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Ok, well I have a "step" sister that has down syndrome and I can't stand it because she scares my friend and is annoying. She can be mean too. I've talk to my dad about her and my dad is engaged to her mom. I'm at the point of telling my dad, to pick me or her. I really need advice please help and thank you in advance (link)
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Your friend is operating out of ignorance of what Down Syndrome is and for that matter so are you. How can you dislike her because of behavior related to a condition that you don't like? How do you think she feels to have it or to scare other people just because of it?
And what nerve you've got asking for your father to pick you over her. I don't care what hardships you feel she has caused you but get a grip and realize what crap she faces in a day. Learn to disregard any negatives and find something to love her for.
As for your friend re-introduce her/him to your sister, explain her condition and why she should not feel scared or intimidated. There's a lot this step-sister can teach you about how to live, see the world, others.
There is no way she can ever replace you in your dad's heart but realize the attention she does get is because she requires more care than you do. The sooner you deal with your anger or jealousy the better as resentment only hurts the person displaying it.
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I am a girl who is doing 12th .. i hav a boyfriend who loves me a lot bt does not believe me ...... i am ready to do anything for him i tottlay lost him i want him back ...bt i knw i wont get him ........ i jst want to die ....... i want to suiside (link)
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If you want to commit suicide for any reason than your problem isn't with him. Tell somebody you trust about these feelings and get checked out.
As hard as it is to realize this he's just one guy in a sea of billions. It hurts to lose someone you love but unfortunately it happens to us all. Pain fades over time and you'll see life will get better. Maybe you'll meet someone better suited to you.
The other problem you didn't give us detail on is why he doesn't trust you. What happened? If you show through your actions you can be trusted and try working things out maybe things will be back on track. He's hurt and acting in this manner right now but if you have it out maybe things will turn around. But above all else don't kill yourself over this as that would be stupid to lose life over a guy.
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So yes i dated my best friend’s brother for a few months while he was stationed a few hours away from our home. (he’s in the military). When he got deployed we wanted to make it work but he ended up breaking up with me and STARTS “dating" his ex! It’s understandable-they have a little boy together. But really? So he comes home soon and my best friend also has a kid, a girl. so her little girls birthday party is in august and he and his family will be there. I have no idea what to do/say/or act! Please help! (link)
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You could always tell your friend the truth. Tell her the wounds from that failed romance are still too deep. Tell her you would like to do something special for her daughter the same week or day before.
I think she'll understand if you tell her that it's awkward seeing him with a new family because of the past. As long as you care for her kid I can't see an issue. Besides, tons of things can transpire between now and August.
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So many times on here I have written about being shy at college and to get advice for it. The shyness is gradually going away and I am confident enough to speak up in class.
However, now I do speak up, the teacher keeps embarrasing me, saying really rude sexual jokes about me 'atracting' this other mega quiet boy in the class and 'getting it on'.
The whole class found this hilareous of course because I'm rather quiet. I had no choice but to laugh it off, but how are you supposed to deal with a sitation like this if it keep arising? (link)
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Visit the administrative department at the college as well as your student association. They will advise you on how to complain about these unwanted sexual jokes. Next time write down what was said and when.
Also, tell him you think his joke was inappropriate in front of the class and that you won't put up with it any longer and have filed a complaint. This will make him know not to screw with you. He can get fired in a snap for this and maybe should be.
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do a virgin get pregnant at first sexual intercourse? (link)
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Absolutely! It doesn't matter whether it's the first time or 4 billionth. You can get pregnant in a snap like that if sperm fertilizes an egg. Always wear protection.
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I am a 43 year old female,my boyfriend is 40..when we are getting physical he cannot keep an erection..He will get hard for about 10 min and then starts to go soft..Is there anything i can do to help fix this...Its driving me crazy (link)
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Has he been put on any new medication that could cause erectile dysfunction as a side-effect? If so have him see his doctor.
While there are prescription medication for this in abundance you might want to visit an adult novelty store. The name of the product is quite vulgar but if you ask them for rings that trap blood in a penis they'll know what you need.
The ring goes around the penis and down to the base and traps blood flow. This product would definitely help the problem if there's no medical reason for it to happen.
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So I met this great guy, cute, funny, smart, and we have a lot in common. We've been out a few times and we talk constantly. But I learned recently that he stole 50 dollars from a friend of mine once.
I'm not sure what to do now...
Ugh, please help?? (link)
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Who is this friend? Ask yourself if they are trustworthy or if they had a personal tiff with him before this info came out. Let's say he took the $50.00.
That's horrible but maybe he's learned lessons from it since or there's a whole other side to the story you haven't heard. What should you do? Go directly to the source and flat out ask what happened and make your judgments about him afterward.
Pretty much the only way to deal with especially if it has you this concerned. Nobody said it would be easy but you need dialogue on it.
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I was masturbating and I got closer than i've ever gotten to reaching orgasm, but by then my arm was getting sore..and I just couldn't finish. I felt like I had to pee really bad (although i kind of had to go before i started) And yeah...Plus i was doing it in the bathroom so i was kind of limited on time because that's the only place i have privacy. what should i do for the next time?..
17/f (link)
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It's possible this is the start of G-Spot orgasm. I have read as well as been told in human sexuality classes that a woman will feel like she has a full bladder. Then, she will feel slightly uncomfortable and an urge to push down.
It's possible you had to urinate but more likely this was associated with self-pleasure. How to know? Next time use the bathroom first and find out if anything is the same. You can't hurt yourself and it's been done when alone and unrushed.
In general and not just for this you need privacy and a place that is your own. Parents hate locks but a chain one you can put on with a hook and take off is needed so you can be alone for any reason. At 17 you need that. You should complain about a lack of privacy in general.
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I'm a male
So my girlfriend has been trying to get me off with her hands and mouth.. but I can't orgasm when she does it..
I noticed when i masturbate i lay down my feet kind of go farther then shoulder length apart.. and i tense up in the legs, more of a flexing of my muscles..
When I am standing up i can only if i get more on the tips of my toes and my muscles in the legs are flexing again..
Now i am very self conscious about this and have low self esteem and stuff.. I was wondering if this is normal.. and if i should tell her that is how i am or what i can do to be more "normal" I have seen porn and those guys just seem to be flat footed and stuff and just shoot it like nothing. I feel very embarrassed for even asking this, what do i do?
Do i tell her and how do i do that? Im not sure if it bothers her but it bothers me that i can't orgasm when she pleasures me and i'm not sure what to do about sex.. we haven't gone that far yet but i assume we will soon..
Any help is appreciated! (link)
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Have you ever looked in to whether this could be a side-effect of medication? I'm mentioning that as some people on certain drugs have side-effects including difficulty ejaculating or in females with lubrication.
As far as porn goes it's not realistic and could even be several shots edited to get whatever they wanted across. Don't take anything you see there as a reflection of real-life.
Should you talk to your girlfriend? ABSOLUTELY! She must feel as though this is her fault. Tell her that either from self-stimulation or sex that the only position that results in ejaculation seems to be this. And guess what? That's perfectly fine as everyone likes something different for you this is it for now.
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I am 15/f. I know this might sound weird but my vagina itches and hurts sometimes and i was just wondering if that was normal?? Thanks !!! (link)
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Nope. You should get that checked out. It's definitely an infection or something along those lines as it should itch like burning itch or hurt you.
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i dont really have a very good commutaction or relationship with my mom i dont really talk to her even when she asks me stuff i just nod my head and i dont have a aunt and my dad doesnt live with me my mom over 50 so she doesnt get her period any more also im really shy i was also voted the most queit ist in the school i dont know how to tell her can u help ps also she doesnt have a cell or a email also if i leave a note my step dad would proabaly find it and i dont really like to talk to my parents help plz (link)
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This is actually a golden opportunity to work on the most important relationship you will ever have. That's with your mom.
Your period should not be something embarrassing it's a normal process that every girl experiences and means you can bare children later on. Your mom knows that it will happen and expects to talk about it and give guidance. You can bet she felt exactly like you did when she went through this important change and scared.
If you find it difficult to talk about find an older friend who has had it for awhile or an aunt and tell them you have it but find talking to your parents to be icky. Perhaps that person can tell mom for you and tell her how embarrassed and or lost you are about it.
The important thing is that you learn how to care for yourself when it comes to handling your period and have that info but either way work on your relationship with your mom. The one thing you have to toss shyness out the window for is any changes no matter how icky to body and health so that your parents can help.
Mom may be over 50 but that's not a bad thing. She has experienced everything you will be and is a source of information on what it's like to be going through all those changes. I'm sure if you said "mom I got my..." she would be supportive and open to any question you have. That's what she's there for.
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So im a female of 16 years, and recently I tried too masturbate, but i didnt reach orgasm, is there any way of being able to reach orgasm while masturbating? Is there ah best way too masturbate? I wanted to ask my boyfriend to finger me for the first time, but im scared i wont be in pleasure, or wont find it pleasing. What can i do? (link)
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We can't give how-to info or tips for obvious reasons. The best I can say is continue to explore your own body to find what works.
Everyone is different however, the clitoris is where all the nerve endings are and only function is pleasure. Also, if you relax and aren't distracted that yields better results. As for your boyfriend doing this to you wait until you are 100% comfortable doing this alone.
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16/f when I masturbate I but this body moisturizer all around my vagina and on my hands, is it normal to do this or am I just weird? (link)
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You shouldn't use anything that has perfume in it around your genitals. Not only will they feel irritated you can get an infection. Use KY or a water based lubricant meant to be applied to this area. That's not harmful and as long as you aren't hurting anyone or yourself the behavior is okay.
Also with a water based product found in any drugstore you can ensure that this area of your body will be easier to clean and cleaner in the end run.
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Hi, 20/f, my boyfriend has been away for a few days and I have been masturbating like twice a day.. is this normal? (link)
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You're fine. I hate the word "normal". Normal is subjective. What's "normal" to one isn't to another.
In this instance unless you are practically doing this 24/7 never do anything else and are consumed with doing it you don't have an issue.
Relax, do it if you feel comfortable or don't if you don't. It's fine as your partner is away and you need a little relief. You can't harm yourself in any way nor ruin anything with him. There should be no guilt and judging from the question perhaps you feel guilty.
You shouldn't. The thing is he's probably missing you and doing the same exact thing as you have been and frequency for either instance doesn't matter if it's once, twice, three times a day as long as you lead a normal day and existence outside of this and you do.
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I am in a happy long term relationship with my boyfriend - 3 years
However last year I slept with another boy, which meant id given this boy my virginity not my boyfriend. I have repented and so on and he has forgiven me.
But my boyfriend wants a virgin to sleep with, as i made him wait so long and then just gave it away meaninglessly. I just dont know what to do. I dont know how to make this happen (link)
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You can't be something you aren't. You had sex with the wrong person and learned from it. Now, you have waited to be with the right person and situation for sex. In a sense you are born-again and experiencing sex for the first time in years and with the right person.
This shouldn't be stressing you. Why is a virgin such a big deal with him? All you can do is tell him the truth and if he's going to be weird about it than he's not the right sex partner or boyfriend for you.
I guess some guys have this thing about tightness but there's exercises and others wouldn't know the difference if their partner didn't tell them. If he loves you eternally than your having had sex shouldn't matter. In a way he's lucky as the sex he's hoping for may be disaster with someone non-experienced.
I think for him it's just this fantasy idea and vibe of what it would be like that doesn't mirror reality. Then again maybe he wants to be your first. The thing is though that not a lot of people your age have waited for the right time. Just talk to him as I'm sure it will be okay. Might burst his bubble but he'll see he's not lacking anything in the end. If he doesn't question your reason for being there.
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so i'm a 17 yr old male. my hair has been falling out for a while. since i was like in 7th grade.back then it was bad. when i took a shower alot of hair would come out i mean alot however not chunks. after a while it started falling out less. i have had alot of stress in my life and 7th and 8th grade were very stressful. after i'd say freshmen year my hair started to fall out less but it stil constantly falls out. way less but still. can this possibly caused by stress or maybe genetic since my dad went bald at a fairly young age. any ideas? (link)
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I would actually ask your family doctor about this. It was a mistake to wait this long. It's unusual for a kid aged 13 or 14 to lose clumps of hair like that or to be balding at 17. Your dad may have started early but he's not you. I'm not trying to scare the shit out of you but lets rule out medical reasons for hair loss first and ask a physician their ideas on what to do either way.
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16/f.. this is really weird asking this but.. I always masturbate fingering on my back and I was wondering if you could develop a problem reaching orgasm with a partner if you always masturbate in the same way? If so, what other ways can I do it to mix it up a bit? Thanks.. (link)
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We can't give tips. What works for one person might not do a thing for someone else. Best advice is to explore and try different things yourself. There is nothing to suggest that a favorite method will cause you any sexual problems in the future. If you feel comfortable on your back that's okay.
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So, in a middle of a test. I was very stressed. I cant answer about 8 number. So, I asked him "Can I open the book". At first, he answered it with a joke. But suddenly, he shouted "Be quite!" angrily. I was very afraid. What should I do? Is that my fault? I met him about 3 times a week. Actually, he is a funny and kind teacher. I was very shocked because of that incident. Please help me, thank you. (link)
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You are taking it way too seriously. It wasn't a personal attack and would have directed it to anyone who said that. He expected you to know the rules and to be quiet during the test so nobody was distracted. That's all that transpired. Relax and move on.
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should I ignore this man going forward? he sent me a text which stated " Too bad that I don't meetup to his standards Now I feel terribly hurt & used (link)
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Sounds like a grade A asshole if you ask me. Don't waste tears or a minute feeling bad over him. He misses out on you. You're better than him and will find someone suitable.
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I'm a 40 year black woman, very attractive. I have been single for years and now I am very motivated to be in a relationship. I am bisexual and love oral sex. I am shy about requesting it so I am a top in my girl to girl relationships and I am only a giver in my straight encounters which leave me more disappointed than necessary. I was even beginning to think I might be a hermaphrodite due to the extra skin which swells up sometimes. I'm glad I'm not a hermaphrodite, my OBGYN always says things look normal once inside and never comment on the outside except to look surprised or impressed. I'm assuming I am not intersex but have a large labia. My question: How should I introduce myself to potential sex partners or dates using CL ads for example. What is the code word? I don't want people to respond and harass me. (link)
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You're 100% female. Your OBGYN would have told you otherwise if you were not. It's not unusual for some women to have larger labia than others that sort of hangs and droops. You are normal so don't fret and definitely a girl.
As for your partner I'm sure they will not be phased at all. It's also normal for more of the clitoris to be exposed as well. In fact, having this works to your advantage pleasure wise when in an adult sexual relationship. No worries to be had.
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