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hello fellow advice seekers, my name is Johanna and I'm currently a student about to enter high school. My days are spent with my friends, family, music, and camera. I've been known for my advice and don't turn down any questions. Feedback makes me happy, so I can give everyone the answers they want.

in my point of view, i accel in these topics:
-friendships
-relationships
-school/work
-ideas/helpful tips

and who knows? maybe ill gain some knowledge by actually thinking of new situations.

it cant hurt to get my opinion, now can it? so ask away my friends.

sincerely, ask_anything

advice

i am madly in love with this hot beyond hot guy. he has a stupid girlfriend, and i'm heartbroken. i know their relationship can't last forever, because we're only in eighth grade, but while i'm waiting, what can i do? should i get to know him better or what? i need you on this one johanna.

well as long as you arent just in love with this guy for his looks [which ive done before... whoops bad mistake]... you cant do much if he has a girlfriend. unless you are really brave and want to sacrafice being verbally abused by this girl and her "posse" so to speak, id wait it out a bit. obviously the relationship wont last forever, but really it could last anywhere from 2 weeks to 12 monthes. or even more. it depends how stable the two of them are... you would know this better than me. eighth grade is a big year, im in it right now, but for now you just need to either wait it out, talk to him and tell him you like him [possibly making him consider you... depends i suppose] or just move on for the time being. the last one is realllly hard to do, so you might not be able to move on for quite some time. and yes!! do get to know him better, no one will go out with you [or no one that ive ever come across] if they dont know you well! become reallly good friends with him and if he can tell you stuff, you've got it made. wait it out for now, get to know him better and do some other activities to get your mind off this guy ... thanks for coming to me for advice, im so happy that you come to me with your problems! tell me how things go =] -ask_anything

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Hey, Im 13 and Im in 8th grade, and I have a crush on Travis my friend hes also 13 and in 8th grade. We have alot in common, but Ive always been kinda shy and not telling people that I like them. But i wrote travis a note one day that i thought he was hott i didnt get a bad responce:) or a good one :(, and nothing is different between us and we are still good friends, i talk to him all the time. I wanna go out with him, but Im afraid of rejection so I dont know if I should ask him out. I feel that he might like me but I can never be positive. One of my bestfriends, Brittany thinks I should ask him out cuz if i dont i might miss a chance to go out with him if he likes me, and he might get over me and go out with someone else:( SO... my question is should i ask him out, i would really appreaciate your advice! THANKS!
im very scared and confused!!

well dont be scared and confused! that's going to make things soo much harder! remember- this is only one boy, he cant be the only one meant for you... so rejection is really just a game in a way. either he likes you or he doesnt, there is nothing to do but play the game and see if you win or not. im also realllllly shy too, like im not when im not around boys, but as soon as a boy is involved... BAMN! im shy. it's one of those traits that holds you back a lot... trust me... i understand ;). writing him a note is a really good thing to do if you're too shy to say it to him in person. if you two are really good friends, you should try and bring up small conversation [homework, gossip, whatever] and if the conversation can keep up for a while and he's interested in talking... just slip in "so who do you like these days?"... it may seem like impossible to do, but you'll get the hang of it sooner or later. If you think it's too early to ask him, ask a close friend of his... most likely he'll know if things will work. Your friend Brittany is right because he may be snatched up soon, but if you arent ready to even ask him out, you wont get far if your pressured into going out with him. to answer your question- i say get your facts first, make more conversation, and try to get as certain [not 100%] that he might say yes. it's really hard to answer this without knowing you or this travis kid, so i hope from what ive said might somehow influence your choices! best of luck! tell me how things go =] -ask_anything

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hi i dont think you know me but thats the point of this advice website isnt it? i have a strange obsession with leaves. im going to jump in them right now. maybe you can help me out. bye bye

hey-
yeah the point is so you can be as anonymous as you want on here! obsessions with leaves isnt bad ;) just dont fill your house with them... because that could... ehh- not be good? everyone has a hobby, so embrace it! do whatever you want with leaves whether it be jumping in them, collecting them etc... knock yourself out =] -ask_anything

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My friend keeps copying everything I do. Like getting contacts.. my sneakers.. classes. Stupid stuff like that. It just annoys me and I dont want her to get upset over it but it just gets on my nerves. How can I bring it up without hurting her or making it seem like I'm sick of her or something liek that ?

i think everyone gets upset when they have something original and their friend gets it... making you feel unoriginal. you need to tell her when you get something new to not get it right away (it may be hard, she may seem a little crushed) .. but she needs to be original herself. go with her shopping and find her some things to make her seem original... but sometimes you just need to tell her to let you have some space with your original items... i think your friend getting contacts is okay, because it's just an eye fixing tool- but things like sneakers you could confront her on. and remember!!- "imitation is the highest form of flattery" =] -ask_anything

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I have a cingular sony ericsson T226, and I was using the composer feature to customize a ring tone. I got it the way I wanted it, then I attempted to "add effect" and since that time, it ruined the ring tone, and any attempts to make a new one, due to the fact that it makes all the notes the exact same pitch.

I cant find how to fix it and I'm needing some serious help. I cant stand to live with that screaching much longer.

i'm not a cell phone fixer but people at the Cingular should be! go take a trip over there and hopefully they can help you with your cell phone troubles. hope your ring tones end up okay! =] -ask_anything

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WHat does it exactly mean when u ask a guy if they like you and they say i dunno..??DO they rly no..

haha all girls hate it when boys respond "i dunno" or "um {shrugs}"... it's just that they are too unmature to say either yes or no. most times when they say "i dunno" it means they probably dont like you that way, but that doesnt mean he doesnt like you- he could just be saying i dunno because he's too shy to say "yes i do"... we'll never understand what's going through those boys heads will we? sigh... oh well =] -ask_anything

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hey its me again. Love-Them-Not. Youll probably remember me as the daisy hater, right? well i confronted my friend about her flower power obsession. and trust me, she's moved on. ohh but not to better things. her new passion is sheep!!! especially ones from sweden. she'll wear sheepskin ponchos and ugg sheepy boots to school and even sheep trousers. her shirts say things like 'I LOVE EWE' on them. She recently got another live sheep last month.. that will be the 4th one living in her bathroom. she recently dyed her hair a platnium blonde almost white and got it highly permed... now she even looks like a sheep! i think my friend is STILL clearly insane. how can i let her know i hate smelling like sheep all the time? i dont want to hurt her feelings or make her temporarily crazed... she might hurt the sheep in her bathroom! whats wrong with her.. and why has she all of a sudden gone from daisies to sheep? :(

hey Love-Them-Not-
Yes i do remember you- the "daisy hater"! ;) I'm glad your friend has moved on from daisies! But the sheep sounds like it's going to be the same passion all over again! Either try my old advice on this again, or let her go with her current love- at some point she'll either move on and find something else, or make her obsessive hobby into a grand carrer/invention idea. Who knows? this could bring her good... or possibly worse outcomes...? she has all of a sudden gone from daisies to sheep most likely because your friend likes to focus on one topic and go with it all the way.. and in her case... ALL the way. It sounds like you have stuck with her through all these crazy phases, and still have maintained a generous relationship! So my advice is the same as before, just keep your support for her and talk to her without getting too upset. Good luck to ewe =] -ask_anything

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dude i love your column and you give grreeeattt advice man! i totally want to tell you how cool you are and rate you a five forsure!!! you help me with all my frickin problems about daisies and soybeans dude. thats so sick!!!!! peace out nwarr

thanks for the compliment =] haha -ask_anything

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my mother and her whole family are white. however my father is half & half..(black/white)
..everyone in his family is white, except for his father.(my grandad) so..what am i? half/half? or just white? and if any1 knows, what percentage of each would i be? :) ty!

well because 50% is your father's genes in you, your father from what you've said is 50% black, 50% white. that makes you 75% white and 25% black. Those are just math percentages, your heritage could be completely different! ask your family members =] -ask_anything

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ok im trying to get an ipod off of freeipods.com does anyone know if its a scam? have u done it and not gotten one or gotten a crappy ipod?? plz lemme know.
thanx--

nobody gives away anything free of that quality these days, it's obviously a scam... or they are going to trick you with some sort of confusing contract. dont go for any of it, just go out and buy the real thing or go on ebay.com for a used one! =] -ask_anything

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Ok, so this year I just started highschool and I love it. I'm making alot of new friends, and people are starting to like me more. But there is this guy. I like him alot, he's a senior. And he is popular. we are friends but i like him alot. I want to get to know him more but i dont know how. we have one class together and we talk alot but i just want to know how to become good friends with him

if you are good enough friends, try getting like a group of people you both know and go somewhere (movies, etc.)... invite him to hang out sometime when you're in class... if he's interested- make the plans, if not... dont plan on it. im sure if he likes you as much as you like him, things will work out! =] -ask_anything

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I was wondering if u can help...See my friends and I (like 7 of us) tryed out for JV soccer and Varsity soccer and only like 3 of us didn't get on Varsity and I was one of them. Its really hard to look at them practice and wear their uniforms to school knowing i am not apart of it and It makes me really mad and frusterated... I kno i will make it next year but i dont' want 2 wait.. Any advice on how to deal with my friends etc??

i know how you feel- ive had something like that happen too... first off if you need to talk about the situation without mentioning it to the friends who did make the team- talk to the other 2 friends that are in the same boat. its not fair the way they sometimes set up teams- but that should just make you work harder at your goal and be completely ready for anything next time. on how to deal with your friends- if they are close friends, im sure they must feel kind of awkward not having you on the team with them. if they arent close- you should definitly tell someone that is close to you about how you feel about it all. they can make you feel more at ease. sometimes teams are picked wrong, and if you are now on a team that isnt up to your standards- become the player that sticks out for abilities and they might decide to move you onto the JV/V soccer team... it depends on how your town organizes things with teams. but i know just the feeling of not making the team you really want to be on- its dissappointing, but you just have to move on. its going to bug you for a while- but soon you'll realize what you need to work on so they WILL pick you- even if that means asking the people why you were not picked. then practice whatever you need to until you think you're as good as you can get! good luck with everything, and dont forget there are others just like you feeling upset! =] -ask_anything

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Hey guys im a 15 f. At nite it takes me like 45 mins to fall asleep. i have no clue why but its SO frustrating. Neways.... i was just wonderin if u guys had any tricks to fallin asleep (besides counting sheep) that could help me. Thanks so much!

i have the same problem! if you are on the computer or doing something that makes your mind think about lots of stuff before you go to bed- it makes you not want to fall asleep. keep 30-45 minutes before you go to sleep open to relaxing and nothing too stressful because you'll be all wired when you try to fall asleep. if that doesnt help- soft music,breathing slowly, sometimes people fall asleep by pretending they fall asleep [ive never tried it], everyone has different ways. try reading- that usually makes people sleepy [especially if you read in bed where you're comfy]. if you need some more ideas just leave one in my inbox. hope you can fall asleep quicker! =] -ask_anything

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My boyfriend isn't staying in touch! we don't go to the same school and were not in the same town but i still love him! he never calls and i havn't talked to him in so long. i don't know what to do! i have thought of breaking up cause every time i call his parents or sister say he will call me back but he never does! one day his sister told me that he would call me around 5:15 and he never called! with him it is kind of like we are just friends... with this relationship it is only words that make us boyfriend and girlfriend! I am starting to think that he though i was a great friend and he didn't want to loose me as a friend so he asked me to be safe. but when i was with him one day he brought up kissing and i felt really awquard! i don't know what to do!
PLEASE HELP ME!!!

ps try to have a response tonight!

depending on how old you are- is going to show how mature your boyfriend is to staying touch. the younger they are, the worse they are at keeping in touch. if you still love him, you'll find a way to work things out =). you should tell him you get a little uneasy about him never calling you back. the whole thing with boyfriend/girlfriend is really overrated these days. younger kids its more of puppy love... not really that serious at times. even if it seems silly, you should tell him your worries that he's not well suited as more than a friend. if he brought up kissing... i guess it depends on the age. if you felt awkward, you arent ready to do that. you're in a sticky situation i can tell... but you might just want to take a break from the relationship for a while, or wait until he can commit to you. there isnt a right answer to this question- but if you have been thinking about breaking up... maybe you should. its not good to have a relationship where someone doesnt feel right. im sure he'll still love to be friends with you- as long as you dont be harsh when you break up. good luck with whatever choice you make =] -ask_anything

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Hey my name's Katherine..a.k.a. Katie..I was wondering what are some good nicknames for me? I am smiley, cheery, happy, nice..etc...THANKS!=)

well- the best nicknames you should leave up for your friends to make up... but if you are looking for just abrivations of katerine... there could be: kt, katy, katie, kate, kat, kathy, 'k'... there are probably a few more... but ask your friends to come up with a whacky name- i have a few from my friends and they have more meaning :) but because i dont know you personally, i couldnt give you other nicknames... but good luck with the name search! nicknames are fun! =] -ask_anything

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Hey guys..I am not really sure how to put eye liner on..I know that might sound pathetic, but I don't! Lol, and if it helps I have light blue eyes, and long eye lashes..but yah. Thanks much! M u a H s z - Katie

some people have trouble with the whole eyeliner thing - dont be ashamed ;)... first off, when you wanna try to put it on and you havent done it for a long time- try putting it on during the weekend or a time where you can just test it without being in a hurry [as opposed to school mornings].
BEFORE APPLYING:
If you're using a pencil: Sharpen the tip enough to produce a line to your liking. If too sharp, you can blunt the tip by drawing on a tissue.
If you're using a liquid: Barely moisten the brush, then dip just its tip into the liner. Test the line; adjust fluid amount accordingly.
APPLYING:
when you apply it try to pull the outside corner of your eye a little so it stretches the eyelid flat. then [depending on your eyes] slowly go along the outside edge of your eye- get as close to the lid as possible without poking yourself... that hurts. lol. remove any excess eyeliner you dont want with a tissue/cottonball or whatever. practice a few times doing different thicknesses and such... just takes practice! good luck! ask your mom for help if you still are having trouble :)! =] -ask_anything

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Ok..all my friends have either madeout or done more with there boyfriends. But i havent done nething not even madeout yet. Ive been pressured to do it by my friends but i really dont want to. Im 14..is that bad?

aw dont feel bad, lots of people havent made out or anything at our age [pshh i havent gotten far myself] your friends shouldnt pressure you to do anything if you dont want to, i mean it wont mean as much if you dont wanna kiss a boy or anything... a forced kiss is a bad kiss. age shouldnt make a difference- just take your time ;) we're still young! =] -ask_anything

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theres a hurricane coming and im rlly scared. we dnt have shutters. im going to stay at a friends house wut should i bring from my room.i want to bring evrything but i cant. i rlly need to noe hurry thanks

if i were in your place, id think about stuff i need to live my day [toothbrush, medicine, all that good stuff] and precious items that mean a lot to you [blankie, teddy bear, photograph, yearbook] whatever is special to you! and if you have items that are valuable [passed down gifts, special jewelry, etc.] you could also have your parents put some other important things you arent going to bring in the basement for safe keeping just in case? hope things go okay with the weather! =] -ask_anything

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I really love to play guitar.Its my favorite thing.But now that i play guitar i wanna start writing lyrics and songs.But the thing is ive got nothing.What should i do?

to come up with lyrics, think of a time or mood and just let your words flow out about it, lyrics arent a skill- they're more of a talent. there is no 'right way' to write lyrics but to reach inside of you and come up with something original. remember to have a chorus in your lyrics that are repeated and keep practicing your lyrics [once you come up with them] and see what words you want to change and such. im sure if you are good at the guitar you can also start to be really good at writing lyrics as well! have fun and good luck with it all =] -ask_anything

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ok ive just answer like 10 questions and all of them have been deleted! like they wernt all innapropriate nether were mi answers! but its not fair that they got deleted...y did they tho

somethings weird in the system tonight... i think its happening to everyone! ='(... so we feel your pain! hope things start fixing themselves up soon! =] -ask_anything

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