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Q: ok.. well i have this frined [maria]and she used to like this kid [allen] and then they had a "bump in their relationship" and now they dont even talk.. she says she hates him but every time we get around him she says how much she wishes she was still around him and that they were still together --- its really annoying and i love maria like a sister and i just dont want her to think that way - i know she still likes him but i dont know what to do!!!!!! (mainly i sent you this because shes annoying me.. and i think she needs help with her relationship problems)

haha wow, she needs counseling. JUST KIDDING lol.
Seriously though, she should talk to him. or you should talk to her. sooner or later, she will just realise how silly shes being. let her realise that on her own. in other words, deal with it.

GOOD LUCK!!
Jenn

Q: I like this guy in 6th grade. My friend went out with a guy in 6th grade and got made fun of all the time and i dont wanna end up like her, but i REALLY LIKE THIS GUY.. alot!!! uugh.. what should i do!

if you like him as much as say you do, then you shouldnt care what other people think. just ignore them. its a known fact that most people who make fun like that, are jealous because theyre lonely. dont listen to them. i mean, youre married to a 7th grader! :) :)

good luck, love,

Jenn

Q: Ok, I'm new at this, so please bear with me. I'm 13, female. There's this guy I like, and I've told him this before. But he's under the impression that I've moved on. But I really haven't, and I don't know how to tell him this. How should I do this?

Completely Lost

bring it up in a casual conversation. flirt with him. then just say, "you know i still like you, right? and that i never stopped?" that outta do it.. if youre shy, write him a note!

Good luck,
Jenn

Q: ive been shaving since 6th grade and now im in 8th grade going to high school next year and i am having problems shaving! my leg hair grows back so fast! i usually shave at night and in the morning the hair is already growing back! && on the top part of my legs they always get shave bumps and i dont kno how to get rid of them i use shaving cream and i lotion my legs so i dont kno whats wrong! please help me

shave bumps are usual. look for an after shave lotion to cure that up. try skintimate shave lotion. it works miracles. change ur razor daily!!

good luck!
Jenn

Q: Ok, so right now I'm the "new kid" at my school, and making friends seems harder than I thought it would be. Everybody already has their little cliques and everything from last year, and it's so much harder for me to meet new people when nobody is intrested in getting new friends. Since the begining of the year I have acted really shy, just because I guess I still haven't really moved on from my friends from my school last year. I also just made cheerleading for my school, so I also need to start getting to know the hirls on my squad too. So basically I am asking for some tips on how to be more outgoing and really get to be able to express mydelf and meet people. Thanks in advance!

BREAK OUT OF YOUR SHELL!!! Be yourself. Dont be scared of non-acceptance. youll find a friend, who will put you in their clique. Don't be afraid to go up to people and say HI!

Good luck!
Jenn

Q: i have blackheads and i dunno what to do!..i use clean and clear, phisoderm and they both dont work! so i tried clean and clear and that didnt help either!..does anybody know how to help me?!?!?!?

Have you tried the nasal pore strips? theyre expensive, but they work miracles. if that doesnt work, go to your doctor. see what he/she says about it.

Good luck!
Jenn

Q: ok... i liked this guy [matt] for three years - and my friends finally knocked some sense into me that hes no good and he dosent like me bakc and al that stuff... and my best friend [ashley] is mad at me because i didnt listen to her advice and i listened to my other friend [andrew] - we get into fights all the time and i dont want her to hate me over this too... and on top of that she says ive been acting really depressed since all this has happened -about a week or so now-.. uugh i hate love.. what should i do?!?!

xoxo morgan

Well,

First of all, Morgan, Ashley isnt that great of a friend, and will be that way forever. She cant change that. Her telling you how to feel? Not cool. Ashley is blunt. She is quick to say "get over him" without asking how you feel about him. With andrew, he knows everything. and hes such a good friend you dont have to worry about fighting with him. This is where I say that Guys are such better friends than girls. Theyll never, ever hurt you. And if they do, it's mostly unintentional. Like you said last night, andrew knows you better. Ashley doesnt. He's going to know how to cheer you up and everything. Ashley may just bring you down more. As much as this sucks for you, maybe you should rethink your friendship with Ashley. If you guys are always fighting, why stay friends? Dont let some pact you took ruin your life. Go up to her and tell her that she doesn't know you as well as she thinks, that youve changed, and things have changed. If she gets pissed, than somethings really wrong with her. You're a good friend, Morgan. You dont need someone to bring you down.

Good luck!
Jenn

Q: Ok so this guy Robert asked me out and i told him i had to think about it. Well just yesterday i realized that i liked his friend Forrest alot so i told my friend Brittany. Well Brittany told her ex who's the brother of Forrest and Forrest told Robert. So this morning Robert asked me about it and i told him it wasn't true and he believed me. Well in 2nd period i told my friend Justin about all of it and that i really do like Forrest. Robert is in the same class as me and Justin so Justin told Robert so now i think he's upset. I dont know if i should talk to him or just give him some space. But i really do want to talk to him about the whole thing cause before all of this happened i was going to go out with him. So do i talk to him or just give him space and wait until he comes and talks to me? what should i do?
Thankyou for any advise you give.
I'm 15 and a female

talk to him. dont leave him in the dark. think of what u would want from him if this happened to you, and make it happen.

Good luck hun!
Jenn

Q: i need a new flat iron. does any one kno any good sites to find a new on or stores? i live in MA if that helps. thanks
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MAKE SURE ITS CERAMIC. other wise it will damage the hell out of your hair. im not from MA, but i thought id share that with you. trust me i know *touches ugly frizzy hair*

Good luck!
Jenn

Q: i really like my friend and i poured my heart out to him (after we told him i liked him 3 months earlier!) and he goes oh you still like me???? and so it was awkward for a while but hes been liek more normal anyway like this week is spring break and he hasnt been on so i went on an old sn and he WAS on so i found out HE BLOCKED ME!!!! i am so upset right now and i keep trying to get over him..please help me what to dO?!?! i am 14 female--hes 14 male

NOT COOl! Slap him hard. tell him hes a jerk and he hurt you alot....thats what i would do lol!

Good luck! (hit him hard chica!)
Jenn

Q: lord i dont no what to do. my dad is prejudice and theres this black boy i love half to death and he likes me i want to go out wit him but my dad said he'll kill me and that boi and i was like is love worth gettin killed over please tell me what i can do..?

hes gonna have to get over it. youre in love, what can he do. THE 50'S ARE OVER!! prejudice is out! you cant help who you fall in love with and you shouldnt have to. forget about ur dad. plus, its kinda like romeo and juliet!

Good luck!
Jenn

Q: ok.. ive liked this guy for a while now and now he knows and i can tell he likes me too but i think that were both afraid to talk to eachother :(.. i really really like him and i wanna be able to talk to him but im really really shy. and plus ive never had to go and talk to someone, theyve always came to me. but anyways.. its been a few weeks and i jus wanna get it over with and talk to him...but the thing is.. i dont kno wut to say, and when or w/e so can u pleasssee help me?? im starting to get frustrated with myself cause i cant do it.
I rate high!

*depressed and sad

Dear Depressed and sad:

Honey! just talk to him. i was in the same situation as you not even a month ago. personally, im a scaredy cat. so i wrote him a note and gave it to him. thats the classy way to do it. if he writes you back, congrats! if not, hes not worth it.

Good luck Hun!
Jenn

Q: My ex & I have become sort of friends now. In a recent conversation he got very hurtful. He told me about his new girlfriend & how much he 'loves' her. I didn't want to seem jealous/hurt so I went along with everything like it was fine. He told me he hasn't thought about me at all since we broke up. Then when I said something about another guy, he said he didn't care. Does this mean something? If he doesn't have feelings for me anymore, would he actually say all this to me? I still have strong feelings for him.

Because hes an asshole. If he had feelings for you, hed still be with you, right? there is the possibility that he is tring to stop himself from liking you, so hes saying that. either way thats messed up.

Good luck hun, i hope it all works out.

Q: There's this guy that I like alot, but we never talk or anything at school. I', not sure if he likes me or not, but I think he might cause we always make eye contact in the halls. But anyway, my question is, I found out that he has a screenname, and my friend said I should im him, but I don't know what to say, because I never talk to him, so I don't want him to think I'm weird or something. So,how do I start out when I im him? Sorry so long! Thanks for your help! I RATE 5'S for nice advice!

Just be like hi, im (enter name here). we see each other in the halls and stuff. i got ur sn from a friend, and thought id im you and say hi,, you seem really cool and i want to get to know you.

and go from there.

Good luck,
Jenn

Q: well my dads birthday is coming up and im not sure what to get him. hes in his 40s and when we ask him what he wants he always says you dont need to get me anything. i dont want to spend alot of money and i what to get him something that is useful to him. he really likes sports and stuff. i would like to get him something at a local mall or something rather than take him somewhere because im only 15 and can't drive or anything. my max price is around $20.

please help me my dads bday is in less than 2 weeks

get him a little shot glass or something with his favorite sports team logo on it. if you go into any sports store, youre bound to find something he'll like.

Good luck,
Jenn

Q: Ok here is the thing...Since January I have been hanging out with friends and were like the "mall groupie" we always go to the mall together. There are about 7 or 8 of us,3 7th graders, 2 8th graders and 2 9th graders. ok well, we all go to the same school district besides one, she moved last may but we still hang out with her and all. The thing is out of the 6 of us still in the same district I feel left out at some points....since I don't get to seem them as often as they get to see each other and all since I am in the High School and they are in the Jr. High. I just recently found out that the 5 went to the carnival and never asks me, I found only found out by pictures on 2 of their Myspace's, they are always on 3 way calling and stuff and never include me in it. I am never in on what happnes bc I am in a different school and all then they are. There are only 9 1/2 weeks of school left then I am home free and get to spend rest of High School with them. I know they are there for me when I need them, because one threaten (a 7th grader...she is quite tough and doesnt look 12) to beat someone up bc I got into a fight with one of my friends back in December and she doesn't like to see me hurt. Then 2-3 weeks ago I gotten into a fight with 2 of my friends...over something stupid and both 8th graders (one is actually suppose to b in 9th but yeah)...supported me and help me stay positive threw the whole thing. The last time we went to the mall I got annoyed..because it was only 5 of us..2 7th graders..both 8th graders and me..and we went on the merry-go-round...and after we got off the 8th graders ran from us..and I got annoyed though it was only for 20 mins and all. I feel like they don't care about me though they do. I so feel left out of everything since I am older and everything. How do I tell them that I feel left out w/o saying that I am. Can you please help?- Thx

if they treat you like that, theyre not real friends. you should never feel embarrased and feel that you have to hide your true feelings. tell them. see how they react. dont let them hurt you!

Good luck,
Jenn

Q: how can i convince a girl to like me?what can i say to make her like me as a boyfriend

1st of all, you cant just convince a girl to like you. it takes time. get to know her. are you guys close friends? or have you just met her? if you guys are close friends, tell her that you like her. do it at an appropriate time. If youve just met, ask around see if she likes you. if you sense any interest coming from her, then go for it.

Good luck,
Jenn

Q: ok...my boyfriend is moving 13 miles away from me and he is going to be going to a different school and i trust him and love him with all my heart and life and all but im afraid that we are going to slowly stop talking then we are never going to see each other again. should i break up with him now and save both of us or just one of us the grief or should i stay with him and try real hard to keep intouch what should i do?

1st, how close are you? if you guys are really close, give it a shot and see if it works out. If you really trust him, why are you so worried?

Have you talked to him about this??

If not, Altough you may want to be with him, it gets really hard after a while...trying to stay in touch and seeing eachother...youll start thinking over the relationship and wonder what you should do. in my opinion, i say break up with him. you or he will be doing it in a month anyway.

bio

Hey, I'm jenn. I'm 14 years old and I live in Florida. I get a lot of people who ask me stuff, so I decided to make one of these, so that I can help everyone out the best that I can. I will answer Your questions as soon as possible, just dont worry if I dont get back to you, because i will eventually. :)

I wish you the best!!

Love,
Jenn