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Born in the 60's means I have had a great life full adventures and mishaps and experiences and direction. I am 5th of 6 sibblings. Now I am married 24 yrs with 2 teenage boys 17 & 16 yrs and a son 8yrs
Boys are definately challenging but I am up to the task. We own a business here 20 yrs I am a jack of all trades master of none. If you want something done you got to do it yourself. I pride my self with the fact that when I left home I never asked my parents for any assistants of any kind esspecially money. I struggled and now I am my own success story.

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What do Americans speak? I know that people from England speak English but I've always called what I spoke English. I'm in the United States though, not from England so I'm not English. Am I still considered to be English-speaking or is it referred to as something else? I'm confused

American speak American. The true Language of Britton comes from the spoken words of the Brittish Empire. The Queen. To speak the Queens english is to pronounce each word correctly. It is impropper to use slang or to swear. Now many town in Britton have various accents and some don't say the words properly at all this is the character of individual towns. You can tell where they are from by the words they speak the accent they use. A bit like New Yorkers sound different to The Southerners in Texas or New Oleans. I'm 8 generations Aussie by the way. Cheers

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I am a sophomore in college, and I go to a smaller school. I am going to become an Avon representative and I was just wondering if anyone could give me some tips to become successful.

Avon don't advertise, that's there motto. So you have to leave thier book where ever there are lots of women. get a map of your area draw a 5,10.15,20 km radius circle & work that location. there should be schools community centres Child care centres libruary super markets. I new a woman who represented Nutrometics similar to Avon however she devised a plan that got her the top sales award. She made a box and got a pad of entry forms "WIN A NUTRAMETICS PARTY". when you filled out the forms she had everyones address and everyone was the winner. funny that. it worked for her and she was very successful and one 2 weeks in Hawaii. Good Luck

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So, I got my period early and accidentally bled a little bit on my jeans and one pair of my panties (duh, right?). I was wondering how I can get the blood stains out...anyone have a good method or product to remove stains?

Blood is a protien base so soak in icy cold water this shrinks the cells you can rub some concentrated laundry liquid over the stain while soaking Nappy San is good to soak in then scrub with a nail scrubber brush. You can also buy small bottles of stain removers in the super market take awy all the hard work. The stain may take a few washes to go away but it will go away eventually. Good luck

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i have been through so much in the past year, that the truth is, i just don't know how i've been able to do it all. I've been trying to fight an eating disorder for the past year. Close to full recovery, right after the day I graduated from high school, my mother decides to tell me that i'm adopted. i started college in the summer, because i enrolled for summer b, before i knew my mom was going to tell me that. so, right after graduation, she tells me that, i get back into my eating disorder, and i have to start school right away. i started school extremely depressed. i didn't know who i was anymore, or where i came from. two weeks after that, i find my biological family, and i discovered way too many things. some were good, some were bad. but the bottom line is, that i'm a little bit depressed. there has been a lot more going on in my life. this is just an overview. i can't do it anymore. sometimes, i get so depressed, i can't go to school. my mother treats me like an infant. i'm in freakin college, and i love my mother so much, but it pisses me off. i constantly have to remind her that i'm not a baby. i'm so upset and i hate my life so much. its like nothing makes me happy. i honestly don't know what to do, and i wish i could just not go to school or anything, but i fear that it will make it worst. can anyone give me any type of advice? i use to be a happy girl... and i now i can barely remember what it feels like to be happy.

You said: i'm a little bit depressed. use to be a happy girl.
You can't change other people or the past but you can change the future. I had an anorexia thing going on for 2 yrs I was 36 I was punishing my self by not nourishing my body. It's a sad way to beat yourself up. My Grand father was told on his wedding day he was adopted. Talk about bad timing but he survived. So will you. Your drepression is not your fault, Anti depressants will solve your sadness & bring you a joy just like you remember. Please take yourself to your Dr. and get a script.
When you start to act different (happier) your Mum will notice, you will be able to discuss things with her in a whole new mature way. You're concentration is in tact you can proceed forward with your life. good luck

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f/18

okay so here is my problem... I had my peirod two weeks ago and normally they are a good 4-6 days but mine was only two days and i just spotted for 2-3 days after and week ago I noticed my boobs started to hurt. I dont know if it could be pregnancy or something else cause i have also been more moody than normal and i sometimes feel bloated. Im trying not to jump to conclusions so what other thigns can cause these symptoms?

I used to get sore bossoms particularly in the one spot But I have had 3 kids. so I got my husband to... what we call "make the bread". he basicly cup my bossom and roll clockwise and anticlock wise this helped. The pill can cause period disruptions if you take them incorrectly. The pill makes your egg seem fertilised to any sperm. the body reacts to the sudden hormone drop if you mistake the dose or miss a dose. see your Dr have an examination this is the only way to certain. good luck

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im 16 boy

i have REALLY bad luck with girls. i dunno if its bad luck, or if im doing somethign wrong. its not thatim ugly or fat. im 5'7, medium build, asian. whatever. but i always end up freaking girls out by the stupid things that i say. they said that i go on too fast, and some say too slow. so i tried middle, BUT THAT DOESNT WORK EITHER!

ughhh this is soooo confusing and i feel like giving up on girls forever. help me

please dont give me an obvious asnwer. i want details, long explanations

Not Bad Luck you just lack charm. Close your eyes & imagine what James Bond would be like to watch if you were the main charactor with your personality? O.k. get the picture. Now try to take a bit of that swave sophisticated James Bond with you when your in the company of a girl. Sometimes silence is golden a smile & a look can be memorable. Ask questions peole love to talk about the things they like. You don't have to fall all over yourself trying to impress, leave that for the comedians. There is a book on the market or the libuary called "How to win friends and influence people to your way of thinking" by Dale Carnigie. Step by step instructions on the Art of conversation. You will be amazed at just where your going wrong.
Never lend this book you'll never get it back it's so good. Good Luck

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Okay, I am a band geek, forever and always, and a lot of controversy stirs up whenever I talk about how hard it is. People always say band isn't a sport but in a lot of ways we are more advanced than a sport, we practice everyday for 5 hours starting at 8 am going to 1.. in the SUMMER! We practice Tuesdays and Thursday's after school for 2 and a half hours, the beginning of that practice consists of yoga to get your muscles ready to march and some running to pump up your adrenaline AND NO water breaks! We have performances Fridays at football games and Saturdays for Cavalcades, cavalcade mornings, man oh man, we must arrive at 8 am, practice three hours then we go home until report time when we go back for more practice before we actually perform. At after school practices we must memorize music which are 2 pages long usually each band plays three songs, so that's 6 pages of music to memorize. We also must learn our sets, which is where we stand in the show and that's usually 20 sets a song so that's 60 different spots on the field we need to learn, and believe me each set isn't "okay you stand on the 50 yard line" it's "2.5 steps inside the front sideline hash and 3.75 steps outside side 2 35 yard line." It's confusing, plus you need to learn different routes to take so you don't run into other band members. We also need to learn the exact beat our horn goes up to the box and how long it needs to stay up or how long or short we need to halt. It gets hard at cavalcades because there is a judge in your face saying things into a recorder but you can't look him/her in the eyes then they will deduct points for not watching your drum major. If anyone thinks band isn't a sport or matter of factly, more than a sport than you're ridiculous. What's your take?

Thank you for pointing out just what it takes to be a band member. I see them on the T.V. all the time in movies. I have been quite ignorant as to the level of training & dicipline it takes to reach high quality levels of performances. I had now idea. Not everyone can play an instrument so give yourself a pat on the back. Listen to the music of today it's just not thier style and they just don't want to get your style. You can't please everyone so don't even try, you just please yourself. You may be a music teacher or play a concerto someday. keep up the good work.

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I've been having these really bad headaches that lasts a week sometimes a week and a half at a time no matter what kind of pain meds I take what should I do?

You know what they say if pain persist see your Doctor. That a long time to have a head ach my friend. Migrains are very painful and can last for days you see a white dot infront of you where ever you look you have to be in quiet zones like bed and in the dark to get any kind of relief and can even make you nauseous. I have had a few in my life not many but if I get a head ace I pressure punture the web of skin above my thumb joint there is a nerve there that relieves headace. You can google this information to get the right spot. good luck

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Well I joined newly to collage two months are over since I joined I have very less friends thers a girl in my class who I like bt I never speak to her she come and spoken to me once saying wats up bt I dint hav the courage to speak to her she again looked at me after a few days and smiled I want to knw if she likes me to cause it looks like she's always trying to approach bt she too is a bit shy she wats me to speak to her bt I'm shy do u think she likes me wat shd I do I'm really attracted to her and I love her a lot

You said: thers a girl in my class who I like

Is there any chance you can study together as an ice breaker. There is nothing to be scared about she won't bite you. Enjoy the process of guy meets girl. Your obviously not the bad boy type. She is not the bad girl type so what are you waiting for. Be yourself. Practice in the mirror.
go to the hairdresser get a cool do she will notice it it's the tpoic of conversation of an ice breaker. ask her to study buddy with you. perfect.

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im a 16 yearold girl and i know this may sound really dumb, but can you get pregnant from masturbating? i know it sounds crazy but i just want to know if there is anyway possible. im not an idiot, im just having pregnancy like symptons, and the only thing ive done is masturbate. so im just a little confused. thanks in advance.

An imaculate conception...No... absolutly not that is impossible. See your Dr if symthoms persist you may be having difficult pariods.
Unless you passed out at someones house and have been taken advantage of with out your knowledge you cannot be pregnant. You may need test done for curvical cancer. I heard a 20 yr old had it so it's not nessecarily an older woman's disease the only way to be sure is a Pap smear test. Go see your DR. Good luck

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okay,
so last night a guy came over and everytime when he wanted to kiss me i would back off. i would tell him no. and then he would get mad. i havent made out in a long time and im really scared because i dont know how to do it anymore or i dontwant to be bad at it. but he told me before that he came that he wants to date but i told him that we have to see eachother more so he said that he is going to come over everyday but i doubt that he is anymore because i made him mad because i wont kiss him. i know that yall think that its stupid for him to get mad, but its actaully not because ive made out with other guys like 2 months ago. and they are random guys to. so he is mad now. and i texted him when he left saying that ill promise him that next time that we hang out that i will kiss him. but i really want to date him but i think that i screwed it all up.
help please.
idk what to do anymore.

You need more time to adjust and feel comfortble with him & make sure good decisions are being made. He wants hanky panky and your not there yet. He should respect that otherwise let him go if he loves you he will understand. I went out with a guy when I was 16 for 6 mths no sex I liked him but I wasn't in love with him. You get that sometimes. He's the ex boyfriend I have the most respect for. You do things your way you say No for your own reasons that is very responsible. Good luck sweetie

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so me and my gf plan on moving in together. She babysits for her roomate who really doesnt deserve kids because she is always working and when she gets home she goes to bed she puts them to bed also. So my gf is stuck watching them most of the time. When we move out she said she will prolly have to still do it because of a program (long story but yeah) and I wanna move out and start our own family is she gona be stuck with the kids all the time and the little one shes kinda attached to she said he would stay atleast one night a week and sleep in our bed and the way we would sleep is he would be on her side and shed be cuddling up next to him and I would be pretty much sleeping alone on my side of the bed. If she still has to babysit him do you think we wont stay? I am not jealous of the kids but I thought us moving out things would change which she said. And sometimes her roomate gets mad and says she wont be watching the kids so what do I do?? I wanna talk to her but how can I not make her mad?

You asked:And sometimes her roomate gets mad and says she wont be watching the kids so what do I do?? I wanna talk to her but how can I not make her mad?


Does your GF get paid? if so her roster should be fixed 8.5 hours eg: start 9.am finish 5.30 or what ever her shift covers and stick with it. ask for overtime if longer. Is The mother working night/shift? THE MOTHER does not go to BED and leave your GF to put kids to sleep. I don't care how tired she is this is unaceptable and irrsponsible of the mother. Who is the parent here? the kids get confused about 2 mums in their lives they pick the one that nurtures because thats what they need now. If you do have the little one stay at your house after you move I highly recommend you give the child his/her own bed the child needs her/his own sancuary so do you two. I have had a child in my bed they kick and wack your face and they leak if in nappies. I hate the elbow wack to the left booby.. god that hurts so much I put it on par with a nut cracker.
In Australia parents are subsidised to send our kids to day care centres while one works. I personally had a day job I picked the kids up just before 6pm. this worked out well us. Try and teach your kids to get to bed early, bath them feed them at 5.30 6pm latest in bed by 7.pm vigilance is the key to sucess with kids routine. Kids need routine this is a powerful comfort zone for them it's up the the adults around them to provide this for them. Initiate a meeting with the mother & girlfriend over coffee discuss a plan of action. If you fail to come to some arrangement & you are at all concerned for the childrens welfare the "child welfare" can step in and deal with her. Good luck.

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Ok so, I have a best friend, let's call him Nathan. We have been best friends for 4 years. I love being around him, he's funny and smart and just an all around good person. We text each other every night just talking about whatever, nonsense haha. My mom says that he likes me because every time I talk about the one boy I like he texts back "I'm sensing more than cozy between you two" I don't know if that means he's just making fun of me or he's jealous. I took a "does my best friend like me" quiz on the computer, I know they don't work and most of the answers are just made up right off the top of the creator's head but all of them said yes, he does like me. I don't get it though, a while back I liked him and he told me he looked at me as a sister and that's it. We spend every Tuesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday together due to school functions. He's also in my one class (a class I'm not to strong in) and he is always there to help me on something if I'm confused, he used to do that to so that's not a big deal. Just help me, does my best friend like me?

Only Nathan know the answer to his messages.
I sence a bond of friendship spanning 4 yrs like sister & Brother. That is a tough one top take to the next level so you'll just have to ask him yourself good luck.

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Is it normal for an 18 year old guy to be thinking about marriage and kids? My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months and at the begining of the relationship he knew he wanted to get married and maybe have some kids but he never put much thought into it and now suddenly this week he's been asking how I would want to be proposed to in the future and kids and what our house would look like. I didn't know teenage guys thought about this. I know we wouldn't get married for years but I love knowing how committed he is. Any other guys like this?

some guys just know early who to marry. Stick with your gunns about when you will commit to vows of marriage. he can't marry you with out your concent. Ask him if he'll do any repairs to the house if he dosen't DIY it. he's not much use.

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okay, im a freshman at highschool, and ive been talking to a senior since july. ill be 15 in november, and he's 18. my mom knows about it but she won't let us hang out! its annoying because we really like eachother, and its not like im asking to fuck him, we just want to hang out. how can i change her mind?!

Mum knows best. You might not want sex but an 18 yr old boy does believe me. Your a minor if he goes all the way Well... there are Laws that cover this very area. You think long & hard about this situation you may not like it but there are boundries for for all ages. Love should not cause a negitive reaction from anyone close to you.

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I just had my son a little over a year ago. Before his birth, I was average weight for my height. It seems like ever since though, I have been doing nothing but GAINING weight! I am so jealous of my friends b/c they all lost their baby weight in no time, I, on the other hand, have not been so lucky. I feel like my husband is not attracted to me any longer. I am unhappy with my apperance and I really would like to LOSE this stupid weight! Going to a doctor is not an option, b/c like half the world now, I am unisured. Joining a fitness club is also not an option, b/c I need to save my money for my son. I am just so miserable and it doesn't help that fact that every time my husband and I have one little argument he calls me a FAT a**! (He, btw is BELOW average on the weight scales and never gains a single pound.) I use to have very high self esteem, but now I can't even look at myself in the mirror. help..!

Kim Kadashian has a series of exersises she does every day on a dinner chair Works for her and she has a very big bottom... so there you go.

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14-f

am i a slut??????????
1. i get wasted
2. im no where near being a virgin
3. i have let people take advantage of me
4. i am either going to be a playboy bunny or a stripper somewhere....

do these make me a slut??????????? bacause everyone thinks i amm...and i kind of dont want them to

How do not know the anwer to your own question?
Examine the motives to your behaviour your in a self destructive cycle find the sourse address it. If you don't want the tag bad girl image simply clean up your act and act lady like or at least try to. You won't regret it. Good Luck

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14-f

im 5'6 and 104 pounds... am i fat??????????????

well that all depends
How big is your head?

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ok so my boyfriend has alot of gurl bestfriend.so every time i call him he's over one of there houses or outside with them && i know there not doing anything because i know all of the gurls have boyfriends.bt im like well why do u always spend time with them and what not.he also tells all of are relationship business to them and it bothers me like he will tell them what we did he even told them the first time we said i love you and i told him how i was a virgin and he goes and tells them i was like i didnt want you to tell them my business.so do i have a problem or does he need to chill with the telling his friends everything about us??

He sure does need to chill with private intimate details. you need to look closer at his motives for doing so.
Is he soooo infactuated he can't help but to blab to anyone who'll listen. (Girls love to listen) Or are the chicks getting him to blab all by asking the right questions and putting him on the spot.
Or is he simply bragging?
you'll have to train him to break that habbit.
bottom line:
Your private lives is not an open book.

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Okay, so my friends very close friend needs help.
She is only 12, she smokes, and drinks.
I really wannna help her,
Because it's my friends close friend, and she's really concerned. Can someone please help me think of a way to get her to stop?
PLEASE!
Thanks a buncch.

Try reverse scycology on her like yeah! sure have another cancer stick or lung buster. Ask her Why the death wish?? She's just a child. You find it discusting & trashy. It's not too late yet.

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