Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
AIM: mel le disko
Member Since: July 2, 2006
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I'm going into 9th and Kevin is going into 10th. He and I used to date last summer[I was going into 8th grade and Kevin into 9th grade] but we decided to break it off [since we won't be able to see each other[he would be in high school and I would be in middle] and my mom is overprotective like woah].
Now that I'm gonna be going into high school and I'd probably see Kevin around, he's been trying to get together with me--a lot--over the summer. [Wanting to come over my house, hang out with him at his, join this club that he's in, come to his work, go to the movies, etc.]And he just IMed me from 10 30 -11 30 at night while I was away 288 times for an hour ._0 And me and his/my friends thinks he wants to go out with me again.
The questions is, should I go out with him or not. I mean he's nice, funny, athletic, and smart. But he's also sometimes perverted like woah(I know that dudes being perverted is normal but him, it's like above normal), disgusting, and he and his friends do this whole thing where they do other people's homework and projects for money =/.
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Well, about the homework thing, like the person said below, it's not like he's selling his body or anything. And at least he's DOING the homework, not paying for it so it shows he's smart and not a slacker. If I were you, I'd just be happy it's nothing illegal like selling drugs or something.
But anyways, the real question. If you like him, go out with him. He hasn't done anything mean to you, and he sounds like a really nice guy from the way you describe him. And like you said, yes guys can be perverted, but sometime's it's also normal for them to be over perverted. I have a bunch of guy friends who are always over perverted, but whenever I don't feel like hearing it, I just ask them to stop being perverted cause I'm not in the mood or something and they usually stop, so you could always just ask him. And if he likes you alot, I'm sure he'll stop, and it definetely sounds like he likes you alot. So go out with him! :D I hope I helped.
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what is the best program for downloading music? (link)
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I use Limewire for downloading music, and I know alot of other people that do. Just make sure you have a virus protection thing downloaded, just in case. I hope I helped.
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i recently got a column and no body is asking me questions.. how can you get people to ask ? thanks (link)
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I've only had about two or three people literally go to my column and put a question in my inbox. I don't just sit there and wait around, because nobody knows your username from when you first make one, you got to get yourself known. So one the left hand side, find the words "GIVE ADVICE" and then go to "RANDOM QUESTION" or "VIEW QUESTIONS" and they'll show you a bunch of questions you can answer and you just answer them. So then also, if that person likes your advice, they can always come back to you and ask you another and suggest you to their friends to! I hope I helped.
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Hey i am 13/f and i am pregnant my baby is due in a week. No im not a slut or anything i would have kept my virginity until i was married but i was raped by my older sisters ex boyfriend. And I dont believe in abortion... my family is 100% supportive of this pregnancy and any decision i make. I just dont know if i wanna give him or her up for adoption. I really love the baby and i want whats best and i know that would to be with me because we have a good family and we have enough money to support the baby but i dont know if i will see the baby's dad in him or her and if it will scar me... I know its not the baby's fault. But anyway I could use support oh and baby names could help too! idk if its a boy or girl but i like names like nevaeh (nuh vey uh its heaven spelled backwards) and savannah and jayden, cayden, and skyler... anything else???
please help!!! (link)
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I'm so sorry that happened to you. I don't think the father should see you nor the baby at all. After what he did to you, he doesn't deserve to. He doesn't even deserve to be a father. But I think that's great that your family supports you, [ most sadly wouldn't support their kid ] and if they're willing to help you out and they have the money to help support you and the baby and of course you want to keep him/her, then I think you should. The baby would be much better with a good family who loves and cares for them, then wind up in some orphanage or foster home not knowing who their real mother is. Like one of the people said below, since you are young, I also suggest discussing with your doctor what would be the best birthing method, because he might find a C-Section better. I like the names you suggested alot, especially the heaven spelled backwards, that's a really neat idea, and I've always loved the name Skyler [ that's what I'm going to name my kid in the future :D ] but I also like the names Hart, Chase, Harper for boys and for girls I like Ashlee, Stephanie/Stefanie, Scarlett, Reese.
Good luck to you and the baby!
I really hope I helped.
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Im sorry this will be long, but please bear with me. I started talking to this guy a few months back, and we really hit it off. Problem was, he was hiding the fact that he has a girlfriend. Me and his girlfriend talked, and we were friendly with each other, but one day she said "I dont want you two to talk, I think youre getting too close" and she was right..we said we loved each other every time we talked, and we hung out a lot. We never kissed, but we held hands, and just did all the cutesy stuff. Things happened, and me and this guy stopped talking for a few days because we were fighting. Neither of us could stand it, we missed each other, so we started hanging out again. We eventually hooked up, and through a bit of trickery by his girlfriend, she found out. We fought but then things were okay but things keep getting mixed up and we keep fighting. I know I shouldnt talk to him anymore even thought I love him and I know he loves me. I need a way to get over him because I cant hurt his girlfriend like this anymore even though she has made me feel lower than dirt. I somewhat deserve it but I couldnt help kissing him back when he made a move. How can I forget about him when I still love him? (link)
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Even though you love him, I know it's hard but you jsut have to forget about him for awhile. I really liked this one guy and he dumped me for another girl and I got really mad and I found out later he was dating another girl was he was dating the one he dumped ME for! So it made me wonder who else he might've been dating behind my back, which is exactly what this guy'd probably do if you dated him. If he can leave his girlfriend for you, he could just as easily leave you for another girl. He's just a PLAYER. I would suggest you and both the girlfriend forget about him, because he'll probably just keep hurting her. But to forget about him, I just got rid of all my memories of him, I stopped talking to him on the internet [ I blocked him ], I deleted his number, and if he called me, I didn't pick up, I threw out pictures, crossed out doodles I made of his name and everything and after awhile, I slowly just got over it even though I really liked him alot. And now I'm completely fine. Just keep thinking to yourself," He's a jerk. He cheated on his girlfriend, so he'd cheat on me too probably. I don't want to talk to him or have anything to do with him." Also, just start reading books or find a hobby to start doing and learn something new. Something I did was I hung out with my friends as much as I could and got my mind off of him and I even started meeting some new guys and flirt with them a bit. I hope I helped.
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i need some help here.my boyfriend and i have been together for 5 months now and our realationship is doing fine but i think there's a problem.everytime i ask him to go somewhere with me like a week before we go he says yeah.but at the last minute he'll call and say he can't go.i that always makes me made but i didn't tell him.i'm a rookie runner for my schools marching band and my 3 friends are runners but there's another rookie who is a year younger then all of us and he's really cute and i like him like him.hes funny and nice and cute.but then he starts dating my friend.but my other runner friend said that they probably won't last.he's the only boy runner and he even said he don't think the realationship will last.and i can't take my bf canceling on me the last minute.it makes me think that he doesnt wanna do anything with me.so my question is should i dump my bf and go with the runner when they break up or should i stay with me bf???
sry my questions too long. (link)
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Well, first I think you should talk to him. Ask him why he keeps cancelling on you, and it's really hurting your feelings because you always make these plans like, a week ahead of time and then he just keeps going and cancelling on you. See what his reasons are, and decide if you want to break up with him or not, it's your choice. But if he doesn't, I'd suggest breaking up with him, because what's a relationship if he's not even there to have it? But with this runner guy, I would see what happens whenever him and your friend break up, or I'd ask him how he feels about you and see if he likes you first before you go and do anything. Also, I might want to think about that, because I'm sure if him and your friend break up, and then you date him, your friend might get awfully mad, so if they DO break up, wait awhile for her to calm down about it and try and get over it and then ask her if she's okay with it. Otherwise, that might be a friendship lost. I hope I helped.
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Right heres the deal.. i am in love with my best friend and i dont quite know how to handle it! I havent told him how i feel and i dont know if i want to. he has just split with his gf (that is what made me realise i liked him) i think i have always liked him, but just never realised it! I think he will be on the rebound so there is no way am i going to tell him how i feel, because i dont want to be his rebound girl! Everyone says that we make a great couple and i think we do too! Do you think i should tell him? and if so how long do you think i should wait? (link)
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Well, what I would do is tell him now, because if you don't some other girl might, and then he might start going out with her. I would just go up to him and be like,"Look, I gotta tell you something and I got to do it now otherwise I probably never will. Everyone says we'd make a great couple, and I think we would too, and I really like you and everything, and if you have feelings for me, that's fantastic, but don't respond or anything just yet. Wait awhile, I know you just broke up with your girlfriend and you might want some time to yourself, and I don't want to just feel like some rebound girl or something. But I just knew that if some other girl came along and you dated her, I wouldn't get my chance to let you know. But, if you don't feel the same way about me, I hope we can remain friends because I wouldn't want to lose anything we have." Well, at least something like that, haha. Because it shows you care alot about him and his feelings and want to give him time and everything and it shows you're just not looking to be some rebound you honestly want to be with him. I hope I helped.
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I really like this guy that I used to work for. I've known him for almost two years, and was originally just friends with him. In about the last six months my feelings have changed. He was my supervisor, but since June, he has not been. I still talk to him at the least almost weekly, but don't really see him all that much, and there's really no reason for me to as he is no longer my supervisor. I'm not entirely sure of his age because he is a closed off type of guy, but he could be more than ten years older than me (if so, not much more than that as we are POSITIVE he is in his thirties) (that's how closed off he is, people who have known him for more than ten years aren't sure of his exact age) Anyway, I'm pretty sure the whole crush is hopeless, however I'm a die-hard optimist, and am clinging for hope. Any advice would be great. (link)
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Well, first I'd get his age. Age really doesn't matter. Unless he has kids, and you don't. Then it matters. But find ways to talk to him more, slip things into the conversation that you want to find out about him. Find out if you have anything in common. You might find out, that you really don't like him. And that you like somebody a lot more. Or that he likes you back, and everything turns out great. [ My friend Alyssa gave you this advice. :D ] She hopes she helped.
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what does "rolling fat" mean?
like "i rolled fat like oprah and made summer the best." (link)
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To me, rolling fat, means to lose it. I hope I helped.
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how do you talk to someone you really like. i am so nervous about doing it. we know each other very well. from talking on the computer. but face to face, i just cant do it. how do i seem calm and collective? i want him to like me. (link)
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Just take silent long breaths before or while you're talking to him, and just think of it like you're talking to one of your best friends. But, don't treat him like he's your best friend, flirt a little and joke around and be silly. But whenever you're talking to him, ask him about his life and what he likes to do and stuff, it'll show him you're more interested in him than yourself, like some girls are. And sometimes, it's even ok so be a little nervous and stuff, whenever I talk to guys I really like sometimes and they flirt with me a little, my face can turn red [ and I find it extremely embarassing ] but they find it cute cause I guess they like knowing they made me blush and stuff. And remember: just be yourself. :] I hope I helped.
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Age: 14
Gender: Male
Okay, so there's this girl I really like (E), and this other girl (B) my best friend likes. My friend really loves B, he's told me a million times, and he's loved her for a really long time. I've loved E for a long time, not as much time as my friend has liked B, but still pretty long. Ever since I told my friend I love E, he's been nicer and nicer to her. Which I wouldn't mind if it was just the friendly type of niceness, but it's not. It's the "gotta crush on ya" type of niceness. I've asked him about this, and he says he's treating her exactly the same as he always has, but I've noticed a difference. I just am really confused. Do friends normally do these kind of things?
Thanks,
-Fyce (link)
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Sometimes this happens between friends. Whenever one friend mentions about another girl and how awseome and stuff they are to them, they'll start to take notice of her, and sometimes crush feelings can catch on. And also, sometimes between best friends, there can be a feeling to compete, I don't know why. Sometimes whenever me and my best friend see a guy we like, we'll always compete for him. I guess its to show whose the better of the best friends? I have no idea why it happens, but like I said, sometimes it just does. I would either try doing the same thing to B and see how he reacts. If you notice him getting jealous, just mention it to him or see if he takls to you about it, and then I would just be like,"Oh, like how you're doing with E?" and then talk to him about it. Or, just flat-out ask him about it. Be like,"I know you say you're acting towards E like you always do, but lately I've noticed it's been different, even though you don't think it is. Now, you know I love her and everything, and I wouldn't do that to B because I know you've loved her since forever." Or I would just do what I highly suggest you SHOULD do: make your move. Compliment her, make her laugh, be nice, flirt a little, then maybe flirt a little more and see if she flirts back. And just try and get her attention. And then maybe after awhile, ask her if she wants to hang out sometime soon and catch a movie or something. :] I hope I helped.
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Ok, this might be long so I'm sorry hehe. Im 15 and female and have been with my boyfriend for a year. When we first got toegther he was really romantic and sweet (imporant thing for me) and it was great and we were getting on really well. Now it seems as if he couldn't care less about us. We only see each other twice a week...if that. Everytime he leave to go home I end up in tears because i feel like things are beyond repair. He often makes little comments which make me feel like crap, he also brags a lot which make me feel worse because he has a lot of money and gets a lot of things. He spends a lot of time with his mates and has said in the past that they come before me, which is fair enough. He doesnt very often make the effort to see me so I'm always changing what I'm doing for him. All the romantic stuff is gone, and I guess I just feel like he would rather be with someone else. I havent told him any of this because in the past if I have had a problem with him he acts like he is perfect and thats its my fault and then makes me feel like im some kind of paranoid-weird girlfriend. I want this to all work out because I love him so much and I know deep down he loves me too. But if he doesnt start showing that he cares then I'm going to have to let go..... if i can that is because its failed int he past.... any advice is very much appriciated! thank you! :) (link)
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Well, first of all, don't feel like a paranoid girlfriend. You're just a girlfriend who cares alot about her boyfriend and wants everything to work out, no shame in that. But the spark sometimes can tend to go away in a long relationship, especially after a year. He probably feels just fine with everything and stuff, and like he doesn't have to impress you or romanticize you anymore because nothing's new anymore, because when you first start out, it's a new person, new memories, new adventures, everything's exciting. I would try talking to him again about it. Let him know that you feel like he doesn't care and love you anymore and it jsut hurts because you feel like you're making a huge effort, and he's not. Just tell him you're not being paranoid you just care alot because you guys only see eachother twice a week, if that, and you want to spend more time together at least and have some fun and romance. Maybe even suggest going out to dinner or somewhere at a really nice place, and try and get the spice back in your life. And you should tell him, like you said, that if he doesn't start showing that he cares more, then you might not be able to stay with him. And I know it's hard to stay away. I had to make myself back off my boyfriend and stuff and then slowly after awhile, I got over it and didn't care anymore. I also think he should get a wake-up or something, because he is NOT perfect. Nobody is perfect, and he should realize that. And if you do break up with him, who needs a guy who thinks he's perfect anyways? He'll only make you feel worse about yourself, and that's not a good boyfriend. But firstly, like I said, try to talk to him about it and plan a little romantic night together. I hope I helped.
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if i wore white pants, a black shirt, a silver belt, and a black jacket with white daises is that just like too much white and black?? it looks good but i dont want to look like some freak whos afraid of colors or something. (link)
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It sounds perfectly fine to me. :] Black and white are very popular colors in clothes, so who cares if they're together? I think black and white looks very classy, like the girl said below. And plus, it's not like you're going to wear black and white everyday for the rest of your life, just sometimes, so maybe even the next day were a nice color so it doesn't look like you're "afraid of colors". I hope I helped.
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what does it mean to "poop a balloon?" i heard it on the show "the office" and i was wondering what it meant (link)
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Well, haha, I just tried googling it, since Google knows all and I found this story about how this father was entertaining his kids and he pretended to poop out a balloon and let it go flying around in the air and made the kids laugh. So, I'm guessing they were saying they were pooping out a balloon or.. pretending to poop out a balloon? Lol, I hope I helped.
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Okay, so for school over the summer we had to read a book. This book is extremely boring and I lose interest in it fast. There is alot of big words and its like "how do i read this?" Well i start school tuesday. theres 319 pages and im on like page 140. I dont know if there anything to motivate me or help or what. But I dont know what to do! (link)
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Whenever books really bore me, I just sit there and read it anyways cause I think of the consequences for not reading. You might get in trouble with a teacher or something if you don't. And also, it'd probably be pretty embarassing to go to class and be asked a question about the book and just sit there and be like,"uhhh..", so just think of that. And so, you have the weekend to read this book. Just keep away from the computer, turn off the tv, anything that might distract you. Now, you only have about 179 pages to read, and I just divided that by 2, and it equals 89.5 so all you gotta do for two days is just read like, 89 and a half pages, or try reading the full 179 in one day. What I do sometimes to is I just sit there and eat candy or something good while I read the book. I hope I helped.
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OMFG.... my ex is juggling them
and he trying to go out with my friend here
i hacked his myspace for a month.. thats how i found out everything
and i became friends with all the girls he was juggling.. even his current gf.. so yea.... and im best friend with this ex.. which is my best friend
he gets around... and.....yea
i told the girl about teh juggling
she said she doesnt know how to break up with him
i told her to stay with him
pay back is a bitch
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Well, haha I don't know the exact question in this, but if you're going to tell one girl, why not tell them all? They should all know what a "player" he is. I know somebody who used to do that, and when we all found out, gah it was horrible, lol. But basically, none of us are dating him now anymore, haha. But if there WAS a question somewhere in that, just message me again and ask it or something. :]
Oh and also, hahah becoming friensd with all the other girls, hahah good job. That's what I did in my situation I was friends with all the other ones.
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I am so frusturated today. I'm usually giving advice, but right now I don't have any for myself. I have been best friends with this one girl for 2 years and I'm really close with both her and her daughter, but she is constantly using me and lying to me. Finally I got fed up of her and called her to tell her she only cares about her self and then hung up. Does this diserve an apolgie? I don't plan on giving one, but I wanted to know what everyone else thought. (link)
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Well, no, you don't need to apologize for speaking the truth, but I'm sure could've gotten a calm explanation then a insult and a hang up. Because if I were her, I'd just be sitting there left hurt and really confused. Just call her again and be like,"I'm sorry for the way I called you, but I'm not sorry for what I said. I just feel like all you care about is yourself. You're always lying to me and using me, and I really care about you and all, but I just want to know why you can't be honest with me and everything." And just talk it out with her and try to resolve the friendship. So basically to answer your question, no, you shouldn't have to apologize for speaking the truth. I hope I helped.
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Me and my boyfriend are planning on having sex soon. Neither of us have ever done it before, so we have no idea what you are supposed to do without getting hurt. I am 13 and he is 14, do you think that it to early, even with protection?? Any advice would help. (link)
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I think that it's awfully early. I mean, you don't NEED sex to show that you guys love eachother. Some of the best relationships come from not having sex and that also shows that the guy really cares and obviously isn't using you. And I think the first time should be shared with someone very special and you know it'll last with them. I mean, sometimes sex can actually ruin things because it might turn out after you guys have sex, that's all he'll want, and that's no good. And there's really no way to avoid getting hurt, whenever you do it for the first time, it's going to hurt, and then each time you have sex again, it'll hurt less and less. Unless you have like, a mircale and it's painless, but I doubt that. And also, what about the chance of pregnancy? Even though you're using a condom, they can break, things can happen, and then teenage mothers happen. But if you still want to have sex together, then I suggest going on the pill and use a condom so it's double the protection. But, please, reconsider. Anyways, I hope I helped.
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Ok, Well I have been dating this guy Sean, since October. We've said the I love you and all of that. Well the other day he told me that he never gave me his whole heart, and most of it was still for his ex. Yeah it killed me, so we argued for awhile and then I broke up with him because he thought "it was for the best". Now, this guy Brandon, asked me out and I said yes so I could forget about my now ex. Well, I IMed my ex, because we still talk some and he told me that he was extremely pissed at me. He said that it was wrong of me to get another boyfriend, a week after we broke up. I told him I only got a new bf, so I could get my mind off of him. I would cry myself to sleep everynight and all of that. Well, he tells me that he does too and that he didn't want to forget about me so he didn't know why I wanted to forget about him. I was seriously, MADLY in love with him. So now he tells me he can't take this anymore, and he assumes that me and my Boyfriend now, had something going on when me and my ex were together. Which isn't true. I love my ex, and I want him back. But I have NO IDEA on what to do.
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I wouldn't go back out with a guy like that. I mean, how could he just sit there and tell you I love you and then admit to you he didn't give you his whole heart and THEN get mad whenever YOU try and move on? I think it's stupid. Because if you go back out with him, the whole situation could easily repeat itself. I had this happen with one of my boyfriends, we didn't go back out even though he wanted, but we remain good friends now and he's not even dating the other girl he liked anymore. And now I realized what he did was really crappy and I'd never think of going back out with him even though whenever he did it, I would've done it in a heart beat. I would just give it a shot with this Brandon guy. I mean, he could be a really sweet guy and all, and you might be missing out just because you're thinking of your ex who hurt you pretty badly. I hope I helped.
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hey this is kristen again.. no my personality is bettter (no offense) because shes like REALLY shy and i can be really outgoing lol. shes only talkative if she actually knows you, but only slightly talkative. i dont know. they just think shes hot. but i mean.. personally i think a bunch of my other friends are hotter, but how come guys dont like them... i dont know its just weird how guys like her so much. its so annoying too now whenever i look in my pictures with her im always comparing myself to her and ugh.. icant get it out of my head! (link)
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Hm, I don't know what to tell you. Sometime's there just something about a girl that a guy likes. But like I said, I'd try talking to one of the guys that likes her/used to like her and just be like,"I'm just curious. I'm not saying this in a mean way or anything, but why do/did you like her? I'm just wondering cause SO many guys like her and I wonder what the heck she does, haha." [ and if he tells her and she takes it wrong just explain to her how you're feeling and she'll understand hopefully ] but I don't get it. You seem like a really cool person and nice, so I don't get why a guy wouldn't go after you. But that's kind of how it is with me too. People say I'm pretty, funny, and nice and everything and I mean I've had guys like me, but not enough to like, ask me out or anything really. And the ones that DID, I wasn't interested in but anyways. Like, I'd see all my friends get the guys and I'm just like,".. what the heck are they doing that I'm not?" Maybe even ask her if she does anything on purpose to make a guy like her like flirt in a certain way or something. :/
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