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So how is she supose to leave him when they love each other (link)
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Good question. If you ask me, she probably isn't going to voluntarely leave him, because she loves him and doesn't want to leave him. That's why I suggested telling her parents, though I know that would be really difficult. Please, forgive me if I seem rude. I'm not that type of person, I just want you to realize how much trouble your friend and this guy can and more than likely, will get into if this comes out.
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You didn't finsh what you where saying (link)
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Sorry about that, I meant it's still considered rape UNDER the law.
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Well yeah she doesn't know tho she's scared her boyfriend said she doesn't HAVE to do anything that she doesn't want to do they only did that because she wanted him to be the first she did that with (link)
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I understand that he wasn't forcing her, but it is considered rape. No matter how you look at it, it's still rape until the law.
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Yeah she met him on vampirefreaks.com so I made a profile and started talking to him (he thought I was a guy) and asked him if he truely loves her he said yes with all his heart he would die for her and to tell her that he loves her and I was lisening to her voice mail on her cell phone and he was crying telling her how much he loves her the fire is right next to my friends house and he said he was worried about her I think he loves her too but still he's to old for her when she's 18 they said they are going to get married (link)
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Well, when she's eighteen, there isn't anything anyone can do, but for right now, this is illegal and very bad. Even if he does have real feelings for her, he should know better not to get involved with someone so young and a minor. Especially, sexually. Where is this girls parents? How can they NOT know?
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I can't do that she loves him to tell you the truth she wants to die but she didn't kill her self because of him he got he self checked out he doesn't have any STD's or HIV's he's clean (link)
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Ok, I understand your position. Very tough position, if I might add. However (I know, you're going to hate my "However"s), this girl is depedent on a 21-year-old guy now, with her life, don't you think there is something wrong with that picture? Definitely there is something wrong with that picture. This guy is only taking advantage of her, regardless of his feelings, it's his job as an adult to withold that and not have any relations with a minor.
It is good that he's clean, but there is still so much wrong with this. Don't you want your friend to get better and get away from this guy? Please, answer in another question.
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So, around about two months ago my best friend moved.
I still call her, sometimes. We keep in touch.
But I feel like I never see her.
She now lives with her dad, but she visits her mom sometimes.
And when she visits her mom, we usually get to hang out.
But the first time she visited her mom, I couldn't get in touch with her.
And she hasn't been able to visit since.
So I feel like I never get to see her. And now I almost never get to talk to her! Her phone number keeps changing, and she never checks her emails. I have no idea what to do. I don't want to lose my best friend.
And on the other part of this is that once my best friend moved, I started to hang out with some other friends. They can be okay sometimes, but I don't really feel like I'm "friends" with them. One of them, yes. But the rest, no. We always joke around, a lot. But I'm always the one being joked about.
And I do have a sense of humor. But honestly, hearing the same thing over and over again (making fun of me kind of jokes) gets on my nerves. =/ I just feel out of place when hanging out with them. But I mean, when you're hanging out with your friends, you shouldn't. So I have no idea what to do about this situation.
Can you guys please help? (link)
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My friend moved away too, except it's been about oh, four years now. We usually stay in touch either through IM or text messaging because she has some of the same problems your friend has. Or you could get the address and write her letters.
About your friends that aren't really your friends (if that made any sense), I think you should talk to them and let them know that the jokes don't always have to be about you, they can be about somebody else or better yet, why don't they joke about themselves for awhile. I'll tell you what I'd do, NOT the best idea, but it would put them in their place. I'd think of some jokes about them and see how well they like it.
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so if polygamy is illegal in the U.S. how are there places like Centenial Park where it's filled with polygamists? wouldn't the police or government take over those places? how does that work... (link)
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This should help you out. =)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polygamy
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Two questions. Will using hair gel cause your hair to fall out at a later time like when your older? I've noticed that a few strands of hair have been coming off. I'm fifteen if that helps. And second what hair gel brand is the best for making hair stay stand up straight and spikey for like almost the whole day? I'm looking for hair gel that can do that so I can make my hairspikey and what store(s) might I find them at? I live near CVS, Shaws, and Walgreens and wondering if anyone knows if there's a chance I might find them there. (link)
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1) Hair gel most of the time doesn't make your hair fall out, the only time that it does it if it contains too much alcohol causing your hair to become very dry and extremely brittle. Which causes it to fall out easily.
2) This is the best hair gel I have ever found, I love it.
http://www.cvs.com/CVSApp/cvs/gateway/detail?prodid=118624&previousURI=/CVSApp/cvs/gateway/search?ActiveCat=499^Query=hair+gel
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Well she's 14 and she had sex with a 21 year old man 3 times with a condom and about 4 times w/o a condom and she wanted to know if she is going to be peragnate or not she's super scared and her mom will put her boyfriend in jail if she finds out I want to help her but I don't know anything about this kind of stuff at all I really need help and also a week after she had sex she started bleeding but she already had her period tho what's going on (link)
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This guy should be put in jail, he's 21 and messing around with someone who's 14. I recomemend telling her parents, yes, she'll end up hating you probably for a long time, but look at what he's doing to her. He's taking complete advantage of her. And if she comes up pregnant, which is ALWAYS possible (which people fail to understand for some odd reason) if you have sex without or even with a condom. There is always going to be that chance. Plus, this guy could have diseases. Your friend needs to tell her parents, or you do, and she needs to get checked out to see if she really is pregnant and if she's got an diseases. Soon too, so that way if she does, they can try to catch it as early as possible.
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i think i am in love with this glass of water. i have been seeing it for about a month. i don't think it loves me back, though. some of it just keeps disappearing, and i think it is because of me.
tips!
5/f (link)
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I think you drank it! *screams*
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i have a cat who is about a year old and I am really worried!
i have never seen her produce a "hairball" i was watching stewart little, and the cat has a hairball and i was wondering if cats have to have hairballs?
Please ANSWER! I am stressing out bigtime about my abnormal kittay! (link)
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Here's some good information for you. =)
http://www.thecatsite.com/Care/23/Cats-and-Hairballs.html
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can anyone recommend a powder foundation that you would find at a drug store? like what brand and i am a medium skin tone, i'm only asking this because I hate how you can't try on makeup and not even be allowed to return it, and i dont want to waste my money. thank you guyss (link)
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I love CG TruBlend Foundation, it's the best I've ever used.
http://www.covergirl.com/products/product.jsp?productId=trublend_powder_foundation
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I'm doing an essay on why animal testing should be made illegal. I need 3 different points to talk about, and so far I have:
1) cruel and inhumane
2) highly unreliable
I can't seem to find another one that isn't too similar to the ones I've already listed. I've tried Google already.
So my question is, does anyone know of another point I could use that isn't almost exactly the same as what I'm already using? Thanks. :] (link)
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This should help you out. =)
http://www.hsus.org/animals_in_research/animal_testing/an_overview_of_animal_testing_issues/index.html
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What do i do about the outer corner of my jeans' waistband? It curls out, so that when I put on a tshirt over them, the tshirt sticks out there! So, now i have on this cute skinny tshirt with a pointy place where my jeans stick out! (link)
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If you take it and get it tailored, they can get it fixed in no time.
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I'm joining the swim twim this November my first time. I'm really nervous! What am I getting myself into? I don't know how to use a tampon either...is that crucial? (link)
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I have been swimming for a very long time, and one of the most important things to know is how to insert a tampon, since you can't go swimming with a pad. I recommend Playtex Sport, they hold better, are more comfortable and really are easy to insert once you get the hang of it.
You have to be prepared at practices, ready to do lots of drills, and of course, swim, swim, swim. It can be tiring, but it's also a lot of fun.
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hii i really wanna watch a g0od anime i'm into very emotional ones da most but ialso kinda like comedywith romance but After i saw "Nana" there is'nt one dat measures up since iloved dat anime so much lol.... any ideas? thanksz (link)
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I love Inuyasha and Rurouni Kenshin, both very good anime shows. Here are some others. =)
http://home.cc.umanitoba.ca/~umlint/good.htm
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Ok im 14/m and my soon to be Girlfreind is 15/f Ok were not daiting yet but we might as well be. Ok she was saying that im too boring and am not fun. Ok when ever im funny she will smile and rub my leg. How can I be not so boring and more fun? We are hanging out tommrow at my house so I need help soon, and could you give me good jokes of you have some :) thanks! (link)
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Here you go. =)
http://www.danggoodjokes.com/
http://guy-sports.com/jokes/good_jokes.htm
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i had a blackhead and squeezed it out. there was a hole in place.. later i think i got another blackhead in there. i dunno what i should have done to the hole so that it would not fill up again? (link)
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Your problem is that once you squeezed the blackhead out of your pore, it was left open and exposed for more bacteria. If this happens again, be sure to wash your face with a cleanser (especially, where the open pore is), and then I find the cheapest way to close the pore is with an ice cube. That way you don't have to buy special creams to close the pore. Finally, what I normally do is just splash some cold water on my face and it works out just fine.
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I have a problem. I really like guys, but I'm too quiet and don't know how to flirt. Even my religion teacher noticed I'm more quiet than usual. My problem is I'm too self contious of embarrasing myself in front of the guy. Not knowing anything about flirting doesn't help. Like, how do I catch his eye? And how do I keep his focus? A helpful hint is that I go to a school where we have to wear uniforms. Hair accessories are however allowed. Thanks!!!! (link)
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I wanted to answer your question as soon as I saw it, because you remind me of myself..or what I used to be. Now, I'm quite popular and get along with everybody. It took me a long time to realize, but all you need is the confidence to come out of you shell. You need to get out of your comfort zone, do things you've always wanted to do, but have been too shy to do. In this situation, you're talking about guys, but this really applies to life in general.
I recommend talking to a guy once daily, even if it's a "Hi, how are you?" type of thing. And talk to different ones too, not just the same ones -- though it's good to continue talking to them too. I have made something in my FAQ that has some info that will help you out. Feel free to let me know if you need any more help. =)
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=507294
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I'm 15 years old, female i live in Iowa. i've never liked the computer much, but for the past six months, ive been on it every night for an average of five hours and sometimes more. the reason-- i met this guy, he's 17 and he lives in california. the first time i met him, we talked for 14 hours straight. (not exagerating) he's so great.. i can talk to him about anything and i'm understood so well.. i can understand him too and he says he's never felt the way he feels when talking to me...this probably sounds creepy but it's honestly not. i really love him.. i don't know why. i just do. i know 15 is young to love and probably to young. i've never felt this way about a guy.. i look at other guys and see nothing in them, no future. i just want him. We both have these feelings and want to meet. i know it's dangerous. I've been warned about how he can be different in person or not even be what he says he is. also that he could rap/kidnap/kill me. I know all of the bad stuff that can happen yet i still want to see what could happen. I don't want to ask myself 5 years from now what could have happened if we did meet. Even through all of this, i'm scared alot. it's so hard to like someone so much who is so far away. is it wrong for me to want to meet him in person?... if not.. what should i do? > (link)
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I want to say that I have no problem believing that you can fall in love at fifteen, however, all the bad stuff is definitely true about this guy. You just never know. If you're like most people, no matter what we say here -- you're going to do what you want.
Now, if you still want to meet him, here is my suggestion that I hope you'll follow. Tell one of your parents about this and bring them with you, and tell this guy that you're bringing a parent and see what he says. If he's against it, he probably isn't who you think he is. If you can't tell your parents and are still definitely going to meet him, bring some other trusted adult. Don't just bring a friend or go alone, it is way too dangerous.
I personally, don't think it's a good idea, but if you still want to meet him, please follow my suggestions to be safe.
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