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When you are making out with a boy (yes I am a girl) where do you put your hands? Where does he put his. When making out what do you do with your hands? sorry i just want to know if you answer this with a good answer I will rate a 5
Besides the lips and tongue, i put hands as second most important while making out.
Put them anywhere : his back, run your fingers through his hair, wrap your arm and hook them in back of his neck, on his butt :) , on his back..if you really get it goin ..down his pants (hehe) but the other places are fine too.
He can put his hands wherever also..he might run his fingers through your hair, etc. If there is a certain place you want his hands to go, be assertive and take his hands and put them where you want them to go..he will like that..and he might do the same to you lol. You can stroke him with your hands, if the hands are on his back you can kind of rub his back..whatever you do with your hands, it will turn him on..just dont stand there with your hands at your sides doing nothing with them
have fun! ;)
-melissa-
thanx so much but there is just one more problem with asking him. hes my best friends bfs best friend. and her parents told them not to talk anymore so did the high school dean (pricipale) so i mean this could make things rough u know. and i dont know what to do. i mean i want to talk to him but yet i dont because i dont want thigs to get worse and i talk to her ex online when he talks to me (only) and the high skool pricipale told our friends to stay away from him but i mean i want to talk to his friend but i talk to her ex more than i do him. what should i do?!!?!
btw my name is brittany
Brittany,
it sounds like having her come with you guys to hang out doesnt sound like a bright idea. So, as long as you dont neglect your best friend, i think its ok if you go and hang out with him either one on one ..or get another friend of yours to come and get him to bring a friend of his. Dont leave your best friend out in the dark though..tell her you guys hung out and you like him..because if you dont her bf will mention it and then she will get upset..so just tell her about him..let her know you know there is friction between you and him, but you promise that you and him hanging out wont get in the way of your friendship with your best friend.
sorry i didn't know where to put this so i just put it here .. well a few weeks ago i found out that i was pregnant. i decided that im going to have the baby but the problem is that i have an eating disorder. i know it's probably bad for the baby but i've been doing it for so long that i can't stop. Does anyone know how badly it can hurt the baby or what it can do to it?
14/f
An eating disorder will definately hurt the baby. The baby is young and growing and it NEEDS food. If your depriving the baby of food..it will not surrivive. Now is the time to be eating good so your child will surrvive and be healthy..after you have the baby worry about shedding a few pounds (the right way)
http://mentalhealth.about.com/cs/pregnancyeds/
go there and there are a bunch of links which will talk more about having a disorder while pregnant.
Im glad your keeping the baby..now do the right thing and eat well so your baby will live a happy life :)
-melissa-
i know what u mean but like he likes another girl and they might go out soon and im a year younger he goes to high skool and im still in junior high i mean i wouldnt know what to say please help!
Maybe IM him...on the phone it might be tougher..just say hey how you been...whats been goin on..then say whenever your comfortable "we should hang out sometime" (you dont have to say that part the first time you IM him..you can wait a few days or something..whatever your comfortable with) Hopefully he will say "yeah, we should" and when he says that ask about next weekend..maybe to the mall,movies, wherever...dont be intimidated just because your younger or that he likes another girl..he might hang out with you and realize he likes you! You can even bring the other girl up in topic and ask whats up between them if you want...just be yourself when your hangin out with him...you'll be fine :)
-melissa-
lately, i've felt really sad, and i've felt all alone. i'm 8th grade/f, and i feel like a guy could fill up a space :( what can i do??
-all alone-
loneliness..yes i know the feeling very well...while a guy would make you feel better.. dont settle for just anyone..wait for a guy you lke and then go for him.. the feeling will pass its normal...until you find a guy you like just try hanging with friends a lot
hey its L the girl who feels it sher fault that my best friend and her boyfriend broke up. well i would call him but his friends said shit about me like a month ago and the date we went on was 3 months ago and i bet he forgot about me and he likes this whore so i doesnt matter. thats y i think i shouldnt call or IM him do u agree?
I dont agree because you never know until you try...if you Im him and start talking again..you guys will eventually make plans to hang out again eventually..so you never know what can happen until you try. Dont give up..i would IM him..take it slow..talk a few times..then ask to hang out at the movies or somewhere
-melissa-
I have a close friend who I usually get on well with. However, yesterday evening he told me that he is homophobic because he believes homosexual people mess up the whole cycle of life and they are selfish. I told him that people have the right to be who they want to be but he disagreed. Eventually I said that we could just forget it and agree to disagree but he wouldn't leave it. I told him I didn't want homosexual friends and refused to speak to him. I badly want to be his friend but he refuses to just forget our disagreement and not talk about it again. He just keeps saying that he is right and wont accept that it is a matter of opinion. I don't want to lose him as a friend, what should I do?
some people feel SUPER strong about issues like this..so although i would feel frustrated that he wont put it aside, i would try and look the other way and talk to him..saying..ok i dont want that dumb topic to get in the way of our friendship..so lets just forget about it and move on..?
If he keeps pushing it..i personally would become verry frustrated for him not putting it aside..
but keep saying its only an opinion and every has the right to their opinion..
ok so my boyfriend and me have been going out for about a month and a half or so.. he goes to a different school and hes 16, im 13.. i loved him sooo much! last night i was talking to him online and i asked if he was gonna come and meet me at the ice skating rink (where i always meet him) and he said "maybe, i might go to the mall with some friends instead but if we dont go then ill come see you." i felt kind of offended by this that he wanted to go see his friends instead of me. i can only see him on friday nights so if he didnt come i wouldnt see him till next friday (if he decided to come) and so i was like oh, alright i guess. then later that night i was talking to one of his friends... (not a very good friend tho) i only met him last weekend when my boyfriend wasnt at the ice skating rink... we talked for like 5 minutes... then when we were talking online last night he asked if i was goin ice skating.. i said probably not, he asked why and i told him about me being kinda mad about john not going. so then i ask what jake has said about me to him. chris, (the guy im talkin to online) says he wont tell me what john said about me because he doesnt want to hurt me. i finally get him to tell me what jake does on the nights when he doesnt go to the rink with me. he tells me that john has been seeing another girl and goes to hook up with her and only comes and sees me if shes not availiable. im so upset when i hear this... but i think his friend likes me so i dont know if hes telling the truth... but john never tells me where he goes when he doesnt come.. it all makes sence... both stories do... i dont know what to do...
OK i know jumping to conclusions isnt good..and yes its a possibility hes jusy lying to you because the friend likes you..but saying "maybe i'll go to the rink if im not at the mall?" NO no..thats not cool..he should either give you a "yes, i'll be there" or "no,sorry im going to the mall." he shouldnt just play you off like that..so definately talk to him about that.
To find out if this other girl story is true..maybe talk to a girl that goes with your friend to the mall..ask her to please tell you if theres another girl..and being that shes a girl..i think she'll stick by you and tell you.
my best friend hooked me up with her bf's best friend. went on a double date with his best friend and mine. we wanted to go on another double date. so we planed it. well my best friend and his we fighting in thier relasinship and they did alot of stuff together which cant be taken back (like give ur virginity to them). her parents found notes that refured to sex and came looking for us. saw us get in his car and followed us. when we got out of the car her mom screamed for us and the guy i likd was on his way and i nevr saw him again. its be a little more than 2 months. a month after his friends were saying stuff about me that i really dont want to say but that i wanted to take it slow and not kiss on a blind date. but his friends werent ok with that. now the question i feel that the reason my friend and her bf broke up is because of me even thou they were having problems i feel its my fault that we got caught because i wanted to go see him again and it wasnt worth it because his friends werent ok with it. is it really my fault or do i just want to blam it on myself so they wont fight because they broke up and like other people but they still fight. help please.?!?!?!?!
love L.
no i dont think its your fault..they have a complicated history and had their own problems..so dont blame it on yourself! In fact, call the guy back up and get together with him..its been a long time , wow.
This might take awhile...but my ex boyfriend and I are talking again about going back out. Our past relationships...were good but then it wasn't. We broke up a couple of times. The thing is, he's a smoker...weed! Awhile ago...he use to do it constantly, then every other day. Then once a week, thne now once a month. I know he's trying, but not hard enough. The other day, I asked him..."What's more important? Your weed..or me?" He replied "Your more important then anything" So I was happy. But still I'm in confusion. We want to go out, but then again, rumors will start up and bets will be place on how long we would last. He's Qb of our Varsity football team(which is huge), and I'm well known for who i hang with, and the sports i played. In other ppls eyes, We look like high school sweethearts. Its just how do i tell him i wnat to be with him, and i like him so much, not the hundred other guys who ask for my number or gives me theres! They don't mean anything to me...just friends. But like what can we do to have a better relationship? how do i know if he's sincere about his feelings for me? How do i know it'll be different? Sorry it's so long, but thanx so much if your able to help me!
Ignore peoples bets,the talk, everything...just ignore it all. They dont matter ..dont let them get to you.
So hes cutting down which is really good and he sounds sincere..to have a better relationship just tell him that this time we are going to communicate and talk,even if one of us does something bad...let him know that your happy hes cutting down. How do you know it will be different? Well..i wish i had a crystal ball to predict the future but i dont..just have confidence that this time its going to really work.
-melissa-
Ok, so right now I'm the "new kid" at my school, and making friends seems harder than I thought it would be. Everybody already has their little cliques and everything from last year, and it's so much harder for me to meet new people when nobody is intrested in getting new friends. Since the begining of the year I have acted really shy, just because I guess I still haven't really moved on from my friends from my school last year. I also just made cheerleading for my school, so I also need to start getting to know the hirls on my squad too. So basically I am asking for some tips on how to be more outgoing and really get to be able to express mydelf and meet people. Thanks in advance!
your on the cheerleading team, perfect! Maybe ask a team member to help you with something they are good at..be friendly,make jokes about teachers or anything..and if you seem to hit it off..offer to hang out..or maybe suggest all the cheerleaders have a sleep over...preferably at your house. To meet new people..maybe suggest the cheerleaders invite some of the football players to go out to the movies..and if you become friendly with one of the girls, maybe ask her to introduce you to the guys. Making the first move by suggesting the sleep over is a great idea and im sure all of you will have tons of fun.
i feel like when I get pushed around, I'm too scared to stand up for myself and I just ignore what happenes.Also I'm kinda short and also white.Where I live most people are different races and believe they are tougher than a small little white girl...how do i be more assertive witout being a bitch?I just want to be able to defend myself.
the people who think they are tough just because of their race, really arent tough at all..they are being pretty stupid actually..they wont say it, but they will really start to notice how you speak your mind if you become more assertive. If someone says something that offends you..just say what your feeling..(you dont have to curse them out and be somoene your not) but just say whatever your thinking in your head..when your voicing your opinions..as long as you dont curse everyone out, ignore their opinions, or think your superior to everryone else, you shouldnt be viewed as a bitch.
As for the people who think your whimpy because your little and white,forget what they think.. i bet a lot of them pick on you because they have family issues etc.
my father abuses me what should i do
Im sure you want out from this abuse because nobody deserves it..the first step to getting away from this is talking to someone. Think of who will support you most..your mom? a teacher? your best friends parents? a school conselor? there are many options..tell them and i know they will take it seriously and help you out.
You could go live with a relative, friend, etc..and you can start to move foward with your life. Just remember..nothing can be done until you talk to someone first..dont be ashamed or afraid..people are out there to help you.
-melissa-
Ok first of all...this is really long but please read it because i really want some help. My dad has seemed to be a lot more meaner all of a sudden. Well hes always been mean sometimes but I mean hes just started to become physicaly mean. I was downstairs before because I was checking his email because a friend of mines mom was emailing him. So, I kept going down there to check it. (while he was on the phone down there) He started to get really annoyed and started yelling (like almost silently so of course the person on the phone couldnt hear him) and he just freaked out. He got off the phone with the person..and I walked passed him because I was going to go upstairs. He grabbed my arm and goes Whats your problem? And I said you! And hes like why? And I said nothing and attempted to go back upstairs. But he gripped me harder and it hurt because it was like squeezing my skin together and burning. Then he like grabbed my whole body and was pulling me towards him saying come onnn give me a hugg..Aliciaaa what is wrong. And he just wouldnt let me go upstairs. I was like uhh what the heck..whats so bad of me wanting to go upstairs? But yeah he just kept gripping onto me. And yeah I was of course trying to fight back and was quietly screaming. When I went upstairs my mom goes..what was going on down there? And I said dad wouldnt let me go..and he wouldnt let me go upstairs. She goes pff yeah right uh huh. And I was like he did!! didnt you hear me yelling?? He was gripping onto my arms. And she just kept saying riight im sure. And just now we were eating dinner in the living room and his business phone rang. He went and picked it up and goes..blah blah blah..then goes to go turn down the volume on the tv. And I go ooohh my goooshh..now we cant even eat dinner without you having to be involved with your business? (he is wayyy overly obsessed and its all he cares about..and no matter where we are he will always talk about it) He didnt answer me and gave the phone to my mom. Then he came over to me and did his little silent yelling thing and goes..you shut the h*ll up! And I go oh my gosh im just trying to eat dinner. And he just kept telling me to shut up. Then for some STUPID reason he grabbed my plate and took it out to the kitchen. I go oh my gosh what are you doing?? Now I cant even eat?!? He came back out to me and grabbed my arm tightly and it burned again and he pulled me out to the kitchen. He goes you eat this out here. Then I tried to leave the kitchen because I was going to go up to my room..but he wouldnt let me and just kept pushing me back. Then I finally went up to my room and slammed the door and locked it. He came up and got it unlocked and came in and goes..what the h*ll do you think your doing? Shes trying to talk on the phone and all your doing is yelling. I was like oh my gosh you were the one who was yelling and who started it. you didnt havvve to answer the phone..and even when were eating dinner! and hes like bulls**t blah blah blah. Then I kept saying..get out of my room! And I pushed him out. Now he keeps coming back up here and asking..did I leave the remote in here? and I go no...and he just stood there and then left. Then he came back up and was like it has to be in here...and then he searched all over. It was stupid because we both know he didnt bring it up here..and I was just like uhh what the heck?? He just seems to like to start fights and likes to keep bringing it back up. My mom doesnt believe what I say..mostly because I think she would be too scared to say anything to him. So, she just pretends to not believe it and doesnt do anything about it. He is not a alcoholic. He just gets mad easy and for stupid things. Do you think hes becoming abusive? What should I do??
Hes becoming more tense, yes..but i dont think its abuse. Abuse is when he will hurt you..really bad..and wont stop. Abusing would mean going further than that and hitting you,etc. Sadly, there are so many horrible abuse cases out there. I do think hes becoming tense and yes hes picking fights by going back into your room several times. It would be nice if your mom would listen to you..i know mine would..and maybe suggest family therapy..it can really help you and your dads relationship. I think if your mom would help you out and talk to him about the familly therapy idea it would be nice..but if that doesnt work out just try and stay out of his hair. There was a short time when i was proably 13 or 14 when me and my dad would fightt like 7 times a month..loud arguements..but im 16 and we never fight now..it seems like it was a phase and we are still close and everything..so i wouldnt worry..we all have some pretty bad fights with parents and sometimes our moms or dads might grab us on the arm..etc. Is it right? no not really..but its no abuse..i think hes tense from work, etc/ Maybe try staying out of his way for awhile..even try being nice..i know it sounds hard..but if he sees you making an effort to clear things up..he will too.
-melissa-
i like this guy and he is sweet, attractive, and is so nice. He's funny and tall. One problem, got a girlfriend. He is so sweet tho and he pays more attention to me then his gf even tho i'm only his friend. Too bad his gf is my friend but not a really good one. He always flirts with me and i flirt back but is this ok?
Yes i think its fine. your not making any moves and if he didnt feel right he would stop or tell you..it sounds like their relationship is shaky and i think hes starting to like you. Just be sure not to make any moves on him or persuade him to break up with his gf..this might cause his gf to get mad at you and thats where all the drama starts. Maybe mention casually his gf and ask how they are?
-melissa-
Ok i kinda like this girl, but the problem is shes moving away in a little over a month. im planning on asking her out, but im wondering what she will expect to happen at the end of the month. she cant stay, i cant go with her, and i dont know if im ready for a long distance relationship. if it matters shes not moving accross the globe or anything, about a 4 hour drive. so, mostly for the girls, what is she gonna expect to happen? im 18/m shes 19/f.
i think she would expect it to end right away when she moves, or soon after. She might be thinking not to get involved being that she will be moving..but it depends on how decicated you will be..if you tell her you will drive out there two weekends a month..or meet her halfway somewhere..she might do it..but if it were me i wouldnt want to get involved if i knw i would be leaving in a month..it would be too painful for me..
I can't believe that Britney is pregnant with Kevin Federline's baby! Ewww...I mean the baby is going to turn out messed out because of Kevin! Ugh I wish she had a baby with Justin because then, the baby would be gorgeous! I am really upset about this and I was mad the whole day! This slows down the process of Justin and Britney getting back together! I can't believe she's actually pregnant with Kevin!!! What are your opinions?
Its good that your her fan it seems..but i guess if shes happy about it i would try and be happy for her. If you had a chance to talk to her..and you told her what you told me..i dont think she would be happy to hear that. Brittany is growing up..and shes making her own choices..so i would just kind of accept it
ok...my boyfriend is moving 13 miles away from me and he is going to be going to a different school and i trust him and love him with all my heart and life and all but im afraid that we are going to slowly stop talking then we are never going to see each other again. should i break up with him now and save both of us or just one of us the grief or should i stay with him and try real hard to keep intouch what should i do?
This can work.. see each other every weekend..im sure your schools will play each other in sports..so meet each other at the games and watch them together...if you can drive soon this makes it a lot easier..so dont give up hopes..this can work out! if not..its ok...it wasnt meant to be..but i wouldnt break up with him yet..give this a try..13 minutes is not a big deal...
the first person i felt deeply about moved to south carolina (im in ny) so immagine how that felt ;/
Just try it out..and if you know deep down it isnt working..just stay friends..friends with benefits..there are options out there
-melissa-
When me and my guy do it i never orgasm in fact i have had 3 partners and never orgamsed but once..i love the guy im with now..how can i get calm and do this and do u know of any good positions..or anything that helped u ?
OK dont feel like your not normal or something isnt right because your fine! im sitll a virgin bu i wath a lot of talksexwithsuejohanson on tv whenever i can. (go to talksexwithsue.come) or talksexwithsuejohanson.com. not sure which it is.
Anyway, she says its perfectly normal...a llott of girls do not orgasm during intercourse..in order to orgasm they need stimulation on the clitoris by hand or tongue..have your bf try that perhaps.yes being on top helps because your in control..you can control if it goes in deep or shallow..so try that.
best of luck
-meliss-
hey im a 14 year old guy..ok theres this girl who lives in a different city who i met thru some friends who i LOVE! she is so aweosme! and she loves me too, which is great. but theres a girl at my school who really likes me and i kinda like her..and i might want to ask her out in the summer, but i wouldnt be able to flirt with the girl i love and she'd never forgive me or trust me again. but its hard cuz the long distance, even tho i visit her a few times a year. should i ask the girl at my school out or stick with the girl i love? i rate high for good advice
I was in an odd long distance thing myself..and they are really hard to keep going! I even knew a couple frends who were seeing guys from the next town over (20 mins away ) and had a hard time with that! I would go with the girl at your school..keep an open mind..you might become close with her and form a deep relationship..tell the long distance girl that if she was in your school or closer..theres no doubt she would be the one..but its best for both of you to date people in your own school..because long distance is really hard. If its meant to be, you and the long distance girl will get together somehow....