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i feel so confused ??
ok so its like this. i was with my boyfriend for a year and 2ish months. we were amazing together, promised to each other and the whole shebang but for seriously long and complicated reasons not to mention the fact i wanted to breathe a little and have some 'me' time AND i started to like someone else, i said we needed a break about a month ago. we basically act the same as we did when we were together, except we realize were not together and we can date around whatever if we want to, HOWEVER we do plan on getting back together in the near-ish future when things work out. so, theres this guy at work who's basically being retarded and has been trying to kiss me for the past couple of weeks. he knows my bf situation and he doesnt 'like' me or anything its just him messing with me tryin to see if im a good girl or whatever, and ill kinda go along with it but i hadnt kissed him id always pull back. my boyfriend knows he's tried to kiss me but since we werent together officially anymore he couldnt do anything about it. well tonight, this guy was messing with me again and like we were talkin and stuff and i went to leave and he leaned in and kissed me and we made out for like a whole maybe 3 seconds. i feel NOTHING towards him and vice versa it was just a whatever thing. not happenin again. i feel bad though almost like i cheated on my boyfriend even though im technically single.. if he found out he'd probably flip. no one else was there so no one will know but if by chance someone did find out id deny it but i mean i really dont have a reason to feel guilty right? would my x-bf even have a right to be mad at me? ugh i dont know any thoughts? i just dont want to feel like im going behind his back ya know.
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Technically you didn't do anything wrong, but you should take your guilty feelings as a sign. To avoid situations like this again in the future, talk to your ex bf/bf to figure out what you both want from the situation. If you are on a break, it only actually works if both of you, mentally, physically, and emotionally, are on a break. If you're technically on a break but want commitment from each other, and don't want to be with anyone else, it's not really a break, is it?
Explain what happened to your bf/ ex bf, and if it's bugging you, or if you want to get back together again, you could always spin the situation, saying how much it did bug you that this happened. Say that you don't actually feel single, that you don't like that guys look at you like they currently do and you could even spin the situation further, to say that if you two got back together you could get this annoying guy off your back for a real reason. Remember, though, just because your bf/ex bf can't technically complain that you did anything wrong, doesn't mean that he won't feel upset.
I suggest you make a decision to avoid this messiness in the future: do you want to be with your ex or not? Going halfway is confusing and could end up hurting you both.
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You did nothing wrong. You are single, and can do whatever you want.
If your Ex gets mad, tell him you guys aren't even together yet.
Plus if you tell him it meant nothing, he should understand.
Hope that helps.
Sincerely,
Lou
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okay hun relax =) technically you didnt do anything wrong. you just explored to see if you had any feelings and you didnt. your boyfriend and you arent together offically so you shouldnt feel guilty. the kiss meant nothing. just dont let it happen again. and also clearly you love your boyfriend or else you wouldnt worry about cheating on him. if you didnt you woudlnt feel guilty. your ex boyfriend shouldnt be mad at you because he also agreed to see other people. but from what i know if he really likes you he'll be hurt, im not gonna lie. but just dont let him find out and dont feel guilty =) but just DONT let it happen again or else you might screw yourself over. if anything else, just msg me in my inbox k? =)
take careee
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