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Flirting Disaster With No Confidence
I have a problem. I really like guys, but I'm too quiet and don't know how to flirt. Even my religion teacher noticed I'm more quiet than usual. My problem is I'm too self contious of embarrasing myself in front of the guy. Not knowing anything about flirting doesn't help. Like, how do I catch his eye? And how do I keep his focus? A helpful hint is that I go to a school where we have to wear uniforms. Hair accessories are however allowed. Thanks!!!!
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I wanted to answer your question as soon as I saw it, because you remind me of myself..or what I used to be. Now, I'm quite popular and get along with everybody. It took me a long time to realize, but all you need is the confidence to come out of you shell. You need to get out of your comfort zone, do things you've always wanted to do, but have been too shy to do. In this situation, you're talking about guys, but this really applies to life in general.
I recommend talking to a guy once daily, even if it's a "Hi, how are you?" type of thing. And talk to different ones too, not just the same ones -- though it's good to continue talking to them too. I have made something in my FAQ that has some info that will help you out. Feel free to let me know if you need any more help. =)
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just kind of look at him and wait untill he looks back, and dont smile, but kind of smirk. Then just say hi, strike up a conversation, and dont feel self concious about it, boys like it when you pay attention to them.
then as you start talking to him flirt, touch his hand when you talk to him, joke around, playfully hit him.
hope i helped =]
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This is a big problem for us most girls these days.
But,Don't panic.
We've all been through situations like these,
and were just as non-experienced and clueless as you are in the beginning.
What you first need is to start talking to him.
In the halls of school, or in the lunchroom just say "hey" or "what's up" just a small talk to get a conversation between you two started.
Later, Ask him if he sees anything in you.
you have to build courage to do it.
Don't be afraid...that's the worst thing you'd wanna be when it comes to "boys".
Hope I Helped.
Have Any questions, Talk.
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Okay. First of all. The most important thing you need is confidence. Somehow, you have to gain it. I love boys too and I am a huge flirt.. Sometimes I get nervous when flirting with someone I really look or who is older or popular. The thing that I keep in mind that really helps me is I think to myself, "whats the worst that could possibly happen?" Usually, nothing. If you start to flirt with a boy and they dont like you, you can tell right away.. Just give a smile and turn away.
As far as catching a boys eye. You need to know that boys could care less of what you wear or how you wear your hair. They do not like girls who wear a lot of makeup. I know that for a fact. To be honest with you.. Boys are usually looking for the "hot" girls. If your not their deffinition of "hot", dont worry. Haha, theres still a lot of hope. When you walk by them, say hi with a smile and be super nice. Keep your head up, have good posture, etc. Most importantly, go up to them and try to talk to them. Make sure your smiling a lot though. Guys never like the depressed chicks.a cute outfit or pretty hair wont get you noticed for sure. Its your personality. Take my advice. Ive had many experience.. Trust me.
Hope I helped, goodluck!!! :)
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