be yours in the end.
Dating, etc.., is about finding the person that you can spend your life with. If you already know you can't spend your life with him, why date him?
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Okay i feel weird asking this but none of my friends can help so heres the sitch....
I am almost 16 * 2 months and six days* My real dad left when i was 3 and i havent had contact with him or his family since, now affter 13 years his mom * my grandma i guess* finds me on myspace and wants to be my friend and wants me to call her and stuff. I kinda want to but i dont know if i should since they didnt want to be part of my life for so long. SO yeah what would you do if you were me??? (link)
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I was about 6 when my parents split, I was about ten when she remarried, I think I saw my father about twice in all that time. After my mother remarried, I saw him once, then she struck up a deal with him. If he stopped seeing my brother and me, he didn't have to pay child support, (which legally, she had no right to do). He sold me and my brother to my mom for 100 dollars a month each.
Fast forward a bit over 13 years; I'm married, my wife is pregnant with my first child and I'm living in the same city as my real father. I have gotten in touch with him and his side of the story is, "I have seen how confusing it is for young children with step parents and I felt it was best to stay away.
My daughter is now 24 if memory serves and I haven't seen or heard from him since shortly after her birth. He didn't want to have any responsibility for me then, he still doesn't now.
I think it is a fair question to ask of your Grandmother, Why, why now? Is she feeling her mortality and wanting someone to testify before her god how nice she was to stretch out her hand to you? Personally, like my situation, I think we're looking at a too little too late thing here.
What you will get from those who left their beautiful baby behind so long ago, will be excuses at best. They will not make you whole, they will not answer the questions of your life. Odds are, they will make you feel more empty inside then before rediscovering them. If they knew where you were throughout your childhood and made no attempt to see you, talk to you, or do so much as send you a birthday present, tell me, what makes you even entertain the thought of getting to know these people now?
I think that gives you a good idea of what I would do now, but it also says what I did then. I'm sure you will most likely be stupid like I was and go with the romantic happy ending crap, only to find out there isn't one.
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my boyfriend and i were not sure about goin out however we got into a relationship that i thought he was happy with he dumped me last night and im trying not to be upset but im gonna see him at school all the time this will make it harder for me what shall i do (link)
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You need to readjust your thinking my dear. Dating is about finding the right person, if you're going to take it personal every time a guy decides you're not the right girl for him, you're going to waste a lot of time crying over a tub of ice cream. Stop looking at dating as a contest and look at for what it is, a test. One you should be giving each other.
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So i went out with this boy who was a good friend befor we went out for like 2 years. i broke up with him because everyone was on my back about how we never kissed or went on dates. this had of been the biggest mistake of my life! a few months ago i asked if i could have a second chance that i had make a huge mistake and he said no. we are closer friends then ever now but i want more then that. and two weeks after i asked him out again he went out with another girl 2 years older then him and never told me they were going out! what should i do? ireally want him back. (link)
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You've done what you can, it's up to him now. He knows you're still interested in him, leave it at that. They tell us guys, "NO means No", does this not apply to the girls too? Or is this one of those double standard things?
What you really need to learn from this is to not let others make your decisions for you.
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hey ok so i babysit my neighbor and she is like 9 and her older brother is like 13 and im 14 but almost 15 and her older brother always has his friends over when im babysitting.. and one of his friends is REALLY tall and kinda cute(he kinda looks like he could pass for a sophmore or junior in high school).. would that be totally weird to like a guy thats like 2 grades lower than me? im a freshman in highschool and hes in 7th grade . thanks (link)
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I have to say at your ages, though weird is not the word I would use, but yes 2 years can be a problem. When your young, the stage in life you are at can be huge, even 1 year can be too much. Be friendly, talk when you get the chance, but at best, start a friendship with him. As you both get older, there may come a time when the stage you are in no longer comes into play. If nothing else, you may get a good friend out of it.
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hi,
im from london,
um...there's this guy in my school that im proper into, and we was proper close friends and all and we nearly went out with each other but we didnt coz of me acting like a div! and for some reason he just stopped talking to me and i tried to talk to him alone but he just didnt want to he just refuses! and i always see him around school like every minute of the day and i dont know what to do its hard to seeing him around school! and i tried moving on but i just cant, its too hard!
what should i do?!?!?!?!?!? thanx...
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It is a pleasure to meet you, as it should be for this young man, but you should stop pursuing him. Stay in his line of sight and let him get over what ever it is that turned him off so to you. Don't be rude, say hi as you pass him and wait, you'll know when to go further then saying hi. We all grow up, we all get over the stupid stuff, give it time.
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im a 13 year old girl and i havent even started my period and i am having sex dreams and i masterbate at least 5-9 times a day and i think it would be fun to have kinky sex so i guess what im really asking is should i have sex? (link)
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I find it really hard not to ask, "Are you kidding?" No, at 13 you should not be having sex, masturbating is one thing, sex is a whole other realm.
There is so many things to consider when you enter into the world of being sexually active and you should not involve yourself in it until you understand them.
Sorry, I'm just not going into this any further, because I really doubt the sincerity and validity of this question. I apologize if you have written this in good faith.
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