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Family secrets
My family has molested me, beaten me, vandalised my property and homes, told lies to my bosses and co-workers, had me fired numerous times. And I'm the bad family member.
I had blocked out most of my life and has taken me 20 years to remember. During this time, I have had no control on what I remembered and when, it just kinda happens.
My question is this: Do I owe it to the rest of my family to shut up about all the crap they did and still do to me? Or should I seek legal remedy? Prosecute them for all of it? They have brainwashed my children as well.
In a way I feel like a traitor, but they are the ones who betrayed me. The "adults" of the family have lied about things since I was 3 or 4 the first time I was molested.
My mother, who is 82, vandalized the home I purchased. It was 1 year old when I bought it. She and my brother tore holes in the walls, tore up the kitchen floor, scraped the stainless steel from the kitchen sinks, tore the rubber splash guard from the disposal, tore up the carpet. My daughters, broke the top of my glass stove, tore apart a computer work station. They made sure it went into foreclosure by having me fired and calling the place I had a job lined up. They gave me 2 seperate start dates then told me they gave the job to someone else. My youngest daughter was the only person I told. I paid $103,000 for it.
It was done so I would under their control. For 7 months, she told me what I could and couldnt do, what I could and couldnt eat, they disabled my car so I couldnt go anywhere.
Oh, I'm 49 years old and am ill. I have Multiple Sclerosis, Lupus, Raynaud, Crest syndrome, I have all the symptoms for Scleraderma and Sjodrens Diseases.
I am currently living in a rented storage unit.
Please advise.
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Please research and find a very good Psychologist. You will need to tell him or her of all this, as well as collect all the evidence you can that these things occurred. You will need an expert to testify, for they will not take your word in court over the number of people who have did theses things. You know they will all lie in court and the judge will believe them over just you. So get professional help.
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Well to me it sounds like you have no other chocie you must get away from your family, at all means. i say you grabe your kids and go somewhere, states away if you must. somewhere where they won't look for you and start your life there. you may also want to get a restraining order on them. But if you have proff or what they did to you, pictures, witnesses, Ect. and if you want this ended and want "get back" than Proecute them by all means, but a jury isn't going to beleive you if you don't have edvenice.
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First off, I'm so sorry that all of these things happened to you. No one should go through everything you have.
That being said, you most definitely should get legal help- especially if they are still causing you problems. It seems to me that you don't like to talk about it- since you blocked most from your memory, and have only told your daughter these things. What you're going to need to is find a lawyer you can talk to and trust, and tell them everything you can remember that has happened- molestation, beating, harassment, vandalism, battery- all of those things are illegal no matter what age you were when they took place, and need to be dealt with. Once you have talked it out with your lawyer (I'd advise getting a therapist too, it could help you work out your problems) ask your lawyer what the best course of action would be, taking into consideration everything that happened. I'm sure that there are a lot of things that your family could be charged with- though one thing to take into consideration is this: I'm pretty sure you can't be charged for something that you did as a child, when you are an adult. I'm not entirely sure- maybe I'm completely wrong- but that's just something to think about regarding your cousins and brother.
I hope everything turns out okay for you- you'll be in my prayers. Good luck!
~Becky
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