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misery caused from sister
Ok, well I have a "step" sister that has down syndrome and I can't stand it because she scares my friend and is annoying. She can be mean too. I've talk to my dad about her and my dad is engaged to her mom. I'm at the point of telling my dad, to pick me or her. I really need advice please help and thank you in advance
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Anything is possible. I believe she responds to what she receives. If you are kind and loving to her she will be that way to you and maybe her brother if she sees a difference.
You are so wrong here.
First if you force your father to choose between you and the mother of your future step-sister you could be ruining any chance your father has for future happiness. For is forced to make a choice between you and his future wife, like most fathers, his choice will have to be you.
As to your your future step-sister. I have known a number of Downs Syndrome children and adults. All that I have met are usually a most loving type of individual. I am thinking she is reacting to how you and your friends may be treating her.
You and your father have a unique opportunity here to prove this girl with something she may never of had in the past. That being a warm and comforting home.
You did not state why she and her mother are searching for a new home or why you and your father are searching for a new home (home = family). What ever the reason is a warm loving home can be had from this union if you play the part of big sister or brother and protect and care for her. I can assure you she will return that love many fold over for that is what Downs Syndrome children provide to the family unit.
As for your friend, well they too need to understand she is different. Her being different is not something to be scared of. She needs to be treated differently but she can be a great friend too if they will allow her to be.
My advise: Don't ask your dad to choose. Learn to love your future step sister. If you do you will learn that you made the right choice in doing so.
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Your friend is operating out of ignorance of what Down Syndrome is and for that matter so are you. How can you dislike her because of behavior related to a condition that you don't like? How do you think she feels to have it or to scare other people just because of it?
And what nerve you've got asking for your father to pick you over her. I don't care what hardships you feel she has caused you but get a grip and realize what crap she faces in a day. Learn to disregard any negatives and find something to love her for.
As for your friend re-introduce her/him to your sister, explain her condition and why she should not feel scared or intimidated. There's a lot this step-sister can teach you about how to live, see the world, others.
There is no way she can ever replace you in your dad's heart but realize the attention she does get is because she requires more care than you do. The sooner you deal with your anger or jealousy the better as resentment only hurts the person displaying it.
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