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stepdad
15/f/this is long.
i've had a stepdad since i was six so i guess we were pretty close and got along and everything but now i can't stand him. he doesn't do anything. he was a stay at home dad to care of my brother and sister who are now in schooll so now he doesn't even have a job. he has a back and knee problem and is really overweight so it's not the fact that he doens't have a job all the way that bugs me but he won't go to the docter to get help. we bought a treadmill and he doesn't even go on that and he's home all day by himself! he wouldn't have the problems if he'd just work out a little, you know?
ugh and not too mention last friday just set it off. he like hates me. i wanted to go to a friends house and my mom said ok and he said no. there was really no reason i couldn't so my mom and him got in a fight. my mom left to go to the library and i called her and started crying [not purposefully] so she got all mad and called my stepdad yelling at him. i apologized to my mom for doing that and making her feel bad but now my stepdad is all mad at me. i'm just so over it. i mean this year i pretty much got to do whatever on weekends and i apologized for being a brat friday. like in eighth and seventh grade he wouldn't let me do anything i was grounded all the time. i don't know what to do. he was saying today how i'm not trying to be nice or anything and i am! i mean i'm kinda just not talking to him because i'm done. he's the one always saying i'm 38 and your 15 blah blah i know better. then he should get over it.
another thing sometimes he's really stupid about little things. we built a family room off the back of the house and he gets mad when i watch tv out there. i'm not bothering anyone! thats what it for! also he won't let me use the treadmill that they paid over 1000 dollars for and no one uses.
so my question is should i just ignore him until i'm 18 and can move out? i'm so done and i really don't care anymore. what do you think i should do?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
*Don't purposely annoy him (not saying you do already) or do things you know he will nag at you for.
*If he talks to you, be civil, or it will ruin the atmosphere and your relationship with him even more.
*If you can, have a mature conversation with him. Whether it be about watching TV in the other room or using the treadmill. Negotiating is good with parents/adults. Ask for however many hours a night to watch TV/use the treadmill/etc on certain days of the week. Once he sees there's no harm in you using them, he will start to back off.
*Talk to your mum about it if he doesn't allow you to do these things - after all, she's your actual parent. Tell her you want to keep fit and use the television as a treat and have time to relax by yourself etc.
If worst comes to worst (which I hope it doesn't), keep your distance from him.
Hopefully if you're civil to one another and not start petty arguments, things will start being okay again. It's a tough time being a teenager. He should put that into consideration :P
Best of luck anyway.
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Ignore him and do whatever you want. He can't stop you from watching TV in that room if that's what that room was built for, yuh know? And the treadmill? Tell him that if he isn't gonna get his fat ass healthy, you at least want to [even if you already are, just stay that way, don't let him turn you into a mini him.]
He's not the one who wears the pants in the family, and considering he is your step father he should be nicer to you and if your mom says you can do the stuff you want to do, listen to her and forget your bozo step dad, he doesn't know what he's talking about.
Bet you can't wait 'til your 18 huh? good luck girl.
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