I think im falling for my friend. but i dont know if he feels the same. The only class we have together is lunch and whenever i go to our table he always sits by me, and then the other day he gave me his belt to wear. he also once said that he doesnt want to go to homecoming anymore because i already have a date...but...he jokes a lot also..so I DONT KNOW IF HE'S SERIOUS!!! sometimes he's serious and sometimes hes joking..
what should i do..and how else can i def. tell if he likes me???
Ask him why he didn't want to go to homecoming. Tell him to be honest, and to promise to be honest. If he doesn't answer, or it seems like he doesn't want to answer for some reason, I would personally think that he does like you. If you really think that he does like you, you should talk to him. (:
Usually I would give A LOT of advise. But this situation seems so adorable. :)
I think that it was a hint to you that he's interested. That's what I THINK.
But just have a completely honest talk with him.
I wish you the absolute best of luck.
(:
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Sincerely,
-jimmy.
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Alright, I swore to myself I would never let this repeat itself but it has, and now I got a problem.
Well I was just browsing through chats one night, being silly with my friends, and I met this guy and started to talk to him. Well now I REALLY like him. And he's said before he really likes me as well, and my friend confronted him the other day because he mentioned on his page to some girl he was talking to that he fancied her. And he told my friend that he loves me, but would we ever meet? [ Cause I live in America, he lives in Scotland ].
And I just feel like yeah, I would LOVE to meet him, but he doesnt' seem to wanna take the chance and try and meet me or anything. And I just hate having to sit here and watch him mention other girls while I don't like anybody else [ I don't know I'm the kind of girl who only likes one person at a time ]. I try all the time to drop signs and hints that I want him to visit, that I like him and everything, and I KNOW he's picking up on them; he must be blind if he isn't.
I just don't understand.
I guess I'm just looking for others tips, advice, point of view?
Anything, basically.
I just feel lost.
Oh, well, don't fret. I know the idea of meeting him may be thrilling, but if he isn't taking the bait straight on, you should confront him! I'm sure that if you like him so much that you'd like to MEET him, you can tell him how you feel about this. Let him know that you'd like to meet him and also let him know you you feel about you and him. Like, what your relationship as friends is like. Just talk to him!I'm sure he'll answer you back as honestly as you talked to him. But also be careful. He might not want to meet because he's not real. I know I probably sound paranoid but it's true, there can be some pretty darn creepy people out there. But I'm sure you've already thought of that. But, it could also be his personality. So, after admitting to him that you want to meet him, get a LITTLE bit closer before setting a date. It will be easier for him to begin to plan out how he's coming. It will also be easier for him in the way that he won't feel as if he's coming cause of what you said, but because HE FEELS THE SAME WAY. But who knows? You can only show so much feeling behind a bunch of pixels on a screen.
Yeah, but over-all...just talk to him. Seriously, just tell him whats on your mind and how you feel. I know that sounds very general, but it's needed all the time. Let him know if something upsets you or if something makes you feel happy. That way you'll become even closer.
I wish you the BEST of luck...and I really do hope this helps...
((:
Sincerely,
-jimmy.
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this is kind of hard for me to explain, but i finally met the perfect guy. the one guy that has replaced my exboyfriend, the one guy that i can honestly say i'm in love with & know that it's the truth, or at least i thought it was.
ever since thursday, everything has been going downhill.
to start it off, i'm 17, he's 16. & we've been together for about a month & truthfully, he never really called me but like twice a week, he always wanted to talk on icq(which i hate). but whenever he would call me, it was perfect & we'd talk until like 3am because we just had so much to say. out of this month, we've only hung out twice because we go to different schools & because he never wants to make plans. i always try to do something & he always says he can't, or he cancels at the last minute.
well my birthday was friday & we made plans for my birthday so right as i was about to leave to go pick him up, he cancels on me saying his mom is making him stay home all day because his brother is in. so i was fine, and me & my friends went out & let alone, him & his friends were out driving around & they saw me & were like 'your boyfriend is in here' pointing at him, and he was hiding his head from me :(
we fought over that & then we fought again the next day over stupid stuff, he just kept being really difficult & wouldn't hardly say anything, and he kept making up excuses as to why he couldn't call me & such.
i really love him, and i know the obvious answer is to get out of this relationship, but i can't. i feel like if i wait a little longer, maybe things will improve? like he gets his license saturday & i'm hoping things will change.
i just need some input :(
Yeah, no one really can measure what's going through a sixteen year old boy's head. I know it hurts to know that he lied to you, and I'm sure you probably thought he had been lying to you all the other times too, but you have to talk. Please don't argue, just talk. You should tell him how you feel, I know you've heard that a million times, but it's what you really have to do. You should let him know how you feel about him not calling. Don't just say, "I hate it when you don't call..." Tell him that it makes you feel....(how ever it makes you feel). But he needs some serious adjustments as well. Tell him to talk to him, the way you talk on the phone till three AM. Ask, don't force, just ask him why he feels that he had to lie to you to just go out. Honesty and trust is what you and everyone in this world needs in a relationship. You should talk it out, and when I say talk, I mean not just ask, "why did you do this or that". But more like "I feel like this...when you do that..." or "Truthfully tell me how YOU feel when...".
If you are his first girl friend then that can also be why. Inexperience. I'm sure if that's the case then after you talk he'll be more aware of what he does that makes you feel sad. Cause usually first-time boyfriends end up being too clingy or treating their girl like they're just friends with benefits.
Now, if that it most definitely not the case, then it could also be something his friends have been saying or implying. If it is that they are talking about you, most guys, when talking about another person's girlfriend, don't mean half the things. Plus, he wouldn't want to 'tell on' his freinds. Or he would be too hurt that they disapprove that he'll just take it as them joking around. But he's still be worried about it.
Trust me, most single guys can be jerks when it comes to situations like these. But to be honest, it looks like you've been such an understanding girlfriend. If it IS his friends then you can be sure that they're wrong.
If it's not either of those things, just talk to him, like I said before. If you both truthfully talk to each other about this things will get better trust me, it works!!
Oh, and honestly, there is no such thing as a perfect boyfriend/girlfriend.
Everyone has flaws,
this is just one of his.
He may have seemed perfect, but now you can see his flaws, and I'm sure that there are plenty more things to love about him.
This is just a rocky path in the road. Keep going. (:
Yeah, but over-all, I think that he just doesn't realize how understanding and great you can be.
Well, the best of luck to you!!
I know some advice can be crap but I sincerely hope I helped out.
(:
Sincerely,
-jimmy.
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In the future, I really want to be an artist for like band posters or cd's. Well basically band related merchandise. Like designing t-shirts and so on.
I used to be good at art..but now I've lost my skill, and inspiration. Is there anything that can give me inspiration.
Btw, I'm not into clear art styles, more sketchy and maybe cartoon. :)(if drawing) but on computer anything.
Hm, we're alike..very alike. What I do is try to find a mood and capture a hold of it.
Like the other day it was cloudy and cold outside, it was around four p.m. and I just sat on my roof and just let the mood sink in. When I got a hold of it, my creative juices started to flow and I was able to make some good designs and pictures. Well, what I'm trying to say is, keep your eyes open, a quiet sunny day, a busy rainy night or whatever. You can even use you emotions from actual problems in your life. That helps, not only resolve the feeling, but it makes a good design.
I hope this helps.
(:
Sincerely,
-jimmy
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So there's this guy I used to like, alot- and I took him to my homcoming because he goes to a opposite school,& after all that I realized I really didn't like him to much, but I kissed him and the next day he asked me out, so I said yes,& now we've been dating for 3 days& i've already lost intrest in him! /: should I break up with him and if so how should I do it.
You really have to be honest. If you just keep going on, it might not give him the right impression and it might hurt his feelings later on. Seriously think about if you want to get out of the relationship or if it's just that you're unsure. If it comes down to having to break up with him, be gentle, let him know how you feel and that you'd still value your friendship no matter what. If you're unsure, then you'd better try to talk it out with a close friend you can trust. They know you better than me, and they'll probably have advice for you as well. But my advice for you is be honest. Not only with him or your friends, but with yourself. That's really important. (:
Whatever you do not drag this out over days, that will make it worse, and don't try to be nice to him by lying. The truth will probably be much more help in the end.
I really hope everything works out for you, and I hope this helps..
(:
Good luck!!
Sincerely,
-jimmy
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I think I am falling for this guy, i realllly like him. But he has a girlfriend. He just started going to my school today, so I get to see him very often now.
I dont know where to start.
He has a girlfriend, but I am falling so hard for him.
He is suppppppppper sweet, he's attractive, i love his personality. He's like perfect.
idk what to do.
help
Well, you might want to wait til he is single to try anything.
But, you can do this:
Get to know him really well.
Become close friends with him.
If he and his girlfriend break up, you are in the ball game. :)
Sincerely,
Lou
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hey there :)
well, i'm in a long distance relationship right now and i'm not gunna lie - it's pretty hard.
i'm fourteen and he's seventeen. i'm sending him a little box thing. i already put a letter, a cd, and a picture inside of it. any ideas on what else would be cute to give him? i'd GREATLY appreciate it.
also, what are some cute names to call guys?
thank you so much! :)
You can add:
Candies
a Book (if he likes to read)
a cute handmade card (with pictures of the two of you)
You can even make a small scrapbook if you have enough pictures. :)
Sincerely,
Lou
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okay well hmm ihave this friend who is 16 she has sex with her boyfriend sometimes without a condom she missed her period and well it's now 6 days late she thinks she is pregnant she is scared and worried about it she can't be pregnant and so she was wondering if she overdosed on birth control will it kill the sperm egg that happens to maybe inside her? pleaze give me advice for my friend she is worried and i'm worried for her
She definitely should not overdose.
Tell her she should just buy a pregnancy test.
Sincerely,
Lou
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about a week ago i got back together with my ex boyfriend that i had previousely been going out with for about 7 months. its been about 2 months since i broke up with him the first time. we've still liked each other the same since we started going out the first time, but i decided that i needed a break. but anyways, he is very quiet and shy around people hes not friends with, and hes very shy around me even though we've been through a lot. and i really want him to do random sweet things that a boyfriend would do, ya know? or be the one to make the first move, but im always the one who has to do that kind of stuff. so my question is how can i like hint to him that thats what i want with out being pushy or something.
thanks :)
Well, you can drop the hint by saying 'I love it when guys make the first move.'
He'll most likely get the idea. ;)
And if you guys end up together, I'm sure you can ease on him the idea of doing random nice things. :)
Sincerely,
Lou
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I like this girl and she knows but all my friends think she is to tall for me cause im 5 ft and shes like 5ft 7 i dnt know what to do she likes me too should i ask her out.
Go for it! Height means nothing in a relationship.
If you like her, and you know she'll say yes, you should totally ask her.
Sincerely,
Lou
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I'm a girl, 18 years old, and recently I was talking to this guy on an internet dating site. Through our conversation we found out that we had in fact attended the same high school and now were going to the same college - him being 3 years my senior. Even more weird, he turned out to be the best friend of MY best friend's older brother. Now he wants to meet in real life and he won't stop messaging me about it. (he says things like, "let's meet up at [our mutual friend's] house,") I don't have any desire to date him, or meet him at all. Even if he's my friend's brother's friend, I still don't want to. How can I make him realize that those two instant message conversations (only two!) didn't mean as much to me as they did to him?
If you really don't want to, tell you are really busy and can really 'hang out' at this time.
Or, if you know he only wants to meet you to date you, tell him you are not interested in dating anyone right now.
He should understand. :)
Sincerely,
Lou
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I'm trying to think of something fun to do with my new boyfriend. Our first date we went to a movie, but this time I want to do something different but I can't think of anything. Ideas, anyone?
Cute ideas could be.. a picnic.
Or at either of your houses, you could cook your dinner together. :)
You can go to the beach (with sweaters and blankets) and eat. :)
That's all I can really think of. :D
Sincerely,
Lou
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I'm pretty sure this generally happens a lot, but I dont know. My ex dumped me like..idk 6 months ago? its been a while, plenty of time. but now he has a new gf. and i was about 99% sure that i was over him, but now when i see them together i just..i dont know, its not like im jealous exactly, its just that i dont like seeing him with someone else. does that make sense?
any advice to get over this?( besides finding my own guy or whatever, cause im being pretty independent lately.) does this mean im not totally over him also? cause i thought i was beyond him, but now i worry..and i so dont want to still be on that.
thanks in advance guys!
Just because you feel a little jealous(but not really) doesn't mean you still feel the same feelings as before, you are probably just not used to the idea of him with someone else.
Being independent is great, because you can spend time with just yourself and friends and just have fun with no commitments.
But if you do find a new guy, go for it. ;)
Hope that helps!
Sincerely,
Lou
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ok so its like this. i was with my boyfriend for a year and 2ish months. we were amazing together, promised to each other and the whole shebang but for seriously long and complicated reasons not to mention the fact i wanted to breathe a little and have some 'me' time AND i started to like someone else, i said we needed a break about a month ago. we basically act the same as we did when we were together, except we realize were not together and we can date around whatever if we want to, HOWEVER we do plan on getting back together in the near-ish future when things work out. so, theres this guy at work who's basically being retarded and has been trying to kiss me for the past couple of weeks. he knows my bf situation and he doesnt 'like' me or anything its just him messing with me tryin to see if im a good girl or whatever, and ill kinda go along with it but i hadnt kissed him id always pull back. my boyfriend knows he's tried to kiss me but since we werent together officially anymore he couldnt do anything about it. well tonight, this guy was messing with me again and like we were talkin and stuff and i went to leave and he leaned in and kissed me and we made out for like a whole maybe 3 seconds. i feel NOTHING towards him and vice versa it was just a whatever thing. not happenin again. i feel bad though almost like i cheated on my boyfriend even though im technically single.. if he found out he'd probably flip. no one else was there so no one will know but if by chance someone did find out id deny it but i mean i really dont have a reason to feel guilty right? would my x-bf even have a right to be mad at me? ugh i dont know any thoughts? i just dont want to feel like im going behind his back ya know.
You did nothing wrong. You are single, and can do whatever you want.
If your Ex gets mad, tell him you guys aren't even together yet.
Plus if you tell him it meant nothing, he should understand.
Hope that helps.
Sincerely,
Lou
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My friend was asking my crush whether he had a love life. He said no. Then she started asking him what he thought of all these girls that were on our swim team.. including me. This is what he said: "She's pretty but I don't know."
Does that mean he likes me? He used to say that he likes me as a friend.
Should I get my hopes up?
Honestly, at this point, I'd have to say No. Sorry, if he thinks you're pretty, and that's it, that's not exactly what you should go on before considering having a relationship with him. But, honestly I doubt he'd openly admit to your friend that he likes you because for one, he's a guy, talking to a GIRL. Guys usually share crushes only if they are REALLY good friends. Secondly, he might have known that you are friends with her. That aside, you should talk to him a little more, see what he's like, and in two weeks (at least) if you still like him and you feel that he likes you, then you should consider a relationship status with him. Can you picture yourself as his girlfriend? (Not not, after a few weeks of really getting to know him and him positively reacting to this) Also, try to find out if you get along, and find out if his personality is the type you look for in a guy. Were you the only girl that he seemed interested in? If so, or if not, either way, do NOT flirt over the top or make it obvious. But from what I can tell, in a few weeks, if you spend a lot of time with him, i have a feeling that he might like you back. But, then, the question will be, do you still like him??
Well, the best of luck to you!!
If you ever need any more advice, I'm always here.
Sincerely,
-jimmy.
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I normally don't mind having scars. They heal and fade on their own for me after a couple years. I'm a total klutz, so having scars on my legs isn't a big deal to me. Problem? I recently burned my face with a curling iron, and I really don't want a mark that big on my chin for the next two years.
My dermatologist told me that Mederma is a waste of money and time. Are there any other treatments I can do, and has anyone had any luck with Mederma? Absolutely anything is very much appreciated! =]
AH! The same thing had happened to me once. Whatever you do, try not to touch it and absolutely DO NOT touch it. That would be bad. Also, apply Mederma if you'd like, but also apply a scratch or burn ointment at night. Let it dry, the re-apply. Then when you sleep make sure to apply scar ointment or cocoa butter to the burn. But do not apply the scar ointment if the wound is open. Also, once in a while, cleaning it with alcohol wouldn't hurt, I mean, it would physically hurt, yes, as far as a little stinging, but it might help.
Well, the best of luck to you.
(:
Sincerely,
-jimmy.
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So my boyfriend of 9 months and I broke up about 4 months ago. We are both young (high school age) and I needed a little time on my own without the seriousness of a relationship like the one we had. I love him, and still love him to this day.
So now four months later I have found myself missing him more then ever before. But when I broke up with him I hurt him badly. His first heartbreak that he had ever felt. So I can see why he would be hesitant to get back together.
But Ive let him know i miss him more then ever, still love him and want him back.
I'm still waiting for his reply..
Advice?
Guys- What would you do in the situation?
First of all, don't take this too offensively-this happens to most relationships that last longer than five months-You need to think about if you miss him as HIM or if you miss having a boyfriend...? I know that it can seem like a general question but just think, and think hard. The certain things that you miss about the relationship. If it is from his personality then you most likely miss HIM, but if it is something that boyfriends usually do, you might just be missing having a boyfriend. You can understand why he's hesitant, thats good!! The best way to go from here is to sit down and discuss with him about what you want and what he wants. If you both want to get back into this relationship and if you are both ready for it, then I do suggest getting back into a relationship with him. But, remember that if some other guy gives you advice on whether he'd get back together with you, that he was not there those nine months. They might just tell you what you want to hear or they might be a little too blunt or unsure since they were not there to see or even experience what happened.
Yeah, but you should talk it out. It would be for the best. (:
The best of luck!
Sincerely,
-jimmy.
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ok, so here's my story. one of my best friends is now my boyfriend. some of my friends think we are like- gonna get married. but we first started going out a year ago. and we broke up because it seemed like we were still just friends. then we got back together, and we love each other. BUT some of my friends hate him. others like him, and others are really good friends with him. some of my friends arguments for not liking him are pretty ridiculous though, like that i wasnt spending time with them anymore-- which totally isnt true, (we were at sleepaway camp) and i was in their cabin- and spent like-- 18 hrs a day with them, so i dont kno if they are onto something or not, because i think that my bf is amazing, and he is sweet, and funny, and nice. please tell me what i should do! i mean, he really is trying to get them to be ok with him.
In my opinion, true friends aren't just people who will look past this just for you. The reasons for your friends disliking your boyfriends can vary. Perhaps they used to like him? Even a close friend might be reluctant to tell you that they have a crush on your boy friend. PLUS!! He's your best friend too! Remember that some of your friends might feel like him being a boyfriend and best friend is closer to you than they will ever be. Although it may not be true, that's probably how they feel. Are they single? If all or some of them are that also might be a reason. I highly doubt it's jealously unless they are hostile towards both of you i think its more like...they dont exactly realize the situation and they dont know how you and your boy friend are supposed to act after being best friends for so long. Another, yet over-used and over-dramatized reason is they might have seen a different side of him. It's easy to be two-faced, they might have gotten a few glimpses or they might be suspicious, they might just be a little shy of telling you because these situations usually end with an ending of a good friendship. All the things above may be a reason, and there are plenty of more reasons. They might just be worried for you, and again, they might be afraid to tell you. You might not be sure who to believe. Rejection is one of the most common fears. Be sure to remember that. You need to talk to them, let them know how much they mean to you and how your boyfriend have a different relationship and how your friendship with them will last. But, like I say to my friends in person. I cant tell you exactly what to say, then it wouldn't be you saying it if you did. It has to be all you. So talk to them, I'm sure your boyfriend is a great guy and couples that were best friends first have a wayy bigger chance of surviving. And remember, dont try to MAKE them like him, let them see that you wouldn't go out with a guy that is bad. Also ask them why, and ask them gently for the truth. Friendships are based on truth anyways. Whatever you do, do NOT have this conversation during an argument, and if it seems to lead towards one, tell them how you feel that the conversation should carry out when you are on good terms. And you you, Listen, dont be to quick to judge, if they're your friends and they're willing to listen to you, you owe them the same at the least.
Also, make time for your friends and your boyfriend. They're both important and they both probably care about you so much. Yeah, it might suck, yeah, you might want to spend more and more time with your boyfriend as your relationship grows, but remember, THEY'RE YOUR FRIENDS!! They love you too. After you talk to them, as well as your boyfriend, i'm sure that they'll get along sooner or later and you'll be able to hang out with your friends and boyfriend at the same time, and then they'll know that you want to have time with him alone. It's just instinct. I'm sure they'll understand. Oh yeah, Venting is a normal part in everyone's life, but whether you're talking to your boyfriend about a friend that is bugging you or vise versa, always, ALWAYS (ALWAYS) remember to try and think about their point of view and talk about it too. Otherwise it might give them a reason for disliking each other.
Anyways, if you need any more advise at all, don't hesitate to ask for some more advise. I'm here to talk.
Good luck!!
Sincerely,
-jimmy
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How long do you think it would take to "Fully" trust someone again for lying?!?!? I know it depends on the situation but on average?!?!?
Thanks
To be blunt, they have to prove it.
Or you can begin to let yourself trust them again, maybe even a week or so later, but be aware that it is still possible on the situation. If you need more advice on that, more specific advice at least, then feel free to talk to me. (:
Good luck!!
Sincerely,
-jimmy.
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i'm in love with this boy named cody at my school. we dated a little last year and we broke up because he liked another girl. we didnt know we were in love at the time. well i didnt anyway. well during that summer we started talking on the phone everynight until we fell asleep. we even talked for 7 hours one time. then he told me he loved me. well we kind of drifted apart when i found out that he was hitting on my friends girlfriend. well we flirt a lot and all but its just not the same. the other day he told me he was still in love with me and i said it back because i am. well i had asked cody to homecoming but he told me he wasnt going. well then like THE HOTTEST kid you could ever imagine (doug) who happens to be the kid ive been crushing on asked me to homecoming and we went and had a great time. but that night cody called me and asked how the dance was and i told him i had a lot of fun. so he said thats great well i just wanted to make sure that you had a good time. i would really like to date doug. but we only have one class together so we dont really get to talk much. but i just had so much fun with him. i need help. cody keeps hurting me and i want to get over him. and i think that the only way to do that is to maybe be with doug. and i just like doug so much but i dont know if hes into me like that. please help. sorry its soo long.
honestly, i'm almost 100% positive that deeper feelings than what can be typed are here. but i cant be sure. it all matters if you meant when you said that you loved him. How many classes you have dont matter. Plus, if the MAIN thing that makesyou attracted to Doug is his looks than thats a bad sign. Personality and compatability is more important than that. He might seem like the nicest guy in the world, but he may just want (te be blunt) to get in your pants. I know it sounds retarded but thats the wiocked truth. Sometimes guys dont think with their heads. Plus, just because Cody and you seem to be interested in other people doesn't mean you dont love each other. It only means that both of you are unsure how to react to this situation. A normal guy would have gotten jealous, but he actually cared enough to call and ask how it was, not why you went with some other guy. It sounds like he really cares for you. i'm not saying that you have to absolutely give up on doug. If he proves that he cares about you too then remember to give him a chance too.
Good luck!!!
-jimmy
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