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Q: i really like this guy and he likes me...we arent going out, but we flirt alot.. we go to the movies and we hookup alot..all our friends say we we should go out..but we never have..two days ago, my friend had a party and we snuck into her room and stated hooking up...he felt me up and ended up fingering me...yesterday i had my friends come over and i ended up giving him a hang job..is it ok that i have done all this stuff and that we havent gone out yet...

Well its ok as long as you guys are both single. So yeah..I guess you guys are friends with benefits..But you should try going out with him since you guys like eachother so much..you kno?

Q: Ok heres the deal. I start off with a good friend whos real serious with school but still fun to be around. Then I start hangin with these other girls that are smart but fun too but more fun than the other girl. They dont hate eachother but they dont have much in common and they do things differently so I cant be their friend (to the fullest) at the same time. Do I go with my fun friends or my serious friend?

Why cant you hang out with your serious friend sometimes, and hang out with your fun friends sometimes..like switch off..you dont have to pick one or the other..

Q: I know theres Picturetrail, Fotki, and Webshots. But does anybody know any other picture sites that are free/cheaper?? Thanks..

www.dotphoto.com

Q: I have a dog right now who is 7 years old - in human years. My brother and I really want another dog - a puppy- probably the same kind as the 1 I have now. But I just can't convince my parents!! Any ideas???!!

How about telling them that your old dog is old and might die soon and you want a new dog and stuff. I dont know..why dont you just wait till your 7 year old dog dies (awww) and then get a new one? Oh and, if you get a new dog you might play with it more and the 7 year old dog will be sad..awww sorry i just love dogs! lol

Q:
I really like this boy. (lets call him Popcorn) But...the thing is I met him online. Not in a chatroom. Actually, I met him on advicenators...and...I started talking to Popcorn and we never made a connection really until during this past summer. We started talking a lot on AIM and I really like him. I told him...and he said he likes me too (this happened in the summer) He told me we shouldnt get into anything serious though because we live across the country from each other.
It's hurting.
I mean I thought it was all okay because my friend Brian asked me out...and we started going out and I thought that was better and stuff because Brian was someone whose actually here (not across the country and not someone I just talk to online)...and I really really liked Brian (we started going out in November)
Ever since September my computer has had a virus so I wasnt able to go online and talk to Popcorn for months...the only time I talked to him since my computer crashed was when I was over my friends house and we were online. So then Popcorn came online and I told him that I've been going out with someone named Brian for about a week, and he's like "really?!? I was just gonna tell you that I had a girlfriend."

And the freaky thing is...me and Popcorn both started going out with someone in the same week...and so we notified each other that we were going out with someone else...and we were both fine with each other going out with someone else I guess...

Then on Dec. 3 I broke up with Brian, (not because of Music) but just because it wasn't working between me and Brian and Brian said he still loves me (but I never loved him...I just liked him)...and we are still really really good friends...and since I broke up with Brian I cant stop thinking about Popcorn...and I really dont know if Popcorn still has a girlfriend.

And this may sound terrible, but I hope he doesn't...cuz I really like him again. I feel so selfish. I don't know why. Last night I was thinking about him and it just scares me that I really like him this much and I've never met him, although I love his personaility and his voice when he talked to me on mic before.

I just don't know what to do. My internet at home should be fixed soon...and I'll start talking to Popcorn again hopefully...but what if he still has a girlfriend?...and even if he doesn't, what can I do? I like him and I was thinking about him last night and you know how when you like someone you think about being with them and holding hands or kissing or something?...well...lets just say that's how it is with Popcorn. It was all of a sudden too. LIke I thought I stopped liking him and I still liked Brian after I broke up with him (I broke up with him because of a certain reason thats too hard to explain)...and yeah its just all confusing now...

But all I know is I still really like Popcorn, and I dont know what to do because obviously if he has a girlfriend he doesnt like me anymore...and even if he doesnt whose to say he likes me then?

Im sorry for it being so long of a question...please just help me with anything you can do...
I'm also a cutter, and I'm afraid to think about this too much because if I get upset I'm afraid I may cut myself more...and I cant because my family knows that I do it and every once in a while they check my arms.

okay sorry Im done now. Please help asap I have to get off this computer in about 30 minutes.

Thank you if you help.

-Me

Hey, you know even if popcorn didnt have a girlfriend I dont think it would be a good idea to go out with someone long distance. trust me..not a good idea. But you guys can still talk on aim and all that jazz..just dont think about really liking him in bf/gf way...really like him as a friend way..you know? I know its hard but if you wanna talk about it more ( I Know what your going through) leave one in my inbox!

Q: well me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 months now and well it took 4 months for me to kiss him and well thats all ive ever done with anyone...well now hes kinda wanting more and is testing his limits and well i know its normal for guys to try that but i dont know...im only 14 is it normal for 14 year olds to do stuff like that? see my boyfriend has always gottin some from everyone hes been with accept me, but i kinda know that he cares for me b/c he waited so long and well if i do get up the nerve to do it once, will i have to do it alot? is he going to expect that more? should i do it? any advise?

He'll expect it more. He'll think if you did it once you'll do it some more..its your choice but dont you wanna wait till later. if your not ready tell him that. When/if your ready you can tell him later on but if he doesnt respect what you want then hes not worth it.

Q: Hey i was just curious about dreams. Are they meant to predict the future, or are they just your brain's way of sorting through everything that's going on in your head. Is there an actual purpose for them or what?

Some people believe that dreams hold secret messages but cmon lol I dont think its ture at all..I think dreams are dreams and their is no purpose in them. Did you know you dream every night but most of them you dont remember? Just thouht you'd like to know and hope I helped!

Q: OK so me and my Best friend have been friends since like third grade...we live by eachother and we would hang out all the time....In Elementary school it was great..then when junior high hit we still hung out but not as much...we talked all the time and we were still very close...but then highschool happened....it seemed that she became friends with alot of the cooler crowd and would only talk to me when it was conveinent for her....Now we are in the same church group so i see her every sunday and she talked to me there....I kind of feel like i am her second wheel...like if no one better is around she will talk to me...or if all of her "cooler" friends were gone all weekend then she wood call me....is she just using me? I dont know what to do.....HELP!

Shes not using you but she just hangs out with you when no one is looking. She likes you but doesnt want other people to know. Which is rude so ditch her. Ignore her and stuff

Q: the other night i had a dream that i made out with this cute guy i know. i used to have a crush on his cousin, and thats how i met him. after that dream, i can only think about making out with him. does that mean that i like him or is it just a dream and im over-reacting or WHAT?? i am so confused?

-nikki

Dreams are dreams. You cant control them..so it doesnt mean you like him or want to makeout wih him. Like if I had adream about murdering someone, does that make me a murderer? nope..haha

Q: Ok, well, I weigh 120 lbs. and I'm only 13, female. Well, I want to start all new this year, so how do I lose weight fast! I want to lose 3 pounds a day! please help me. thnx for the tips

xoxox luv always Chelsey

God thats crazy. 3 lbs a day is way too much. If you told us how tall you were, we would help you out more. If your 5'2 and up you shouldent be losing weight. Their is no diet to lose 3 lbs a day..just eat right, eat in moderation, and exercise!

Q: okay, i know everybody says your beautiful no matter what, but i dont feel that way. I feel as though im an ugly duckling. i mean im fat, ugly and i just dont feel like i am beautiful. If anyone has any tips on how i can feel more better about myself..then please help!! Cause i dont feel good..i feel alone & i feel like killing myself but i wont.

Hey I was really low self esteemish until i found that makeup really boosted my confidence. And dressing nice and doing my hair like straightening or curling it. Buy some makeup like lip gloss blush eyeshadow and stuff..put it on and you'll feel 10x better about yourself!

Q: What does it mean when you link a screename in aim?

It means you can be one 2 or more aim screen names at a time, with only one buddy list

Q: ok, well as of now...me and my frined are trying to pull an all nighter. Does anyone have some tips on how to stay awake all night long? thanks a bunch!!! : )

xoxox rox

Drink a lotta coffee or starbucks and dont eat anything with a lotta sugar cuz you'll be hyped up but then like 30 min later you'll be soo tired

Q: Is there anybody out there who Role-Plays? If so, do you know of any good sites I can go too?

Go to Yahoo.com and click groups and you can join groups that roleplay you just search for them

Q: You know those pictures that people put on their websites (especially xangas and stuff) that are like square.. and then they say little quotes on them? Does anyone know what I'm talking about? Can someone PLEASE tell me where to find them! I will rate 5's!! Thank u!!

yeah. http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=icons_icons_ICONSxx ~ http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=xxCoolxIcons ~ http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=x_xiconz4ux_x ~ http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=love_4_icons ~ http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=xIxCxOxNxSx ~ http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=iCONSFORTHELOVELY ~ http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=Lots_of_icons2 ~ http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=Hott_iconz_just_like_us ~ http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=x2punkrock4icons ~ http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=random__icons ~ http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=X0x0XloveiconsX0x0X ~ http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=icons_4u_x3 ~ http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=icons_4_the_best ~ http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=iconsfor_ppl ~ http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=icons_thatRoCk ~ http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=ICONS_4_EVERYBODY ~ http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=icons_thatDONTsuck

Q: I'm 15/f in highschool and I know this girl who is pregnant. This isn't about wether its right or wrong, but, she's 15 also, and in my grade. I've known her since 4th grade(just about). She just found out she was pregnant, and I'm on good terms with her and everything, but were not best friends. Y'know? I was thinking I should go up to her and tell her that if she needs anything, I'd be there for her. Should I? Would it be inappropiate? -Sarah

No way. Your just helping her out..go ahead and tell her. Its just showing that you care and the girl is probably scared to death.

Q: If you are trying to lose weight (say, 15 pounds) what is the best way to exercise...should you do, say, 30-40 minutes of cardio a day? Or should you do cardio AND do strengthening and toning exercising...can someone give me a good schedule to help with weight lose and still tone

Cardio is the best way. You should try finding something you love to do like dance or a sport..

Q: i have hair down there. and me and my bf are ready for sex. he knows i have it down there but should i shave it???

Yes you should. he would be grossed out by it..hope i helped

Q: I dont want to make out with my boyfriend but everytime i want to kiss him he trys to stick his tounge in my mouth. it kinda grosses me out. but lately ive been wanting to kiss him. how can i tell him i just want to kiss him but not make out?
CiArA

Just tell him. Be like "I really care for you, but right now I dont think I can makeout with you. I think you should respect that and I'll tell you when I'm ready for the next step" If he gets all mad and becomes a B word hes not worth it. He needs to respect you!

Q: It's those kind of things you only hear about in movies.. I've always been gah gah about my neighbor(who i've known since i was three) named Jared. He gave me my first kiss and he's leaving high school this yr. Which im gonna break down when he's gone! I've told him before i care about him, and he just doesn't want to ruin our friendship, some peole i know think were going to get married after college but the way its going i just can't see it! i mean i would anyday lose my virginity to him, thats how strong my love is for him. (i'm a type a girl who's waiting for marriage usually) Is there ANYTHING i could do to make him see he cares too? Cuz i know he does. Or am i just suppose to let go... plz share your thoughts on my story! Thank you SO much!

Since hes going to off to college their will be partys and their will be a lotta girls and all..I think you should let go. Let go and if he comes back into your life then you'll go out one day...and if he doesnt come back into your life it wasint meant to be. I'm sorry if I didnt help much but yah if you need any more help you can ask me