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Hi! My name is Kayla.. I'm 21. Through out life, I've had quite a bit of rocky roads and difficult dilemmas. They sucked at the time, but now I've become a call for help.I do it because I enjoy it.
If you send question in my inbox, you'll be answered FIRST.
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I have to do a research paper for English class. It has to be at least 4-5 pages. The topic could be on whatever we want, but we have to prove a point in the paper. I was thinking school shootings, but I do not know what point I could prove. What topic could I do that would easily prove a point, or, what point could I prove in the topic of school shootings?
Thank you in advance.
School shootings is a hard topic. I have some ideas for you if you decide not to use that topic.
Tanning beds? Are they safe?
The up-coming election.
Should marijuana be legalized?
Should the drinking age be changed?
Plastic surgery
Teenagers and curfews
It's a lot easier to chose a research topic that interests you.. and you'll find it easier to come up with ideas if you have that interest. If school shootings are something that you find interest in, stick to it.
If not-- google research topics.
What is the best advice anyone has ever given you in life? (mantras are great)
That I'm too young to believe that everything won't be okay. =)
i started my birth control pill a week ago. i had sex after i'd been on it for a week. it was the first time, so it was slow and short. he wore a condom and he didn't even cum at all.
is there anything i should be worried about? we were protected, i'm just worried incase i was still ovulating due to the fact the birth control hadn't totally kicked in yet.
help!
is this going to affect the birth control at all? and i'm supposed to have my period(according to the pills) in about two weeks-and sometimes i won't even have it at all(says the doctor) so i dont want to stress myself thinking "omg i didnt have a big period"
help help help!
Depending on your birth control, it can take up to one month for your pill to be effective towards pregnancy.
But it sound to me that you and your boyfriend took the proper precautions and were responsible for wearing a condom.
I've dealt with many friends who have been worried about being pregnant.. the best thing to do with now is not worry about the "what ifs and maybes".. and just wait for your period. Stress, over anything can make your period late or funny when it does arrive.
Until you've missed your next period completely, don't worry yourself. To me, it sounds like you did everything to protect yourself the best you could. Your doctor should have explained the pill to you a little more.
Don't worry yourself until you have reason to.
Take care!
My boyfriend has cheated on me 3 times...he says that the reason for what he has done is because of me...keep in mind i never have cheated on him..
HIS REASON FOR CHEATING ON ME HE SAYS IS BECAUSE OF THE THINGS I DO TO HIM..WHICH IS WHEN WE ARGUE AND HE DOESINT LET ME TALK AT ALL I HANG UP ON HIM AND WHEN HE CALLS ME OUT OF MY NAME I HANG UP ON HIM AND DONT ANSWER HIS CALLS..ALSO WHEN I GO OUT WITH MY FRIENDS OR ANYTHING HE IS SO INSECURE THAT HE CALLS ME EVERY TIME I GO OUT AND STAYS ON THE PHONE WITH ME...WHILE HES STAYING ON THE PHONE WITH ME HE STRARTS QUESTIONING ME AND STARTS ACTING VERY INSECURE HE STARTS NAGGING ME NAGGING ME OVER THE PHONE...WHILE IM WITH MY FRIENDS...HE SAYS THINGS LIKE YEA LET ME CALL YOU LATER GO BE WITH YOUR FRIENDS OR WHAT YOU DOING WHO WAS THAT IN THE BACKGROUND. I GET MAD WHEN HE DOES THOSE THINGS SO WE START TO ARGUE AND HE ENDS UP GETTIN ME SO FRUSTERATED THAT I HANG UP AND DONT ASNWER HIS CALLS FOR THE REST OF THE DAY...THEN WHEN I CALL HIM HE GETS MAD AT ME FOR IGNORING HIS CALLS. THEN I GET BLAMMED FOR CHAETING ON HIM AND GETTING THOUGHT OF AS A CHEATER...HE IS THE ONE THAT MAKES ME NOT WANNA TALK TO HIM WHEN I GO OUT AND HAVE A INNOCENT TIME WITH MY FRIENS BECAUSE ALL HE DOES IS BE MEAN AND START ARGUEMENTS WITH ME FOR NO REASON..SO OVERALL HE SAYS THAT HES CHEATED ON ME BECAUSE OF ME NOT ANSERING HIS CALLS WHEN I GO OUT...BUT I HAVE MY REASONS ITS NOT BECAUSE IM CHEATING ON HIM OR IM HIDING SOME GUY FROM HIM ITS BECAUSE I CANT EVEN HAVE A GUD TIME WITHOUT HIM NAGGING ME AND BIENG INSECURE,,,,SO I WANTED TO KNOW IS HIS REASON FOR CHEATING ON ME A GUD ENOUGH REASON FOR SLEEPING AND DOING THINGS WITH OTHER GIRLS?? ALL HE DOES IS BALME ME FOR HIS WRONG DOINGS...I FEEL LIKE HE DID WHAT HE DID BECAUSE HE WANTED TO,,,,I LOVE HIM A LOT AND I STAY WITH HIM BECAUSE I LOVE HIM BUT HE DOESINT SEE THAT....IM CONFUSED AND DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO...
I got cheated on back in high school by this guy I'd been with for 2 years. It's funny, because it wasn't his absent nights, walk-away phone calls, or un-answered questions that made be question his loyalty-- it was him always accusing me of cheating, the same way that your boyfriend is doing to you.
While reading this, I had all these similar memories of flashing through my head-- and I may not know you, but our cheating little boyfriends, might as well be the same person.
He's insecure about you going out, because he knows what he can get away with when HE goes out. If he can keep his cheating habits a secret, then he has reason to believe that you could do the same exact thing to him.
When I asked my boyfriend way he cheated on me, he didn't bullshit me. He looked me right in the eye and said that I was that "good girl" that would always be there no matter what, and that all the other chicks were just chicks.
There is NEVER a good excuse to lie and cheat to someone. EVER. Even besides the cheating habits.. he sounds like a real jerk to me-- and you sound smart and definitely ABLE to do so much better then this kid.
Keep your head up, and my inbox is always available to help you out in anyway that I can.
Remember, I can relate to you in a lot of way, and I may understand your situations more then you think I do.
Take care!
15/f
Okay, so a few months ago one of my friends (A) decided that she didn't like me anymore. So, she kinda just kicked me to the curb and started ignoring me, telling other people to ignore me and stuff. So, I was left with only two friends. One of them has stuck by me through thick and thin and then the other one (B) I'm kinda mad at now.
A few weeks after my incident, friend B was hanging out with me more than A. I guess she felt that I needed a shoulder to cry on and all that junk, which I did. Well, because B was supporting me, A and these 3 other girls who also used to be my friends started ignoring B also. Then B was all like "I can't believe they would do this to me!" and stuff like that. And I was completely there for her because I knew EXACTLY how it felt considering these same girls had just done this to me. So B and I grew closer.
Then all of a sudden, B decided to bring up the fact that she felt ignored to A...and A was EXTREMELY APOLOGETIC and said things like "Oh I'm so sorry! I had no idea we were!" and then she invited B back into their little group and everything is nice and happy and wonderful for her. And B tries to talk to me and stuff, but I can tell she'd rather hang out with them instead of me, just like everyone else.
The thing that bugs me the most is that when I brought up how I was feeling to A, she yelled at me and said she was doing nothing of the sort and then we weren't friends anymore.
So basically, now that B is back in the group, she doesn't really talk to me as much anymore and she'd much rather be friends with them than with me. And it also really really bothers me that now she's close to this other girl who at the beginning of the year both B and A hated and now they both prefer hanging out with her than with me. This other girl is actually pretty much the reason why I have no friends now because she started everything between me and A. It's so stupid and I hate this so much. I'm so frustrated with B that she would be so hypocritical.
Any advice whatsoever on like I dunno, how to feel better about this I guess? Or should I talk to B and tell her how I feel? Though I don't know if I should do that because I don't need another life-changing fight on my hands...
I just don't know what to do :(
(By the way I'm really sorry this is so long)
First of all, don't apologize for having a long question. If you didn't describe everything the way you did, it would be hard for the reader to give you the kind of answer you need to get through this.
I know that you're hesitant to confront B, because of what you already experienced with A. But, I also think that B may understand you more than A will, because she's felt it before, and she saw what you went through already.
If you want to avoid a bad fight with her, then be kind about your approach. Be careful as to not make her feel like a bad person-- because she's probably just confused and doesn't know how to act around you since all of her friends are being kind of childish.
It's obvious to me that B goes the way the wind blows instead of comforting a good friend-- that you've described in here that you've been.
The best thing to do right now is talk to B-- tell her how you feel nicely, and get some answers as to why she's ignoring you and making you feel so bad in the same way A was.
It's not far to you, and good friends don't do things like this. If your conversation with B gets you nowhere, it's time to keep your head up and look for good friends who won't do things like this to you.
Please keep me updated, because I'd really like to help in any way possible.
ok when i pee at the end it hurts really bad and it bleeds im a female and i dont know what it is it cant be my period because i know when its my period there is no continues blood just a little and stopps im not a virgen and i dont know what can it be can somebody help pleasE?
What your describing can be anything between a UTI[Urinary Tract Infection].. or some kind of Sexually Transmitted Disease.
Many symptoms of STD's will only develop on one of the two people involved in the sexual activity's. Therefore, even though you might have been careful, and your partner didn't know he had an STD-- there's still a chance that you may have caught something.
STD's can lead to many serious things if not taken care of. I highly recommend seeing your doctor and telling him what you're experiencing. I'm not saying all this to scare you, I'm saying it because anyone else on this website or on the internet will probably suggest the same thing, and recommend a trip to a doctor.
This is your life, and your health. Love your body and take care of it.
Please keep me updated.
this one is for girls...
im graduating this year....
what are you supposed to wear under your gown on the day of your graduation? at my school we have white gowns..
thanks!
I wore a dress underneath mine. It went down a little passed my knees so that if didn't show, but I also didn't look naked..
You could definitely wear anything like a skirt, or dress. It doesn't matter how formal or casual it is-- just make sure it doesn't show through because you're in a white gown.
Congratulations on your graduation and good luck!
what does it mean to finger someone??
To be fingered it to have someone tough the area inside the lips of your vagina, like your clitoris, and also to put 1 or 2 fingers into the hole that is also used for sexual intercourse and tampon use.
These websites may help you:
http://www.coolnurse.com/vagina.htm
http://content.revolutionhealth.com/contentimages/images-image_popup-ans7_vulva.jpg
I hope I helped, let me know if you need anything else!
i can't find one!!! i have brown hiar to like 3/4 down my boob and blue eyes with freackles. can you help me find a dress!! it can't be to formal and i can go casual all the way to a sundress. but i can't find anything. i'm not spending that much on a dress unless its like something i can wear to school and over the summer too. please help. directlinks would be appresheated!
http://www.shopzilla.com/8B--Women_s_Dresses_-_cat_id--10090100__keyword--teen%20fashion%20dresses__nwylf--
http://www.wetseal.com/catalog/category.jsp?categoryId=104
Also, I don't know how you feel about ebay.com.. or even your local goodwill.
I got both of those addresses up there simply by googling "teenage girl dresses".. do the same if my sites don't help you.. but from what I saw, those websites had some really cute stuff.
Good luck, and have fun at your dance!
I have a checkup in like three weeks, and a month ago I got my tongue web pierced (Don't comment to criticize or go 'eewww that's disgusting.'' those are automatic 1's) anyway. I'm not getting an X-ray done so that's ok, and when I have an appointment I'm on my own.
But then I'm worried that the dentist will tell my mom about the piercing, and then I'll be completely f***ed! :(
I got it pierced professionally, but my mom just HATES piercings.
So yeah, will the dentist tell, or is it more likely that he'll roll his eyes?
15/f btw :)
Just remember.. a dentist sees patient after patient every day. Anything a person gets done to their mouth is their business, and it's wouldn't be his right to say anything to your mom.
A dentist sees stuff that this everyday, but if he does mention it at all-- straight up tell him that your mom doesn't know just yet, and if you wanted her to know, then YOU want to be the one to tell her... not the dentist.
It's not disgusted or EWWWWW either, haha. All my friends have it, too! But I won't do it because I'm too much of a pansy.
Okay so my friend talked me into going to 4-h camp over christmas break. I was really excited cause we would get to spend some time together. We turned in our applications together so we would get the same classes. But the thing is over this past weekend I've kinda relized I really DIDN'T wanna go to 4-h camp. I mean I just wanted to in the first place to make my bff happy.
So my mom was happy to call and have them take me out of it (aka 4-h camp).
~The real problem i have here is how my BFF acted:
I told her on msn messanger yesterday here's how it went she is KT: I'm MG:
MG: Hey kt, wats up.. :)
KT: nothing much I"m bored, hey what baithing suit are you packing for camp? I'm thinking two peice or one... what do u say?
MG: KT, I've got some bad news...
KT: :( what.?
MG: I'm not going to camp. I'm sorry but I relized that I really don't want to go. I so so so sorry, but I just can't!
KT: WHAT WHY?????????????????????????????
MG: Well.... I'm not used to being away for a week, and I really don't want to go. All in all I just don't think I would have fun. BUT maybey next year! SORRY.
KT: Sorry?? SORRY??? I thought you were my friend? It's not to late you can still go! I'll be there. I'll be lonley without you.
MG: I'm sorry my mom already called and got me outa it
KT: SOME FRIEND> THANKS aLOT!:(((((((((
and that was it what do I do I don't wanna go but i don't want her mad at me!!
Woahhh. Sounds to me like she definitely took it more personal, and selfishly blamed you for the decision you felt most comfortable with.
Sometimes when people feel alone, they make expectations for the few people that they do have around them. I believe from what I read, that she feel she needs to blame you in order to change your mind.
She has no right to be mad at you for your decision, and she shouldn't hold it against you, if she's a good friend.
Explain to her again that you are sorry, but the decision was entirely yours. Just because you changed your mind, it doesn't have anything to do with not wanting to spend time with her-- just that you and your family decided together that not going was what you felt more comfortable with.
Good luck!
Is it normal that you get this brown stuff which happens to be your period and not have it for months and months then have then have your period again in a week? I just got my period, and I'm wondering if i should be worried. Only a small amount comes out and it isn't red. In fact, it seems more like grown goo than blood. The period comes along with some aches around your body and a stomachache. 13/f
Everyone get their period differently, and yes, I have had a bit of brown before. But, I have never had it replace my entire period. It's always been something that comes right before my period begins, or during the end.
So although I mentioned that every girl gets a different kind of period, it doesn't mean that what you're having is normal, and shouldn't be looked or talked about by a physician.
It's very possible that there is nothing medically wrong at all. You're 13, and your menstruation system is still just developing.
If what's going on continues, it's definitely better to be safe and go to the doctor.
Good luck!
Ook well this dude Is like hott but i like him because of his personality too..
And well he like went to this party thing and we slow dance there and then well asked me out and i said Yess.
And next saturday he came and so did i and well he wouldnt hang around mee..
And i said wtf?
He said he broke up with me..
WHAT?
He didnt call?
And then NEXT saturday hes surrounding by like 17 GIRLSS>.
And when i go and dance with my friends i see him staring at mee..
OMGG..
And well im just like okk?
And then two girls are talking to him and hes all pointing at me and the girls hug himm,
And sayy sorry?
I mean what is that?
I mean like is that sorry that he break up with mee?
This happened like 3 months ago and i cant get it out of my frekain headd?
How to you get stuff out of your head thats been there for like 3 months?
Please help i cryy everytime i think about it.
and well I need someone to call him and tell him how i feel..
So any volunteers?
Only if you have a yahoo!!
Ok?
Well COmment
I'm not going to lie-- I was only dating a guy.. JUST DATING.. for about two months. This ended back in December, and I've been dating since him. The night he ended things with me, play, rewinds, and plays again every day. And it hasn't slowed down.
My advice is to distract yourself. Don't even let yourself be concerned with a guy who's trying to collect pity over what you never did. I's obvious to me that he needs this attention in order to feel better about himself-- so that everyone can determine you as that bad girlfriend who dumped him.
I believe that when things are left without closure, it's difficult to get passed them. If I had just stay in that guy's car instead of jumping out pissed of-- never speaking to him again.. I would have gotten all my answers, and moved on properly.
Now your job is to find out what his deal is. I don't have yahoo, but if there's anything else I can do to help-- let me know.
there is this girl i like and i know she likes me but we are both very timid and quiet so its gets awkward sometimes?
wats the best way of getting over this awkwardness afd just getting to know her better?
Stay confident! Girls love a guy who can come off timid, but then jump out of there skin and really show them a good time.
If it's obvious that you both like one another, then what are you waiting for. I know it sucks, but girls still expect the guys to do the work at the beginning.
Talk to her, let her grow on you. You'll be fine once you see how easy it is after th first time you have a real conversation.
Good luck! =)
my boyfriend and i have been going out for 7 months and we are so in love with each other we go out every 26th of every month as if it was anniversary wise.we have sex alot but for this past month we havent had sex cuz we barely see eachother. i have a attitude problem i get irritated quick and i get mad quick and i dont know why.. is it because i be stressed? or what
They say that many people take their anger out on the people the love most, just because their sure sub-conscientiously that they'll never rid them from their lives.
By you taking all this out on your boyfriend, it means that you love him enough to know that he's going to stick around.
After 6 months, many couples start to see true colors of one another.. which is why you two have hit this bump.
Work on your anger, which yes can be brought on by stress, as well as many other things.
Relax and enjoy life--explain to him why you've been so snappy on him.. if he loves ou, he'll understand.
Good luck! =)
ok so im a guy and i like watching porn.
im actually not a pervert or anything and i dont do it too often, so dont be mean ^_^. anyway my parents have this parental control thingy, so almost every site is blocked. so i found one or 2 sites that arent, but the videos played on windows media player and im scared theyre somehow still on there. my parents would kill me :(
so are they still on there or not?
Try restarting your computer, and opening windows media player to see if it saved.
Don't be embarrassed, I can't think of one guy who doesn't dig porn.
There's this guy that I liked. He is a really really great guy, and I never felt like I had to be anyone else around him.
He found out I liked him from a friend, and me and him kind of talked about it over text, and the next day, he was acting all smiley around me. But a few days later, things went right back to being awkward. I sent him two more texts between Monday and Friday, asking him his thoughts about it. He never responded, but just acted weird and nervous.
For the past two days, I kind of haven't talked to him, because I was a little hurt that he never responded back, or tried to talk to me in school about it. I don't know what reason there was for it. I thought he liked me, judging by the fact that he'd always come to talk to me, and gets nervous around me.
School is ending on Friday. I mean, I'll see him next year, I think. But I am just sad that I never got to find out whether or not he likes me. It wouldn't be appropriate to text him again, so I won't.
I will just miss him. He's such a cool guy.
I would do something, but what can I do? I don't want to irritate him, if he is giving me the "back off" sign, but I feel like there is no closure here.
I mean....he has my number...if he wanted to call, he could.
Let me first commend you on how strong you are being about this. Most girl would be freaking out right now, calling, texting, going crazy. You're keeping your cool, but I can definitely see your concern with all this.. especially sense school is ending.
My advice is to do one of these two things: You can either talk to him and figure out what exactly is going through his mind. This would have to be in person to read his eyes and body language.
Or, you're going to have to leave this entirely in his hands. This is the easiest way to let him know that he needs to work a little harder-- and it'll give you a break from all the texts he's never responded to. Let him deal with all of this. Let him get a taste of you not trying to talk to him every time you do talk.
Good luck!
I have a friend who recently experienced this problem and I don't know what kind of advice to give her. Her and her bf (of a few years) got into a fight. He called her a bad name (c___), she smacked him and he smacked her back (she said it was pretty hard but that he told her he did it by accident kind of a reaction or something).. He's never hit her before nor does he seem like that kind of guy to me. She's not sure if this should be a big deal to her and while I normally say you should never stay with a man who hits you she did hit him first. What should I tell her? =/
Wow. Any time a guy is getting a girl-- it's a big deal. So he says it'll never happen again, and it's her choice to take his word for it. But what's going to happen if he hits her a little harder next time-- leaves marks. This could turn into something really ugly.
In your story alone, there was two types of abused involved. Verbal, and Physical.
So how does she go about it? She's going to protect what he did, because she knows that if she doesn't nobody else will. She needs to evaluate how his reaction was after he hit her. Was he over-sorry? Did he just say sorry, and shrug it off? If he truly is sorry, and means that he will never do it again-- he will work his ass off proving it to her.
Keep me updated!
Well you see i have a friend i'm not particularly close too but some of my friends are. She's been dating a really good friend of mine for awhile. My friend asked me out before he met her but i said no since i didn't really know him and we stayed friends. We have alot in common becuase i play sports with him, video games, watch gory movies, listen to music and so on. I'm the girl that hangs out with the guys, basically. Him and his girlfriend are going through problems, ok only him. He's smarter than his girlfriend, i ahte to be bitchy but its true she could be happy with any guy forever as long as she convinces herself he's perfect. I kinda envy her for that, Ignorance is bliss after all. Thing is he can't do that. He notices that they have nothing in common and she gets crazy freaky jealous when anyother girl comes within a foot of him. She seriously BIT a girl for smacking him. Not that he didn't have it coming, he's a complete flirt. But anyway a few days ago he called me and said he was in love with me. I know he loves his girlfriend and that he's just confused about what to do with him not having much in common with her. I dont have feelings for him but he is smooth and i've had too many close encounters with him trying to kiss me or otherwise and i'm not so good out of getting out of those types of situations. I'm not very good with boys in the romantic sense. I've told him he's just being confused and doesn't know what he's talking about and that i dont have feelings for him. But it really doesn't seem to faze him. I want to tell his girlfriend but she always see's him as the victim he could literally hold down a girl and she'd completely blame the girl. All she would see is me stilling her boy against his will. Please help
First of all, what you're going through word by word is something I went through my last year of high school. And I will say, it didn't turn out the best for any of us.
I will suggest that you NEVER give in to these little invites he has, or fall for his I love you's. He's obviously in a very confused state of mind. I'm guessing that there are things he likes about both of you-- and just wishes he could combine certain things together.
He's looking for a middle ground.. a way to have the best of both worlds-- which should never be acceptable from you or the other girl.
When I was in this situation, the other girl and I went months without knowing what this guy's deal was. We've agreed that if we only spoke up about it a little sooner, we could have benefit, and taught him a little something.
I suggest you try and talk some sense into him, and really lay the facts down-- then talk to her-- and let he know what's going on.
Good luck!
Okay maybe I just need to vent right now or whatever but I need help. So my bestfriend whom I tel basically everything to, and when I say everything I mean everything. Thats just the way our friendship works, we tell each other everything. That is until lately. She's been acting different. Ever since she met this guy who she likes that lives next door to her. I have to admit I am a little jealous. Only because she always gets the guys, but she just uses them and takes them for granted and fights with them constantly more then most people do. It's always her starting these fights, that might I add are about the most rediculous things. I dont like saying it but some people would consider my friend a "skank". Now today it just set me off I dont know why. Basically i texted her saying I cant go to this talent show thing tomorrow with her. Normally she'll say "aawww what you cant go? Why? You have to go. We need to hangout." stuff like that. This time she texted back "Bummer, i'm with Steven ( her next door neighbor that she likes) i'll call you later. I dont know that just really made me mad. Not to mention well she spends like every weekend at my house, cause she likes to. But I really needed someone to talk to this weekend cause everything seems to be going wrong but no she's too busy with Steven. I dont know. Am i wrong to be mad at her? Am i overreacting? Any advice?
I've been in very similar situations. I know what it feels like to be left in the dust when your best friend finds comfort in a different friend.
The best way I got through it, is just letting her do what she needs to do. To her, this may be a potential love interest with her new neighbor, and that's why she's spending so much time with him.
In the calmest, and I MEAN calmest way-- tell her how you feel. Explain that you feel almost replaced in a way, and you don't like it. In the same matter, tell her you're happy she found a friend in someone else, but that you miss having her around, and you need her in her life, too.
Let me know what happens! =)