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Can I get him to notice me???
I really like this guy that I used to work for. I've known him for almost two years, and was originally just friends with him. In about the last six months my feelings have changed. He was my supervisor, but since June, he has not been. I still talk to him at the least almost weekly, but don't really see him all that much, and there's really no reason for me to as he is no longer my supervisor. I'm not entirely sure of his age because he is a closed off type of guy, but he could be more than ten years older than me (if so, not much more than that as we are POSITIVE he is in his thirties) (that's how closed off he is, people who have known him for more than ten years aren't sure of his exact age) Anyway, I'm pretty sure the whole crush is hopeless, however I'm a die-hard optimist, and am clinging for hope. Any advice would be great.
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It sounds like this guy is emotionally unavailable. Are you sure the "crush" isn't about the challange? My advice is to be careful because any advance you make at work could be misconstrued as sexual harrassment. Perhaps for starters you could invite him out to eat with you and a group of friends. It's safer that way. You might be able to get to know him better in a non work environment. If you want to find out his age bring up topics that include the year you were born, or the age of siblings or the year of highschool graduation. Most people will talk freely of these things.
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I do know a lot about him, or at least a fair amount - as much as he lets out really, and some that he has told my best friend. We spent a lot of time while working together talking about history, which we both really like, and I found out that he would like to change careers and teach history, which is what I am currently going to school for. It kind of answered why he continually asked about stuff that I was learning in my history classes. This isn't why or when I started liking him though, it wasn't until later when he started making jokes around me and I realized we have a very similar sense of humor. (Very dry) I know a lot of other things about him, it seems to just be his age he doesn't care to reveal. He doesn't have kids, and he's never been married.
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Well, first I'd get his age. Age really doesn't matter. Unless he has kids, and you don't. Then it matters. But find ways to talk to him more, slip things into the conversation that you want to find out about him. Find out if you have anything in common. You might find out, that you really don't like him. And that you like somebody a lot more. Or that he likes you back, and everything turns out great. [ My friend Alyssa gave you this advice. :D ] She hopes she helped. <3
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