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i now this is probally the wrong section but i got a big black head on my nose and other spots and i tried popping it but its red and i look like rudolph the red nose reindeer any suggestions help need it school monday i will look embarrassed thanks in advance

First of all the toothpaste thing is a proven myth. It doesn't really work. And iuse clean and clear's blackhead scrub. After to conceal the redness buy a 'green stick' in the makeup department. It hides scarring and redness, and use concealer on top of it.

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last night i hung out with this guy who i used to date before he got locked up. i havnt seen him for a year but when i saw him again it was amazing. well, we ended up doing it but he didnt have a condom. and before you say it, i know! stupid move!! what was i thinking!? yeah, i know, me and him were talking about that all night. so we know we did wrong. no need to tell us we did. now im worried that im pregnant, he didnt cum in me, i know FOR SURE because i cleaned it up. and he cant talk to his parents because hes still on house arrest and if he has any contact with ME he will go back into juvie. so hes 16 and im still 15 but ill be 16 on december 8th. i dont know what to do. i want to get a test so hes going to get a friend of his to buy it. but could i buy a test? i know i cant buy the morning after pill because you have to be 18. he called me this morning to see if i felt sick, i did, but i felt like that last night, like a hungry sick. i didnt throw up or anything. i havnt eaten very much food latley.
im freaking out. i live im michigan if that helps, and if you cant tell in the story im 15/f.

im totally scared, i could never tell my mom about this, im not on birth control - i want to be but my mom dosent want me to be. i would like advice on what to do, and anything, incase i am pregnant. anything please!

I suggest going to planned parenthood or some women's clinic. I know you can get the morning after pill there, as I had friends do that (under 18). They will give you a FREE pregnancy test, but if you want you ARE ABLE to buy one at a store on your own. If you need any more information contact your local planned parenthood or look up women's clinics in your yellow pages. You may contact me again on here or my myspace (located on my page). Best of luck.

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i need a good song that basically says
im done with you you dirty scumbag
your a liar and a cheater ... etc.
but no CARRIE UNDERWOOD please

Heartbreaker by Pat Benatar
I also like Another One Bites The Dust by Queen, although it has nothing to do with a breakup. Just makes you think "oh well, another one down".
Good luck with your healing process.

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what happens if you cut the sound off of your camera, when you're taking a picture?


does it make you're face clearer???

No it doesn't change any other setting except the loss of sound.

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Where are some good stores or websites to find pretty dresses for snowball?

macy's, jcpenny's, nordstroms

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okay so i've noticed that when i squeeze my boob then this blackish green stuff comes out. it doesn't come out of the nipple it comes like out of random holes on the side and its freaking me out. i dont want to tell my mom because then she will want to see it and i dont want my mom looking at my boob. please hurry i really need help. anything will help!

Im thinking your breast may have alot of blackheads, and when you squeeze it its coming out. Hair folicles sometimes don't completely grow and stay in their holes they're suppost to come out of and create blackheads. If that is it, it isn't a real big problem, if it isn't.. you may want to visit a doctor.

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does anybody have any tips on how to become at peace with yourself and accept yourself? i know its not something someone can just tell you how to do but any piece of advice would help. thanks in advance.

What i did may be different than what you may want or do. What i did was this:
I became more in tune with myself and tried to really understand myself and relax before i could get ready rebuilding my life. You can't just keep the cracked foundation and reconstruct the building on top of that...you have to do it from the ground up. So i started meditating, tried to even out my life and sort it out like laundry-kept the good friends and good things about my life and dropped the friends that weren't the best for me and got rid of all negativity. If someone was bringing drama or negativity i didn't want it. I expelled the bad and tried to rebuild and add on that 'good'.

So like i said, i meditated, i started listening to relaxing music, i read buddhist quotes and Confucius quotes, started reading a book called 'The Secret' and watched the movie, and started doing things that would improve my life.
I found myself, and in turn my confidence came with it.
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I wanna make my boyfriend a mixed cd. We are in a long distance relationship and I want to mail him a mixed CD that I plan on putting together with great thought. But he's in college and I'm in highschool. Would it seem too "highschool" of me to do that? Do college kids even make mixed CDs for each other? Or is this a cute idea? I want to suprise him with the CD in the mail. Tell me what you think!

I say go for it!
Its definetly a good idea.. some cool songs, some sentimental songs... add in some songs that remind you of him or that tell him how you feel. My boyfriend who was in college made me one, so it's not a little kid idea. Mix cd's are the ultimate cheap cute relationship gift.
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in the morning before school my makeup looks good. but by the end of the day even if i dont have PE my makeup is off and my eyeliner is all under my eyes and wont come off with just wiping it! i dont have time to keep redoing it so any tips on how to keep it looking good

Maaybe you are wearing a soft smudgeable eyeliner. Some are meant to smudge and some are meant to stay. I say try to find a eyeliner that wont smudge as easily. Also you can bring your eyeliner to school with you in a purse or your backpack to reapply it later after PE, as most women sweat or 'perspire' during physical exercises. But a tip for making eyeshadow and stuff on your lids stay on is this: CARMEX. The lib balm usually comes in a tube or a little container and is a beauty tip for long lasting eyemakeup. Use it as a foundation for your lids before dusting them with your usual eyeshadow or liquid shadow. It should last.
Hope this helped you =]

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Where can I get belly dance music? Like those Arabic or Egyptian ones? Or can you give me titles of belly dance songs?[so I can just download.... this stuff is kinda hard to find]

Thanks in advance!!!!;)

When i was in belly dancing i found alot of good arabic and middle eastern belly dancing music on limewire. You can download it and get tons of free music. Also you can look up belly dancing music on google and alot of artist names will come up. You can buy a whole cd worth of music online or at a belly dancing shop. Even at middle eastern shops that sell incense and all.
This is how i got mine.
Hope this helps you. =]

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im a 16 year old guy who is 6 foot 5 and was 180 pounds i am now 130 am i an idiot for losing thT MUCH WEIGHT but before i lose weight i was unhappy can anyone tell me whats wrong with me

You were about the right weight for your height before...and now i fear you are drasticly underweight. Maybe you were feeding into the pressures of needing to be thin and skinny?
I suggest to see a doctor, he should tell you the proper weight for your height and age.
If you are eating regularly and not binging and purging you should be okay for the most part. But if you feel something is wrong or feel weak, i think you should change what is making you feel as so.
Wish you the best.

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I would like some ideas for possible photoshoots. I was thinking of "In Wonderland" and "Queen of hearts". Something imaginative, original? Any ideas, a certain fairytale character? I want it to be fun for my models.. :]

Snow white-its regal and there are many ways to incorperate and work with it. You can have her biting the apple, sleeping in her glass casket, etc.
Also, red riding hood is adorable.
I think making characters looking like dolls-Raggity Ann, ventriliquest dummy, baby doll, marianette, etc is cute and creative.
Something enchanted and victorian could be a good idea. Even vampires or women being bit by vampires in a victorian age.

Hope these help =]

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im dating this guy, and hes really nice, but i dont really like him much anymore. and i know this other guy, and hes really nice. but we met online and i barley know him, and i think im falling for him. me and my guy have been fighting alot, and me and the other guy live in totally different states....what do you think i should do?

I can't tell you what to do... But I can point out the obivous and hope you make the best dicision for yourself and your circumstances. So I'll start by stating that you are in a relationship that you are starting to question and you're not feeling like you use to twords the guy. You're not 100% into it, because if you were you wouldn't be being swayed by this new online guy. Secondly, the guy online is purely just that. A guy ONLINE. You have the comfort of not being hurt as much because you don't have to deal with him on a day-to-day basis or confront him face to face. That can both be good for some insecurities, but bad because everyone needs affection. The affection would just be cute notes or emails..not a hug or kiss.
You didn't include your age, so I don't know if your young, in your late teens, 20's, or older. That could have a lot to do with your decision too. Because if you are older, you could eventually meet your cyber prince charming.
Sometimes not have the reality of a guy to argue with in person sounds like the better option, but you have to think of which one your heart is more into. And which one you can just keep as a friend-if that.

Hope this sheds some clarity and light on your situation. Make a good choice-you deserve to be happy!

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What age do you think is the right age to have a boyfriend? I am 13 but Im not sure what age is the right time. Thanks!

Whenever you feel you are mentally and physically ready for one. It takes a certain amount of maturity, but no specific age. I didn't have my first boyfriend til i was 14, and i know some people who haven't til they were 18. My little sister's friends were 11 or 12 with boyfriends. It all depends..
but just because you are dating someone doesn't mean they have full advantage of you. Don't do anything you don't want to until you are ready. Dating, kissing, making out, etc.

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15/f.

I'm obsessed with myself..
like...not in a healthy way.
I used to VERY self conscious. But then...after losing weight and growing and stuff...I find myself to be okay looking.
And so I started to take pictures.
And then more and more pictures. Until I had a humongous library of pictures of me alone..
I can't stop. I don't know WHAT to do..I have SO many pictures of myself, and I take more and more and more.
Gah. Mirrors as well..jeez...I'm obsessed with them.

What do I do? O_O I want this to stop.

I agree with BitsandPieces ont his one. I think you stating that you weren't so confident before and you liking how you look now is a key fact in this all. You weren't use to the beauty and attention and weren't happy with how you looked, and now since you are you are taking full advantage of it all. I take alot of pictures aswell, but i do for how i look at the moment. Like "oh my gosh my makeup looks so pretty right now, let me take a picture of it," or "wow...look how fit and lean i look today..lets take a full body shot instead of just a 'top half' shot".
You want varification that your not just dreaming or percieving youself a certain way... that you actually are gorgeous right now and are loving yourself as you should be. I think maybe you should focus your photographing into a healthier form of capturing beauty...
take a picture of the sunset, a flower, a field of daisy's, or the rain drizzling down you r window on a rainy day. You can even include yourself in them sometimes...like take a picture of you laying in a field surrounded by flowers, on a cliff with the ocean behind you, things that you can share with other people that could help them feel better after a bad day. I do this. Photography is an amazing and gratifying hobby. Sometimes someone is like wow... this picture makes me feel so good, or calm or even beautiful(if i take one of someone).
Spread the love... you know your own beauty so why not help people feel happy and bautiful too. We need more people like this in the world.

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I'm 15 years old, female i live in Iowa. i've never liked the computer much, but for the past six months, ive been on it every night for an average of five hours and sometimes more. the reason-- i met this guy, he's 17 and he lives in california. the first time i met him, we talked for 14 hours straight. (not exagerating) he's so great.. i can talk to him about anything and i'm understood so well.. i can understand him too and he says he's never felt the way he feels when talking to me...this probably sounds creepy but it's honestly not. i really love him.. i don't know why. i just do. i know 15 is young to love and probably to young. i've never felt this way about a guy.. i look at other guys and see nothing in them, no future. i just want him. We both have these feelings and want to meet. i know it's dangerous. I've been warned about how he can be different in person or not even be what he says he is. also that he could rap/kidnap/kill me. I know all of the bad stuff that can happen yet i still want to see what could happen. I don't want to ask myself 5 years from now what could have happened if we did meet. Even through all of this, i'm scared alot. it's so hard to like someone so much who is so far away. is it wrong for me to want to meet him in person?... if not.. what should i do? >

No problem, and the question was not long. I usually get longer. :]

First of all, i suggest you talk to your parents about him and ask if its okay if he meets you. I suggest for safety purposes you do a 'family outing' thing. Your family meets him and you all go out mini-golfing, or to the movies, or out to eat, etc. Its double cool because first of all YOU ARE SAFE, and secondly, he can meet the parents and get to know them. I wouldn't suggest meeting him in person just the two of you, right off the bat because of all of the scary online stories. You may think that it would suck because your family would 'cramp your style', but you can tell if a guy is good if he can meet the 'rents and act good in front of them. Plus, if he's not what you expected your family could always just cut it short and take you home and you would't be obligated to stick with him the whhooolllleee time.
If all goes well you guys can always sneak off for a few minutes to 'get a drink' or get popcorn during the movie(the parents dont always have to be around), you guys can sit next to eachother, have one on one chats, etc.
I think it's really the best thing. I really hope you take my advice and DON'T see him BY YOURSELF.
Just ask your parents to set a date that would be fine for him to come over on. Im sure they'd love the fact that you 'want them around' and aren't sneaking around to go meet this guy by yourself. Tell them you want to really meet him, but you would't without their permission and them coming along to meet this guy.

I hope it all works out, Love!

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i just finished reading frankenstein, and i was just skimming through it, and noticed a line that i never understood. on page 56:

"..became such a thing that dante could not have conceived"

who's dante? is he an artist or something?

Dante as in 'Dante's Inferno' from the depths of hell. Basicly the quote states that it was worse than hell-something unholy and that she couldn't even imagine Dante creating.

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how do you apply blush?

i don't know how
when i do it, it looks weird :(

help.

It helps if you have the right blush brush, because if its not right it won't give the right effect you're trying to achieve. There are also many many different ways to apply blush to give different looks or show off certain key features of your face-even to give the illusion of a jawline or cheekbones though their not prominant features.

The most common way is to dust the apples of your cheeks. Smile and apply what compliments you and adds a healthy glow.

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I have a pretty large collection of fashion books including everything from fashion dictionaries to streetstyle look books to ''The History of [insert designer here]'' books.

But I'm always look to expand and I haven't really found any great books lately.
Anyone have any ideas?

And please don't just type ''Fashion books'' in Amazon and send me the link.

No specifics, but I go to Borders and they have a lot of good fashion books. Also you could widen your collection by collecting photography books on that specific designer or fashion photography books.

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i don't know how to read notes, but want to be on broadway some day. how can i learn inexpensivly?

14/f

You can go to a local music store and buy a book on music/note reading and learn from it step by step easily. Book prices range but usually start at about $5.00 and can go up alot higher based on the kind of book and its contents.
You can even learn from different music reading sites online if you like. Do a google search on note reading. You'll also have to figure out if your an alto,soprano,bass,etc. to properly get the right music for your voice.

Good luck with your future asperations!

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