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i know this is kind of stupid. but if a guy asks you to have coffee with him would it be called a date? i've only been friends with him for less than a week, he's a nice guy but he doesn't make me laugh and he's not my type. should i say yes to someone like that?

It could be a date. but because you haven't known him long, he might just want to make better friends with you.
Unless you make it clear it's strictly as friends, so you don't end up leading him on (if he does like you in *that* way) there's no harm in it. Who knows, you might have a really nice time.

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ok before i even begin i dont want anyone sayin that havin sex befoer marriage is bad and stuff so if thats all ur gonna think of me just dont even bother answering ok.
ov had sex many times befoer and yesterday was the first time i popped well u know the hymn that breaks is it like suppossed to just rip off at the end and be just like hangin there or wat? cauz it looks sooooooooo gross and i was just wonderin if it was like suppossed to rip off completily so it wouldnt be hangin it would be just gone. is that how its suppossed to be?

This doesn't sound normal.
Give it a few days. If there is no sign of it healing, you will need to see your doctor.

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When you send a text message..... does any of the accually text message show up on the bill??

Im on cingular by the way


what shows up on the bill.. the number .. the time.. and what else...

NO. The messages you send will NOT show up on the bill. Just general information you've already said will (time etc).

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Is it normal for a guyfriend to call you baby?
err at nite when you text he text you nite sweety/sweetiepie/honey xoxox ? even call you out sweety on the phone?

is that normal or does he possibly LIKE me, more then a friend?

It just depends on the guy and how comfortable he is with using words like that, so it's impossible to say, really.
Does he say them to other girls?
Look out for more signs if you are interested in him :)

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at what age are you supposed to go to a gyno cause I'm 15 and really don't ever want to go is there a law making you go or can you just not go

There isn't a law, but it's in your best interests you do go.
You should go when you become sexually active.

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I have fingered myself and i dont' think its that great its nice but its not orgasm is every girl like me?

Some like it, some don't.
Some orgasm from it, some don't.
Everyone is different.

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ok i have two questions
i was wondering if ghosts are real.
please provide me with the correct answer, im getting so many different ones.
and the second one is that show 'most haunted' real?
explain them both please because im really confused

You're going to get different answers here, too.
Basically, some people believe it, and some don't. Some people believe because they say they've had personal experiences.
Most Haunted.. I don't think it's real. It seems rubbish - whether it's live or not.
It's all your decision though.

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well, i'm doing a project for my class. basically, it's an autobiograpy. (when i was born, infancy, idolesence, etc) anyways, i want to add 3-4 songs. any one have any ideas on what songs should i put.

music i like: ACOUSTIC. indie. something easy to listen to. (no screaming, nothing loud.) something really soft.

thanks in advance.

How about something from The Scene Aesthetic:
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendID=7435185


Backseat Goodbye:
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendID=3276435


Jack Johnson:
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendID=897294


Jose Gonzalez
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendID=31726336


Regina Spektor:
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendID=3071484

If you do a quick MySpace search you'll find literally tonnes of acoustic bands/artists, like this for example
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendID=82211601



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Is there any way to find out how many people have blocked you on myspace?

No. You'll only know if someone has blocked you if you can't contact them (message). Sorry. I found this out today, too. :)

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so, after you give advice and then the person says thanx, is there a way to say you're welcome?

No. Unless you edit your answer and say thankyou for their feedback - but there's no sure way of them ever knowing you replied. Maybe you'll be able to do this in the future, though.

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Please help me, I'm always hungry, I can't stop eating. I don't know what to do, because I know that I'm going to gain weight and I really don't want to..How can I distract myself from eating so much to prevent me from gaining tons of unnecessary weight.
Please help if you can, if not, thanks anyways!

Thanks for your question.
You should eat foods that fill you up and are good for you.
Also, if you must snack, make it a healthy option: Nuts, fruit, yoghurt, or those with 0 calories, such as celery.
Throughout your day, drink water. Most of the time when you think you're hungry, you're infact thirsty. So drinking your 8 glasses of water a day (if you don't already) is sure to help.
Chewing gum/sucking on a mint can also help trick your mind into thinking you're eating. So if you feel hungry, pop one in your mouth and see if it does the trick.
Eat slower, so it gives your body time to realize when you are full. (it apparently takes 20 minutes for your stomach to tell your brain)
Having commitments will help take your mind off food, so try to make yourself busy.
I hope some of these work for you.

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I know this probably will not get posted but I just want to state my opinion that I think its dumb when people's questions get deleted (not just mine) because it could be a real problem that yu are just deleting! Now that person has no answers, now what are they to do?

REAL problems don't get deleted. When there are duplicates or very similar ones already posted.. or if it's not written in standard English and it's just a plain stupid question etc, then that's when they probably will.
You could try asking it again if your question was unfairly deleted, or use Google first.

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CONFUSE 1/18/08 My mom says that i don't clean and that i'm just outside and when i clean she says that i should clean better and when i don't go outside sshe says to go out with my friend. I'M REALLY CONFUSE PLEASE HELP

Thanks for your question.
I'm sorry to say, but you really should talk to your mum about this and ask her why she says those things.
Clean more if you don't do it often enough. It's for hygiene purposes anyway, plus it will make you feel better/fresher :) Or if you already do clean daily, tell her that.
Ask her why she moans at you for being out all the time and then tells you to go out herself. It could be because she thinks you'd rather see your friends than stay indoors - Most people would rather be outside doing things anyway. Although it is nice to spend quality time with your family, sometimes. So if you don't feel like going out, say you'd rather spend your time with her etc.
Just have a little chat with her to see why she says it. I'm sure there are reasons.
Good luck :)

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does anybody know of some amazing songs. Any genre just they have to be amazing. Please leave a long list.

Anything by The Rocket Summer. I actually mean anything.
"Colors"
"Save"
"Break it out"
"Tell Me Something Good"
"TV Family"
"Never Knew"
"Around The Clock"
etc :)

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Is it safe to download music from myspace? I heard that all of the mp3 files contain a virus. is that true?

I have many times. Just make sure it's an actual music myspace and not the scam/phishing/virus profiles. If it's by a proper band/artist, you'll be alright :)

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if i were to get a tongue ring, how easy would it be to hide? on a scale of 1 - 10

When you've just got it done, it will be quite hard to hide because people around will notice you're talking with a lisp and not really eating. After that, it's easy.

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15/f

When I was in like 7th grade, I went through depression. Like it was bad. Like, we did this thing, and like you checked how many things you do, and I checked them all, and then I went anorexic and stuff. But, I never told anyone. I had suicidal thoughts, and I tried it a couple times. But, i'm not like that at all anymore. I was just curious, do you think it can come back? err no?

Unless you slip into SEVERE depression, probably not.
Keep yourself above and in control.
Remember you've been through it, so you're a stronger person now.

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why are teen girls so obsessed with boys i mean all my friend talks about is this one boy she has a crush on and she has only seen him 4 times in her life and is already planning there wedding im tierd of all my friends talking about crushes so why are teen girls so obsessed with boys i really wanna know

They're just at that age where they start to notice the opposite sex more, I guess. They'll calm down about it soon. Who knows, maybe you will join them in their discussions and crushes. :)

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Heya =] I was just wondering if it was at all possible to fall back in love with somebody (in your opinion) you have fallen out of love with. I have history with a boy, and we spluit up around a year ago because He didn't feel the same about me... But lately Ive been getting mixed signals from him about his feelings, and I was wondering to the general public, is it possible to fall back in love with someone you haven't been for around a year x]!
Thanks Very much =]

It is possible.. but remember.. you guys broke up for a reason. I'm not sure why, but I think getting back with an ex always spells disaster.

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15/f/this is long.

i've had a stepdad since i was six so i guess we were pretty close and got along and everything but now i can't stand him. he doesn't do anything. he was a stay at home dad to care of my brother and sister who are now in schooll so now he doesn't even have a job. he has a back and knee problem and is really overweight so it's not the fact that he doens't have a job all the way that bugs me but he won't go to the docter to get help. we bought a treadmill and he doesn't even go on that and he's home all day by himself! he wouldn't have the problems if he'd just work out a little, you know?

ugh and not too mention last friday just set it off. he like hates me. i wanted to go to a friends house and my mom said ok and he said no. there was really no reason i couldn't so my mom and him got in a fight. my mom left to go to the library and i called her and started crying [not purposefully] so she got all mad and called my stepdad yelling at him. i apologized to my mom for doing that and making her feel bad but now my stepdad is all mad at me. i'm just so over it. i mean this year i pretty much got to do whatever on weekends and i apologized for being a brat friday. like in eighth and seventh grade he wouldn't let me do anything i was grounded all the time. i don't know what to do. he was saying today how i'm not trying to be nice or anything and i am! i mean i'm kinda just not talking to him because i'm done. he's the one always saying i'm 38 and your 15 blah blah i know better. then he should get over it.

another thing sometimes he's really stupid about little things. we built a family room off the back of the house and he gets mad when i watch tv out there. i'm not bothering anyone! thats what it for! also he won't let me use the treadmill that they paid over 1000 dollars for and no one uses.

so my question is should i just ignore him until i'm 18 and can move out? i'm so done and i really don't care anymore. what do you think i should do?

*Don't purposely annoy him (not saying you do already) or do things you know he will nag at you for.
*If he talks to you, be civil, or it will ruin the atmosphere and your relationship with him even more.
*If you can, have a mature conversation with him. Whether it be about watching TV in the other room or using the treadmill. Negotiating is good with parents/adults. Ask for however many hours a night to watch TV/use the treadmill/etc on certain days of the week. Once he sees there's no harm in you using them, he will start to back off.
*Talk to your mum about it if he doesn't allow you to do these things - after all, she's your actual parent. Tell her you want to keep fit and use the television as a treat and have time to relax by yourself etc.
If worst comes to worst (which I hope it doesn't), keep your distance from him.
Hopefully if you're civil to one another and not start petty arguments, things will start being okay again. It's a tough time being a teenager. He should put that into consideration :P
Best of luck anyway.

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