help very important: I got my period but i am shy and don't really like to talk to my parents
Question Posted Saturday April 14 2012, 5:27 pm
i dont really have a very good commutaction or relationship with my mom i dont really talk to her even when she asks me stuff i just nod my head and i dont have a aunt and my dad doesnt live with me my mom over 50 so she doesnt get her period any more also im really shy i was also voted the most queit ist in the school i dont know how to tell her can u help ps also she doesnt have a cell or a email also if i leave a note my step dad would proabaly find it and i dont really like to talk to my parents help plz
adviceman49 answered Sunday April 15 2012, 12:17 pm: Getting your period is nothing sexual. It is a natural bodily function for a young lady. Just as going to the bathroom is. While your mother may not be getting her period any longer she knows that sometime after the age of puberty you will be getting yours. she is probably waiting for you to tell her so she can help you take proper care of yourself during your periods.
When you are not feeling well you tell your mother so you can stay home from school; correct. This is no different then that. A new part of you is starting to function. You will be, if you haven't already, start growing breast. You will need training bras' and then regular bras. Knowing what type of sanitary products and how to use then are no different.
You also need to start seeing a gynecologist. Mom can arrange for this to happen You will probably be more comfortable with a female GYN something you need to tell her. If you are over 14 or when you obtain the age of 14 you can see any doctor about questions or concerns of your reproductive system in private without mom in the exam room. Anything you and the doctor discuss, including birth control remain totally confidential by law.
solidadvice4teens answered Saturday April 14 2012, 7:12 pm: This is actually a golden opportunity to work on the most important relationship you will ever have. That's with your mom.
Your period should not be something embarrassing it's a normal process that every girl experiences and means you can bare children later on. Your mom knows that it will happen and expects to talk about it and give guidance. You can bet she felt exactly like you did when she went through this important change and scared.
If you find it difficult to talk about find an older friend who has had it for awhile or an aunt and tell them you have it but find talking to your parents to be icky. Perhaps that person can tell mom for you and tell her how embarrassed and or lost you are about it.
The important thing is that you learn how to care for yourself when it comes to handling your period and have that info but either way work on your relationship with your mom. The one thing you have to toss shyness out the window for is any changes no matter how icky to body and health so that your parents can help.
Mom may be over 50 but that's not a bad thing. She has experienced everything you will be and is a source of information on what it's like to be going through all those changes. I'm sure if you said "mom I got my..." she would be supportive and open to any question you have. That's what she's there for. [ solidadvice4teens's advice column | Ask solidadvice4teens A Question ]
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