|
Social Help
Ok, so right now I'm the "new kid" at my school, and making friends seems harder than I thought it would be. Everybody already has their little cliques and everything from last year, and it's so much harder for me to meet new people when nobody is intrested in getting new friends. Since the begining of the year I have acted really shy, just because I guess I still haven't really moved on from my friends from my school last year. I also just made cheerleading for my school, so I also need to start getting to know the hirls on my squad too. So basically I am asking for some tips on how to be more outgoing and really get to be able to express mydelf and meet people. Thanks in advance!
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Work/School Relationships?
I move alot also, and i agree it is soo hard to squeeze into a group or something like that. how i usually make my new fiend sis bring up something like"do you have aim" or"i love cheerleading" and maybe they do too , so eventually you may become friends then try to become friends with her(his) friends
]
BREAK OUT OF YOUR SHELL!!! Be yourself. Dont be scared of non-acceptance. youll find a friend, who will put you in their clique. Don't be afraid to go up to people and say HI!
Good luck!
Jenn
]
your on the cheerleading team, perfect! Maybe ask a team member to help you with something they are good at..be friendly,make jokes about teachers or anything..and if you seem to hit it off..offer to hang out..or maybe suggest all the cheerleaders have a sleep over...preferably at your house. To meet new people..maybe suggest the cheerleaders invite some of the football players to go out to the movies..and if you become friendly with one of the girls, maybe ask her to introduce you to the guys. Making the first move by suggesting the sleep over is a great idea and im sure all of you will have tons of fun.
]
the main problem with people namely kids today is that their to concerned about what otherpeople think. you have to get over the act that your not at your old school anymore, because those people will always be your friends. it will probably be easier for you because you have a group of girls that you will have to get to know, but if that doesn work out,lunch is the best window of time to make new friends. just go up... and i know this will be hard... but just go up to the people that you want to sit with and ask"is this seat taken" if they say no then your set, and if they say yes, o well its their loss, and would u really want to be friends wit a mean peson anyways.
Happy to Help
Bran
]
Dear,
Now the most important thing at first is to be friendly. Smile and be kind so you look approachable so the people around you feel comfortable with you. Also try making some guy friends because believe it or not sometimes they are a lot easier to talk to and make friends with (be casual with them, listen to their jokes, they will soon get used to you) don't be nervous when you are in their company and don't be cold to them (many of my friends act really cold around guys and many guys just give up talking to them because they are shy too). One other thing, when someone asks you something or tells you something try to keep the conversation going do not just reply with one sentence. Now about the groups, usually most people have a group with good friends that they have known longer but do not worry about it, just chouse a group that you like and start hanging out with them, but do not limit yourself with only one group try and make friends with most people in your class (if not good friends than at least people that like you so you feel at home). Don't be cold to people because that makes them nervous and might even end up thinking that you don't like them.
Good luck!
]
Sometimes if you're in school activities, there will be a time when you don't get things and you need help, just go up to someone and say, "ok, I have no idea what to do, can you help me?" Or just say, "How do I do this? I don't understand." That way you'll start talking to them, and you can use that, even if you really do get it, go ahead and try it next time at cheerleading practice.
-TheTeenGirl
]
try to be nice to everyone, and just talk to a tun of different people, be a good listner, people like that. also, join some clubs or activities, and just in each class, talk to a few people!!
Hope I Helped-
if you need anything else, leave on in my inbox!
id be happy to help you!
thanks for letting me help you
always there-
kelsa
]
Join a club.
Just say hello to people, once you make one friend you are in with the rest.
Don't get stuck in a clique though.. When I was in HS I jumped around and was friends with different people from different cliques .. It was fun
]
You've got to force yourself the first few times when your trying to be outgoing. Force yourself to say HEY in the hallways to one of the girls on your cheerleading squad. Once you make friends with them, they are bound to introduce you to their friends. Don't be part of a clique because you want to be more open to more people and not labeled. Ask someone in your math or Language class what the homework is, or ask for a peice of paper whenever you need it so they know you're not THAT shy. Once you get over the fear of talking with new people, meeting new friends will be a breeze. Remember; be yourself and not somebody else. Your true friends will like you for you.
-therocket♥
]
More Questions: |