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I might be in love
I'm 15 years old, female i live in Iowa. i've never liked the computer much, but for the past six months, ive been on it every night for an average of five hours and sometimes more. the reason-- i met this guy, he's 17 and he lives in california. the first time i met him, we talked for 14 hours straight. (not exagerating) he's so great.. i can talk to him about anything and i'm understood so well.. i can understand him too and he says he's never felt the way he feels when talking to me...this probably sounds creepy but it's honestly not. i really love him.. i don't know why. i just do. i know 15 is young to love and probably to young. i've never felt this way about a guy.. i look at other guys and see nothing in them, no future. i just want him. We both have these feelings and want to meet. i know it's dangerous. I've been warned about how he can be different in person or not even be what he says he is. also that he could rap/kidnap/kill me. I know all of the bad stuff that can happen yet i still want to see what could happen. I don't want to ask myself 5 years from now what could have happened if we did meet. Even through all of this, i'm scared alot. it's so hard to like someone so much who is so far away. is it wrong for me to want to meet him in person?... if not.. what should i do? <<<<<< Sorry this is soo long!>>>>>>
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I want to say that I have no problem believing that you can fall in love at fifteen, however, all the bad stuff is definitely true about this guy. You just never know. If you're like most people, no matter what we say here -- you're going to do what you want.
Now, if you still want to meet him, here is my suggestion that I hope you'll follow. Tell one of your parents about this and bring them with you, and tell this guy that you're bringing a parent and see what he says. If he's against it, he probably isn't who you think he is. If you can't tell your parents and are still definitely going to meet him, bring some other trusted adult. Don't just bring a friend or go alone, it is way too dangerous.
I personally, don't think it's a good idea, but if you still want to meet him, please follow my suggestions to be safe.
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No problem, and the question was not long. I usually get longer. :]
First of all, i suggest you talk to your parents about him and ask if its okay if he meets you. I suggest for safety purposes you do a 'family outing' thing. Your family meets him and you all go out mini-golfing, or to the movies, or out to eat, etc. Its double cool because first of all YOU ARE SAFE, and secondly, he can meet the parents and get to know them. I wouldn't suggest meeting him in person just the two of you, right off the bat because of all of the scary online stories. You may think that it would suck because your family would 'cramp your style', but you can tell if a guy is good if he can meet the 'rents and act good in front of them. Plus, if he's not what you expected your family could always just cut it short and take you home and you would't be obligated to stick with him the whhooolllleee time.
If all goes well you guys can always sneak off for a few minutes to 'get a drink' or get popcorn during the movie(the parents dont always have to be around), you guys can sit next to eachother, have one on one chats, etc.
I think it's really the best thing. I really hope you take my advice and DON'T see him BY YOURSELF.
Just ask your parents to set a date that would be fine for him to come over on. Im sure they'd love the fact that you 'want them around' and aren't sneaking around to go meet this guy by yourself. Tell them you want to really meet him, but you would't without their permission and them coming along to meet this guy.
I hope it all works out, Love!
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Hey darling!
Let me start by saying that actually i've gone through what you're going through! Met this guy online, 2 yrs older than, and lived halfway across the country from me... and of course, that first night of talking it was bvious that there was this instat connection between us as we spoke endless hours into the night! haha! After that night we talked for several hours on a daily basis. and just like you say, we were able to talk to each other, and we just understood and wecould just talk and be. Acouple of months later wedecided it was time to meet.. We wanted to be together very badly. To meet in person. It was quite scary to tell you the truth. Specially snice he was older, he was the one who flew to me. I was a nervous wreck. I got the same talks about how do you know is his not this or that.. be careful... everything i'm sure you're getting. Any way though, to make long story short, in a few days we will be celebrating our 2yr annirsary together. It turned out that in person just like we did online, we clicked. And we were glad we took the decition to follow our feeling and go through what we went through.
Now the only difference is that i was 2 yrs older than you at the time.
Also, i don't know if you've talked sbout him to your parents. If they don't, it makes things a lot easier if they do know. I told my mom, and she wasa little shocked at first. But also, we became a couple before we were together in person. Mom knew about him, had talked to him and the whole deal. Which made it a lot easier when it came to arranging the meeting. As mom was the one who took me to the airport and the whole thing. Drove him to the house and or me to go pick him up at his hotel..
So obviously nothing really wrong with wanting to meet someone you have feelings for. I know i did, i absolutely loved him, and him me.. and we went from there. We were able to tell that our feelins were very true, even in person. haha!
If youhave any questions or anything you can contact me =) I'm an expert in this field! haha!
Best of luck!
VB
Yeah when it comes to parents its a little more tricky. the fact thet you're 15 makes a bit of a difference. and although he's only 2 years older than you, like my bf is and was, but older, the age difference makes it seem bigger the younger you are. So in that sence that's why parents are ery hesitant about the whole idea.
What I would suggest is give ita little bit of time. If you can, try to make it so maybe there's some kind of communication between the two....
I know it sounds crazy, lame and whatever but because of the situation is basically a necessity =/ haha trust me, if my mom hadn't felt that this guy really did love me, and had no intentions of harming me, by talking to him got to feel that his feeling for me were genuine.... lets just put it this way, she went and took me shopping for new cute clothes and whatnot specially for when we went to the airport to pick him up... haha!
But yeah, just talk to your parents about him, and let therebe an opening for talk between them. And don't push them too too hard, they'll come to their senses eventually and let you guys meet. Oh, and remind them that you wouldn't want to go alone, for them (1 or the other or whoever) that would go with you... Parents like being active in your life and mak sure you're ok... haha! duh... haha! But yeah =)
Any other questions you can email me too...
or let me know how its going! that'd be great! ..if you'd like haha! =)
"crazycurious555@aol.com";
=)
Best of luck! =)
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ok miss 15 year old~
i have felt that same before and i am 13. Its not wrong that you want to meet him but you are right you need to be careful you never know what could happen.But if you want to meet him ask you parents and set up a date to meet him.
I hope that i helped
alexis13
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It's not the best idea to meet in person. You just have to be very cautious. If you absolutely want to meet him, go to a public place, where people could see you if something went wrong. Also, bring a friend or parent and tell him to do the same. This is just an idea, but have your parents talk, because you do live a distance apart, and parents wouldn't appreciate it if you just walked out and left to go meet someone from the internet. ya know?
If he rejects any of these ideas you know he's not for real. Just remember you don't really know if he's for real. It could just be some pervert 40 year old looking for something to do.
Good luck!
ALWAYS&&FOREVER
MEliSSA
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