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Long-Distance.
Alright, I swore to myself I would never let this repeat itself but it has, and now I got a problem.
Well I was just browsing through chats one night, being silly with my friends, and I met this guy and started to talk to him. Well now I REALLY like him. And he's said before he really likes me as well, and my friend confronted him the other day because he mentioned on his page to some girl he was talking to that he fancied her. And he told my friend that he loves me, but would we ever meet? [ Cause I live in America, he lives in Scotland ].
And I just feel like yeah, I would LOVE to meet him, but he doesnt' seem to wanna take the chance and try and meet me or anything. And I just hate having to sit here and watch him mention other girls while I don't like anybody else [ I don't know I'm the kind of girl who only likes one person at a time ]. I try all the time to drop signs and hints that I want him to visit, that I like him and everything, and I KNOW he's picking up on them; he must be blind if he isn't.
I just don't understand.
I guess I'm just looking for others tips, advice, point of view?
Anything, basically.
I just feel lost.
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Oh, well, don't fret. I know the idea of meeting him may be thrilling, but if he isn't taking the bait straight on, you should confront him! I'm sure that if you like him so much that you'd like to MEET him, you can tell him how you feel about this. Let him know that you'd like to meet him and also let him know you you feel about you and him. Like, what your relationship as friends is like. Just talk to him!I'm sure he'll answer you back as honestly as you talked to him. But also be careful. He might not want to meet because he's not real. I know I probably sound paranoid but it's true, there can be some pretty darn creepy people out there. But I'm sure you've already thought of that. But, it could also be his personality. So, after admitting to him that you want to meet him, get a LITTLE bit closer before setting a date. It will be easier for him to begin to plan out how he's coming. It will also be easier for him in the way that he won't feel as if he's coming cause of what you said, but because HE FEELS THE SAME WAY. But who knows? You can only show so much feeling behind a bunch of pixels on a screen.
Yeah, but over-all...just talk to him. Seriously, just tell him whats on your mind and how you feel. I know that sounds very general, but it's needed all the time. Let him know if something upsets you or if something makes you feel happy. That way you'll become even closer.
I wish you the BEST of luck...and I really do hope this helps...
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Sincerely,
-jimmy.
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Yep. I'm totally in the same situation...It's a small world, haha. It sucks, doesn't it? I'm not even gonna tell you to meet new people or anything. Because that's probably what everyone else might say. I'll say something from a different point of view, instead of scolding you. My advice is: Just confront him and yell at him or something. Tell him that you like him, you want him to visit, and if he has any feelings or respect for you, that he shouldn't really mention those girls in front of you. BUT - don't be too picky about the whole 'girls' part. Guys tend to get annoyed when you're trash talking their many "girls"...(do you have proof that they're real and he's not lying?)- He will think you're jealous, and that just might ruin your friendship. Now, I must advise the #1 important thing - Make 100 percent SURE that he's not some 67 year old pedophile who lives in a box or something. If you got past that - good. Try communicating with him in other ways. Voice talking on MSN or something...webcam. Get closer to him. Ask him what he really thinks of you. Act cute, send pictures and ask for pictures back :) (nothing bad, of course) and no matter what...whenever he mentions his girlfriends or whatever, act NICE. =] Even if you don't mean it. Also, make sure to repeat that "Oh..I'm going to Europe this summer" or something..."Wanna visit me? or should i visit you?" You sound like a pretty knowledgeable person....You question whether you'll meet or not. Well, don't get too upset about that part. Most, if not, some.. relationships like this do eventually work out :) I hope all is for the best...and honestly....if you have ANY questions or anything, ask me. I know about these things and it interests me...=]]]]
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