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One of my friends boyfriends told me he loved me
Well you see i have a friend i'm not particularly close too but some of my friends are. She's been dating a really good friend of mine for awhile. My friend asked me out before he met her but i said no since i didn't really know him and we stayed friends. We have alot in common becuase i play sports with him, video games, watch gory movies, listen to music and so on. I'm the girl that hangs out with the guys, basically. Him and his girlfriend are going through problems, ok only him. He's smarter than his girlfriend, i ahte to be bitchy but its true she could be happy with any guy forever as long as she convinces herself he's perfect. I kinda envy her for that, Ignorance is bliss after all. Thing is he can't do that. He notices that they have nothing in common and she gets crazy freaky jealous when anyother girl comes within a foot of him. She seriously BIT a girl for smacking him. Not that he didn't have it coming, he's a complete flirt. But anyway a few days ago he called me and said he was in love with me. I know he loves his girlfriend and that he's just confused about what to do with him not having much in common with her. I dont have feelings for him but he is smooth and i've had too many close encounters with him trying to kiss me or otherwise and i'm not so good out of getting out of those types of situations. I'm not very good with boys in the romantic sense. I've told him he's just being confused and doesn't know what he's talking about and that i dont have feelings for him. But it really doesn't seem to faze him. I want to tell his girlfriend but she always see's him as the victim he could literally hold down a girl and she'd completely blame the girl. All she would see is me stilling her boy against his will. Please help
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that bitch is crazy.
alright, first thing you have to do is really ask yourself: would you two really be good for eachother? since you have a lot in common, that parts in the bag! but there is a fine line between knowing eachother, and knowing TOO MUCH. if you really dont like him like that, he just needs to get over it. and besides, its not fair too bitchie-poo that hes basically cheating on her. and you need to let her know immidiately. even if she takes it all out of proportion, at least you'll know you're telling the truth. and you said you two werent that close anyway...so you wont really miss anything, will you?
or maybe you could learn to develope feelings for dude. like, take me for instance. i had this really close guyfriend. and he told me he liked me. but i didnt like him back. and he asked me out 5 times before i said yes. and now we're soo close. and i found my soulmate. you never know...dude may be your future. i found mine, now search for yours.
i hope it works out for the best. take care! :)
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First of all, what you're going through word by word is something I went through my last year of high school. And I will say, it didn't turn out the best for any of us.
I will suggest that you NEVER give in to these little invites he has, or fall for his I love you's. He's obviously in a very confused state of mind. I'm guessing that there are things he likes about both of you-- and just wishes he could combine certain things together.
He's looking for a middle ground.. a way to have the best of both worlds-- which should never be acceptable from you or the other girl.
When I was in this situation, the other girl and I went months without knowing what this guy's deal was. We've agreed that if we only spoke up about it a little sooner, we could have benefit, and taught him a little something.
I suggest you try and talk some sense into him, and really lay the facts down-- then talk to her-- and let he know what's going on.
Good luck!
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